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Part 2: Fab Ban on Bareback Meets?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

To continue as the last thread was closed due to it being to large.

So,am continuing it.

Should Fab create a clear method to identify members that partake in Bareback Unprotected Sex.

Therefore, if members want to take dangerous risks they can but would have to declare it.

Am, still very interested in getting comments from Woman that enjoy Bareback Meets as I've mentioned this behavior seems to be gaining popularity for some unknown reasons over the previous 18mths.

I'd also like some input from those that actually run or own the site on this important issue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you still harping on about this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Didn't see the last thread but there's already a option of safe sex on the profile set up, how would you "make" someone declare they do bareback? Wouldn't some just lie? It's not really workable. The only way to play is to assume everyone else does bareback ( which I'm pretty sure everyone has at one point even if it's a long term partner)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

....what form would this clear method take?

I think that what you are asking is impossible.

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By *atchadreamWoman over a year ago

ST NEOTS

I understand the reasons to go bareback....on very short moments of passion I have consider it as nothing as the feeling of a shot of hot cum right high up... But years of nursing at the bedside of death and couple of years in sexual clinic had become a powerful reminder of what that second of pleasure can cost... No willing to take the risk...

Personal preferences, as for Fabs policing, cant see it happen, will like to see education and open support to campaigners for safe sex.

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple over a year ago

harrow

Sexual health is the individuals responsibility,and yes there are thoughs that choose BB ,I neither condone nor critise their choice ,but to start banning people who choose not to live by your set of rules and values is neither practical or possible.

for one if the site started banning people the site would probably close down through lack of member as people dislike being nannied .

2 people lie ! This country is a nanny state as it is, but if you feel that strongly about this subject why not start your own site with all the rules and values you hold dear , but good luck policing that .

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By *ethnmelvCouple over a year ago

Cardiff

I think we are with the vast majority here that 'censorship' of any kind is not acceptable. We make our own choices, which to be clear is bb for ourselves and protected with anyone else. We do not and will not judge others, we will just decline the opportunity. This site should be about personal choices, not being told to be something or not by someone else.

It is fine to have an opinion, but not to force it on others...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sexual health is the individuals responsibility,and yes there are thoughs that choose BB ,I neither condone nor critise their choice ,but to start banning people who choose not to live by your set of rules and values is neither practical or possible.

for one if the site started banning people the site would probably close down through lack of member as people dislike being nannied .

Yeah, and take all the fakes and timewasters with you.

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple over a year ago

harrow

for one if the site started banning people the site would probably close down through lack of member as people dislike being nannied .

Yeah, and take all the fakes and timewasters with you."

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By *ayandess1Couple over a year ago

bridgwater

Another bloody nanny.

Its individual preference. As I get older I grow more and more tired of nannys.

In my lifetime I've seen playparks torn down because kids may hurt themselves, smoking banned, more stupid and pointless health and safety rules than I can imagine.

I have had my fill of plastic pint glasses, pointless advisory stickers and bloody stupid rules on what can or cannot be done in my own time.

I will never entertain bb sex with others, but if Fab starts banning those that do, well I won't be renewing my membership.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Another bloody nanny."

So, you aren't concerned about for some reason an increase in the arranged meets.

I am & that's my point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Another bloody nanny.

So, you aren't concerned about for some reason an increase in the arranged meets.

I am & that's my point. "

Are you meeting them and playing bareback then ? If not isn't it up to them how they chose to play , I'm sure they are well aware of the risks involved and have made their own mind up, so first step ban the people who chose to play bareback , then ban singles after all in some people eyes they aren't swingers, then ban people who only use the forums As they aren't swinging so should they be here? Who would be left ??

Let people choose who and how they play. It isn't a dictatorship here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you know what I would do if I went to a club or party and there was a gorgeous guy there but he wanted to play bareback - I would just say 'no thank you I never play bareback' and that would be the end of it.

There may be an increase in bareback sex but noone is forcing you to partake in it.

It can't be policed so how do you expect admin to control it, attend every meet and stand on guard to ensure that condoms are always used.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I must have missed the first part of this little gem of insanity.

I'd prefer it if Fab banned those that are clearly completely hatstand, or better yet made a "totally David Icke" badge to put on their profiles.

That way we can all make an informed choice to stay away from the H+S police.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Another bloody nanny.

So, you aren't concerned about for some reason an increase in the arranged meets.

I am & that's my point. "

the problem with the Original Thread and your stance in it is that more than one person told and advised you that HIV and STD's can be caught in more ways than just bareback...

so when I asked you if you are going to ban oral without condoms as well... you gave a silly pithy answer

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Another bloody nanny.

So, you aren't concerned about for some reason an increase in the arranged meets.

I am & that's my point. "

How have you determined this increase?

It will always be the case that some choose to BB - I like the fact I can see their plans/preferences as it provides me with info I use to decide who to contact. A ban would hide this useful info from others and myself.

And do you honestly think people only arrange fun via publicised details on here? How do you police texts, calls, clubs, meets in bars and pubs, random encounters in hotels?

You are being truly naive.

And as was said many times on the previous thread - look after you're own safety and you can do no more. The site has no responsibility for your personal safety. Only you do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Another bloody nanny.

Its individual preference. As I get older I grow more and more tired of nannys.

In my lifetime I've seen playparks torn down because kids may hurt themselves, smoking banned, more stupid and pointless health and safety rules than I can imagine.

I have had my fill of plastic pint glasses, pointless advisory stickers and bloody stupid rules on what can or cannot be done in my own time.

I will never entertain bb sex with others, but if Fab starts banning those that do, well I won't be renewing my membership. "

Hallelujah.

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By *eakcoupleCouple over a year ago

peak district

Live and let live. People are capable of making up their own minds and don't appreciate other people trying to run their lives.

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple over a year ago

harrow

Someone has really got the bit between their teeth on this one , everyone is entitled to their opinion but this really feels like someone forcing their _iews on everyone . Quite how they have determined this so called rise in BB play has me interested though, must have a lot of time on their hands and checking everyones profile and counting everyone who hasn't got a reference to safe sex on it .should probably go and work for GCHQ ,BIG BROTHER is alive and well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh my days .... This one is still running !

The op is still pursuing a one man crusade to police everyone on fab , jeez , it's time someone told him to get off his high horse and get on with his own life , instead of telling us how to live ours .

Still asking the owners to help him in his crusade , succeeding only to further piss everyone off , and getting next to no support at all .

Please op .... Forget it ... We all make our own choices and need no help from you to do so .

You are a doing yourself no favours at all rattling on about it , and although your intentions may be honourable , we are sick of it now

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By *adgodCouple over a year ago

Greensburg

We are not a fan of policing or censorship of any kind. Keep your control issues within your own personal realm.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He doth protest too much?

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Oh my days .... This one is still running !

Still asking the owners to help him in his crusade , succeeding only to further piss everyone off , and getting next to no support at all .

Please op .... Forget it ... We all make our own choices and need no help from you to do so .

You are a doing yourself no favours at all rattling on about it , and although your intentions may be honourable , we are sick of it now

Simply: this!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see the OPs crusade as positive because he's highlighting something that we should all keep in mind.

Maybe a 'bareback ban' isn't feasible, or even desirable, but personally I'd like to see Fab doing something to promote safer sex. Perhaps a page on the subject, with links to trusted sources on sexual health matters. It already gives guidance about 'safe meetings' (buried in FAQ) but nothing about sexual health that I could find.

I don't think this would affect anyone's freedom of choice, and Fab could then claim that it gives a stuff

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I see the OPs crusade as positive because he's highlighting something that we should all keep in mind.

I don't think this would affect anyone's freedom of choice, and Fab could then claim that it gives a stuff

Perhaps they should just ban forum posts about bareback , getting to be like kiss fuck or pass now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

bareback should be down to individual choice I guess like I sucking cock without a glove on or licking pussy the risks of the latter are no less risky that having unprotected sex and as for banning people from this website would more less clear it's memory bank of thousands of users so can't relay see how that would work

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I see the OPs crusade as positive because he's highlighting something that we should all keep in mind.

I don't think this would affect anyone's freedom of choice, and Fab could then claim that it gives a stuff

Agreed put a page up then the folk who want to read up can.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Going Bb is a personal choice and its your personal choice to partake in such activities. But if you ban people who do Bb you need to ban people who do oral.

Then ban the nannies on the site along with people who post stupid threads in the forums lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I see the OPs crusade as positive because he's highlighting something that we should all keep in mind.

I don't think this would affect anyone's freedom of choice, and Fab could then claim that it gives a stuff

Sorry , but I take issue with this .

Anything negative is not good for a community , including your suggestion .

There may be some who have no knowledge of safe sex , but it isn't hard to become informed is it ?

If one chooses to join a liberated community like fab , you shouldn't have to endure a health warning .

We are here to have fun with others in the lifestyle , not for a lesson in safe sex . That's our responsibility .

It's bad enough with alcohol , cigarette and food warnings ....

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By *oulou45Woman over a year ago

Bucks

for one if the site started banning people the site would probably close down through lack of member as people dislike being nannied .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

another bullshit thread !!! don't like it don't do it simple and if your can't trust don't swing there is always a risk weather meeting a new partner through dating or pulled on night out ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I see the OPs crusade as positive because he's highlighting something that we should all keep in mind.

I don't think this would affect anyone's freedom of choice, and Fab could then claim that it gives a stuff

Sorry , but I take issue with this .

Anything negative is not good for a community , including your suggestion .

There may be some who have no knowledge of safe sex , but it isn't hard to become informed is it ?

If one chooses to join a liberated community like fab , you shouldn't have to endure a health warning .

We are here to have fun with others in the lifestyle , not for a lesson in safe sex . That's our responsibility .

It's bad enough with alcohol , cigarette and food warnings ....

So you think a page giving advice on sexual health would be 'negative'? Blimey, there's not much one can say to that.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

on a scale of one to ten measuring my interest in the sexual practises of others... ZERO

I manage mine to a score of TEN, there is nothing I can do more and I am happy to accept the full responsibility.

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By *etwifeWoman over a year ago

hanworth

We all adults u personally love bareback but realise it isnt for everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own, people are born with mouths for a reason to discuss and establish such things before a meet. Jesus some people have too much time on here!

Get a job!

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple over a year ago

wirral

"He doth protest too much?

exactly what I was thinking

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By *uby0000Woman over a year ago

hertfordshire

op protect yourself np

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Someone posted that there was another user who had more than 400 veris and they only do bareback. Surley that answers the question. She had 400 + that preferred bareback and most of them probably if asked would say glove on every time. Most people tell you what they think you want to hear.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

If a person wants to go bareback that's their choice....worry about your own sexual health and stop judging others...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I see the OPs crusade as positive because he's highlighting something that we should all keep in mind.

I don't think this would affect anyone's freedom of choice, and Fab could then claim that it gives a stuff

Sorry , but I take issue with this .

Anything negative is not good for a community , including your suggestion .

There may be some who have no knowledge of safe sex , but it isn't hard to become informed is it ?

If one chooses to join a liberated community like fab , you shouldn't have to endure a health warning .

We are here to have fun with others in the lifestyle , not for a lesson in safe sex . That's our responsibility .

It's bad enough with alcohol , cigarette and food warnings ....

So you think a page giving advice on sexual health would be 'negative'? Blimey, there's not much one can say to that."

Yes , if you are on fab , and feel the need to check a page on the site for your sexual health , I do think it's a negative .

We go to our local clinic monthly , and are surrounded by advice , leaflets etc.... On sexual health . But nothing to recommend swinging , and multiple sex partners .

Just as on a swinging site we are here for NSA uncomplicated sexual adventures , not a bloody lecture on safe sex !

So get the advice from the right place , and the fun from the site , which is what it is here for

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I think the op doth protest too much, the insitence on comments from women who do this seems a little like fishing to me.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"He doth protest too much?

exactly what I was thinking

darn it! sorry I didn't read the whole thread, didn't intentionally pinch your words

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Another bloody nanny.

So, you aren't concerned about for some reason an increase in the arranged meets.

I am & that's my point. "

No and why would i be concerned, i play safe and always will, i value health more than a quick ride on a cock, but if someone wants to play bare thats there choice entirely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OMG !!! Are you still on this one . Get a grip and go have a wank !!

NO ONE GIVES A SHIT . FABS ARE NOT GOING TO BAN EVEYONE THAT PLAYS BB . NO MATTER HOW MENY TIMES YOU POST THIS !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Another bloody nanny.

So, you aren't concerned about for some reason an increase in the arranged meets.

I am & that's my point.

the problem with the Original Thread and your stance in it is that more than one person told and advised you that HIV and STD's can be caught in more ways than just bareback...

so when I asked you if you are going to ban oral without condoms as well... you gave a silly pithy answer

Also you still haven't answered this ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Boring

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As I've said before.... It's not just about BB....how many men or women wash their hands thoroughly between partners...especially in a group situation....??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To continue as the last thread was closed due to it being to large.

So,am continuing it.

Should Fab create a clear method to identify members that partake in Bareback Unprotected Sex.

Therefore, if members want to take dangerous risks they can but would have to declare it.

Am, still very interested in getting comments from Woman that enjoy Bareback Meets as I've mentioned this behavior seems to be gaining popularity for some unknown reasons over the previous 18mths.

I'd also like some input from those that actually run or own the site on this important issue."

Never seen the first thread but i have to say it would be impossible to enforce as people could easily lie and say they don't do bareback

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP is free to judge but to suggest our community should support what he believes because he's 'right' is in my opinion a slippery slope. Do you have any idea of how badly some people think of this site and those of us who choose to play here? I'm sure they would have our immoral playroom shut down in a heartbeat as they believe they're right too. Jeez, just play safe and look after yourself. The rest of us can do the same or as we wish. Sorry. Been holding that rant in a bit. OP won't give up it seems till we've all agreed he's right (in my opinion). Peace x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the op doth protest too much, the insitence on comments from women who do this seems a little like fishing to me."

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"OP is free to judge but to suggest our community should support what he believes because he's 'right' is in my opinion a slippery slope. Do you have any idea of how badly some people think of this site and those of us who choose to play here? I'm sure they would have our immoral playroom shut down in a heartbeat as they believe they're right too. Jeez, just play safe and look after yourself. The rest of us can do the same or as we wish. Sorry. Been holding that rant in a bit. OP won't give up it seems till we've all agreed he's right (in my opinion). Peace x"

In my opinion he won't give up until he has the profile names of several women who play bareback.....purely for research purposes if course.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

In my opinion he won't give up until he has the profile names of several women who play bareback.....purely for research purposes if course."

Which is probably why they're keeping quiet

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By *adgodCouple over a year ago

Greensburg

It is really nice to see that in spite of the many varied personalities on the site, the sentiment against those who would impose their beliefs and preferences upon others is nearly universal.