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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For all you haters, sometimes we have reasons.
My wife of nearly 15 years prefers wine to me and her family.
For all you lovey dovey couples; things happen. But sometimes people need something or someone outside of their daily lives. Don't hate them for it. Please try to understand that they are not as lucky as you. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You sound as though you've had a rubbish night
I don't condem or condone,its not my life but im more than aware that things are'nt black and white
I hope things get better for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fair do's to you lad but if you're really that unhappy with your marriage, maybe consider a break? In my opinion it's not the cheating that's bad it's the lying that comes with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For all you haters, sometimes we have reasons.
My wife of nearly 15 years prefers wine to me and her family.
For all you lovey dovey couples; things happen. But sometimes people need something or someone outside of their daily lives. Don't hate them for it. Please try to understand that they are not as lucky as you. x"
We don't all judge those who 'play-away' for their moral choices, after-all to many swinging is pretty immoral so we're not exactly in a position to throw stones.
I personally don't concern myself with a man or womans marital status, it's an issue for that persons conscience not mine. |
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"i would imagine because he is feeling very lonely and rejected at the moment ..just a hunch "
I imagine he is but he's said things about his wife that we have no way of knowing are true in a public forum. That was why I asked why he'd posted it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't recall ever having seen someone on the forum say they hate "cheaters". Many disapprove and won't knowingly play with them and that is their choice just as it is yours to seek sex outside of your marriage.
None of us has the right to judge you since we know nothing of your circumstances other than what you have said in your OP but we do all have the right to choose who we have sex with. Similarly you have no right to judge those that choose not to meet married men/women since you do not know their circumstances either. |
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Dont think "luck" comes into it really OP... You either fix it if its broken ( or at least try) or accept it not what it was or what you want and make ya choices. Things are never clear cut . Is always 3 sides to every story, yours, theirs and the truth! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel for you. No one gets a pat on the back or a round of applause for staying in a bad relationship and not cheating. I know it's not easy to get out, I've been there. I didn't cheat and what did it get me? Fuck all, so do what you want and live your life your way. You live once and once only. I do hope your wife gets help with her drinking. It's not a good life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is luck. You pick the short straw when your wife or husband turns into a monster/d*unk for whatever reason. No one can see the future and selfish people don't like to change. Let's all not assume he's embellishing the truth to justify himself. He needs some comfort in his life he isn't getting from her. Couples who allow their partners to fuck other people are lucky |
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"It is luck. You pick the short straw when your wife or husband turns into a monster/d*unk for whatever reason. No one can see the future and selfish people don't like to change. Let's all not assume he's embellishing the truth to justify himself. He needs some comfort in his life he isn't getting from her. Couples who allow their partners to fuck other people are lucky "
and lets not also assume that his wife isn't using drink for her "something outside daily life" always different sides to a story, we only hearing one _iew point . I dont judge anyone for what they do or dont do. Their decisions and choices... Difficult to comment 100% when only a small % known.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first thought was why does she prefer wine.. dont say alot for you in my books..
Especially as cheating is disrespecting her and the marriage. So i wander how in other ways you distespect her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My first thought was why does she prefer wine.. dont say alot for you in my books..
Especially as cheating is disrespecting her and the marriage. So i wander how in other ways you distespect her."
maybe she prefers wine because she has developed alcoholism ! that is no fault of the guy! maybe not an excuse to cheat either! I have no excuse for cheating other than I love meeting new people for sex! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My first thought was why does she prefer wine.. dont say alot for you in my books..
Especially as cheating is disrespecting her and the marriage. So i wander how in other ways you distespect her."
I wonder why women put drink before family myself. The ones I know do it out of a selfish desire for enjoyment. One woman drank herself to death and left 5 children behind including a 7 yr old. This woman had a caring family but preferred drink |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My first thought was why does she prefer wine.. dont say alot for you in my books..
Especially as cheating is disrespecting her and the marriage. So i wander how in other ways you distespect her.
I wonder why women put drink before family myself. The ones I know do it out of a selfish desire for enjoyment. One woman drank herself to death and left 5 children behind including a 7 yr old. This woman had a caring family but preferred drink"
alcoholism is a disease and its not a choice she had it was a mental obsession! is called addiction so to say she was selfish is wrong! although it seems wrong but she knew no better! she needed help |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My first thought was why does she prefer wine.. dont say alot for you in my books..
Especially as cheating is disrespecting her and the marriage. So i wander how in other ways you distespect her.
I wonder why women put drink before family myself. The ones I know do it out of a selfish desire for enjoyment. One woman drank herself to death and left 5 children behind including a 7 yr old. This woman had a caring family but preferred drink alcoholism is a disease and its not a choice she had it was a mental obsession! is called addiction so to say she was selfish is wrong! although it seems wrong but she knew no better! she needed help"
Quitting addictions are about self-control and willpower, surely if she cared enough for her family she would use that to find some willpower to stop. I'm not saying addictions are easy to stop but if its effecting others she supposedly cares about, that should surely be more than enough of a motive to stop. That's my opinion anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My first thought was why does she prefer wine.. dont say alot for you in my books..
Especially as cheating is disrespecting her and the marriage. So i wander how in other ways you distespect her.
I wonder why women put drink before family myself. The ones I know do it out of a selfish desire for enjoyment. One woman drank herself to death and left 5 children behind including a 7 yr old. This woman had a caring family but preferred drink alcoholism is a disease and its not a choice she had it was a mental obsession! is called addiction so to say she was selfish is wrong! although it seems wrong but she knew no better! she needed help
Quitting addictions are about self-control and willpower, surely if she cared enough for her family she would use that to find some willpower to stop. I'm not saying addictions are easy to stop but if its effecting others she supposedly cares about, that should surely be more than enough of a motive to stop. That's my opinion anyway "
addiction can not be controlled by will power its an illness sorry but ever tried using will power on diarea it just doesn't work |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My first thought was why does she prefer wine.. dont say alot for you in my books..
Especially as cheating is disrespecting her and the marriage. So i wander how in other ways you distespect her.
I wonder why women put drink before family myself. The ones I know do it out of a selfish desire for enjoyment. One woman drank herself to death and left 5 children behind including a 7 yr old. This woman had a caring family but preferred drink alcoholism is a disease and its not a choice she had it was a mental obsession! is called addiction so to say she was selfish is wrong! although it seems wrong but she knew no better! she needed help
Quitting addictions are about self-control and willpower, surely if she cared enough for her family she would use that to find some willpower to stop. I'm not saying addictions are easy to stop but if its effecting others she supposedly cares about, that should surely be more than enough of a motive to stop. That's my opinion anyway addiction can not be controlled by will power its an illness sorry but ever tried using will power on diarea it just doesn't work"
It's completely different though, you don't choose for your shit to be watery, as you have a choice weather to drink alcohol or not. Yes it has withdrawal symptoms but the only cure is to just stop drinking.., where as with diarrhoea you can just stop shitting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My first thought was why does she prefer wine.. dont say alot for you in my books..
Especially as cheating is disrespecting her and the marriage. So i wander how in other ways you distespect her.
I wonder why women put drink before family myself. The ones I know do it out of a selfish desire for enjoyment. One woman drank herself to death and left 5 children behind including a 7 yr old. This woman had a caring family but preferred drink alcoholism is a disease and its not a choice she had it was a mental obsession! is called addiction so to say she was selfish is wrong! although it seems wrong but she knew no better! she needed help
Quitting addictions are about self-control and willpower, surely if she cared enough for her family she would use that to find some willpower to stop. I'm not saying addictions are easy to stop but if its effecting others she supposedly cares about, that should surely be more than enough of a motive to stop. That's my opinion anyway addiction can not be controlled by will power its an illness sorry but ever tried using will power on diarea it just doesn't work
It's completely different though, you don't choose for your shit to be watery, as you have a choice weather to drink alcohol or not. Yes it has withdrawal symptoms but the only cure is to just stop drinking.., where as with diarrhoea you can just stop shitting "
seriously?? do you have any understanding of addiction at all? I'm guessing not.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My first thought was why does she prefer wine.. dont say alot for you in my books..
Especially as cheating is disrespecting her and the marriage. So i wander how in other ways you distespect her.
I wonder why women put drink before family myself. The ones I know do it out of a selfish desire for enjoyment. One woman drank herself to death and left 5 children behind including a 7 yr old. This woman had a caring family but preferred drink alcoholism is a disease and its not a choice she had it was a mental obsession! is called addiction so to say she was selfish is wrong! although it seems wrong but she knew no better! she needed help
Quitting addictions are about self-control and willpower, surely if she cared enough for her family she would use that to find some willpower to stop. I'm not saying addictions are easy to stop but if its effecting others she supposedly cares about, that should surely be more than enough of a motive to stop. That's my opinion anyway addiction can not be controlled by will power its an illness sorry but ever tried using will power on diarea it just doesn't work
It's completely different though, you don't choose for your shit to be watery, as you have a choice weather to drink alcohol or not. Yes it has withdrawal symptoms but the only cure is to just stop drinking.., where as with diarrhoea you can just stop shitting
seriously?? do you have any understanding of addiction at all? I'm guessing not. "
I am a smoker, I also have an alcoholic dad and ex drug addict of a brother if you really want to know haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My first thought was why does she prefer wine.. dont say alot for you in my books..
Especially as cheating is disrespecting her and the marriage. So i wander how in other ways you distespect her.
I wonder why women put drink before family myself. The ones I know do it out of a selfish desire for enjoyment. One woman drank herself to death and left 5 children behind including a 7 yr old. This woman had a caring family but preferred drink alcoholism is a disease and its not a choice she had it was a mental obsession! is called addiction so to say she was selfish is wrong! although it seems wrong but she knew no better! she needed help
Quitting addictions are about self-control and willpower, surely if she cared enough for her family she would use that to find some willpower to stop. I'm not saying addictions are easy to stop but if its effecting others she supposedly cares about, that should surely be more than enough of a motive to stop. That's my opinion anyway addiction can not be controlled by will power its an illness sorry but ever tried using will power on diarea it just doesn't work
It's completely different though, you don't choose for your shit to be watery, as you have a choice weather to drink alcohol or not. Yes it has withdrawal symptoms but the only cure is to just stop drinking.., where as with diarrhoea you can just stop shitting
seriously?? do you have any understanding of addiction at all? I'm guessing not. "
no he doesn't but small blame to him because unless your closely affected by it its hard to grasp! I think anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have to take your first drink to become addicted. I understand about mental health and addiction. If she had this genetic predilection then nothing he did would make a difference would it. If she had never taken a drink in her life she wouldn't have the disease. You can't catch alcohol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're telling me it doesn't take will power and self control to quit an addiction tell me what it does. You can get support all you want but end of the day it's down to the abuser to stop and stay clear of it after? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And it seams to me that they have had a d*unken quarrel and he has come on here for a d*unken rant and he has maybe now passed out it happens to the best of us x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And it seams to me that they have had a d*unken quarrel and he has come on here for a d*unken rant and he has maybe now passed out it happens to the best of us x"
you sound like an ideal mistress!! hi i'm john!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And it seams to me that they have had a d*unken quarrel and he has come on here for a d*unken rant and he has maybe now passed out it happens to the best of us x you sound like an ideal mistress!! hi i'm john!! "
Hi John  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're telling me it doesn't take will power and self control to quit an addiction tell me what it does. You can get support all you want but end of the day it's down to the abuser to stop and stay clear of it after? "
when a person is in the depths of addiction they are very ill and a mental and physical addiction takes all reasoning so it takes support and a withdrawal program to get clean! will power at this stage won't work
but you're right once clean it is their responsibility to stay clean with discipline continuously asking for help, helping other Addicts and keeping away from that first drink or drug that would lead them back into that hole! so once they are clean yes it is will power along with other things ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're telling me it doesn't take will power and self control to quit an addiction tell me what it does. You can get support all you want but end of the day it's down to the abuser to stop and stay clear of it after? when a person is in the depths of addiction they are very ill and a mental and physical addiction takes all reasoning so it takes support and a withdrawal program to get clean! will power at this stage won't work
but you're right once clean it is their responsibility to stay clean with discipline continuously asking for help, helping other Addicts and keeping away from that first drink or drug that would lead them back into that hole! so once they are clean yes it is will power along with other things ! "
Which is what I was trying to make a point of but I think I worded it in a bit of a harsh way! But even so to start a withdrawal programme or to even so much as to decide to stop for others takes will-power |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't cheat x but I'm here as a single x my husband knows I'm here x n what I do x my life is so full on that my meet with my fwb n chatting on here are my escape x so judging someone isn't an option x live n let live x We are all responsible for our own decisions in life  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i would imagine because he is feeling very lonely and rejected at the moment ..just a hunch "
yes i know how he feels.
we cant all be irisistable to the opposite sex can we. |
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"i would imagine because he is feeling very lonely and rejected at the moment ..just a hunch
yes i know how he feels.
we cant all be irisistable to the opposite sex can we."
Thank God, imagine trying to do your shopping with hordes if men clinging to your ankles |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i would imagine because he is feeling very lonely and rejected at the moment ..just a hunch
yes i know how he feels.
we cant all be irisistable to the opposite sex can we.
Thank God, imagine trying to do your shopping with hordes if men clinging to your ankles "
*sighs * Its a problem I deal with on a daily basis ...... |
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"i would imagine because he is feeling very lonely and rejected at the moment ..just a hunch
yes i know how he feels.
we cant all be irisistable to the opposite sex can we.
Thank God, imagine trying to do your shopping with hordes if men clinging to your ankles
*sighs * Its a problem I deal with on a daily basis ......"
it's a trial being gorgeous |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suspect this runs much deeper than mere attention seeking or looking for validation. Maybe stop this thread, think the guy regrets posting the message.
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"Dont think "luck" comes into it really OP... You either fix it if its broken ( or at least try) or accept it not what it was or what you want and make ya choices. Things are never clear cut . Is always 3 sides to every story, yours, theirs and the truth! "
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