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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is there any point in giving people advice on sorting out their profile?
Even if they take on all the advice and get 'the perfect profile', if the person doesn't have any social skills or personality they still won't get anywhere..... and it will just waste the time of people that contact them thinking (because of the great profile) that they are worth chatting to....
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Probably not.
Mind you, I do think there are some people who post profile advice requests as a look at me, because they post the same thread a month later and haven't changed a bit.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably not.
Mind you, I do think there are some people who post profile advice requests as a look at me, because they post the same thread a month later and haven't changed a bit. "
and the same people give the same advice again,would that be a look at me response?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't remember if I've given anyone advice but I wouldn't think it makes much difference. I don't read much out of a profile myself. I like to talk to the person and see what vibes I get |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I gave up helping people with profiles yrs ago,theres bundles of advice on the forums and I believe that if you can't sell yourself by using your own intelligence,wit and charm then its going to be a constant struggle on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably not.
Mind you, I do think there are some people who post profile advice requests as a look at me, because they post the same thread a month later and haven't changed a bit. "
 I've noticed that too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't say that. The amount of times that i have changed my profile is surreal. Now, i've decided to be a bit serious in my profile. It seems so boring now though.
Advice welcome as always |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
"Don't say that. The amount of times that i have changed my profile is surreal. Now, i've decided to be a bit serious in my profile. It seems so boring now though.
Advice welcome as always "
Have you ever noticed that your pics are really underfabbed? Some are a touch samey, but a lot are very good, but still underfabbed. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
the answer is yes and no...
yes if it is general... no to specifics
I just tell people this:
"If it reflects you in your best light, and to your best ability, keep it!!! if it doesn't reflect you in your best light... change it!"
basic common sense... let them work it out for themselves...
I don't believe spoonfeeding helps because that way you dont learn.... it not then "them"..... its a generic mess of buzz words they think people want to hear...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't say that. The amount of times that i have changed my profile is surreal. Now, i've decided to be a bit serious in my profile. It seems so boring now though.
Advice welcome as always
Have you ever noticed that your pics are really underfabbed? Some are a touch samey, but a lot are very good, but still underfabbed. "
Yeah, those are the only poses i know i'm afraid  That needs to change though. I need fresher pictures.
...and i don't know about the fabbing business. Not sure how to check all that.
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"Is there any point in giving people advice on sorting out their profile?
Even if they take on all the advice and get 'the perfect profile', if the person doesn't have any social skills or personality they still won't get anywhere..... and it will just waste the time of people that contact them thinking (because of the great profile) that they are worth chatting to....
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I tend to agree.
Like Fabio says, beyond "really?? Is that your best effort?" I think it's pointless and just delaying the agony for them.
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"Is there any point in giving people advice on sorting out their profile?
Even if they take on all the advice and get 'the perfect profile', if the person doesn't have any social skills or personality they still won't get anywhere..... and it will just waste the time of people that contact them thinking (because of the great profile) that they are worth chatting to....
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I asked about my profile and got really good advice. I'm now relatively happy with it and i do know how to improve it. Now It's up to me to man up and chat and to just be myself. If yall like me great if you don't that's cool i ain't to everyone's taste |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
The generic advice is widely available from other threads, if they can t construct a profile that reflects their specific good points I often think theyd be better asking their mums for those pointers they know them better than I do or ever will, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a very good point from the op .
However , the reality is that getting meets through fab is never that straightforward anyway .
So no matter how good the profile is , it isn't necessarily gonna get meets .
We have met people at clubs who have messaged us through fab , and that works .
But then again , if they are fit and clean , and there is an attraction that's all we are looking for anyway , so what do we know ?  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
thats true... by sometime you have to be able to "help yourself" by helping yourself... and if you don't know the best way to sell you.... then no one else is going to be able to.....
basically what "help" means for a lot of people is helping then get the maximum result with the least amount of effort... which is why we see so much of the generic BS....
maybe we should encourage individuality more by telling people to figure it out for themselves.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm crap at chatting online, hence my shit profile so no-one wastes time mailing me.
I think some people are just better at communicating in person.
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My favourite profile text is '...'.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm crap at chatting online, hence my shit profile so no-one wastes time mailing me.
I think some people are just better at communicating in person.
My favourite profile text is '...'.
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"I'm crap at chatting online, hence my shit profile so no-one wastes time mailing me.
I think some people are just better at communicating in person.
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Yeah, but then folk see your fish batter hair...have you considered a burka?  |
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My profile states about someone thieving it. I sometimes give profile advice, my advice is seldom taken. It tends to be men in their 20's who come across as expecting sex as their right. They don't like to hear direct and possibly harsh comments but react in a childish, intemperate, truculent and aggressive manner - failing to see that that very response (for ever green arrowed) will be the final nail in their fab coffin. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm crap at chatting online, hence my shit profile so no-one wastes time mailing me.
I think some people are just better at communicating in person.
Yeah, but then folk see your fish batter hair...have you considered a burka? "
Don't pick on her.
...innit!
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"Is there any point in giving people advice on sorting out their profile?
Even if they take on all the advice and get 'the perfect profile', if the person doesn't have any social skills or personality they still won't get anywhere..... and it will just waste the time of people that contact them thinking (because of the great profile) that they are worth chatting to....
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I think when people ask for advice about their profile they are not being true to themselves. It's no longer their profile. Even if you write what you think is the worlds best profile some people are going to like and some people are not going to like it. |
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