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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So which one are you?

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By *uteguy06Man over a year ago

Swindon

Switch like both lol

What about you??

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Indomitable!

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By *rs and Mr PandoraCouple over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH

Pandora - Domme

Prometheus - owned,collared, and very much loved, sub

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont profess to be anything, but tend to be masterfull rather than dominant, and can be sub for a bit of roll play

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Switch like both lol

What about you??"

Most of the time I Hubby mainly Dom whilst Mrs S plays Sub but we do switch every now and then.

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By *atasha_DavidCouple over a year ago

Slough

" tend to be masterfull rather than dominant"

What's the difference?

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By *pecifically1Woman over a year ago

Hull

"So which one are you?"

Absolutely categorically sub...owned and collared....

This bitch don't switch...

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By *ast_jjMan over a year ago

Dublin and London

I am 100% dom!

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

is there a category "other worldy"?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sub on meets as the wife likes to watch me be dommed by her and who ever we are with

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By *ast_jjMan over a year ago

Dublin and London

"I'm sub on meets as the wife likes to watch me be dommed by her and who ever we are with

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Now ye sound like a great meet. Endless possibilities!! J x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Submissive and love it

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I'm (mr) most definitely a Dom, the thought of being submissive is a major turn off.

The thought of sensual controlling a woman's sexuality - Damn, I wish I hadn't said that...... I had work to do......

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By *ayandess1Couple over a year ago

bridgwater

Me - Dom. Shar is a natural submissive.

We have a 24/7 DD/BG dynamic.

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By *illxxMan over a year ago

motherwell

Like both but if I had to choose I would be dom

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"Me - Dom. Shar is a natural submissive.

We have a 24/7 DD/BG dynamic. "

whats DD/BG ?

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Generally sub. I'm quite a dominant person in my real life so it's nice to relinquish control.

However, I removed this from my profile as I was getting some rather worrying messages some of which indicated that there were men who thought being abusive was what it meant to be dominant.

And I have made the mistake of meeting a few who claimed to be dominant but really did not have a clue. In one case it was all I could do not to laugh out loud.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dominant, must be the feisty redhead gene

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm sub on meets as the wife likes to watch me be dommed by her and who ever we are with

Now ye sound like a great meet. Endless possibilities!! J x"

Yes they are great fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Switch

I'd love to be collared and owned lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Both Switches

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't even think about it - just let things flow and be whatever feels right at the time, so I don't categorise myself at all

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By *ayandess1Couple over a year ago

bridgwater

Its short for daddy domain/baby girl.

Its not roleplay and I'm not a Pedo, nor does she regress into a baby or child.

Its a dom sub relationship built on love trust and reward instead of punishment. She likes to please me and I like to give her support and comfort and guidance. I still tie her to things and flog her - but we never punish. If she pushes her boundaries she gets to do lovely naughty things

Google it. Its not as bad as it sounds.

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By *ayandess1Couple over a year ago

bridgwater

Dom. Not domain - bloody autocorrect x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm dominant but would in no way lay claim to being a Dom and Kristy is very much submissive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im Primal

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"Its short for daddy domain/baby girl.

Its not roleplay and I'm not a Pedo, nor does she regress into a baby or child.

Google it. Its not as bad as it sounds."

Ta, I've heard of daddies and the Girl equivalent, just not of the acronym.

It's not my scene, I prefer the woman to know herself

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Its short for daddy domain/baby girl.

Its not roleplay and I'm not a Pedo, nor does she regress into a baby or child.

Google it. Its not as bad as it sounds.

Ta, I've heard of daddies and the Girl equivalent, just not of the acronym.

It's not my scene, I prefer the woman to know herself"

Think most women do. I think all subs are well grounded, if not it, to me, it's just a form of abuse.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Switch

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Switch"

Although to be more accurate, it's more a blend or blur along a continuum and mostly I'm neither or anything one can label in a meaningful way.

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By *ayandess1Couple over a year ago

bridgwater

Oh she knows herself. In fact she is the most well rounded and grounded person I have ever met.

She is expressive and communicates better than anyone I have ever known.

Subs generally know themselves very very well.

Xxx

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By *pecifically1Woman over a year ago

Hull

"Oh she knows herself. In fact she is the most well rounded and grounded person I have ever met.

She is expressive and communicates better than anyone I have ever known.

Subs generally know themselves very very well.

Xxx"

thanks for this...someone who gets us....yes we do normally know ourselves and are usually very confident females...

quite the antithesis of what people presume..

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

Part of the fun is in the discovery, I feel.

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By *leasures4Couple over a year ago

East midlands

I'm sub..I love to be dominated. It gets my juices flowing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dom Dom domdomdom lol...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm sub..I love to be dominated. It gets my juices flowing.

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By *leasures4Couple over a year ago

East midlands

"Dom Dom domdomdom lol...

Ooh hello!

Now where do you want me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

over here!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been sub for quite a few years now, however the last 6 months ive been domme with a couple of guys too... soo i guess im switch, although i will do neither with anyone unless it feels 'right'. Its very much a mental state for me and very few people get me there. Hence i say im not looking to be sub for anyone on here. Too many men just think its an excuse to abuse or they dont understand the dynamic i need to be truly submissive to someone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We switch, but of late we have been doing me (lyn) being Dom and I love it, Black PVC thigh boots, PVC black dress throw a cock cage in the mix and I am in my element!

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"Its short for daddy domain/baby girl.

Its not roleplay and I'm not a Pedo, nor does she regress into a baby or child.

Google it. Its not as bad as it sounds.

Ta, I've heard of daddies and the Girl equivalent, just not of the acronym.

It's not my scene, I prefer the woman to know herself

Think most women do. I think all subs are well grounded, if not it, to me, it's just a form of abuse. "

I am surprised all the time by stories of sub friends. These are women that I have played with in D/S. However, now, either their play, or more than likely the dom (as I know what they ask) has irreparably broken them.

Now they presume their position is just fodder for what the dom sees fit. Which is entirely the opposite to the play they enjoyed with me.

Quite sad really (and I am not making any assumptions on the people in this thread. Merely commenting)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

none, I just don't get the whole sub/dom things, I prefer sex to be on equal level

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Switch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sub

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"none, I just don't get the whole sub/dom things, I prefer sex to be on equal level "

someone will always take control - one as the dominant, one as the submissive... if these roles exchange then it's classed as switch. But if there is only one taking the lead and prompting what to do then a d/s dynamic, however light is in effect.

The difference is in the level of control and power exchange that goes on from casual play to more agreed d/s roles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"none, I just don't get the whole sub/dom things, I prefer sex to be on equal level

The difference is in the level of control and power exchange that goes on from casual play to more agreed d/s roles"

I didn't mean I don't get it as in I don't understand what sub/dom means, I ment I have tried it and don't get anything out of it, does nothing for me at all

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

mmm I didnt mean to come across as giving you a lecture .. just there is always some kind of undercurrent of a d/s dynamic in sex...?

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By *hetalkingstoveMan over a year ago

London

I'm switch. Both roles can be a lot of fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I definitely identify more with dom but have a long way to go with a lot of research and careful play and testing and learning to do before I would class myself as actually being a dam. However I do like to be dominant in the element of vanilla dom in the meantime if that makes sense

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By *leasures4Couple over a year ago

East midlands

"over here!!!!!

I'm on my way miss...

.....I may be a while.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All the way 100% dominant, but with the intelligence to know that doesnt mean I can dominate anyone who identifies as sub - some dominants seem to not get that.

Also - 'Dommes' who see fit to claim that I should try being sub......Like they would ever suggest to a gay guy that he should 'try' pussy - I always reply with that analogy because being sexually dominant is that much a part of my sexuality..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I definitely identify more with dom but have a long way to go with a lot of research and careful play and testing and learning to do before I would class myself as actually being a dam. However I do like to be dominant in the element of vanilla dom in the meantime if that makes sense "

Even when you feel confident to refer to yourself as a dominant - you NEVER stop learning be it about yourself or your submissive - you never know it all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am predominantly submissive but have and do switch on occasion

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By *leasures4Couple over a year ago

East midlands

"I'm sub..I love to be dominated. It gets my juices flowing.

Haha! Just can imagine me and you together... We would never get anything done!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Even when you feel confident to refer to yourself as a dominant - you NEVER stop learning be it about yourself or your submissive - you never know it all"

I totally get that as with anything we are always learning. You can never know too much as my dad always says

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Might as well be gay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a very lucky sub, in a little while, will be putting myself in the hands of 2 doms. Good night ahead for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been sub for quite a few years now, however the last 6 months ive been domme with a couple of guys too... soo i guess im switch, although i will do neither with anyone unless it feels 'right'. Its very much a mental state for me and very few people get me there. Hence i say im not looking to be sub for anyone on here. Too many men just think its an excuse to abuse or they dont understand the dynamic i need to be truly submissive to someone.

this is so common, heard this alot from Submissive women have met off here and other sites, some guys dont truly understand the mental side of a sub/dom relatonship or how to behave during these types of meets.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Count Alfred Korzybski said (paraphrasing). The meaning of the communication is the response. Communication is paramount in this type of relationship, both verbal and physical.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Count Alfred Korzybski said (paraphrasing). The meaning of the communication is the response. Communication is paramount in this type of relationship, both verbal and physical. "

And the art form is having the external awareness to recognise it.....

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By *moke itMan over a year ago

Bristol

Switch

go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely sub, cannot be bothered to be imaginative. I'll happily leave that to others and do what I'm told.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mainly dominate, think it's from the many years in the army lol

However if a lady pulled out a strap on or dildo I would be sub lol any volunteers ladies lol

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By *he Ring WraithMan over a year ago

Bradford

switch.... depends on the company (and age of the lady I am with).

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's interesting to see so many responses and there does seem to be a few kinky people on here too.

We posted a thread on here the other day regarding blindfolds, mask and hoods yet don't think we had a response.

Do you use the above, have you used the above at a meet or is this not your thing?

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By *tirling DarkCouple over a year ago

Stirling

Both Dom(me) with a collared submissive female.

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By *leasures4Couple over a year ago

East midlands

"I'm a very lucky sub, in a little while, will be putting myself in the hands of 2 doms. Good night ahead for me

Lucky you! I'm slightly envious here..

Have a great night xx

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By *leasures4Couple over a year ago

East midlands

"It's interesting to see so many responses and there does seem to be a few kinky people on here too.

We posted a thread on here the other day regarding blindfolds, mask and hoods yet don't think we had a response.

Do you use the above, have you used the above at a meet or is this not your thing?

We have used a blindfold for a meet with a single guy.

I was told to wait on the bed wearing a blindfold, knickers, heels and my huge smile...

The anticipation was unbelievable. It was our first and only meet with a single guy...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a very lucky sub, in a little while, will be putting myself in the hands of 2 doms. Good night ahead for me

Same here ! very happy sub who likes to put herself in the hands of 2 dom men

xx lucky sub

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dom x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Naturally sub

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By *heekyladyCouple over a year ago

manchester

Switch or bitch, never quite sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends upon who I meet. Love to be sub for bi couples.

But Dom for other kinds of meets.

Pretty versatile here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't role play. If a man is naturally dominant I naturally go with it. If he wants a strap on up his arse I'm there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Naturally submissive

But not a sub

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't role play. If a man is naturally dominant I naturally go with it. "

This - Dom isn't a role for me its part of who I am

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't role play. If a man is naturally dominant I naturally go with it. If he wants a strap on up his arse I'm there"

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By *prilninjaMan over a year ago

bornemouth

I like both but do enjoy a femdom

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By *prilninjaMan over a year ago

bornemouth

I like both but do enjoy a femdom

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's interesting to see so many responses and there does seem to be a few kinky people on here too.

We posted a thread on here the other day regarding blindfolds, mask and hoods yet don't think we had a response.

Do you use the above, have you used the above at a meet or is this not your thing?

We have used a blindfold for a meet with a single guy.

I was told to wait on the bed wearing a blindfold, knickers, heels and my huge smile...

The anticipation was unbelievable. It was our first and only meet with a single guy..."

And I bet the smile was the only thing that you had to put on

This is something that I would love to do with Mrs S...one day!

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By *leasures4Couple over a year ago

East midlands

"It's interesting to see so many responses and there does seem to be a few kinky people on here too.

We posted a thread on here the other day regarding blindfolds, mask and hoods yet don't think we had a response.

Do you use the above, have you used the above at a meet or is this not your thing?

We have used a blindfold for a meet with a single guy.

I was told to wait on the bed wearing a blindfold, knickers, heels and my huge smile...

The anticipation was unbelievable. It was our first and only meet with a single guy...

And I bet the smile was the only thing that you had to put on

This is something that I would love to do with Mrs S...one day!"

I naturally beamed. Lol! No put on.

I think nerves was all part of it though..

I think you need to treat Mrs S. I'm sure she would love it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's interesting to see so many responses and there does seem to be a few kinky people on here too.

We posted a thread on here the other day regarding blindfolds, mask and hoods yet don't think we had a response.

Do you use the above, have you used the above at a meet or is this not your thing?

We have used a blindfold for a meet with a single guy.

I was told to wait on the bed wearing a blindfold, knickers, heels and my huge smile...

The anticipation was unbelievable. It was our first and only meet with a single guy...

And I bet the smile was the only thing that you had to put on

This is something that I would love to do with Mrs S...one day!

I naturally beamed. Lol! No put on.

I think nerves was all part of it though..

I think you need to treat Mrs S. I'm sure she would love it! "

Unfortunately for now Mrs S has no interest in playing with males. Mrs S is after some female play but at this rate she could be waiting some time!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a very lucky sub, in a little while, will be putting myself in the hands of 2 doms. Good night ahead for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sub ...i love an alphamale

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I aim to please , there no other feeling like it when you give yourself fully to another xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Top, Dom and for the right scene Switch for fun.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I'm not submissive.

On here I am usually neither and most of my meets are D/s free. (As far as I am concerned, this all sex has an undercurrent of D/s thing is bullshit.)

Sometimes I'll meet for kinky games that do involve D/s. In that case I am Domme or Top.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple over a year ago

Wakefield

i am submissive, owned and collared by my Master Simon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sub, but it takes a special guy to get me there naturally. I cannot simply obey, I have to feel the authority.

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By *ingjayMan over a year ago

exeter

100% completely Dom.... I thought then I met a very special girl.... I would do anything she says! Switch is the most awesome relationship to be in!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a very lucky sub, in a little while, will be putting myself in the hands of 2 doms. Good night ahead for me

Lucky you! I'm slightly envious here..

Have a great night xx

Thank you. We had a great night. I'm paying for it now though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's interesting to see so many responses and there does seem to be a few kinky people on here too.

We posted a thread on here the other day regarding blindfolds, mask and hoods yet don't think we had a response.

Do you use the above, have you used the above at a meet or is this not your thing?

I did comment. Love the mindfold and the hood. When the hood is being laced up i can almost space

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By *enninemarkMan over a year ago

huddersfield/manchester

Mostly had chance to be sub. But enjiy being dom too. So Switch for me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sub, but it takes a special guy to get me there naturally. I cannot simply obey, I have to feel the authority."

This

if I don't feel it I will just take over

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am extremely lucky. My Bull adores me, treats me well and respects our Sub-Dom relationship. I am naturally submissive in the bedroom so for me a dominant but respectful male is the sexiest role to see performed, but each to their own. Outside of the bedroom I am confident, outgoing and know my own mind but to be able to totally trust someone behind closed doors is exhilarating, liberating and sexually stimulating. As a sub I know what I want and use my mind and body to get it. Very empowering!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't even think about it - just let things flow and be whatever feels right at the time, so I don't categorise myself at all

I don't even know what am I suppose to do or be if I classified myself!

Is taking control in bed= being dom

or does it necessarily involve BDSM?

Does it mean humiliating and calling your partner names?

Or is it a personality thing to be a leader or follower in a relationship?

Does it mean when you are sub that you only do what you are told but not take what you want when you want it?.

I don't know the answers to that but I am quite happy to let things flow naturally and see what the connection brings out. Sometimes I discover myself when being with a different person/personality. A tendensy that is possibly hidden that comes out of me and her unexpectedly. Its mind blowing when it happens. If I categorise myself and her prior to the fun, I am ruling out any chance for that to happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm Dom crystal is sub. She has quite a sadistic streak and can switch, I don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can switch but prefer being submissive

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By *leasures4Couple over a year ago

East midlands

"I'm a very lucky sub, in a little while, will be putting myself in the hands of 2 doms. Good night ahead for me

Lucky you! I'm slightly envious here..

Have a great night xx

Thank you. We had a great night. I'm paying for it now though

Aww! Bless... That's usually very kinky though. Feeling fragile and knowing what caused it...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a very lucky sub, in a little while, will be putting myself in the hands of 2 doms. Good night ahead for me

Lucky you! I'm slightly envious here..

Have a great night xx

Thank you. We had a great night. I'm paying for it now though

Aww! Bless... That's usually very kinky though. Feeling fragile and knowing what caused it...

It is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sub, but it takes a special guy to get me there naturally. I cannot simply obey, I have to feel the authority.

This

if I don't feel it I will just take over

Some people assume that identifying as Dom means they can dominate anyone who identifies as submissive without understanding that its the connection between a dom and sub that makes the dynamic work - it has to be earned

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"none, I just don't get the whole sub/dom things, I prefer sex to be on equal level "

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By *atelotmanMan over a year ago

Chatham

"Sub, but it takes a special guy to get me there naturally. I cannot simply obey, I have to feel the authority.

This

if I don't feel it I will just take over

Fully agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sub, but it takes a special guy to get me there naturally. I cannot simply obey, I have to feel the authority.

This

if I don't feel it I will just take over

Fully agree"

Ditto.

I had a guy who expected me to act in a certain way and accused me of not being sub because I was in a giggly mood

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a sub with the right person, there has got to be trust there for me. I won't just jump in and say 'I will do it coz you say so'.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

How do you fractionate if there is not the dynamic there?

Yes it gets intense at times, other times you need the fun and playful anticipation which can be as equally rewarding. It's not much of a dance if one side is ridged.

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By *w33tCh33ks91TV/TS over a year ago

Manchester

I have been told in the past I am a Power Submissive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told in the past I am a Power Submissive

like that

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By *ayandess1Couple over a year ago

bridgwater

There needs to be a kink section to the forum so many lovely kinksters here. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's interesting to see so many responses and there does seem to be a few kinky people on here too.

We posted a thread on here the other day regarding blindfolds, mask and hoods yet don't think we had a response.

Do you use the above, have you used the above at a meet or is this not your thing?

Have used blindfolds for sensory thrills certainly ups the anti for those that wear them have found. they get the excitement especially in group situations of just enjoying all the bodily sensations that are delbt them be they pain or pleasure.

Recently a couple asked if I would come to theirs and wear a blindfold, come into their house, put it on lie back and they went to work on me, was a great feeling of just letting them both pleasure me

will be doing that again, wasnt a sub dom thing just fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told in the past I am a Power Submissive

I like the term Alpha Submissive

It can appear to be a bit of a paradox but its easy to understand when you consider that confident, independent, assertive people can still enjoy being submissive but it does require a strong intelligent dominant to earn their submission and make the most of it but when you do..... WHOOOOOOWEEEEE

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We enjoy rough sex sometimes but I don't think that makes us sub or dom

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There needs to be a kink section to the forum so many lovely kinksters here. Xxx"

Yes please

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I have been told in the past I am a Power Submissive

I like the term Alpha Submissive

The most (sexually) submissive person I met was a barrister, she was a total sub lady, only sexually though.

To me the Dom/sub thing is an attitude, sometimes I feel reading posts people perceive it as mechanical actions not the fluctuating flow I sense it is.

Think I need to do a Wurzel and change out of my serious head

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told in the past I am a Power Submissive

I like the term Alpha Submissive

The most (sexually) submissive person I met was a barrister, she was a total sub lady, only sexually though.

To me the Dom/sub thing is an attitude, sometimes I feel reading posts people perceive it as mechanical actions not the fluctuating flow I sense it is.

Think I need to do a Wurzel and change out of my serious head

I work in the legal sector.... that is of no surprise to me at all

when it comes down to it - its about having fun and getting your rocks off - the whole high protocol stuff does nothing for me

just find someone you click with and explore, laugh, communicate, ENJOY

Its that simple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told in the past I am a Power Submissive

I like the term Alpha Submissive

I need an alpha male to match and then dominate my alpha female.

It is no surprise that men in power is an aphrodisiac to a female. And behind every great (powerful) man is an equally powerful woman.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told in the past I am a Power Submissive

I like the term Alpha Submissive

I need an alpha male to match and then dominate my alpha female.

It is no surprise that men in power is an aphrodisiac to a female. And behind every great (powerful) man is an equally powerful woman."

Pssst I need an alpha male because I intimidate "ordinary" men, even though it is not my intention.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

intimidate? you?

never

I eat cupcakes for breakfast

(Actual true story - this morning I had a cupcake for my breakfast - livin the dream)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"intimidate? you?

never

I eat cupcakes for breakfast

If you're not ordinary, you'll never know

As for eating cupcakes for breakfast... yuk. Give me a bowl full of cereal, a boiled egg, a slice of toast and a banana if I'm lacking energy before the gym

, oh and three drinks.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"intimidate? you?

never

I eat cupcakes for breakfast

If you're not ordinary, you'll never know

As for eating cupcakes for breakfast... yuk. Give me a bowl full of cereal, a boiled egg, a slice of toast and a banana if I'm lacking energy before the gym

, oh and three drinks."

Three drinks - mmmm

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By *ocoTemptationMan over a year ago

london

I am primarily a Dom. I'm not very good at letting a woman stay on top of me for long. I just have to take over.

However orally I am sub. When my tongue makes contact with a woman's pussy it is to worship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am primarily a Dom. I'm not very good at letting a woman stay on top of me for long. I just have to take over.

However orally I am sub. When my tongue makes contact with a woman's pussy it is to worship."

Actions are not domiance or submission though - I eat pussy - Love to eat pussy - but that isnt a dominant OR a submissive act - its the attitude and how you are naturally that is dominant or submissive.

A woman on top physically doesn't mean she is in charge either...you retain your dominance and ensure she remains feeling submissive just because who and how you are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

neither of us are dom or sub. we both take an equal role.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

In day to day life Mrs S is far from submissive so that's probably why she like to take the submissive role between the sheets.

I am generally Dom but am more that happy to swap the blindfold from time to time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In day to day life Mrs S is far from submissive so that's probably why she like to take the submissive role between the sheets.

That's why I love it so much, to let go of all control is wonderful

I am generally Dom but am more that happy to swap the blindfold from time to time.

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By *eppoMan over a year ago

London Colney

Im sub

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im very submissive, only to females or female/male couples. neither dom or sub in a male male scenario.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Mr B is neither sub or Dom...in our sex life we are equal.

I have a few kinks that Mr B doesn't share so when meeting others especially single men, I like those who are naturally dominant and take charge.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I read something interesting the other day where a usually dominant woman had said that she didn't feel she could be a great dom until after she had learnt to be totally sub aswell. What are peoples thoughts on that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am primarily a Dom. I'm not very good at letting a woman stay on top of me for long. I just have to take over.

However orally I am sub. When my tongue makes contact with a woman's pussy it is to worship.

A woman on top physically doesn't mean she is in charge either...you retain your dominance and ensure she remains feeling submissive just because who and how you are"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

submisive its in my name lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So it's probably a stupid question - but how do you start...?

I'm naturally strong-willed, and used to describe my job as "Scaring the crap out of Managing Directors"...

But...

Inside, there is a part of me who longs to find another woman who could take control - who could reach in and make me let go of those inhibitions... but it's never happened.

I'm not interested in it from a guy, and it has nothing to do with pain - it's much deeper than that...

I fight it, deny it - but long for it.....!

Is there something wrong wrong with me..?

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By *U1966Man over a year ago

Devon

Can switch but i do enjoy being dominated by a horny woman

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm Dom crystal is sub. She has quite a sadistic streak and can switch, I don't. "

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By *uited staffs guyMan over a year ago

staffordshire

Definitely Dom, no way I could be a switch, the feelings you get from being in control and someone giving themself and control over them to you is intoxicating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Domme 100% and looking for pathetic subs to serve Me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dom

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By *athylacyTV/TS over a year ago

Maidstone

Submissive...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mr is dom although doesn't mind donning the blindfold on occasions and Suzy is switch, good in both roles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Definitely Dom, no way I could be a switch, the feelings you get from being in control and someone giving themself and control over them to you is intoxicating "

as is, the giving of oneself

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I have an electro - stimulation machine (which I have just modified to four electrodes, he he) that has a switch, but that is as far as the switching goes.

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By *urewaterMan over a year ago

Sex Lab

Great girl.. thats what sex should be all about, spontaneity

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By *rs and Mr PandoraCouple over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH

"So it's probably a stupid question - but how do you start...?

I'm naturally strong-willed, and used to describe my job as "Scaring the crap out of Managing Directors"...

But...

Inside, there is a part of me who longs to find another woman who could take control - who could reach in and make me let go of those inhibitions... but it's never happened.

I'm not interested in it from a guy, and it has nothing to do with pain - it's much deeper than that...

I fight it, deny it - but long for it.....!

Is there something wrong wrong with me..?

Nothing wrong with you at all, good luck with finding what you desire

Pandora x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Switch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Switch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very very submissive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a feisty red head but like to relinquish control and tend to be submissive during play...kinda shy in that sense but do occasionally like to take the control back and tease, tease and tease some more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Switch I think, it really depends on what has attracted me to the girl in the first place.

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By *yphoon1Man over a year ago

Dom. Partner is deliciously sub

"Yes Sir"

"Thank You Sir"

"Sorry Sir"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I switch everyway I can, its so much fun playing different roles, being different people...yum yum!

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

I'm more bottom than a true submissive. I am currently exploring my Domme side though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So which one are you?"

Switch for certain.

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By *ILLY aka SirslagWoman over a year ago

Land of the Prince Bishops

submissive, but a bit of a switch with fems dep on how domme they are themselves.

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By *ILLY aka SirslagWoman over a year ago

Land of the Prince Bishops

"Sub, but it takes a special guy to get me there naturally. I cannot simply obey, I have to feel the authority."
+1

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dom

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I read something interesting the other day where a usually dominant woman had said that she didn't feel she could be a great dom until after she had learnt to be totally sub aswell. What are peoples thoughts on that?"

I saw something a while ago that was similar. She started out as a sub and over time switched.

She was a porn star but this was in her private life with her partner of years.

I'm pretty sure that in the end she preferred to take the dominant role and split with her partner.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

switch but mainly sub, not confident enoug to be a good dom

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I saw something a while ago that was similar. She started out as a sub and over time switched.

She was a porn star but this was in her private life with her partner of years.

I'm pretty sure that in the end she preferred to take the dominant role and split with her partner.

Ooooo I thought no one had noticed my post lol. Its interesting to think about someone who switches their role but the piece I read someone who was naturally dom and identified with dominant sexuality chose to become a mans sub for a while so that she could truly learn the feelings, emotions etc of the sub to be able to fully and effectively dominate them and she felt like a much better and more caring dom for the experience

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By *udistnorthantsMan over a year ago

Desborough

Switch, I get the best of both worlds dependng on which of my regular lady friends I'm meeting. Two of them like me to be dom, the other one likes me being sub to her

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By *urly-OneWoman over a year ago

London

I'm a Domme and am discovering new pleasures all the time. My latest most enjoyable moment was fisting my sub while I had my foot on his face and dripped hot wax all over him..... I'm still smiling now!

There's nothing sexier to me at the moment than a truly submissive, polite, obedient man under my feet. It's a wonderful thing!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely submissive...love Dom guys!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All the way 100% dominant, but with the intelligence to know that doesnt mean I can dominate anyone who identifies as sub - some dominants seem to not get that.

Agree!!!

Its exactly how I feel when I describe myself as sexually submissive. I can't be anything else as it doesnt feel natural...

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By *errible_TwoCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

Sub collared and owned by Mr two

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dom by nature. Tried sub but it wasn't for me. Love adopting the master roll.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dom and like to cuckold as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very much sub. Love to be controlled and please a man.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am never sub to anyone we meet & within our own confines we switch.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sub but only to the 'right' man.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told in the past I am a Power Submissive

I like the term Alpha Submissive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not really sure if there is an exact definition, and there are probably "degrees of " . I normally take full control of a meet , so does that make me dominant ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure what i am. But there is a few on here i'd let them have their wicked way on me lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dominance is providence.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

in real life I'm not just dominant, I've been described as 'a force to be reckoned with' on more than one occasion.

sexually, i have waited for years to find the right Dom for me. that is one who understands the mental level of the dynamic and doesn't limit themselves to the physical side. one who can earn my submission, and recognise that for what it truly means. I've finally found him, thanks to this site. although I'm a 'thinking sub' who challenges the dom, which is likewise what he was looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not really sure if there is an exact definition, and there are probably "degrees of " . I normally take full control of a meet , so does that make me dominant ? "

to me, that would make you assertive. it's a dominant quality, rather than a Dominant quality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Both of us are strongly neither, tried a bit find it does nothing for us. Though if forced to take a line with another couple we would pick Dom.

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