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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
I got told last night i had too many veris. He told me i was a collector. Im select who i meet and half of my veris r people ive met from another site who i have known for years. This was from a man who had 37 veris and only 2 of them were meets. I know there have been threads about this before but i felt offended by his closed mind. Just wanna hear people opinions for and against |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It never ceases to amaze me that people feel they have to justify to strangers they will probably never meet how they run their profiles
If you're having fun then who gives a shit,keep it up  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
Each to their own to be honest. I have over 200 veris on here (I only show the last 12 months worth else my profile page would go on for ever) and anyone who believes that I am not worth meeting for that fact alone is welcome to move on. If they prefer people who only show 3 veris (but may have 100s) then good luck to them. But the moment anyone disparages others on here for showing their veris its gloves off time.
Also the old fashioned 'women shouldn't have lots of sex' mindset is getting a bit old. 21st century guys. Get over it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Each to their own to be honest. I have over 200 veris on here (I only show the last 12 months worth else my profile page would go on for ever) and anyone who believes that I am not worth meeting for that fact alone is welcome to move on. If they prefer people who only show 3 veris (but may have 100s) then good luck to them. But the moment anyone disparages others on here for showing their veris its gloves off time.
Also the old fashioned 'women shouldn't have lots of sex' mindset is getting a bit old. 21st century guys. Get over it!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ignore and move on, some people(not JUST guys), want to make others feel they are filthy(i.e riddled with potential disease etc) or that they think U shouldnt be on a site like this(false protection issue to gain a shag)...MAINLY because they arent getting meets themselves, or they dont understand the scene which is about meeting new people for mainly sex purposes. |
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We have had the same. Someone said to say how long we had been on the site we had too many Veris. What people don't realise is that we meet people all the time in clubs but don't have sex with them all...
We choose to ignore them and move on..
We don't care how many other people have either. Its all about having fun.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If people negatively judge other people on a swingers site for having too many verifications they really should question whether the scene is for them or not... |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
Thank you all for ur positive responses. Its nice to know i'm considered normal on here and not made out to be a loose woman with not a care who i meet. This sad thing was he had been chatting to me for a while and had seen my veris b4 im sure. But i think he knew he was making no headway with me so decided to insult me anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It never ceases to amaze me that people feel they have to justify to strangers they will probably never meet how they run their profiles
If you're having fun then who gives a shit,keep it up "
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"it may put me off....."
Why would it put u off. Surely considering single women get 100 to 200 messages a day and i select very few from the barrage of messages i receive to meet. I have regular sti checks i practice safe sex and all my veris r complimentary. Why would that put u off me? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A few years back one of the guys i met fairly often asked to meet me that week but i had to say no as i was fully booked with meets that week ( ) he then said he didnt want to meet me as i met to many other men and thats not good for a women !!! Seems its ok if im meeting him but not when i meet others .... i didnt bother seeing him again lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mentioned before that the first time I joined Fab a man said he liked the fact I didn't have many verifications as he likes that kind of woman. I asked him how many of those kind of women has he met then? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I think this is one of the subjects that you never really get a balanced discussion on. If you say yes, you will be pounced upon and it will swingers suicide as you are clearly not liberal in your thinking.
So it is best to sit quiet and watch the No's.
I said 'may' as it would depend on the individual, our initial connection, what I am looking for at the time and my judgement. I am looking for people who want NSA sex, zero commitent to each other but not someone who is consumed with swinging. The 'may' would come from me deciding if someone is posting meets every day, verifications that are MEETS and I may be just another cock...
now, I post often that sometimes I just suck the cock with little or no connection with the person so I could be a complete hypocrite....
and yes, I may be.... but I post an honest response.
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"A few years back one of the guys i met fairly often asked to meet me that week but i had to say no as i was fully booked with meets that week ( ) he then said he didnt want to meet me as i met to many other men and thats not good for a women !!! Seems its ok if im meeting him but not when i meet others .... i didnt bother seeing him again lol"
Ive had that too. Almost jealous in a strange way or expect to jump to top of the queue with little or no effort. Had 1 on hear recently like that and hed met me once then cancelled on me twice and then expected me to meet him at a moments notice. 1 rule for them and different rule for me it seems. The funny thing about him is his quote is genuine man always shows up lol |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"I got told last night i had too many veris. He told me i was a collector. Im select who i meet and half of my veris r people ive met from another site who i have known for years. This was from a man who had 37 veris and only 2 of them were meets. I know there have been threads about this before but i felt offended by his closed mind. Just wanna hear people opinions for and against "
I'd have told him to fuck the fuck off. Then blocked and forgotten. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm pretty uncomfortable with this thread.
I don't agree with the guys point of _iew. But all he did was tell the OP in *private* about the reason he didn't want to meet her. It really doesn't matter that the OP thinks it's unfair, she's got no right calling the guy out in public over a private rejection for his own personal reasons.
Like earlier posters have said, just discontinue contact and move on if someone isn't interested in you. |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"I think this is one of the subjects that you never really get a balanced discussion on. If you say yes, you will be pounced upon and it will swingers suicide as you are clearly not liberal in your thinking.
So it is best to sit quiet and watch the No's.
I said 'may' as it would depend on the individual, our initial connection, what I am looking for at the time and my judgement. I am looking for people who want NSA sex, zero commitent to each other but not someone who is consumed with swinging. The 'may' would come from me deciding if someone is posting meets every day, verifications that are MEETS and I may be just another cock...
now, I post often that sometimes I just suck the cock with little or no connection with the person so I could be a complete hypocrite....
and yes, I may be.... but I post an honest response.
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Thats fair enough so its the type of veris and after talking to a person and deciding if u connect which is exactly what i do. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I think this is one of the subjects that you never really get a balanced discussion on. If you say yes, you will be pounced upon and it will swingers suicide as you are clearly not liberal in your thinking.
So it is best to sit quiet and watch the No's.
I said 'may' as it would depend on the individual, our initial connection, what I am looking for at the time and my judgement. I am looking for people who want NSA sex, zero commitent to each other but not someone who is consumed with swinging. The 'may' would come from me deciding if someone is posting meets every day, verifications that are MEETS and I may be just another cock...
now, I post often that sometimes I just suck the cock with little or no connection with the person so I could be a complete hypocrite....
and yes, I may be.... but I post an honest response.
Thats fair enough so its the type of veris and after talking to a person and deciding if u connect which is exactly what i do."
verifications are just part of my decision making, their forum posts, their updates and loads of other factors |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"I'm pretty uncomfortable with this thread.
I don't agree with the guys point of _iew. But all he did was tell the OP in *private* about the reason he didn't want to meet her. It really doesn't matter that the OP thinks it's unfair, she's got no right calling the guy out in public over a private rejection for his own personal reasons.
Like earlier posters have said, just discontinue contact and move on if someone isn't interested in you. "
Ur entitled to ur opinion. But just so i can clarify im not calling the guy out... he is not named and also i asked for positive and negative _iew points , so in fact if he did happen to recognise himself, he could actually be proved to be correct in his opinion. A forum is a base for discussion and i value ur imput |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A few years back one of the guys i met fairly often asked to meet me that week but i had to say no as i was fully booked with meets that week ( ) he then said he didnt want to meet me as i met to many other men and thats not good for a women !!! Seems its ok if im meeting him but not when i meet others .... i didnt bother seeing him again lol
Ive had that too. Almost jealous in a strange way or expect to jump to top of the queue with little or no effort. Had 1 on hear recently like that and hed met me once then cancelled on me twice and then expected me to meet him at a moments notice. 1 rule for them and different rule for me it seems. The funny thing about him is his quote is genuine man always shows up lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will be honest here and say that is why I haven't put up how many veris I have had in the roughly 4 years I have been on the site.
I did a count of how many are actually still left for me to read and it is 50 fun meets,11 thru a social event, 13 on webcam and 4 on the phone. Total 78.The others have either left the site or I have blocked that comes too 121. So think of me what you will. I don't judge anyone on here so if I now get judgemental comments due to showing my veri's then so be it.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think this is one of the subjects that you never really get a balanced discussion on. If you say yes, you will be pounced upon and it will swingers suicide as you are clearly not liberal in your thinking.
So it is best to sit quiet and watch the No's.
I said 'may' as it would depend on the individual, our initial connection, what I am looking for at the time and my judgement. I am looking for people who want NSA sex, zero commitent to each other but not someone who is consumed with swinging. The 'may' would come from me deciding if someone is posting meets every day, verifications that are MEETS and I may be just another cock...
now, I post often that sometimes I just suck the cock with little or no connection with the person so I could be a complete hypocrite....
and yes, I may be.... but I post an honest response.
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I get exactly what you mean. While I stand by my earlier post, I totally agree that verifications can be indicative of a way of meeting that is simply not for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got told last night i had too many veris. He told me i was a collector. Im select who i meet and half of my veris r people ive met from another site who i have known for years. This was from a man who had 37 veris and only 2 of them were meets. I know there have been threads about this before but i felt offended by his closed mind. Just wanna hear people opinions for and against
I'd have told him to fuck the fuck off. Then blocked and forgotten. "
even better,say you have more than that that you don't display! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm pretty uncomfortable with this thread.
I don't agree with the guys point of _iew. But all he did was tell the OP in *private* about the reason he didn't want to meet her. It really doesn't matter that the OP thinks it's unfair, she's got no right calling the guy out in public over a private rejection for his own personal reasons.
Like earlier posters have said, just discontinue contact and move on if someone isn't interested in you. "
not calling anyone out as you put it. Just highlighting how some men's attitude towards women is on here. He could see how many she had before contacting her,why bother messaging her to tell her he wasn't going to meet her |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I get exactly what you mean. While I stand by my earlier post, I totally agree that verifications can be indicative of a way of meeting that is simply not for us"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've only ever had someone comment on the number of veris I have when I've knocked them back...oddly enough they usually block me when I tell them no matter how much of a slut I may be I'm still not desperate enough to shag them!
I meet on here for my fun not for anyone else's approval...if someone doesn't like how often I meet, who I meet, or the way I meet then they obviously weren't for me so best to just block and move on to the next victim  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"not calling anyone out as you put it. Just highlighting how some men's attitude towards women is on here"
It's not really a male/female issue IMO. Plenty of women think men who meet a lot are 'players', which is essentially no different.
"He could see how many she had before contacting her"
You don't know that for sure. |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"not calling anyone out as you put it. Just highlighting how some men's attitude towards women is on here
It's not really a male/female issue IMO. Plenty of women think men who meet a lot are 'players', which is essentially no different.
He could see how many she had before contacting her
You don't know that for sure. "
Im afraid she does know that for sure as i messaged badnanna as soon as he said that to me last night as was so shocked. Badnanna i have known 5 plus years x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"not calling anyone out as you put it. Just highlighting how some men's attitude towards women is on here
It's not really a male/female issue IMO. Plenty of women think men who meet a lot are 'players', which is essentially no different.
He could see how many she had before contacting her
You don't know that for sure. "
I can't comment regarding women, I can only go by my own experiences or recounts of others. If I saw a man had lots of verifications and I was a woman who wasn't happy about that I wouldn't message to tell him he's a player |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"there is always the possibility he is a little insecure and doesn't want to know how he measures up(!!) to the other guys you have met!"
That is possible. In my experience some people can get intimidated by veris or confident women. But im openminded and friendly and always happy to chat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its about control...thats all.
fair enough if people dont like meeting people with tonnes of veris, that is fair enough and respectable
but if THEY msg U and say they think u have too many verifications..its a simple case of fuck off and dont tell me what to do, u wank/wankette/wankers  |
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"I got told last night i had too many veris. He told me i was a collector. Im select who i meet and half of my veris r people ive met from another site who i have known for years. This was from a man who had 37 veris and only 2 of them were meets. I know there have been threads about this before but i felt offended by his closed mind. Just wanna hear people opinions for and against "
never ceases to amaze us how so called open minded people can be so closed minded and critical of other people, and often they are complete hypocrites. Just dont give the guy a second thought, lets face it why would you waste your time and energy on someone like that .smiles are the most positive enargy anyone can possess ,so seek them out |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I got told last night i had too many veris. He told me i was a collector. Im select who i meet and half of my veris r people ive met from another site who i have known for years. This was from a man who had 37 veris and only 2 of them were meets. I know there have been threads about this before but i felt offended by his closed mind. Just wanna hear people opinions for and against
never ceases to amaze us how so called open minded people can be so closed minded and critical of other people, and often they are complete hypocrites. Just dont give the guy a second thought, lets face it why would you waste your time and energy on someone like that .smiles are the most positive enargy anyone can possess ,so seek them out "
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