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Hi all, just wanted to know what you think.
Got a message today from a couple who we had met previously, basically complaining we do not offer enough time!
We have 4 kids who are all under 16 and live at home, my man works long hours, so it is hard to find the time sometimes, and when we do it's not normally an all night thing, we've had meets for 2-3 hours and that seems enough for us, and also if you don't click then aren't feeling uncomfortable.
Well we were told today that because of our lack of time it causes trouble and we should meet people for a minimum of 5-8 hours and it must be at night!
I was tempted to say do one!!
But are we in the wrong?? We always explain our circumstances and everyone else is generally fine with it, and we like to come on here for the social side and chatting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You do what you can manage and whatever you're comfortable with,if it doesn't suit certain people then they can find other people that fit their schedule and so can you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all, just wanted to know what you think.
Got a message today from a couple who we had met previously, basically complaining we do not offer enough time!
We have 4 kids who are all under 16 and live at home, my man works long hours, so it is hard to find the time sometimes, and when we do it's not normally an all night thing, we've had meets for 2-3 hours and that seems enough for us, and also if you don't click then aren't feeling uncomfortable.
Well we were told today that because of our lack of time it causes trouble and we should meet people for a minimum of 5-8 hours and it must be at night!
I was tempted to say do one!!
But are we in the wrong?? We always explain our circumstances and everyone else is generally fine with it, and we like to come on here for the social side and chatting."
Yiu should tell them to feck off, I could get 10 meets in 4 hours  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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If I see a single guy, it is generally 15 minutes between them saying 'Hi, you look less terrible in person than your pics suggest.' to 'Wow! I've shot my load, you can fuck off now.'
A meet of 5 - 8 hours is more like a shift at work. Crikey, I'm told I'm entertaining, but I've not got enough material for a meet of that length. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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5-8 hours?
it seems that they think
a) that being on this site means you have no other commitments, obligations, or any type of life
b) that being on this site means yyou are desperate and will therefore be forced to not only put up with but give in to the bullshit narcissistic demands of others
c) that they in any way have a right to dictate some sort of minimum acceptable level of play or pleasure.
i, for one, could rarely manage a full 5 hours of play, let alone 8. this wouldn't be at night, either. I'm only surprised they didnt demand full breakfast in bed as well. |
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many people get frustrated and a bit cross when you don't conform to how they like to play....look at it this way they don't conform to how you like to play either. It's just that some people seem unable to accept that we're all different, carry on doing what you're doing and change for no one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do what works for you and if people question it it's their problem and you're obviously not compatible. Move on.
There is no right our wrong way to swing. some forget this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm finally over the shock!
I don't let my family stay for 5-8 hours... and I love them!
If you meet and get on and all are having a nice evening, then great! I don't think there is a min/max rule but it sounds as if you'd be better dropping them from your playlist.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A couple of hours is more than enough time. I've had 4 long meets 2 which were 10hrs with no play on either and 2 8hrs meets full on play from start to finish.
But I would never stipulate in long a meet should be. Do what's best for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm finally over the shock!
I don't let my family stay for 5-8 hours... and I love them!
If you meet and get on and all are having a nice evening, then great! I don't think there is a min/max rule but it sounds as if you'd be better dropping them from your playlist. "
*'better off dropping them...' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We generally meet at around 8-8.30pm. Have a drink, a laugh and a catch up and then get down and dirty. We're usually saying "bye" around 11ish I think. We've all got lives to get on with haven't we?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to book a week off work...
Pahaha
I always play it by ear..never plan..as you might want an hour..or a whole night..so I generally suggest bag the time you can and see what happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I accommodate my meets usually last 2 - 3 hours. Hotel or overnight meets are different. Do what suits you OP. If a man was still here after 8 hours I'd charge rent  |
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2-3 hours does us, including chatting beforehand etc. Theres only so much fun you can have
Having said that, we did 5/6 hours once and it was great, we had a few coffee breaks and watched a bit of television in between was very relaxing. |
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"I usually kidnap my meets and use them as sex slaves for the night,I am polite and ask them if thats ok first though "
I have just sent you my address and am putting a blindfold on while tying myself up can't wait for you to pile me into the back of your van |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on what you want from meet....
So long as you both walk away satisfied that's the main thing... So it can vary from 30min to an all nighter...
Everyone has direct circumstances and responsibilities..... Whether someone suggests 10min or more, they have taken time out their lives for you so make it count and enjoy it ....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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weve had a couple of hours to about 8 - we tend to gab a lot and forget why we met - our first meet ended up at 4 am in the morning as we didnt start play for hours for chatting - dont think it matters so long as all happy and having a good time , social, sexually whatever |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did they have to come a long way to makebit feel worth their while? We've had meets that have ended up lasting that long but only because we've been having such a great time with people...and that's included dinner and lots of conversation...We'd rarely plan for that long unless it was with very very good friends...the secret to a good meet for us is often knowing when to leave... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol 5-8 hours? as our meets will no doubt testify once lady P has cum she is practically throwing them out the door !
Ok its not that bad but 5 hours? jesus youd have to feed them too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't stay in someone else company for that long regardless of what we were doing. Only my family get me for more than a few hours. My long term regulars last between an hour and 2 hours but usually an hour. I would tell them they are lucky to get you for the time they do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not allowing them enough time, sounds a tad needy.
Have had meets for an hour or so and meets for 2 nights. Do it how it suits you, if your respective needs/wants are incompatible move on maybe. This lark shouldn't be a minefield for you, you're meant to enjoy yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had meets last a couple of hours, but I've also had overnight meets too.
I suppose it just depends on the personal circumstances of everyone involved and how well you get along but I would under no circumstances expect a meet to last a specific amount of time.
What we get up to on here and with who is our own choices and no-one has the right to dictate in anyway at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had all night meets where he's stayed over and a cpl of hours meets. Depends on who your with and how long you have to be able accom its your choice at the end of the day |
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"I usually kidnap my meets and use them as sex slaves for the night,I am polite and ask them if thats ok first though
I have just sent you my address and am putting a blindfold on while tying myself up can't wait for you to pile me into the back of your van "
Can't find the keys! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Five min should do the job 
Quite right. 1 min hello, 1 min foreplay, 2 min sex, 1 min goodbye. Sorted "
..... wait for the ding and get your tea out of the microwave - multitasking all the way |
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"Hi all, just wanted to know what you think.
Got a message today from a couple who we had met previously, basically complaining we do not offer enough time!
We have 4 kids who are all under 16 and live at home, my man works long hours, so it is hard to find the time sometimes, and when we do it's not normally an all night thing, we've had meets for 2-3 hours and that seems enough for us, and also if you don't click then aren't feeling uncomfortable.
Well we were told today that because of our lack of time it causes trouble and we should meet people for a minimum of 5-8 hours and it must be at night!
I was tempted to say do one!!
But are we in the wrong?? We always explain our circumstances and everyone else is generally fine with it, and we like to come on here for the social side and chatting."
Very rare that we stay for more than two hours |
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"We generally meet at around 8-8.30pm. Have a drink, a laugh and a catch up and then get down and dirty. We're usually saying "bye" around 11ish I think. We've all got lives to get on with haven't we?! "
Perfect amount of time... |
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