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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does anyone else have problems climaxing during penetrative sex?
Don't get me wrong I love sex.....don't we all.....have no problem climaxing with toys and when receiving oral but struggle during sex.
A guy can cum 2/3 times while I'm still trying!!
.......Advice please......and don't just say you'll come and fuck me until I cum that's not the advice I'm after!.....HELP!!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just something that some women can't do. Probably a lot more than care to admit it.
Just like some can squirt and lots can't.just enjoy what you do.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone else have problems climaxing during penetrative sex?
Don't get me wrong I love sex.....don't we all.....have no problem climaxing with toys and when receiving oral but struggle during sex.
A guy can cum 2/3 times while I'm still trying!!
.......Advice please......and don't just say you'll come and fuck me until I cum that's not the advice I'm after!.....HELP!! "
You can't be getting enough stimulation |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else have problems climaxing during penetrative sex?
Don't get me wrong I love sex.....don't we all.....have no problem climaxing with toys and when receiving oral but struggle during sex.
A guy can cum 2/3 times while I'm still trying!!
.......Advice please......and don't just say you'll come and fuck me until I cum that's not the advice I'm after!.....HELP!!
You can't be getting enough stimulation"
But guys just banging away hammer and nail like they think they're a porn star isn't going to hit the spot for me! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can't either
And really feel like I am missing out. "
It's embarrassing that lots of us actually fake orgasms cos we can't cum then have to finish ourselves of later! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Excuse me for stating the obvious, but have you tried as many different positions as possible? "
But of course.....I'm getting dizzy with positions.lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't either
And really feel like I am missing out. "
Do you cum when your partner is giving you oral or playing with your clip. If SO, What happens when you are close to or gas and you then start penetrative sex |
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Hey ladies ... if the truth be told we are certainly not in the minority ... I never cum through penetrative sex either, it is certainly not a failing and I haven't exactly given up, have come close several times ... but it's all about being honest with prospective partners and finding those who are interested and skilled in pleasuring in other ways ... I have been fortunate in finding many wonderful individuals who have exemplary pleasuring skills and as a result am quite glad I don't cum through fucking ... so get searching and dangling the carrot !!!
Happy searching !!!
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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago
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I was like that for years. The first time I had penetrative sex with Daisy 2012 I came almost immediately, and have done every time since. I think it must be that he fits me perfectly and once it happened it didnt stop xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't either
And really feel like I am missing out.
It's embarrassing that lots of us actually fake orgasms cos we can't cum then have to finish ourselves of later!"
I know she had some problems with her ex, and also after she split with him, but communication.
If you're faking it, the men wont know to try something different, and you could always try giving yourself some clit stim during, I personally find it very horny if I'm with a lady and she helps herself along
Some women just need or like the extra clit stim, and if my hands are busy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i couldn't do it for years. i read an article about training yourself to, and it worked for me. i would have a toy to hand but the vibe turned off and stimulate my clit then code to orgasm i would insert and that the toy. over time i would cut down on how long i continued to stimulate my clit after insertion. it took a while but eventually i can cum from penetration. lots. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hey ladies ... if the truth be told we are certainly not in the minority ... I never cum through penetrative sex either, it is certainly not a failing and I haven't exactly given up, have come close several times ... but it's all about being honest with prospective partners and finding those who are interested and skilled in pleasuring in other ways ... I have been fortunate in finding many wonderful individuals who have exemplary pleasuring skills and as a result am quite glad I don't cum through fucking ... so get searching and dangling the carrot !!!
Happy searching !!!
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Oh I'm definitely searching....there's some great guys out there that are lots of fun but too many just want to get straight to it and think they are gods in bed! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can't either
And really feel like I am missing out.
It's embarrassing that lots of us actually fake orgasms cos we can't cum then have to finish ourselves of later!
I know she had some problems with her ex, and also after she split with him, but communication.
If you're faking it, the men wont know to try something different, and you could always try giving yourself some clit stim during, I personally find it very horny if I'm with a lady and she helps herself along
Some women just need or like the extra clit stim, and if my hands are busy "
That's true.....might invest in a few new toys but still persevere  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't either
And really feel like I am missing out.
It's embarrassing that lots of us actually fake orgasms cos we can't cum then have to finish ourselves of later!
I know she had some problems with her ex, and also after she split with him, but communication.
If you're faking it, the men wont know to try something different, and you could always try giving yourself some clit stim during, I personally find it very horny if I'm with a lady and she helps herself along
Some women just need or like the extra clit stim, and if my hands are busy "
I've often wondered if im unusual, once I'm penetrated I have little to no sensation in my clit so I have no chance of bringing myself to orgasm. I actually feel it lose sensation if I'm already playing with it at point of penetration.
I do come from sex but clitoral orgasm is a thunderous whole body one for me. Penetrative orgasm is nothing in comparison. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i couldn't do it for years. i read an article about training yourself to, and it worked for me. i would have a toy to hand but the vibe turned off and stimulate my clit then code to orgasm i would insert and that the toy. over time i would cut down on how long i continued to stimulate my clit after insertion. it took a while but eventually i can cum from penetration. lots. "
That sounds really helpful...thanks  . I will definitely try this  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can't either
And really feel like I am missing out.
It's embarrassing that lots of us actually fake orgasms cos we can't cum then have to finish ourselves of later!
I know she had some problems with her ex, and also after she split with him, but communication.
If you're faking it, the men wont know to try something different, and you could always try giving yourself some clit stim during, I personally find it very horny if I'm with a lady and she helps herself along
Some women just need or like the extra clit stim, and if my hands are busy
I've often wondered if im unusual, once I'm penetrated I have little to no sensation in my clit so I have no chance of bringing myself to orgasm. I actually feel it lose sensation if I'm already playing with it at point of penetration.
I do come from sex but clitoral orgasm is a thunderous whole body one for me. Penetrative orgasm is nothing in comparison."
I do find I get really wet during sex but have only cum a few times in my life that way so I think clit stim is going to be the way forward for me.
It's good that I've actually found somewhere I can discuss this as it's been bothering me for years  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i couldn't do it for years. i read an article about training yourself to, and it worked for me. i would have a toy to hand but the vibe turned off and stimulate my clit then code to orgasm i would insert and that the toy. over time i would cut down on how long i continued to stimulate my clit after insertion. it took a while but eventually i can cum from penetration. lots. "
This I will try! Maybe it is psychological. I started masturbating very young indeed so my the time I had intercourse my clit was my best friend lol. But I was totally ignorant about vaginal stimulation, I just never went there.
Maybe training is the way, anyone got a clicker? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i couldn't do it for years. i read an article about training yourself to, and it worked for me. i would have a toy to hand but the vibe turned off and stimulate my clit then code to orgasm i would insert and that the toy. over time i would cut down on how long i continued to stimulate my clit after insertion. it took a while but eventually i can cum from penetration. lots.
This I will try! Maybe it is psychological. I started masturbating very young indeed so my the time I had intercourse my clit was my best friend lol. But I was totally ignorant about vaginal stimulation, I just never went there.
Maybe training is the way, anyone got a clicker?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i couldn't do it for years. i read an article about training yourself to, and it worked for me. i would have a toy to hand but the vibe turned off and stimulate my clit then code to orgasm i would insert and that the toy. over time i would cut down on how long i continued to stimulate my clit after insertion. it took a while but eventually i can cum from penetration. lots.
This I will try! Maybe it is psychological. I started masturbating very young indeed so my the time I had intercourse my clit was my best friend lol. But I was totally ignorant about vaginal stimulation, I just never went there.
Maybe training is the way, anyone got a clicker?"
perhaps one of the gels they sell that sensitises the clit would help train yours to stop that happening?
good luck to you both, ladies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i couldn't do it for years. i read an article about training yourself to, and it worked for me. i would have a toy to hand but the vibe turned off and stimulate my clit then code to orgasm i would insert and that the toy. over time i would cut down on how long i continued to stimulate my clit after insertion. it took a while but eventually i can cum from penetration. lots.
This I will try! Maybe it is psychological. I started masturbating very young indeed so my the time I had intercourse my clit was my best friend lol. But I was totally ignorant about vaginal stimulation, I just never went there.
Maybe training is the way, anyone got a clicker?"
p.s. i was 7 when i discoveted by accident the joys of placing myself correctly beneath the tap in a running bath. i feel you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i couldn't do it for years. i read an article about training yourself to, and it worked for me. i would have a toy to hand but the vibe turned off and stimulate my clit then code to orgasm i would insert and that the toy. over time i would cut down on how long i continued to stimulate my clit after insertion. it took a while but eventually i can cum from penetration. lots.
This I will try! Maybe it is psychological. I started masturbating very young indeed so my the time I had intercourse my clit was my best friend lol. But I was totally ignorant about vaginal stimulation, I just never went there.
Maybe training is the way, anyone got a clicker?
p.s. i was 7 when i discoveted by accident the joys of placing myself correctly beneath the tap in a running bath. i feel you. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i couldn't do it for years. i read an article about training yourself to, and it worked for me. i would have a toy to hand but the vibe turned off and stimulate my clit then code to orgasm i would insert and that the toy. over time i would cut down on how long i continued to stimulate my clit after insertion. it took a while but eventually i can cum from penetration. lots.
This I will try! Maybe it is psychological. I started masturbating very young indeed so my the time I had intercourse my clit was my best friend lol. But I was totally ignorant about vaginal stimulation, I just never went there.
Maybe training is the way, anyone got a clicker?
p.s. i was 7 when i discoveted by accident the joys of placing myself correctly beneath the tap in a running bath. i feel you. "
Yeah I was 6, maybe that is to blame, 14 years of being expert with my own clit before a man touched me. I'll definitely try to train myself. Would love a really big orgasm from intercourse alone.
Thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone else find they can cum from nipple play though?"
not nipple play but stimulation to my neck in a certain way can make me cum. really freaked me the first time and it rarely happens because it has to be stimulated just right but... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does anyone else find they can cum from nipple play though?
not nipple play but stimulation to my neck in a certain way can make me cum. really freaked me the first time and it rarely happens because it has to be stimulated just right but... "
That sounds very sexy but could also be caught out at the wrong time, lol.
I've had a few guys that really like sucking and teasing nipples and have actually cum from that alone x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone else find they can cum from nipple play though?"
if im horny enough i can get close from many things - just a sexy chat can do it - then just the teensiest touch can tip me - mmmmmmmmmm bliss to the max |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone else find they can cum from nipple play though?
not nipple play but stimulation to my neck in a certain way can make me cum. really freaked me the first time and it rarely happens because it has to be stimulated just right but...
That sounds very sexy but could also be caught out at the wrong time, lol.
I've had a few guys that really like sucking and teasing nipples and have actually cum from that alone x"
my nipples aren't very sensitive anymore because I've breastfed 4 munchkins who had the latch on technique of an angry snapping turtle.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does anyone else find they can cum from nipple play though?
not nipple play but stimulation to my neck in a certain way can make me cum. really freaked me the first time and it rarely happens because it has to be stimulated just right but...
That sounds very sexy but could also be caught out at the wrong time, lol.
I've had a few guys that really like sucking and teasing nipples and have actually cum from that alone x
Ouch!!
my nipples aren't very sensitive anymore because I've breastfed 4 munchkins who had the latch on technique of an angry snapping turtle. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Jools has never cum thru penetration either and for the love of god it's not thru lack of trying. We been together for 27 years and I have tried it all. Clit stimulation oh yeah she wild animal. Like some guys have a hair trigger or some last for hours, some women maybe will never be able to cum thru penetration alone.
And lets be honest when ur banging away for hours on end in ever position available, it does get boring for all concerned after a time.
Not to mention friction burns lol
Don't stress yourselfs ladies as long as you enjoy sex and have fun get a happy ending no matter how it happens. What's the problem. In fact it makes our sex life sexier as it always involves lots of foreplay and toys. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"I can't either
And really feel like I am missing out.
It's embarrassing that lots of us actually fake orgasms cos we can't cum then have to finish ourselves of later!"
WHAT??
Never never fake it!
Goodness me! |
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"Does anyone else have problems climaxing during penetrative sex?
Don't get me wrong I love sex.....don't we all.....have no problem climaxing with toys and when receiving oral but struggle during sex.
A guy can cum 2/3 times while I'm still trying!!
.......Advice please......and don't just say you'll come and fuck me until I cum that's not the advice I'm after!.....HELP!! "
Can you not cum during penetration with clitoral stimulation combined? Either with toys or fingers helping whilst being penetrated? Or is that not what you're after? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One thing we love is alternating between oral and fucking then get her close to orgasm with oral or toy, then just as she starts to cum finish her by fucking always makes for a good hard orgasm and if I masturbate when not fucking can usually time simultaneous orgasms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As with these things; an orgasm starts in the mind..."
So true...
I think the fact that you're almost saying it out loud will prevent you...you are going into it thinking..'aint gonna happen' even though you want it to..same principle as fear..fear doesn't exist we create it...danger exists but we create the fear..mostly unfounded...
forget the orgasm...start having sex with NEITHER of you having an orgasm...
Just penetration...build up the tension over a week or so...try not to associate penetration with an orgasm...just let it sneak up on you...it will...x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Donna can but only when she is on top and controlling it, she says it has never happened when a blokes in charge as he can't feel where she needs it if that makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't either
And really feel like I am missing out.
I'm the same
I'm running a workshop all next week... Free entry..and snacks...  "
What are the snacks, that's the clincher? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can cum with clit stimulation, have no problem when receiving oral. I fact I can be over sensitive during oral and cum too quickly but just puzzled as to why I can't climax during sex. I don't want to have to use my hands to get me off every time I want to cum whether during sex or not but I will certainly be trying a few ideas out after today's chat on here x thanks guys and gals |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't either
And really feel like I am missing out.
I'm the same
I'm running a workshop all next week... Free entry..and snacks...
What are the snacks, that's the clincher?"
Biscuits..
Oreos and orgasms...@ 10
Cum for custard cremes @ 12
Hob nob me till I cum @ 2
Leave me cream krackered @ 4
Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't either
And really feel like I am missing out.
I'm the same
I'm running a workshop all next week... Free entry..and snacks...
What are the snacks, that's the clincher?
Biscuits..
Oreos and orgasms...@ 10
Cum for custard cremes @ 12
Hob nob me till I cum @ 2
Leave me cream krackered @ 4
Xx"
Hob nob please, the SAS of biscuits. |
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I rarely came through penetration ,then I had my clit hood pierced and that changed everything. I suddenly became extremely sensitive.now I have very powerful multiple orgasms, amazingly it seems to have made me more sensitive all over my body ,I can even cum from having my ear nibbled. Best thing I did getting the piercings |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This happens to me too, only seems to happen if im on top and in control but not very often. Im Fine when im using toys very frustrating sometimes  "
me too.. only with toys..or careful fingers..never thru penetrative per se.. and never ever with cunni tho long term ex got me soooooo close |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone else have problems climaxing during penetrative sex?
Don't get me wrong I love sex.....don't we all.....have no problem climaxing with toys and when receiving oral but struggle during sex.
A guy can cum 2/3 times while I'm still trying!!
.......Advice please......and don't just say you'll come and fuck me until I cum that's not the advice I'm after!.....HELP!!
You can't be getting enough stimulation
But guys just banging away hammer and nail like they think they're a porn star isn't going to hit the spot for me!"
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else have problems climaxing during penetrative sex?
Don't get me wrong I love sex.....don't we all.....have no problem climaxing with toys and when receiving oral but struggle during sex.
A guy can cum 2/3 times while I'm still trying!!
.......Advice please......and don't just say you'll come and fuck me until I cum that's not the advice I'm after!.....HELP!! "
I'm only replying as you are in Manchester I have no clue, it's probably the guys you are meeting though. If this is your first time swinging (as your profile sort of suggests) all I can say is keep trying. I hope you get some dirt b&stards soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone else have problems climaxing during penetrative sex?
Don't get me wrong I love sex.....don't we all.....have no problem climaxing with toys and when receiving oral but struggle during sex.
A guy can cum 2/3 times while I'm still trying!!
.......Advice please......and don't just say you'll come and fuck me until I cum that's not the advice I'm after!.....HELP!! "
It's not a 'problem'! There's nothing wrong with you at all! The majority of women don't climax through penetrative sex (myth perpetrated through much porn). Take the pressure off yourself. If it feels good do it - enjoy the journey: don't worry too much how you get to the destination |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't think it's anything to do with who you shag and how good they think they are or indeed may be.
I think it's something possibly the woman needs to address (if it frustrates her), it's blocking I guess like guys who don't come from oral, there is no reason why physically they shouldn't be capable, they just don't.
People will come forward to tell you what brilliant blow jobs they administer and how they've made guys cum who never did before so they'd make you cum.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As with these things; an orgasm starts in the mind..."
I used to struggle to orgasm full stop until my mid twenties...I used to hold back because I was embarrassed by how vocal I can be when I get close, but I started to see someone who made it very clear that he enjoyed my swearing and moaning and slowly I started to relax more. Now that I've gotten over worrying about what comes out of my mouth I can let go and rarely have problems climaxing.
The more you worry about not being able to orgasm the further out of your reach it will be. Some of the training ideas sound good though, to get you used to being able to orgasm in different ways...retraining the way you think about how you can cum |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As with these things; an orgasm starts in the mind...
I used to struggle to orgasm full stop until my mid twenties...I used to hold back because I was embarrassed by how vocal I can be when I get close, but I started to see someone who made it very clear that he enjoyed my swearing and moaning and slowly I started to relax more. Now that I've gotten over worrying about what comes out of my mouth I can let go and rarely have problems climaxing.
The more you worry about not being able to orgasm the further out of your reach it will be. Some of the training ideas sound good though, to get you used to being able to orgasm in different ways...retraining the way you think about how you can cum"
Oh Jesus no it's not that in my case, nothing to do with letting go.
I'm very vocal, I'd say embarrassingly so but I'm totally oblivious to all the noise and dirty talk so I never feel embarrassed, other people maybe do in my presence though. Just a bit annoying that my clit orgasms are thunderous and my penetrative ones are tiddlers.
I agree though that the training could help me focus away from the clit stimulation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Research shows that the number of women who can climax through penetration alone with no form of clitoral stimulation is the minority. Most do need clitoral stimulation of some kind and of those that don't sometimes worrying can In fact cause a mental
block as the mind is very powerful when trying to Achieve orgasm. I need clitoral stimulation when having sex yet I can orgasm with no stimulation at all and on command without being touched once I'm turned on !! |
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