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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of couples have " not looking for single guys" on their profiles as they may prefer to go looking for the single guys when they want and it may help to filter out unwanted messages.
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over a year ago
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lots of people saying things they dont mean here - we just spent a while chatting to a woman who didnt want a single guy written all over the place - met a man from here and only wants to meet with him now - thats just the way it is |
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We do sometimes meet single men but only when WE want to, by saying on our profile not interested in single men it stops us getting bombarded with requests as quite a few seem to forget that swinging is a privilege not a right . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why do couplesthat arent looking for a single guy but yet they have 20 meets profile what sense does that make"
We're not interested in meeting single men in general but have on occasion played with guys we've got on with at clubs or parties...it's our preference and we reserve the right to go outside of it if we choose but don't respond to others who try and bypass that...such as with unsolicited friend requests... |
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"Lots of couples have " not looking for single guys" on their profiles as they may prefer to go looking for the single guys when they want and it may help to filter out unwanted messages.
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 we do this (but have written it on our profile!) |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
May I suggest you message those that are looking for single guys,  thats hard enough, messaging those that aren t thats going to reduce your chances further,  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps they have altered their profile recently. They 'were' meeting single men, hence the veri's. Now they have moved on for more experiences, which does no longer include single men perhaps ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why do couplesthat arent looking for a single guy but yet they have 20 meets profile what sense does that make"
Actually makes perfect sense we don't look for single men but we have met one..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why do couplesthat arent looking for a single guy but yet they have 20 meets profile what sense does that make
None in an understanding choices manner to them both as half a couple each. "
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We have recently changed our profile to not looking for single men for the moment. Although we don't have any verifications from men it doesn't mean we haven't met any either...
I don't look too much into what and how and why on profiles as its each to their own.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We will play with single men. But since we lifted the block on them contacting us, we are inundated with unsolicited friend requests, winks, one line emails and basic idiots who cant read. We have got a few guys in our list who were respectful, courteous,and who can read who are on our to do list. Time to turn the filters back on i think. If we want to add more to the list we will go and find them!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message"
probably so they don't get pestered by men like your good self |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message"
And neither will we accept the request you've sent for the second time...because, well, what's the point? If you had read our profile you'd know that we're looking for local couples who don't smoke...are you any of those things? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like others we specify on our profile single ladies and couples to cut down on messages from single guys. We may choose to meet a single guy if we find one I like. We do have verification from single men on here but when we met them they were accompanied by a lady friend so we were actually meeting them as a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why do couplesthat arent looking for a single guy but yet they have 20 meets profile what sense does that make"
You have to remember what people write on their profile is a preference not a contract that has to be adhered to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message"
This is why filters are in place. To stop people who do not respect peoples preferences. Read profiles!! Respect preferences!! It's not rocket science. |
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over a year ago
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message
And neither will we accept the request you've sent for the second time...because, well, what's the point? If you had read our profile you'd know that we're looking for local couples who don't smoke...are you any of those things?"
How is 3,000 miles away not local?
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We have met and had fun with a couple of single guys and enjoyed fora treat for Leslie but that does not mean we are looking all the time. As it also states in our profile looking for bi fem/ couples. So many single guys do not read profiles and just hit the wink/friend request button or message HI WHAT YOU UP TO and wonder why they get no response. It's just as east for us to hit the delete and block button guys.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message
This is why filters are in place. To stop people who do not respect peoples preferences. Read profiles!! Respect preferences!! It's not rocket science. "
I agree with that completly but if people are actually saying one thing on a profile but mean another I can see why things like this get bought up in the forums time and time again.Honesty is the best policy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message
And neither will we accept the request you've sent for the second time...because, well, what's the point? If you had read our profile you'd know that we're looking for local couples who don't smoke...are you any of those things?
How is 3,000 miles away not local?
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Well the world gets smaller everyday...lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message
This is why filters are in place. To stop people who do not respect peoples preferences. Read profiles!! Respect preferences!! It's not rocket science.
I agree with that completly but if people are actually saying one thing on a profile but mean another I can see why things like this get bought up in the forums time and time again.Honesty is the best policy."
It's not dishonesty...as someone said above...expressing a preference does not in any way suggest a binding contract...our profile could not be described as ambiguous in any way...a single guy reading the first line would be very clear on what we're interested in, verifications notwithstanding...how hard can it be? |
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message
This is why filters are in place. To stop people who do not respect peoples preferences. Read profiles!! Respect preferences!! It's not rocket science.
I agree with that completly but if people are actually saying one thing on a profile but mean another I can see why things like this get bought up in the forums time and time again.Honesty is the best policy.
It's not dishonesty...as someone said above...expressing a preference does not in any way suggest a binding contract...our profile could not be described as ambiguous in any way...a single guy reading the first line would be very clear on what we're interested in, verifications notwithstanding...how hard can it be?"
and there in lies the problem, most DONT read . Most dont get past the pictures |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message
This is why filters are in place. To stop people who do not respect peoples preferences. Read profiles!! Respect preferences!! It's not rocket science.
I agree with that completly but if people are actually saying one thing on a profile but mean another I can see why things like this get bought up in the forums time and time again.Honesty is the best policy.
It's not dishonesty...as someone said above...expressing a preference does not in any way suggest a binding contract...our profile could not be described as ambiguous in any way...a single guy reading the first line would be very clear on what we're interested in, verifications notwithstanding...how hard can it be?
and there in lies the problem, most DONT read . Most dont get past the pictures"
If it says on a profile "single males we will look for you"then have veris from singles then fair enough.But to say you don't meet singles at all then have loads of veris from them is a little hypocritical. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message
This is why filters are in place. To stop people who do not respect peoples preferences. Read profiles!! Respect preferences!! It's not rocket science.
I agree with that completly but if people are actually saying one thing on a profile but mean another I can see why things like this get bought up in the forums time and time again.Honesty is the best policy.
We have a veri from two single males, we didn't do the " one to one meet"
It's not dishonesty...as someone said above...expressing a preference does not in any way suggest a binding contract...our profile could not be described as ambiguous in any way...a single guy reading the first line would be very clear on what we're interested in, verifications notwithstanding...how hard can it be?
and there in lies the problem, most DONT read . Most dont get past the pictures
If it says on a profile "single males we will look for you"then have veris from singles then fair enough.But to say you don't meet singles at all then have loads of veris from them is a little hypocritical."
we have single male veris on our profile, we meet them at parties, not as a planned meet, have you thought of that?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message
This is why filters are in place. To stop people who do not respect peoples preferences. Read profiles!! Respect preferences!! It's not rocket science.
I agree with that completly but if people are actually saying one thing on a profile but mean another I can see why things like this get bought up in the forums time and time again.Honesty is the best policy.
We have a veri from two single males, we didn't do the " one to one meet"
It's not dishonesty...as someone said above...expressing a preference does not in any way suggest a binding contract...our profile could not be described as ambiguous in any way...a single guy reading the first line would be very clear on what we're interested in, verifications notwithstanding...how hard can it be?
and there in lies the problem, most DONT read . Most dont get past the pictures
If it says on a profile "single males we will look for you"then have veris from singles then fair enough.But to say you don't meet singles at all then have loads of veris from them is a little hypocritical. we have single male veris on our profile, we meet them at parties, not as a planned meet, have you thought of that?
Her"
Yeah when I can I read them and it quite often says where they met |
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message
This is why filters are in place. To stop people who do not respect peoples preferences. Read profiles!! Respect preferences!! It's not rocket science.
I agree with that completly but if people are actually saying one thing on a profile but mean another I can see why things like this get bought up in the forums time and time again.Honesty is the best policy.
It's not dishonesty...as someone said above...expressing a preference does not in any way suggest a binding contract...our profile could not be described as ambiguous in any way...a single guy reading the first line would be very clear on what we're interested in, verifications notwithstanding...how hard can it be?
and there in lies the problem, most DONT read . Most dont get past the pictures
If it says on a profile "single males we will look for you"then have veris from singles then fair enough.But to say you don't meet singles at all then have loads of veris from them is a little hypocritical."
but thats their choice , dont understand why it bothers you , its not a big deal hows it hurting you ? unless it because you feel left out because they dont want you ???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can always reject these couples when they approach you if you want to make it a matter of principle. Just say I don't want to be found right now come back later |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message
This is why filters are in place. To stop people who do not respect peoples preferences. Read profiles!! Respect preferences!! It's not rocket science.
I agree with that completly but if people are actually saying one thing on a profile but mean another I can see why things like this get bought up in the forums time and time again.Honesty is the best policy.
It's not dishonesty...as someone said above...expressing a preference does not in any way suggest a binding contract...our profile could not be described as ambiguous in any way...a single guy reading the first line would be very clear on what we're interested in, verifications notwithstanding...how hard can it be?
and there in lies the problem, most DONT read . Most dont get past the pictures
If it says on a profile "single males we will look for you"then have veris from singles then fair enough.But to say you don't meet singles at all then have loads of veris from them is a little hypocritical.
but thats their choice , dont understand why it bothers you , its not a big deal hows it hurting you ? unless it because you feel left out because they dont want you ???? "
It doesn't bother me I can just see how the original poster could be confused!!I'm off out in to the sunshine have a nice day and smile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message
This is why filters are in place. To stop people who do not respect peoples preferences. Read profiles!! Respect preferences!! It's not rocket science.
I agree with that completly but if people are actually saying one thing on a profile but mean another I can see why things like this get bought up in the forums time and time again.Honesty is the best policy.
It's not dishonesty...as someone said above...expressing a preference does not in any way suggest a binding contract...our profile could not be described as ambiguous in any way...a single guy reading the first line would be very clear on what we're interested in, verifications notwithstanding...how hard can it be?
and there in lies the problem, most DONT read . Most dont get past the pictures
If it says on a profile "single males we will look for you"then have veris from singles then fair enough.But to say you don't meet singles at all then have loads of veris from them is a little hypocritical.
but thats their choice , dont understand why it bothers you , its not a big deal hows it hurting you ? unless it because you feel left out because they dont want you ???? "
People will always find a way of complaining about preferences that exclude them... |
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"but you will not accept a friend request or I can not message you because you do not accept guys single guys I should say as a friend or message
This is why filters are in place. To stop people who do not respect peoples preferences. Read profiles!! Respect preferences!! It's not rocket science.
I agree with that completly but if people are actually saying one thing on a profile but mean another I can see why things like this get bought up in the forums time and time again.Honesty is the best policy.
It's not dishonesty...as someone said above...expressing a preference does not in any way suggest a binding contract...our profile could not be described as ambiguous in any way...a single guy reading the first line would be very clear on what we're interested in, verifications notwithstanding...how hard can it be?
and there in lies the problem, most DONT read . Most dont get past the pictures
If it says on a profile "single males we will look for you"then have veris from singles then fair enough.But to say you don't meet singles at all then have loads of veris from them is a little hypocritical.
but thats their choice , dont understand why it bothers you , its not a big deal hows it hurting you ? unless it because you feel left out because they dont want you ????
People will always find a way of complaining about preferences that exclude them..."
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People complain that others don't read profiles, yet when they do read them, they still winge that at people on the site for getting confused by the mixed messages they're sending.
Writing the line "single men, if we want a meet, we'll find you" is easy. All you do then is block their messages, until you want one and say you're looking or alternatively look yourself and mail them.
If you don't want to encourage people outside your usual target group, then don't give any veris they give you, prominence on your profile.
Yes, we all run our profiles how we like, but just like the fella who has wall to wall pics of his cock....if yiu send out certain signals, then don't be surprised at the responses you generate!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People can have verifications of a social situation. That doesn't mean they play with a specific group. It means they are real and genuine. That is all I see veris as, not as an indicator of who I have sex with. |
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"People can have verifications of a social situation. That doesn't mean they play with a specific group. It means they are real and genuine. That is all I see veris as, not as an indicator of who I have sex with. "
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"People complain that others don't read profiles, yet when they do read them, they still winge that at people on the site for getting confused by the mixed messages they're sending.
Writing the line "single men, if we want a meet, we'll find you" is easy. All you do then is block their messages, until you want one and say you're looking or alternatively look yourself and mail them.
If you don't want to encourage people outside your usual target group, then don't give any veris they give you, prominence on your profile.
Yes, we all run our profiles how we like, but just like the fella who has wall to wall pics of his cock....if yiu send out certain signals, then don't be surprised at the responses you generate!
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We don't complain...we delete...sometimes with a message...sometimes like with the OP, not...our profile is clear as crystal, not a mixed message at all...if people choose to ignore what it says then its really not our concern and we owe them nothing...it's just casual sex with strangers off the internet after all...
We're off to a party tonight...there will be single men and if I fancy fucking one or all of them I will, I may even display verifications from them if I choose to do so...does that mean I am obliged to change the wording on our profile because the hard of understanding can't read the first line of it? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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maybe they did at one point... but are not now!
maybe they have been to socials..... and have met people...
maybe they have been to clubs... and met people there...
maybe it is there to put off new people from contacting them.....
maybe its a million and one other reasons... but none that should concern you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They are obviously not wanting a single guy at the moment, I have just decided to take a break from meeting couples myself everyone is entitled to do as they wish with their profile |
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"Sabrina......
just read your profile and wanted to check are you looking for a new single fella?
ps, if not, can I wank over the pics?  "
im really hoping that is ment to be a joke!!! But the trouble with text is its difficult to tell .need a tounge in cheek emoticon on here |
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Maybe I read the OP wrong but I thought he was referring to people who refuse to accept messages from single males but then set up meets asking for single males.
Do they then not wonder why no one responds?
I've seen it before on the meets page "looking for guy to come over and ..." great I thought, message "this user has chosen not to receive messages from single men" ummm ok, that makes it a bit difficult then! lol |
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"Maybe I read the OP wrong but I thought he was referring to people who refuse to accept messages from single males but then set up meets asking for single males.
Do they then not wonder why no one responds?
I've seen it before on the meets page "looking for guy to come over and ..." great I thought, message "this user has chosen not to receive messages from single men" ummm ok, that makes it a bit difficult then! lol"
No, he means what he said. He sees couples who say they're not looking for single guys who have veris from single guys. So they clearly ARE meeting single guys, they're just not looking to be messaged by single guys off here. So if they wanted to be perfectly clear they'd say "singly guys don't message us" or "we'll find you" or something like that which many couples do.
As for your point, there is one reason for couples who've blocked single mails advertising for a meet; men on their friends list or who they've already messaged can contact them still. So if they have a lot of single guys as friends it might be an easier option then messaging them one at a time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lots of couples have " not looking for single guys" on their profiles as they may prefer to go looking for the single guys when they want and it may help to filter out unwanted messages.
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^^^^^ This ^^^^^
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