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why is it so hard to agree on a cpl ??
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over a year ago
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No,just keep on looking and im sure you'll find a couple you both like,hopefully they'll both like the 2 of you as well,fourway attraction is'nt always easy to find  |
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"we are finding it hard to find a cpl we both agree on. Are just being to picky???  "
Is there such a thing as too picky? It's difficult to find four people that are all attracted to each other but it is possible |
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over a year ago
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We've long since agreed that the four way dynamic isn't at all easy so it takes time to find the right mix and all have the necessary attraction between 4 of you.
We've had it happen brilliantly just once.
If it's at a party/club and may be a one-off encounter it's less difficult but if you're hoping to develop an ongoing friendship then you need that connection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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While we do have standards, we decided not to play with people we are "too" attracted to. Does this make sense ??
For example a Kelly brook and Hugh jackman looky like couple lol.
Ok maybe were setting target a bit high there.But sure u all get the idea.
If there is too much aattraction it could get complicated.
However we are new and very inexperienced at this so what do we know. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Totally agree with this, however we have found couples that we like but no couple has really been as horny and as up for it as us!!!"
lol i dont know about that always horny and i cant hangout much longer x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"we are finding it hard to find a cpl we both agree on. Are just being to picky???
Is there such a thing as too picky? It's difficult to find four people that are all attracted to each other but it is possible "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We've long since agreed that the four way dynamic isn't at all easy so it takes time to find the right mix and all have the necessary attraction between 4 of you.
We've had it happen brilliantly just once.
If it's at a party/club and may be a one-off encounter it's less difficult but if you're hoping to develop an ongoing friendship then you need that connection. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Totally agree! Have just been having this conversation with my man, he thinks I am too fussy but in a different way. Toby chats with plenty of attractive couples but I usually say no if I think they are too sexy (as in hot bodies) as I worry they will be disappointed in my plus size body. I guess I am fussy and Toby loses out due to my lack of confidence  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we are finding it hard to find a cpl we both agree on. Are just being to picky??? "
Depends on why you can't agree .
Is it purely physical , based on pics ?
Or do you chat with couples ?
It's a tough one to answer , how can anyone say as we all play for different reasons .
For us , we do find there needs to be an initial physical attraction and from there , a warm and horny persona helps .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My partner has always urged me to do the supermarket test when I have discussed swinging with her.
She said "look at all the couples and see which of them we would both find attractive".
Do you know I could not find a single couple.
I think she was subtly pointing out the size of the task I was suggesting.
Proves how much more perceptive women are than us men I guess. |
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We have learnt over the years that if one of us doesn't feel that the "spark" is there initially then the fun....if it progresses that far....doesn't work.When having a 4sum we feel it's important that us as a couple and the other couple are all in the right frame of mind so to speak.
We have both "taken one for the team" in the distant past and decided that we have no need to do that...there are lots of interesting fun sexy couples out there.....it's just finding em!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we are finding it hard to find a cpl we both agree on. Are just being to picky??? "
YEs they are very picky, welcome to the single guys world here lol x. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"we are finding it hard to find a cpl we both agree on. Are just being to picky???
Depends on why you can't agree .
Is it purely physical , based on pics ?
Or do you chat with couples ?
It's a tough one to answer , how can anyone say as we all play for different reasons .
For us , we do find there needs to be an initial physical attraction and from there , a warm and horny persona helps .
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We have been trying both couples and singles. There are loads of couples but as I said one of won't agree. Then the singles there are some lovely ms out there but not so many single FEMS willing for a bit of group fun xxx |
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"We have learnt over the years that if one of us doesn't feel that the "spark" is there initially then the fun....if it progresses that far....doesn't work.When having a 4sum we feel it's important that us as a couple and the other couple are all in the right frame of mind so to speak.
We have both "taken one for the team" in the distant past and decided that we have no need to do that...there are lots of interesting fun sexy couples out there.....it's just finding em!!"
Yhea done that got the t shirt all. We love to have fun and to me I just want to see the face of d when he's enjoying himself. I'm very much the person that wants to see someone happy. But that doesn't mean I will just put up with anything xx |
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"We have learnt over the years that if one of us doesn't feel that the "spark" is there initially then the fun....if it progresses that far....doesn't work.When having a 4sum we feel it's important that us as a couple and the other couple are all in the right frame of mind so to speak.
We have both "taken one for the team" in the distant past and decided that we have no need to do that...there are lots of interesting fun sexy couples out there.....it's just finding em!!"
Absolutely 100% our way of thinking too  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"we are finding it hard to find a cpl we both agree on. Are just being to picky??? YEs they are very picky, welcome to the single guys world here lol x."
Its not that we don't want to. I've spoke to singles that say they have an FB. But they don't want to share. But as being a cpl I find that a bit cheeky. As we would be willing ???
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't think you're being picky, its difficult to get all 4 people fancying each other for the dynamic you all want.
Don't compromise or do it to suit the other couple or your other half.
If we join a couple, I have to fancy the lady and get on with the guy, mrs naughty has to fancy them both and we'd want the same in return before we all got down to it.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't think you're being picky, its difficult to get all 4 people fancying each other for the dynamic you all want.
Don't compromise or do it to suit the other couple or your other half.
If we join a couple, I have to fancy the lady and get on with the guy, mrs naughty has to fancy them both and we'd want the same in return before we all got down to it. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have found them but the only thing is that they live miles away which sucks x"
had that prob too. But hopeful that we will soon find a cpl as twisted as us??
might be there already x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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life is short...
really think about the ONE night u might just meet someone who doesnt 110% do it for u..
what is there to lose?
and remember u havent even MET yet.
get off ur arses and take a chance...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have found them but the only thing is that they live miles away which sucks x
had that prob too. But hopeful that we will soon find a cpl as twisted as us??
might be there already x"
We tend to meet at chams a few times a year as they live on the Isle of Wight only couple I have ever met as a solo lady and oh so worth it x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"we are finding it hard to find a cpl we both agree on. Are just being to picky??? YEs they are very picky, welcome to the single guys world here lol x."
we do have single m freinds, but we like 4s or more. We not having much luck finding fems to join our little group  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't think you're being picky, its difficult to get all 4 people fancying each other for the dynamic you all want.
Don't compromise or do it to suit the other couple or your other half.
If we join a couple, I have to fancy the lady and get on with the guy, mrs naughty has to fancy them both and we'd want the same in return before we all got down to it. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Totally agree! Have just been having this conversation with my man, he thinks I am too fussy but in a different way. Toby chats with plenty of attractive couples but I usually say no if I think they are too sexy (as in hot bodies) as I worry they will be disappointed in my plus size body. I guess I am fussy and Toby loses out due to my lack of confidence "
you sound like my wife lol |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"we are finding it hard to find a cpl we both agree on. Are just being to picky??? "
We don't consider it to be fussy to want to meet those that we are both attracted too.
Finding a 4 way attraction and then actually liking each others company is difficult. Bloody great when it happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's really hard and causes lots of problems I find . Us women are a lot more choosy , whereas if it's got a pulse , a guy will consider it lol !!!
And there's a distinct lack of male pics on a couples site don't you find?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we are finding it hard to find a cpl we both agree on. Are just being to picky???
We don't consider it to be fussy to want to meet those that we are both attracted too.
Finding a 4 way attraction and then actually liking each others company is difficult. Bloody great when it happens "
Its not just about looks though you all need to have the right chemistry x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sometimes , and I am not saying always , too much thinking spoils things .
By finding it difficult to agree on a couple , there is undoubtably a huge expectation .
To live out the expectation , there will be inevitable pressure on all parties .
Now don't get me wrong here , because I in no way condone taking one for the team , or playing for the sake of it . Nor do I think it is right to play with a couple you both don't fancy .
But consider for a moment this . While you are procrastinating over the perfect match , plenty of us are taking our chances , getting out there and having a wonderful time .
Sometimes it's a good idea to stop over thinking and get to chat and meet with like minded folk . You may be surprised how easy it is to enjoy the lifestyle and the reality of playing with fellow libertines , who may not in theory be your perfect match |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think as couples we can be too over analytical of other people. You can only judge by what is written in peoples profiles and pics, and the communication you have on here.
people can we totally different to what think when you meet them, and you may find you have a good raport when you were totally unsure before. This can make them much more attractive and sexy which can surprise you.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have learnt over the years that if one of us doesn't feel that the "spark" is there initially then the fun....if it progresses that far....doesn't work.When having a 4sum we feel it's important that us as a couple and the other couple are all in the right frame of mind so to speak.
We have both "taken one for the team" in the distant past and decided that we have no need to do that...there are lots of interesting fun sexy couples out there.....it's just finding em!!"
boo you sexy pair xxxx |
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"We have learnt over the years that if one of us doesn't feel that the "spark" is there initially then the fun....if it progresses that far....doesn't work.When having a 4sum we feel it's important that us as a couple and the other couple are all in the right frame of mind so to speak.
We have both "taken one for the team" in the distant past and decided that we have no need to do that...there are lots of interesting fun sexy couples out there.....it's just finding em!!
boo you sexy pair xxxx"
Boo to you two too.....sexy new photos by the way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many couples have a baywatch babe with an older guy more planet of the apes.
Comments like that will get you a string of meets with couples !  "
That comment made me chuckle |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have this problem and sometimes find it easier to find a single M or F. If its a guy then its only mrs kink and the guy who need to fancy each other and if its a female then its all 3. With a couple there are 4 people who need to agree. |
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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago
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"we are finding it hard to find a cpl we both agree on. Are just being to picky??? "
Not at all, we've been having the same issue recently, quality rather than quantity is best so we really don't mind searching. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have learnt over the years that if one of us doesn't feel that the "spark" is there initially then the fun....if it progresses that far....doesn't work.When having a 4sum we feel it's important that us as a couple and the other couple are all in the right frame of mind so to speak.
We have both "taken one for the team" in the distant past and decided that we have no need to do that...there are lots of interesting fun sexy couples out there.....it's just finding em!!
boo you sexy pair xxxx
Boo to you two too.....sexy new photos by the way "
thanks - took so long to take |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Same here but we will not be rushed anyway and still looking for that first play have met a few for drinks etc but not gone further seems hard to find a couple where the guy is not the one pushing to meet always seems that way would hate to meet and the females heart is just not in it but hey this is only part time with us not a thing were looking to do often just maybe few times a year for excitement and pleasure so no rush at all maybe friends with benefits |
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"we are finding it hard to find a cpl we both agree on. Are just being to picky??? "
It seems to me the idea of playing for you is exiting but the reality is too scary so picky gives you a subconscious get out.
If you don't want to exchange partners try soft swap, you don't have to be with two stunningly beautiful and sexy people then as you don't need to touch them.  |
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"Is it the guy or the lady out of the couples that is more picky "
Picky probably not the word we would use....although we do like to push our boundaries sometimes we both have to feel some spark of attraction with the others we share fun with.....no point in playing if we both are not happy and think this has also something to do with respect for your partners wishes without feeling that he or she is being "picky". |
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"We have learnt over the years that if one of us doesn't feel that the "spark" is there initially then the fun....if it progresses that far....doesn't work.When having a 4sum we feel it's important that us as a couple and the other couple are all in the right frame of mind so to speak.
We have both "taken one for the team" in the distant past and decided that we have no need to do that...there are lots of interesting fun sexy couples out there.....it's just finding em!!
boo you sexy pair xxxx
Boo to you two too.....sexy new photos by the way
thanks - took so long to take "
Mmmmmm......we bet they did |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many couples have a baywatch babe with an older guy more planet of the apes.
Comments like that will get you a string of meets with couples !
That comment made me chuckle "
Happier not to get meets with cornelius from planet of the apes skulking in the corner.. Alas meets and options never a problem |
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"It's really hard and causes lots of problems I find . Us women are a lot more choosy , whereas if it's got a pulse , a guy will consider it lol !!!
And there's a distinct lack of male pics on a couples site don't you find?
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lots of women pics but the men do the talking. I love watch d as hes chatting to fems and getting excited.
But there isnt many about |
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First Prize: A couple within 30-40 miles, not tied to children, can accom and travel, Both bi, her BBW, both shaved, him into wearing lingerie, both into oral, kissing, anal,rimming anything else a bonus.
Howling at the moon and more chance of winning the lottery and getting struck by lightening but, you never know . |
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"We have learnt over the years that if one of us doesn't feel that the "spark" is there initially then the fun....if it progresses that far....doesn't work.When having a 4sum we feel it's important that us as a couple and the other couple are all in the right frame of mind so to speak.
We have both "taken one for the team" in the distant past and decided that we have no need to do that...there are lots of interesting fun sexy couples out there.....it's just finding em!!
boo you sexy pair xxxx
Boo to you two too.....sexy new photos by the way
thanks - took so long to take
Mmmmmm......we bet they did "
we will (if we think on) take some when we next meet up - xxxx |
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"First Prize: A couple within 30-40 miles, not tied to children, can accom and travel, Both bi, her BBW, both shaved, him into wearing lingerie, both into oral, kissing, anal,rimming anything else a bonus.
Howling at the moon and more chance of winning the lottery and getting struck by lightening but, you never know ."
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