Really boils my piss...why can't people be honest....
When someone asks to meet and you can't for whatever reason....why do people have to lie and justify themselves. elaborate stories about ill kids, family members dying and sudden extra shifts at work......."sorry can't this week" surely is enough??.....  |
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"Shit happens real life comes first. "
I am well aware of that....I am a busy person myself, but I don't lie about it....you make arrangements and last minute (literally) someone phones from work or your great auntie tilly dies.....rather hear, "I just cbfa" or "better offer" |
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"Shit happens real life comes first.
I am well aware of that....I am a busy person myself, but I don't lie about it....you make arrangements and last minute (literally) someone phones from work or your great auntie tilly dies.....rather hear, "I just cbfa" or "better offer""
I agree, insults your intelligence coming out with rubbish excuses. People lying wastes so much time and there's no need for it. |
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"Really boils my piss...why can't people be honest....
When someone asks to meet and you can't for whatever reason....why do people have to lie and justify themselves. elaborate stories about ill kids, family members dying and sudden extra shifts at work......."sorry can't this week" surely is enough??..... "
I've had this a few times with a certain female on her or was on here, in the end i did catch her out in her lies, see the thing is if your going to lie, you have to have a good memory |
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"Shit happens real life comes first.
I am well aware of that....I am a busy person myself, but I don't lie about it....you make arrangements and last minute (literally) someone phones from work or your great auntie tilly dies.....rather hear, "I just cbfa" or "better offer"
I agree, insults your intelligence coming out with rubbish excuses. People lying wastes so much time and there's no need for it."
It's strange, having been off any kind of dating/meeting scene for many years married, I am really struck by an all-pervasive culture of 'I'll say whatever I think she wants to hear' amongst men, regardless of if it is necessary or not. I just never came across it before and find it quite disheartening to be honest, not being ABLE to believe anything anyone says is a total pain!! |
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"Really boils my piss...why can't people be honest....
When someone asks to meet and you can't for whatever reason....why do people have to lie and justify themselves. elaborate stories about ill kids, family members dying and sudden extra shifts at work......."sorry can't this week" surely is enough??.....
I've had this a few times with a certain female on her or was on here, in the end i did catch her out in her lies, see the thing is if your going to lie, you have to have a good memory "
Yes im not quite as daft as i look, you wouldnt believe the stories iv been told, one lie after another, people who have good verifications too, they havnt got a good memory neither have i but its not that bad yet.  |
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"Shit happens real life comes first.
Agreed x I have a full on life x work, carer n mother x never know what's the next phonecall will bring  "
agreed! If its a case of my daughter, or hurting someone's feelings online, I know where I'm going. |
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"Maybe some people lie because they're 'nice' and don't want to risk offending with the truth."
You mean when they ring me up saying they have seen me before when they havnt, or lie about where they live and work. |
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"Shit happens real life comes first.
Agreed x I have a full on life x work, carer n mother x never know what's the next phonecall will bring "
Spot on. We took 2yrs out from the scene as both our parents are elderly widows and circumstances were changing on a daily basis. We thought it wasn't fair on others due to this so we decided to take some time out. |
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"Maybe some people lie because they're 'nice' and don't want to risk offending with the truth."
I find this quite common and I understand why BUT if you've asked someone to be honest with you then you find out they've lied (and you always do) its so hurtful!!
I'm well aware that a guy would pick almost anyone else over me but at least have the balls to tell me!! Ranty rant!! |
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"Maybe some people lie because they're 'nice' and don't want to risk offending with the truth.
You mean when they ring me up saying they have seen me before when they havnt, or lie about where they live and work."
My mistake, I didn't realise this thread was about you. I was responding to the OP  |
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Most of our messages when arranging q meet, I will put in them that the only thing that would stop us is family stuff, which to us will come first.
And we would except the same back as it can't be helped, and to be honest we wouldn't want to meet someone who put their kids ect on the back burner to meet us, it is not right.
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"Maybe some people lie because they're 'nice' and don't want to risk offending with the truth.
You mean when they ring me up saying they have seen me before when they havnt, or lie about where they live and work.
My mistake, I didn't realise this thread was about you. I was responding to the OP "
No i was just explaining that people dont always lie for the reasons you just gave, that they are too nice to tell the truth for risk of offending. |
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"Shit happens real life comes first.
I am well aware of that....I am a busy person myself, but I don't lie about it....you make arrangements and last minute (literally) someone phones from work or your great auntie tilly dies.....rather hear, "I just cbfa" or "better offer"
I agree, insults your intelligence coming out with rubbish excuses. People lying wastes so much time and there's no need for it.
It's strange, having been off any kind of dating/meeting scene for many years married, I am really struck by an all-pervasive culture of 'I'll say whatever I think she wants to hear' amongst men, regardless of if it is necessary or not. I just never came across it before and find it quite disheartening to be honest, not being ABLE to believe anything anyone says is a total pain!!"
Not only men do it  |
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I'm more offended by people leading me on with no intention of meeting rather than just being honest and saying no thanks. Had it recently with a guy that I'd met, kept saying he wanted to meet but clearly didn't. I don't want to waste my time and theirs so when I've been in that situation I've just been honest and said I didn't want to meet again. If it upsets them then I'm sorry but I've made myself clear and not wasted their time as I hate it being done to me. |
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I have told people before that i have changed my mind and didnt think they were my type after all, they didnt always like it but its better than lying i guess. |
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"Really boils my piss...why can't people be honest....
When someone asks to meet and you can't for whatever reason....why do people have to lie and justify themselves. elaborate stories about ill kids, family members dying and sudden extra shifts at work......."sorry can't this week" surely is enough??.....
I've had this a few times with a certain female on her or was on here, in the end i did catch her out in her lies, see the thing is if your going to lie, you have to have a good memory
Yes im not quite as daft as i look, you wouldnt believe the stories iv been told, one lie after another, people who have good verifications too, they havnt got a good memory neither have i but its not that bad yet. "
Yes she had good veries as well, but just couldnt remember what she had said in the past, and one was only 3 days before, and she was a younger woman, and i dont want to offend any younger people on here, but i find that there not as honest as older people which is quite sad tbh |
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"I'm more offended by people leading me on with no intention of meeting rather than just being honest and saying no thanks. Had it recently with a guy that I'd met, kept saying he wanted to meet but clearly didn't. I don't want to waste my time and theirs so when I've been in that situation I've just been honest and said I didn't want to meet again. If it upsets them then I'm sorry but I've made myself clear and not wasted their time as I hate it being done to me."
Excatly thats what happend to me, led on |
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It's not something that I've ever let concern me. I've had cancellations made for all sorts of reasons and similarly I've had to cancel, sometimes at short notice. I am satisfied that all the reasons given to me are genuine because I take the time to get to know the people I propose to meet. To the extent in fact that I wouldnt need to know the reason. If they tell me they can't make it I know there must be a good reason for that, it's a mutual trust thing and it's part of my selection process. |
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"Maybe some people lie because they're 'nice' and don't want to risk offending with the truth.
You mean when they ring me up saying they have seen me before when they havnt, or lie about where they live and work."
That is the point; why would you want to know where they work and live?..maybe they prefer to keep those private until they know you enough. |
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"Maybe some people lie because they're 'nice' and don't want to risk offending with the truth.
You mean when they ring me up saying they have seen me before when they havnt, or lie about where they live and work.
That is the point; why would you want to know where they work and live?..maybe they prefer to keep those private until they know you enough."
well they know where i live. i didnt ask him where he lived either.
it was because he said he lived in two different places, so i said are you a driver and he said yes. then he said he worked somewhere else. |
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"Really boils my piss...why can't people be honest....
When someone asks to meet and you can't for whatever reason....why do people have to lie and justify themselves. elaborate stories about ill kids, family members dying and sudden extra shifts at work......."sorry can't this week" surely is enough??.....
I've had this a few times with a certain female on her or was on here, in the end i did catch her out in her lies, see the thing is if your going to lie, you have to have a good memory
Yes im not quite as daft as i look, you wouldnt believe the stories iv been told, one lie after another, people who have good verifications too, they havnt got a good memory neither have i but its not that bad yet. "
One bloke told me he had to cancel. Not a problem as life happens. If he'd left it there I'd have had no problem rescheduling, but he went on to say his dad was in hospital and he had to drive his dear old mum to see him. Again, would not have been a problem apart from the fact his dad must have been called Lazarus as a couple of months previously he cancelled because he'd died! |
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"Really boils my piss...why can't people be honest....
When someone asks to meet and you can't for whatever reason....why do people have to lie and justify themselves. elaborate stories about ill kids, family members dying and sudden extra shifts at work......."sorry can't this week" surely is enough??..... "
Ok, apart from someone dying we've had to cancel going out to clubs for all the above reasons. This is mainly why we rarely arrange meets, to save the hassle of letting people down and bring branded a time waster - but it does genuinely happen.
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My G/F seems to like me lying to her.
She always smiles when I say your arse looks perfect in that dress.
I got sick of the frying pan when I told her the truth. |
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"Really boils my piss...why can't people be honest....
When someone asks to meet and you can't for whatever reason....why do people have to lie and justify themselves. elaborate stories about ill kids, family members dying and sudden extra shifts at work......."sorry can't this week" surely is enough??.....
Ok, apart from someone dying we've had to cancel going out to clubs for all the above reasons. This is mainly why we rarely arrange meets, to save the hassle of letting people down and bring branded a time waster - but it does genuinely happen.
D"
I know...I have had to cancel myself...the point I am making is that I know they are lying....as mentioned before, people who lie need very good memories.....do they not think that verifications being left on the very day they cant make the meet you have arranged is a dead givaway |
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I used to lie when I was in a couple when my husband got cold feet and decided game of thrones was a better option. Hated doing it, now.....well don't seem to be ale to pin anyone down for a meet so no heed for chilly feet at all  |
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"Really boils my piss...why can't people be honest....
When someone asks to meet and you can't for whatever reason....why do people have to lie and justify themselves. elaborate stories about ill kids, family members dying and sudden extra shifts at work......."sorry can't this week" surely is enough??.....
Ok, apart from someone dying we've had to cancel going out to clubs for all the above reasons. This is mainly why we rarely arrange meets, to save the hassle of letting people down and bring branded a time waster - but it does genuinely happen.
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I know...I have had to cancel myself...the point I am making is that I know they are lying....as mentioned before, people who lie need very good memories.....do they not think that verifications being left on the very day they cant make the meet you have arranged is a dead givaway"
It's not nice, but it happens, and it would take a cold-hearted individual to say 'I've had a better offer', even if it was the truth. |
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"Really boils my piss...why can't people be honest....
When someone asks to meet and you can't for whatever reason....why do people have to lie and justify themselves. elaborate stories about ill kids, family members dying and sudden extra shifts at work......."sorry can't this week" surely is enough??.....
Ok, apart from someone dying we've had to cancel going out to clubs for all the above reasons. This is mainly why we rarely arrange meets, to save the hassle of letting people down and bring branded a time waster - but it does genuinely happen.
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I know...I have had to cancel myself...the point I am making is that I know they are lying....as mentioned before, people who lie need very good memories.....do they not think that verifications being left on the very day they cant make the meet you have arranged is a dead givaway
It's not nice, but it happens, and it would take a cold-hearted individual to say 'I've had a better offer', even if it was the truth."
id rather the truth really....even if it hurts....flipping hate liars |
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"Really boils my piss...why can't people be honest....
When someone asks to meet and you can't for whatever reason....why do people have to lie and justify themselves. elaborate stories about ill kids, family members dying and sudden extra shifts at work......."sorry can't this week" surely is enough??.....
Ok, apart from someone dying we've had to cancel going out to clubs for all the above reasons. This is mainly why we rarely arrange meets, to save the hassle of letting people down and bring branded a time waster - but it does genuinely happen.
D
I know...I have had to cancel myself...the point I am making is that I know they are lying....as mentioned before, people who lie need very good memories.....do they not think that verifications being left on the very day they cant make the meet you have arranged is a dead givaway"
Are we meeting the same person lol, she spun me a tale that she coundnt meet because of family problems etc lol, which i understood, then gets a verie for the day she said she couldnt met, and tbh if she had said we have a meet that day, again id had understood |
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"Shit happens real life comes first.
Agreed x I have a full on life x work, carer n mother x never know what's the next phonecall will bring "
Totally agree, besides...interrupted plans just builds sexual tension!  never miss an oppertunity to tease!   |
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