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over a year ago
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I have found that the women who enjoy being in a sub role in the bedroom are often in male roles in the work place or very strong minded business women. Now I'm sure that's not every women but the subs I have had the pleasure of meeting have been that type of person. And I like it !!  |
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Having been on the fetish scene for about 10 years in my experience subs male or female are quite often not sub in every day life. Many
Iv met have often been in positions of authority in everyday life , so being sub is a way of relinquishing control .though this is not to say every sub is like this  |
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I'm not a sub out of the bedroom, it's part of the reason I couldn't live the Dom/sub lifestyle 24/7.
I'm extremely independent and hate having to justify what I'm doing to anyone. I wouldn't say I'm in a powerful job, but I do hold a lot of responsibility. |
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"I'm not a sub out of the bedroom, it's part of the reason I couldn't live the Dom/sub lifestyle 24/7.
I'm extremely independent and hate having to justify what I'm doing to anyone. I wouldn't say I'm in a powerful job, but I do hold a lot of responsibility. "
sounds just like me lol. |
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"Having been on the fetish scene for about 10 years in my experience subs male or female are quite often not sub in every day life. Many
Iv met have often been in positions of authority in everyday life , so being sub is a way of relinquishing control .though this is not to say every sub is like this "
This is me kind of!! Though I am in charge at work - I am sub at home as well as in the bedroom in my home life when I'm owned!
!Pink x
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Absolutely not. In fact I class myself as a sub fem with a dominant personality. Cross me in real life and you know about it very quickly. The role of sub/dom is not always straightforward. In fact it can often be the case that it is the sub who holds the power as they are the ones who give themselves freely.Complex  |
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"Are women who are sub in the bedroom sub in real life ? "
nope! I think i enjoy being sub in bed because i have so much responsibility in my everyday life. its nice when someone else takes control for a while. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are women who are sub in the bedroom sub in real life ? "
I had a mid week gf in the 90's who was sub in the sack and in real life. Great fun but no fun in social surrounds. She knew I had a weekend gf. I was working away a lot and obviously very selfish at the time. The sex was brilliant and she was very willing to enjoy outdoor sex sessions. She had a facebook page declaring how happy she was with her husband having met loads of bastards in the last 2 decades |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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Relinquishing control in a dominant/submissive sexual relationship is (perhaps counter-intuitively) actually an incredibly powerful thing to do for the submissive partner. Like many women who have responded to this thread, I am a confident woman in charge of an all male team during my working life and have been 'bossy' since I was a child; yet love nothing more than to be dominated in the bedroom. I look at the dichotomy as two complementary aspects of my personality that provide me with balance. |
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"I was just wondering wether it was a release in the bedroom letting go of control you have while in every day life or if it was a personality ? X"
Ah....but it's not letting go control. It's allowing someone else in, so that's control. The sub and dom are equal, without one, you make the other figuratively impotent. |
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"Relinquishing control in a dominant/submissive sexual relationship is (perhaps counter-intuitively) actually an incredibly powerful thing to do for the submissive partner. Like many women who have responded to this thread, I am a confident woman in charge of an all male team during my working life and have been 'bossy' since I was a child;
yet love nothing more than to be
dominated in the bedroom. I look at the
dichotomy as two complementary
aspects of my personality that provide
me with balance. "
Yeah, that's what I was trying to say.  |
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"I was just wondering wether it was a release in the bedroom letting go of control you have while in every day life or if it was a personality ? X
Ah....but it's not letting go control. It's allowing someone else in, so that's control. The sub and dom are equal, without one, you make the other figuratively impotent. "
love that. it's really the sub who is in charge on so many levels. they choose to submit. it's about releasing and letting others think, make decisions, and be responsible. the dom is promarily responsible for the safety ofany and all pplay. I'm very assertive outside the bedroom. in the bedroom, with the right dom for me, that release of responsibility is the ultimate high. I'm not into pain so i play on a mental level. |
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Speaking about a woman I know; she's very very dominant in 'real' life. Refers herself to a tomboy that doesn't take any shit.
So everyone expects her to be dom in the scene... But it's the exact opposite. People are like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm extremely independant and hate having to justify what I'm doing to anyone. I wouldn't say I'm in a powerful job, but I do hold a lot of responsibility. "
Me too. I say what i think so i cldnt b sub in real life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I relate sub to shyness, I run my own business but I would say its a soft girly business so all is done in a gentle way. When Im with a male I automatically fall into sub very easily as I like a man to be a man and take control wether its walking into a pub first, making a decision, or in the bedroom. I enjoy the sub side of life day or night, many fantasies are achieved if someone tells you to do something I don't have to feel embarrassed I just do as im told and enjoy. Think iv slghtly waffled on there, sorry. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are women who are sub in the bedroom sub in real life ?
nope! I think i enjoy being sub in bed because i have so much responsibility in my everyday life. its nice when someone else takes control for a while. "
This is exactly it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Most definitely not in my experience. Most are very dominate, high level well paid types. It is slightly cliche to say that but only speaking from experience. I can take charge if I need to but much prefer sex on equal terms. |
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I'm only sub in the bedroom. I'm the boss in "real" life and actually have a reputation for bring straight speaking and where necessary quite fierce. I don't take prisoners lol. I just love handing over control, but it's got to be a man who is naturally dominant, else it just doesn't work. |
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"Absolutely not. In fact I class myself as a sub fem with a dominant personality. Cross me in real life and you know about it very quickly. The role of sub/dom is not always straightforward. In fact it can often be the case that it is the sub who holds the power as they are the ones who give themselves freely.Complex "
certainly in the fetish world the Sub ina Sub /Dom relationship has the real control , the dom can only dominate by concent ,usually control and safety words are used to let the dom know if they are going beyond the comfort zone of the sub but to anyone on the outside looking in it would seem the dom is in control |
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"Absolutely not. In fact I class myself as a sub fem with a dominant personality. Cross me in real life and you know about it very quickly. The role of sub/dom is not always straightforward. In fact it can often be the case that it is the sub who holds the power as they are the ones who give themselves freely.Complex
certainly in the fetish world the Sub ina Sub /Dom relationship has the real control , the dom can only dominate by concent ,usually control and safety words are used to let the dom know if they are going beyond the comfort zone of the sub but to anyone on the outside looking in it would seem the dom is in control "
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I'm one of those tall poppies at work; always sticking my head up and getting it shot off and I've been single for 26 years and bought two children up on my own. Every decision I've ever made has been mine with no other input. I look odd and freaky and people occasionally have a hard time working me out.
Sub in bed? Yep. |
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"Absolutely not. In fact I class myself as a sub fem with a dominant personality. Cross me in real life and you know about it very quickly. The role of sub/dom is not always straightforward. In fact it can often be the case that it is the sub who holds the power as they are the ones who give themselves freely.Complex
certainly in the fetish world the Sub ina Sub /Dom relationship has the real control , the dom can only dominate by concent ,usually control and safety words are used to let the dom know if they are going beyond the comfort zone of the sub but to anyone on the outside looking in it would seem the dom is in control
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