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Whats your thoughts on showing verification's makes you a slag!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just in the middle of a discussion with a member on here as she posted that people in messages to her are saying "check out my verification's" and she says that is just a short way of saying look how much notches on a bedpost I've got, my thoughts are people put that just to say look I'm genuine, experienced and I turn up unlike someone without any verification's!!
And has also said posting all the verifications you have makes you a slag!! even though not having been verified after over six months on here herself.
Now this is ridiculous an opinion to have right? or am I wrong in thinking this?
My stance is you post a few verifications just to show your who and what you say you are & yes we all know we wouldn't post crap ones etc etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If my verifications make me a slut then, yay I'm a slut... But I always laugh as it's by no means any representation of how many people I've met x "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like reading other people's verifications. Tells me a bit more about the person from another's perspective. Also I'm just nosey! Lol
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Im just the same lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been told by couple of women im a slag for having verifs, and i have a name on fab, well fuck em i say. and if i have a name that means more men know of me. its very petty, as i thought we were here to have fun.
I also find reading my verifs very sexy and horny its part of the kink for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone without verifications said the very same to me today, and he is on the site a lot longer than me and has none. We are all adults and supposedly here for the same reason, right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone that is on a swingers site and judges others for the amount of verifications they have should probably reconsider if this is really the right site for them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I post all my veris. If anyone says it makes me look like a slag then it simply shows that they haven't left the playground and I'm only here to meet adults. "
Good point well made |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like reading veris as one day i hope ill find a shit one lol...seriously so what if youve got loads, fair play fella, and in all fairness not all veris are proof of fucks...socials etc being the classic example... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol they don't tell me much as its incredibly biased. People picking out the best ones to put forward the best impression. If anything, its just a good little insight into people's psychology |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone that is on a swingers site and judges others for the amount of verifications they have should probably reconsider if this is really the right site for them"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just in the middle of a discussion with a member on here as she posted that people in messages to her are saying "check out my verification's" and she says that is just a short way of saying look how much notches on a bedpost I've got, my thoughts are people put that just to say look I'm genuine, experienced and I turn up unlike someone without any verification's!!
And has also said posting all the verifications you have makes you a slag!! even though not having been verified after over six months on here herself.
Now this is ridiculous an opinion to have right? or am I wrong in thinking this?
My stance is you post a few verifications just to show your who and what you say you are & yes we all know we wouldn't post crap ones etc etc. "
I only post "social" veris and the others are hidden as some....women can get a little "he,s mine"
They can be shown if needed but dont have loads.
If i met a guy and he indicated i was a "slag" in the veri.........he would soon be blocked and end of.
Respect, regardless of what happens in the bedroom is a must.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I also love reading them...and also checking out who people have met sometimes get carried away n forget who I was lookin at in the first place lol..  "
Glad it's not just me that does that x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lol they don't tell me much as its incredibly biased. People picking out the best ones to put forward the best impression. If anything, its just a good little insight into people's psychology "
It can be _iewed as biased and not telling much i agree, but doesn't that apply to who wrote it not those showing the verifications?
Just as having none after a while on the site can be _iewed as, well are you really wanting to swing or just wank yourself looking at others pics and a time waster?
What looks worse alot of verifications or none on a swinging site where the aim is to meet other likeminded individuals? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I also love reading them...and also checking out who people have met sometimes get carried away n forget who I was lookin at in the first place lol..
Glad it's not just me that does that x "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The 'you a slut anyway' comment is usually a reply after politely saying no to someone..
I don't display all mine.... Must make me a sneaky slut  "
Ohhhh sneaky slut is such a good phrase xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I post all my veris. If anyone says it makes me look like a slag then it simply shows that they haven't left the playground and I'm only here to meet adults. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had people refuse to meet me because of a person or persons listed on my verifications
All I had been talking to and getting on well with
One then started playing mind games regarding a person listed on my veris.
The other organised a meet with me for a drink and then pulled out and blocked me citing problems with someone on my veris.
Someone else informed me that one woman met and verified me to wind up someone else who was already on my list of veris.
I thought "Jesus, I've crash landed in an episode of Jeremy Kyle!"
It doesn't bother me in the slightest but it has taught me that veris can be a hindrance as well as a help |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"I've had people refuse to meet me because of a person or persons listed on my verifications
All I had been talking to and getting on well with
One then started playing mind games regarding a person listed on my veris.
The other organised a meet with me for a drink and then pulled out and blocked me citing problems with someone on my veris.
Someone else informed me that one woman met and verified me to wind up someone else who was already on my list of veris.
I thought "Jesus, I've crash landed in an episode of Jeremy Kyle!"
It doesn't bother me in the slightest but it has taught me that veris can be a hindrance as well as a help"
Sounds like they were just looking for an excuse not to meet. Rather pathetic. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've had people refuse to meet me because of a person or persons listed on my verifications
All I had been talking to and getting on well with
One then started playing mind games regarding a person listed on my veris.
The other organised a meet with me for a drink and then pulled out and blocked me citing problems with someone on my veris.
Someone else informed me that one woman met and verified me to wind up someone else who was already on my list of veris.
I thought "Jesus, I've crash landed in an episode of Jeremy Kyle!"
It doesn't bother me in the slightest but it has taught me that veris can be a hindrance as well as a help"
Jesus sounds you have had some fun  |
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That person is obviously in the wrong place. So if she had 3000 sexual partners as long as she didn't post all her verifications then she isn't a slut? Lol silly really as I'd rather meet people being able to see all their verifications and not a select few, that way you know they are honest and real and have nothing to hide, it bothers me when people don't show them it makes me uneasy and I feel they have something to hide. But this girl would obviously prefer fiction than fact. All I can say it's her own choice to meet who she wants for whatever reason she wants. However to call others out as sluts is just plain wrong she has no right to judge anyone else, there are plenty of closed minded people out there that would call her a slut for just being on here having any casual sex at all. But do we judge her! No it wouldn't be our place. Silly little girls |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A man once messaged me saying he liked that I didn't have many verifications as he's not looking for women that have been around. I didn't bother telling him most of my sex life is conducted off this site and he would be number 50 I made that number up, I had no idea how many men I'd had sex with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A man once messaged me saying he liked that I didn't have many verifications as he's not looking for women that have been around. I didn't bother telling him most of my sex life is conducted off this site and he would be number 50 I made that number up, I had no idea how many men I'd had sex with "
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"Just in the middle of a discussion with a member on here as she posted that people in messages to her are saying "check out my verification's" and she says that is just a short way of saying look how much notches on a bedpost I've got, my thoughts are people put that just to say look I'm genuine, experienced and I turn up unlike someone without any verification's!!
And has also said posting all the verifications you have makes you a slag!! even though not having been verified after over six months on here herself.
Now this is ridiculous an opinion to have right? or am I wrong in thinking this?
My stance is you post a few verifications just to show your who and what you say you are & yes we all know we wouldn't post crap ones etc etc. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I think that people who insult others shouldn't be on here in the first place. Live and let live I say. Mind you, I would have a bit of reservation if I saw a profile with simply hundreds of verifications. I wouldn't like to fuck the entire site lol. I know my number, 15 sexual partners in total  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone without verifications said the very same to me today, and he is on the site a lot longer than me and has none. We are all adults and supposedly here for the same reason, right? "
yes but seeing as single gents outnumber single ladies by something like 50 to 1, its much more difficult for guys to get meets purely because of numbers |
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Tell them facebooks second on the left. They obviously took a wrong turn and don't realise what this is..lol!
Our verifications show the people we have met, not necessarily had sex with. Well...maybe a few... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I post all my veris. If anyone says it makes me look like a slag then it simply shows that they haven't left the playground and I'm only here to meet adults. "
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
As I said before, I show all my veris but I've lost a few due to people leaving the site so show mt summary as well.
Is that a true reflection of how many partners I've had?
Is it buggery. It's not even close. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
If someone wants to judge us on how many verifications we have or who we have met, let them. They are not the sort of person we would be interested in anyway.
You can't please everyone! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never had a problem with showing mine on my profile until earlier this week when I was singled out by someone on a forum post on which we both had opposing _iews...he then became personal slating me for having as many as I did despite this not being directly relating to the thread topic...now im not someone who gets upset by things like that as a rule, but it really smacked of schoolyard behaviour and affected me so much that I've hidden them as it actually made me think I was a shit person 
Thankfully the painters are leaving and normal service will be resuming shortly...stupid horrid man
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone that is on a swingers site and judges others for the amount of verifications they have should probably reconsider if this is really the right site for them"
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'An individual who cares not for relationships beyond the realm of the sexual, these people sleep with many partners not caring about anything save for the moment of climax.'
'A derogatory term for a promiscuous woman'
The above are explanations of the word 'slag' quoted from the Urban and Oxford dictionaries respectively. So, by definition, any female who is active on this site with more than one partner is a slag.... According to reliable sources |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol they don't tell me much as its incredibly biased. People picking out the best ones to put forward the best impression. If anything, its just a good little insight into people's psychology
It can be _iewed as biased and not telling much i agree, but doesn't that apply to who wrote it not those showing the verifications?
Just as having none after a while on the site can be _iewed as, well are you really wanting to swing or just wank yourself looking at others pics and a time waster?
What looks worse alot of verifications or none on a swinging site where the aim is to meet other likeminded individuals? "
At the end of the day, verifications or none, if someone wants sex, a channel of communication will be opened and plans made. People judging others as sluts on a site such as this is ironically funny lol.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'An individual who cares not for relationships beyond the realm of the sexual, these people sleep with many partners not caring about anything save for the moment of climax.'
'A derogatory term for a promiscuous woman'
The above are explanations of the word 'slag' quoted from the Urban and Oxford dictionaries respectively. So, by definition, any female who is active on this site with more than one partner is a slag.... According to reliable sources "
Hm. Of which indeed only the second one rings true, as it refers only to multiple lovers. The first one assumes every meet is purely for sexual gratification only. So those many threads about wanting/needing more than just that are a figment of my imagination? |
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"'An individual who cares not for relationships beyond the realm of the sexual, these people sleep with many partners not caring about anything save for the moment of climax.'
'A derogatory term for a promiscuous woman'
The above are explanations of the word 'slag' quoted from the Urban and Oxford dictionaries respectively. So, by definition, any female who is active on this site with more than one partner is a slag.... According to reliable sources
Hm. Of which indeed only the second one rings true, as it refers only to multiple lovers. The first one assumes every meet is purely for sexual gratification only. So those many threads about wanting/needing more than just that are a figment of my imagination? "
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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The terms slag,and slut,
describing a promiscuous female,
show how far we are,from sexual equality.
Considering the term for a promiscuous male,is stud.
Unfortunately the perception of both,
are almost equally considered as such,
by both male,and female.
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"I never had a problem with showing mine on my profile until earlier this week when I was singled out by someone on a forum post on which we both had opposing _iews...he then became personal slating me for having as many as I did despite this not being directly relating to the thread topic...now im not someone who gets upset by things like that as a rule, but it really smacked of schoolyard behaviour and affected me so much that I've hidden them as it actually made me think I was a shit person
Thankfully the painters are leaving and normal service will be resuming shortly...stupid horrid man
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I wouldn't let anyone change my behaviour on here or anywhere else. I'd tell them to fuck right off. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"'An individual who cares not for relationships beyond the realm of the sexual, these people sleep with many partners not caring about anything save for the moment of climax.'"
Yep, that sounds about right. Although an after shag cuddle is acceptable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm looking forward to reaching slut status
You are welcome to join calis school of corruption lol xx "
Don't think you could corrupt me lol already corrupted pmsl |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The 'you a slut anyway' comment is usually a reply after politely saying no to someone..
I don't display all mine.... Must make me a sneaky slut "
i've seen status updates on here calling the women 'time wasting sluts'. way to get a meet boys! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol they don't tell me much as its incredibly biased. People picking out the best ones to put forward the best impression. If anything, its just a good little insight into people's psychology
It can be _iewed as biased and not telling much i agree, but doesn't that apply to who wrote it not those showing the verifications?
Just as having none after a while on the site can be _iewed as, well are you really wanting to swing or just wank yourself looking at others pics and a time waster?
What looks worse alot of verifications or none on a swinging site where the aim is to meet other likeminded individuals?
At the end of the day, verifications or none, if someone wants sex, a channel of communication will be opened and plans made. People judging others as sluts on a site such as this is ironically funny lol. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't shown all mine as I have three from a crazy weirdo who never even met me!!
I was once told I was obviously a pro to have that many veris, a pro what I'm not quite sure |
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A guy I met for a coffee and then verified got a vile message full of nastiness basically telling him no-one would want to meet him cos he had a veri from such a notorious woman!
Some people have a very odd idea about swinging.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A guy I met for a coffee and then verified got a vile message full of nastiness basically telling him no-one would want to meet him cos he had a veri from such a notorious woman!
Some people have a very odd idea about swinging. "
some very jealous people on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Us men would be all to happy to display multiple verifications and wouldnt care of the opinion of a female or couples opinion but when a woman does the sane she is on occasion judged and slated as a slut and a salg, which is totally out of line!!
If a man fucks 50 women and a woman fucks 50 men that whats the big deal? Surely shes entitled to the same amount of fun as us males!
Ladies, as if you need to be told, go forth and party any critics, well tell them to get a porno, box of tissues and off you go! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I show the verifications that dont go into specific gory details...have over 150 but as someone previously said fab doesnt say how long you have been on site for...also I organise socials so people verify meeting me from there...I like to read others so I can get an idea of what to expect when I meet someone...if they say quiet and shy then I probably just arrange a meet for drinks as I like my bed partners to get a bit wild lol... |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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A lot of people seem to be feeling the need to justify the number of verifications they have - been on the site a long time, lots of socials.
No one has to justify anything. You're just playing into the hands of jealous critics. Display or don't display but do it for your own reasons not anyone else's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The terms slag,and slut,
describing a promiscuous female,
show how far we are,from sexual equality.
Considering the term for a promiscuous male,is stud.
Unfortunately the perception of both,
are almost equally considered as such,
by both male,and female.
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I use the words slut and slag for both genders... stud pffffffffffffftttt  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me a slut isn't on account of how many people one has played slip and slide with. I always feel if your single then who cares how many people you sleep with? Guys do it so why not you?
A slut to me, is someone who hurts people. Someone who breaks up relationships, marriages and friendships through their sexual proclivities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If my verifications make me a slut then, yay I'm a slut... But I always laugh as it's by no means any representation of how many people I've met x "
you and me both hun... If you don't show how many people you have been with isn't that being dishonest too?? People cannot make an informed choice weather or not to meet you if they do not have all the facts... Not everyone is as honest on their profile as us!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only meet and play with a few and happy for repeat meets with them. I have verifications from them and don't feel the need to verifiy each and everytime we meet. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A guy I met for a coffee and then verified got a vile message full of nastiness basically telling him no-one would want to meet him cos he had a veri from such a notorious woman!
Some people have a very odd idea about swinging. "
I've had those. People refusing to speak to me and blocking me because of someone on my veris
All rather pathetic and childish
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always have some veris on to give people an idea of who they are meeting and also to prove I am genuine, but don't put too many up as it puts some people off. W xx |
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Clearly she is not genuine. In my opinion we are all a bunch of perverted sluts. I honestly couldn't care less what some randon girl thinks about showing verifications. Maybe she is just jealous not to have her own slag badge of honour
Ops I mean green tick |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To me a slut isn't on account of how many people one has played slip and slide with. I always feel if your single then who cares how many people you sleep with? Guys do it so why not you?
A slut to me, is someone who hurts people. Someone who breaks up relationships, marriages and friendships through their sexual proclivities."
I find this nonsensical. IMO the person doing the cheating is at fault no matter their gender. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My slut status has risen
After p o g night in fri
I am too slutty
Lol. Really!!
And I thought you were saving yourself for me. "
I am I am lol
I pined all night for you
You verified me so you have a hand in my sluttiness lol |
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By *andyMooCouple
over a year ago
bedford |
"My slut status has risen
After p o g night in fri
I am too slutty
Lol. Really!!
And I thought you were saving yourself for me.
I am I am lol
I pined all night for you
You verified me so you have a hand in my sluttiness lol "
Guilty as charged. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My slut status has risen
After p o g night in fri
I am too slutty
Lol. Really!!
And I thought you were saving yourself for me.
I am I am lol
I pined all night for you
You verified me so you have a hand in my sluttiness lol
Guilty as charged. "
To the stocks you must go ! |
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