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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Let's say someone on the site looks like a blind cobblers thumb!!
Man OR woman...
OK profile...
but they have AMAZING verifications...
People saying it was a fantastic night of pleasure...
would you be interested.....
If so why??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I need to have some level of attraction with my meet so a social meet first is my preference.
But I have had meets with guys off here I would not normally look twice at in the vanilla world because I have liked their bodies and got to know them before seeing their faces, some of them have turned out better than the 'hot' ones lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree ..there has to be some sort of attraction be it physically or mentally ..eg chemistry .. Some prefer physical attraction, some prefer mental attraction ...and some prefer both ..to whatever degree that maybe  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let's say someone on the site looks like a blind cobblers thumb!!
Man OR woman...
OK profile...
but they have AMAZING verifications...
People saying it was a fantastic night of pleasure...
would you be interested.....
If so why???"
because life isnt always about what the eye sees.
good looks generally never last the tests of time so a great personality will always get our attention.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"has to be some attraction,your not gonna have sex with someone you dont find attractive"
BUT...what if that sex could be the most amazing physical experience...ever!!! |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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had one bloke on a different site who did not appeal to me in the least but decided after chatting for 2 months to meet he turned out to be an arsehole so I should have pressed the block button |
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"has to be some attraction,your not gonna have sex with someone you dont find attractive
BUT...what if that sex could be the most amazing physical experience...ever!!!"
But it wouldn't be if you didn't fancy them surely? Perhaps if you were blindfolded and had never seen them? Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There has to be attraction but chemistry as well. Sometimes the most gorgeous person can be as dull as dish water or somebody who doesnt fit the description of attractive, but they just have something that makes them hot. I want the whole package. If that makes me shallow so be it. No sympathy shags here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it would matter how good the verifications were cos some are exaggerated anyway but I (mrs) think sex is so much better when there's an attraction |
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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago
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"There has to be attraction but chemistry as well. Sometimes the most gorgeous person can be as dull as dish water or somebody who doesnt fit the description of attractive, but they just have something that makes them hot. I want the whole package. If that makes me shallow so be it. No sympathy shags here. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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attraction comes in many different forms, whether it's looks or personality I need it, simple as that.
as for veri's I take them with a pinch of salt, prefer to make my own mind up about someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people are just after a shag. Some people need more - and that is where the chemistry comes in.
Unfortunately, chemistry is weird and unique to everyone (otherwise some of us would never meet our special ones.
Whether that initial attraction comes from looks, likes, capabilities, erotic talent; some people will look at the person's pics; their interests; or their "re_iews".
You will be attracted to what you are attracted to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let's say someone on the site looks like a blind cobblers thumb!!
Man OR woman...
OK profile...
but they have AMAZING verifications...
People saying it was a fantastic night of pleasure...
would you be interested.....
If so why???"
If I wasn't attracted to them, I wouldn't have read any further, looks I'm afraid for me, yes I'm shallow! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's 50% physical and 50% mental attraction for me. I can't, or rather won't, settle for one without the other.
Not kissing is a deal breaker for me......why would I want to kiss someone that I didn't find attractive?
I'd rather go without whilst I searched for the partner who ticked all my boxes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has to be some attraction,your not gonna have sex with someone you dont find attractive
BUT...what if that sex could be the most amazing physical experience...ever!!!"
Seriously doubt it would be. Its been said by many time and time again, that the mind is the biggest sexual organ, if you arent attracted to them surely your mind wouldnt be able to let you enjoy the experience. I know mine wouldnt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have to be attracted
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I am not shallow and it's prob more the whole package so I enjoy to meet socially and then you find out what they are like lol "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's 50% physical and 50% mental attraction for me. I can't, or rather won't, settle for one without the other.
Not kissing is a deal breaker for me......why would I want to kiss someone that I didn't find attractive?
I'd rather go without whilst I searched for the partner who ticked all my boxes."
I have been massively, uncontrollably turned on by a lady who I was not attracted to and would not kiss... But the thought of what she would or could do to me was intense.
It is rare, but it happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There has to be attraction but chemistry as well. Sometimes the most gorgeous person can be as dull as dish water or somebody who doesnt fit the description of attractive, but they just have something that makes them hot. I want the whole package. If that makes me shallow so be it. No sympathy shags here. "
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Let's say someone on the site looks like a blind cobblers thumb!!
Man OR woman...
OK profile...
but they have AMAZING verifications...
People saying it was a fantastic night of pleasure...
would you be interested.....
If so why???"
No. I never believe everything I read. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's 50% physical and 50% mental attraction for me. I can't, or rather won't, settle for one without the other.
Not kissing is a deal breaker for me......why would I want to kiss someone that I didn't find attractive?
I'd rather go without whilst I searched for the partner who ticked all my boxes.
I have been massively, uncontrollably turned on by a lady who I was not attracted to and would not kiss... But the thought of what she would or could do to me was intense.
It is rare, but it happens."
Lucky you. Perhaps I've just not found the person who has that effect on me yet. Or, perhaps my mind is subconsciously closed to such a person because, from the outset, I don't find them physically attractive. Who knows |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I would never sleep with anyone I didn't find attractive, no matter what other people thought of them in bed, I know I'd hate it if I didn't fancy them x for me being attracted to someone is the whole point of having sex in the first place maybe a lot of folk will disagree, but for it's like food you have to like the look of it, know what I mean?  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"Let's say someone on the site looks like a blind cobblers thumb!!
Man OR woman...
OK profile...
but they have AMAZING verifications...
People saying it was a fantastic night of pleasure...
would you be interested.....
If so why???"
No. Physical attraction is essential to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I would never sleep with anyone I didn't find attractive, no matter what other people thought of them in bed, I know I'd hate it if I didn't fancy them x for me being attracted to someone is the whole point of having sex in the first place maybe a lot of folk will disagree, but for it's like food you have to like the look of it, know what I mean? "
I agree. I could never get intimate with someone I didn't fancy. |
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"Let's say someone on the site looks like a blind cobblers thumb!!
Man OR woman...
OK profile...
but they have AMAZING verifications...
People saying it was a fantastic night of pleasure...
would you be interested.....
If so why???"
I would investigate someone I was undecided/ambiguous about further because of good veris, but if I actually find them unattractive - nope.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There has to be something about them i find attractivd. Or i'd be there with a limp cock. And she has to give me one of those kisses or nothing's happening lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"had one bloke on a different site who did not appeal to me in the least but decided after chatting for 2 months to meet he turned out to be an arsehole so I should have pressed the block button"
Always trust your instincts... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont need to be atracted to the woman and the more veris the better.. means she is an easy shag lol."
although it has a lol at the end, you get less and less appealing with every post lol and yet you seem like a nice enough bloke |
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"Let's say someone on the site looks like a blind cobblers thumb!!
Man OR woman...
OK profile...
but they have AMAZING verifications...
People saying it was a fantastic night of pleasure...
would you be interested.....
If so why???
because life isnt always about what the eye sees.
good looks generally never last the tests of time so a great personality will always get our attention.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm fairly shallow, I'm a creature attracted to aesthetics by nature. Of course I'd want someone I can be on the level with too but I don't feel the need to compromise on either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let's say someone on the site looks like a blind cobblers thumb!!
Man OR woman...
OK profile...
but they have AMAZING verifications...
People saying it was a fantastic night of pleasure...
would you be interested.....
If so why???"
there needs to be sum sort of chemistry for "sparks to fly" but u could be sitting with an absolutely beautiful lookin person and be bored off ur nut i'll take a fun time over vanity ANY DAY ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well speaking as someone who is not blessed in the looks department, cleanliness and hygiene are more important for me. I don't kind what people look like as long as they are clean and tidy I would not turn them down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont need to be atracted to the woman and the more veris the better.. means she is an easy shag lol.
although it has a lol at the end, you get less and less appealing with every post lol and yet you seem like a nice enough bloke"
I thought that as well too, think before you type especially as a single male so you are noticed in a positive way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For what its worth I have to be attracted...as kissing and eye contact...is more important to me than the sex "
Kissing and eye contact can be exceptionally erotic, but if you're with someone where you both enjoy these things together, then how can you not have sex? |
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and this is one of the reasons why we havent done straight meets yet and generaly why we go to clubs ,,,, yes Mindy is lovely and any sensible bloke wants to show her a good time ,
myself , well im an aquired taste
and for that reason when at clubs couples can see us for who we are as a couple and they can take us or leave us  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont need to be atracted to the woman and the more veris the better.. means she is an easy shag lol.
although it has a lol at the end, you get less and less appealing with every post lol and yet you seem like a nice enough bloke
I thought that as well too, think before you type especially as a single male so you are noticed in a positive way."
Its ok, only 1 percent of fab members uses the forum lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont need to be atracted to the woman and the more veris the better.. means she is an easy shag lol.
although it has a lol at the end, you get less and less appealing with every post lol and yet you seem like a nice enough bloke"
Thanks, the forum is for fun and banter as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"and this is one of the reasons why we havent done straight meets yet and generaly why we go to clubs ,,,, yes Mindy is lovely and any sensible bloke wants to show her a good time ,
myself , well im an aquired taste
and for that reason when at clubs couples can see us for who we are as a couple and they can take us or leave us "
dont put yoruself down, fella.
we have both said you are easier on the eye than your give yourself credit for, and definitely easy to talk with |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont need to be atracted to the woman and the more veris the better.. means she is an easy shag lol.
although it has a lol at the end, you get less and less appealing with every post lol and yet you seem like a nice enough bloke
I thought that as well too, think before you type especially as a single male so you are noticed in a positive way.Its ok, only 1 percent of fab members uses the forum lol."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont need to be atracted to the woman and the more veris the better.. means she is an easy shag lol.
although it has a lol at the end, you get less and less appealing with every post lol and yet you seem like a nice enough blokeThanks, the forum is for fun and banter as well."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"and this is one of the reasons why we havent done straight meets yet and generaly why we go to clubs ,,,, yes Mindy is lovely and any sensible bloke wants to show her a good time ,
myself , well im an aquired taste
and for that reason when at clubs couples can see us for who we are as a couple and they can take us or leave us I am not putting myelf down but yes thanks for the compliment there, will do few more selfies later x.
dont put yoruself down, fella.
we have both said you are easier on the eye than your give yourself credit for, and definitely easy to talk with"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"and this is one of the reasons why we havent done straight meets yet and generaly why we go to clubs ,,,, yes Mindy is lovely and any sensible bloke wants to show her a good time ,
myself , well im an aquired taste
and for that reason when at clubs couples can see us for who we are as a couple and they can take us or leave us
dont put yoruself down, fella.
we have both said you are easier on the eye than your give yourself credit for, and definitely easy to talk with"
I am not putting myelf down but yes thanks for the compliment there, will do few more selfies later x. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"and this is one of the reasons why we havent done straight meets yet and generaly why we go to clubs ,,,, yes Mindy is lovely and any sensible bloke wants to show her a good time ,
myself , well im an aquired taste
and for that reason when at clubs couples can see us for who we are as a couple and they can take us or leave us
dont put yoruself down, fella.
we have both said you are easier on the eye than your give yourself credit for, and definitely easy to talk withI am not putting myelf down but yes thanks for the compliment there, will do few more selfies later x."
sorry to bruise your ego, fella, but that post was for _indys lover, not you lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"and this is one of the reasons why we havent done straight meets yet and generaly why we go to clubs ,,,, yes Mindy is lovely and any sensible bloke wants to show her a good time ,
myself , well im an aquired taste
and for that reason when at clubs couples can see us for who we are as a couple and they can take us or leave us
dont put yoruself down, fella.
we have both said you are easier on the eye than your give yourself credit for, and definitely easy to talk withI am not putting myelf down but yes thanks for the compliment there, will do few more selfies later x.
sorry to bruise your ego, fella, but that post was for _indys lover, not you lol"
lol its ok my ego is alwais on, next time type the username lool. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"and this is one of the reasons why we havent done straight meets yet and generaly why we go to clubs ,,,, yes Mindy is lovely and any sensible bloke wants to show her a good time ,
myself , well im an aquired taste
and for that reason when at clubs couples can see us for who we are as a couple and they can take us or leave us
dont put yoruself down, fella.
we have both said you are easier on the eye than your give yourself credit for, and definitely easy to talk withI am not putting myelf down but yes thanks for the compliment there, will do few more selfies later x.
sorry to bruise your ego, fella, but that post was for _indys lover, not you lollol its ok my ego is alwais on, next time type the username lool."
OR, you could try reading who's post is quoted and see that its not yours.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"and this is one of the reasons why we havent done straight meets yet and generaly why we go to clubs ,,,, yes Mindy is lovely and any sensible bloke wants to show her a good time ,
myself , well im an aquired taste
and for that reason when at clubs couples can see us for who we are as a couple and they can take us or leave us
dont put yoruself down, fella.
we have both said you are easier on the eye than your give yourself credit for, and definitely easy to talk withI am not putting myelf down but yes thanks for the compliment there, will do few more selfies later x.
sorry to bruise your ego, fella, but that post was for _indys lover, not you lollol its ok my ego is alwais on, next time type the username lool.
OR, you could try reading who's post is quoted and see that its not yours. "
Yes and or that lol its been fun anyway lol x. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Right. Probably digging myself a grave here but fuck it I'm a free spirit. Ive fucked men who most women on here wouldn't look twice at. I've fucked men who most women on here would not say no to (picks up my shovel). Verifications on here mean Jack to me, I've read some and disagreed, having the knowledge of the person myself of course. I have fucked men that are way above my punching weight and men that are way below. I forgot what my point of this post is so I'll come back when Ive read the thread through again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right. Probably digging myself a grave here but fuck it I'm a free spirit. Ive fucked men who most women on here wouldn't look twice at. I've fucked men who most women on here would not say no to (picks up my shovel). Verifications on here mean Jack to me, I've read some and disagreed, having the knowledge of the person myself of course. I have fucked men that are way above my punching weight and men that are way below. I forgot what my point of this post is so I'll come back when Ive read the thread through again "
are you trying to say, its not the packaging you like to play with, but the toy thats wrapped up inside? lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right. Probably digging myself a grave here but fuck it I'm a free spirit. Ive fucked men who most women on here wouldn't look twice at. I've fucked men who most women on here would not say no to (picks up my shovel). Verifications on here mean Jack to me, I've read some and disagreed, having the knowledge of the person myself of course. I have fucked men that are way above my punching weight and men that are way below. I forgot what my point of this post is so I'll come back when Ive read the thread through again
are you trying to say, its not the packaging you like to play with, but the toy thats wrapped up inside? lol"
yes!! I had a melt down as I was typing  I can be attracted to all kinds physically from 5ft5, glasses wearing Asian men to 6ft8 muscles all over British men. Fat bodies feel as good as muscles if I'm attracted. The one thing that will put me off is a horrible kiss. I'd rather not kiss. I don't like Jack the Lads or geezers either. Other than that I'm not that fussy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I forgot what my point of this post is so I'll come back when Ive read the thread through again
That you like to fuck? "
I do but wasn't the point I was trying to make. Actually I love to fuck. Bit of a slut me. Don't count my verifications,they won't back me up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We were always attracted by looks, so no matter what their verifications said physical attraction would come first.
That said, no matter how attractive we found them, if their personality didn't match their looks it was a non starter. 
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