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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people have an odd definition of swinging .whats yours ? Discuss."
Good question. It's one of those terms you 'know' (or think you do) but struggle when asked to give a definition...sexual openness involving other people-?
By the way, I like that that some Americans call it 'the lifestyle'. Something innocent and quite vague about it!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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frequently changing or exchanging sexual partners
I do not see "permission" is relevant because if it is then single persons do not swing and there are many singles who say they swing.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"frequently changing or exchanging sexual partners
I do not see "permission" is relevant because if it is then single persons do not swing and there are many singles who say they swing. "
some would say singles aren't swingers they are ( to coin a phrase used recently here ) swingles, however i would say the definition of swinger , someone who has recreational sex with multiple partners |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"frequently changing or exchanging sexual partners
I do not see "permission" is relevant because if it is then single persons do not swing and there are many singles who say they swing. "
I'm not convinced that a single person having sex with other single people is swinging. |
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"frequently changing or exchanging sexual partners
I do not see "permission" is relevant because if it is then single persons do not swing and there are many singles who say they swing.
I'm not convinced that a single person having sex with other single people is swinging."
I would tend to agree but thats just my opinion.I'll probably get shot down by someone for having one of thoughs god forbid lol |
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By *nnyMan
over a year ago
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"Don't have a definition......
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I'd concur.
Once you have a definition, you have boundaries and those are used to include or exclude people.
By all means use your personal choices to make those decisions, but not an overarching definition of swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"frequently changing or exchanging sexual partners
I do not see "permission" is relevant because if it is then single persons do not swing and there are many singles who say they swing.
I'm not convinced that a single person having sex with other single people is swinging. "
Even in my circumstances? I'm currently on the site as a single fem but ive swung as part of a previous couple, and its how I got into the lifestyle, so continuedto liev the lifestyle as a single once the relationship broke down. If I were to enter into another relationship, I would prefer that it was again a swingers relationship, so I therefore define myself as a swinger, even though I'm currently single by choice. However, I believe that is the OP's point the term is open to interpretation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sex for fun, as a hobby, rather than as part of a relationship. Whether that is part of a couple or as single people. To exclude single people makes threesomes impossible. Single men joining married couples are swinging as much as the couple are surely x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"frequently changing or exchanging sexual partners
I do not see "permission" is relevant because if it is then single persons do not swing and there are many singles who say they swing.
I'm not convinced that a single person having sex with other single people is swinging.
Even in my circumstances? I'm currently on the site as a single fem but ive swung as part of a previous couple, and its how I got into the lifestyle, so continuedto liev the lifestyle as a single once the relationship broke down. If I were to enter into another relationship, I would prefer that it was again a swingers relationship, so I therefore define myself as a swinger, even though I'm currently single by choice. However, I believe that is the OP's point the term is open to interpretation"
I think that you don't have to be swinging to be a swinger. Similar to you I have been on the scene as both a single and a couple. As a single I was not swinging, neither group sex nor clubs appealed without a partner in crime. But I guess I didn't stop being a swinger because I knew I'd be back at some point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"frequently changing or exchanging sexual partners
I do not see "permission" is relevant because if it is then single persons do not swing and there are many singles who say they swing.
I'm not convinced that a single person having sex with other single people is swinging.
Even in my circumstances? I'm currently on the site as a single fem but ive swung as part of a previous couple, and its how I got into the lifestyle, so continuedto liev the lifestyle as a single once the relationship broke down. If I were to enter into another relationship, I would prefer that it was again a swingers relationship, so I therefore define myself as a swinger, even though I'm currently single by choice. However, I believe that is the OP's point the term is open to interpretation
I think that you don't have to be swinging to be a swinger. Similar to you I have been on the scene as both a single and a couple. As a single I was not swinging, neither group sex nor clubs appealed without a partner in crime. But I guess I didn't stop being a swinger because I knew I'd be back at some point. "
Wise comment here, and to take it further...there is something about swinging that is hard to give up once you have experienced it fully. I can go away, but still the hunger brings me back. How in the blood? lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see swinging as something a couple does, being a single female, I don't see myself as a swinger.
I suppose the definition of it would be openly looking to engage in sexual activity with a range of people. And if you make a few open minded friends along the way, what's not to like!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Does it really matter what the definition means, it could get quite complex, if , as a single male, I join a couple for some fun, does that make them swingers and me something else? (Apart from a dirty bastard ) the term fills a need for those people who need to label everything, the daily mail readers of this world , let those people who want to enjoy there sexuality do just that , and those who don't, wank themselves silly |
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Swinging is not only to get laid. Mostly, the people in the lifestyle are just more fun than friends that are made in the vanilla arena. Real swingers don’t harbor inhibitions and enjoy to talk about anything and everything without fear of reprisal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We see swinging as simply enjoying sex with others , be that singles or couples , but most importantly - with no strings attached .
So singles are just as much a part of swinging as couples as far as we are concerned .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Swinging is not only to get laid. Mostly, the people in the lifestyle are just more fun than friends that are made in the vanilla arena. Real swingers don’t harbor inhibitions and enjoy to talk about anything and everything without fear of reprisal. "
Lovely thought but sadly not quite true. Try posting "married men on here, without wife's permission, are not cheating"; and see the reprisals flow.  |
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"frequently changing or exchanging sexual partners
I do not see "permission" is relevant because if it is then single persons do not swing and there are many singles who say they swing.
I'm not convinced that a single person having sex with other single people is swinging. "
Seems reasonable. I don't consider having NSA sex with my FB "swinging" per se, despite the fact that we met through this site.
What about if a single goes to a swingers club and has sex with couples, groups, other singles etc in plan _iew of others would you say they're a swinger then? |
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totally agree x