I, Mrs B, love a good build up, flirting, working up sexual tension with a potential meet but it seems (in our experience) that there isn't a lot of dirty talk happening on here. In fact I've scared a few people off in the past!
Because of this I tend to leave initial messages to Mr B.
Do people think it's fear of overstepping boundaries that puts people off/ makes people matter of fact and reserved?
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"I, Mrs B, love a good build up, flirting, working up sexual tension with a potential meet but it seems (in our experience) that there isn't a lot of dirty talk happening on here. In fact I've scared a few people off in the past!
Because of this I tend to leave initial messages to Mr B.
Do people think it's fear of overstepping boundaries that puts people off/ makes people matter of fact and reserved?
MrsB "
you want dirty talk. I can do that. I've just wrote a story but haven't posted it yet. Will post it tomorrow night. As I need to paragraph it lol x |
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Yes I do - Kate has the same issue. She loves dirty talk once she starts dialogue with someone but sometimes it's like trying to get blood out if stone !
I think as you say it's the fear of it building and them stepping over the edge although a lot take that precaution to the extreme!
On the flip side after an opening message a second message of "I'm going to destroy your arse!" Didn't win any friend invites either. 
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over a year ago
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I think it's a common case of, women need mental stimulation to get them more so in the mood for sex, whereas with men, it's more visual. Correct me if I'm wrong guys!
I enjoy a session far more if there is some build up through messaging.   |
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"I, Mrs B, love a good build up, flirting, working up sexual tension with a potential meet but it seems (in our experience) that there isn't a lot of dirty talk happening on here. In fact I've scared a few people off in the past!
Because of this I tend to leave initial messages to Mr B.
Do people think it's fear of overstepping boundaries that puts people off/ makes people matter of fact and reserved?
MrsB "
I love really dirty talk... |
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By *ussypussWoman
over a year ago
South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo |
"I've just wrote a story but haven't posted it yet. Will post it tomorrow night. As I need to paragraph it lol x"
I love the dirty stories so I'll be looking out for this one.
I agree that lots of people are worried about overstepping the mark but I've found that if I, as a female, put out a tentative dirty suggestion, this seems to have the desired effect |
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"Yes I do - Kate has the same issue. She loves dirty talk once she starts dialogue with someone but sometimes it's like trying to get blood out if stone !
I think as you say it's the fear of it building and them stepping over the edge although a lot take that precaution to the extreme!
On the flip side after an opening message a second message of "I'm going to destroy your arse!" Didn't win any friend invites either.
D"
Haha - not been offered a destroyed arse before I must admit!
I think it's partly a catch 22 I should make more effort to instigate it |
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"I've just wrote a story but haven't posted it yet. Will post it tomorrow night. As I need to paragraph it lol x
I love the dirty stories so I'll be looking out for this one.
I agree that lots of people are worried about overstepping the mark but I've found that if I, as a female, put out a tentative dirty suggestion, this seems to have the desired effect "
I do enjoy reading the stories also but these are anonymous. Maybe it doesn't help that were a couple looking for couples so no one wants to put something that offends their partner or the person they're messaging's partner.
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I think it is simply because some people like dirty talk and others don't. You need to ask if they like it. Find people who are into it. The problem is lot of people tick the cyber sex option on their profile but don't actually like it.
Also if you dirty talk with somebody it is best to know there turn ons and offs. That way you won't talk about something they don't like doing. |
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By *oody39Man
over a year ago
tunbridge wells |
Personally i love dirty talking and cyber. I know the op is referring to couples, but i would be wary of sending a really filthy message to a couple.
Its hard enough to meet a couple here, and i would be worried what the hubby would be thinking.
But.... if any females/couples want to swap some dirty mails feel free |
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We like it with each other in the bed room me (hubby) saying dirty things & calling the (mrs) naughty dirty girl etc.
Mrs does not like other people sending explicit text saying what they'd like to do to her or women saying what they want me to do to them as she finds it pushy + it's not usually about soft swap!
Probably be horny if it was a couple we know well but not complete strangers. |
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"We like it with each other in the bed room me (hubby) saying dirty things & calling the (mrs) naughty dirty girl etc.
Mrs does not like other people sending explicit text saying what they'd like to do to her or women saying what they want me to do to them as she finds it pushy + it's not usually about soft swap!
Probably be horny if it was a couple we know well but not complete strangers."
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It's the most boring thing in the world for me (jane)...and most people are incompetent at it anyway...it feels like they're ordering a shopping list at best...and then I'll finger you, and then I'll lick you and then I'll fuck you...and the clumsy euphemisms just make me giggle...turgid love pole anyone?
Much rather have a flirty real life conversation with lots of eye contact...and generally find that most people who are really into the whole cyber sexting thing never really follow through in real life... |
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"I, Mrs B, love a good build up, flirting, working up sexual tension with a potential meet but it seems (in our experience) that there isn't a lot of dirty talk happening on here. In fact I've scared a few people off in the past!
Because of this I tend to leave initial messages to Mr B.
Do people think it's fear of overstepping boundaries that puts people off/ makes people matter of fact and reserved?
MrsB "
You've got my number. Text away   |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
We love really filthy talk, but messaging on here isn't necessarily the best place for it. We make it clear in our messages that it's what we like, and it sometimes spills over into messaging, but it's never going to come across on the page in the same way as when it's whispered or growled into an ear during an intense session... |
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By *spot50Man
over a year ago
rochester |
"I, Mrs B, love a good build up, flirting, working up sexual tension with a potential meet but it seems (in our experience) that there isn't a lot of dirty talk happening on here. In fact I've scared a few people off in the past!
Because of this I tend to leave initial messages to Mr B.
Do people think it's fear of overstepping boundaries that puts people off/ makes people matter of fact and reserved?
MrsB "
I had a couple that I would ring just before hubby got home and talk dirty to her, her hubby would txt me saying he will be home in30 mins so call my wife, he recons she was a wild women when he got I'm and I did this for few months, it was a shame I never got to meet them, but it worked for them lol |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I won't talk dirty or even intimately until I know I want to fuck someone because I don't want to lead anyone on and then say no.
I don't know if I want to fuck someone until I have met them. |
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It depends who you're meeting i suppose. With some people it can come naturally but with others it may not be their cup of tea. So, youbmay be barking up the wrong tree - they may not like talking dirty but just getting down to it.
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Definitely isn't enough dirty talk on here, whether it's in a build up to a meet or just between two people or couples who find each others profiles appealing but are too far apart to ever meet.
I am more than happy to oblige in both scenarios... |
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"Yes I do - Kate has the same issue. She loves dirty talk once she starts dialogue with someone but sometimes it's like trying to get blood out if stone !
I think as you say it's the fear of it building and them stepping over the edge although a lot take that precaution to the extreme!
On the flip side after an opening message a second message of "I'm going to destroy your arse!" Didn't win any friend invites either.
D"
SMSL!
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"Yes I do - Kate has the same issue. She loves dirty talk once she starts dialogue with someone but sometimes it's like trying to get blood out if stone !
I think as you say it's the fear of it building and them stepping over the edge although a lot take that precaution to the extreme!
On the flip side after an opening message a second message of "I'm going to destroy your arse!" Didn't win any friend invites either.
D
SMSL!
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It could depend on what was in the first message... |
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over a year ago
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"I don't do dirty talk at all
Rather have the real thing
But you can't have that when sat at work looking busy...! "
Lucky I don't have to do that hey lol |
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"I don't do dirty talk at all
Rather have the real thing
But you can't have that when sat at work looking busy...!
Lucky I don't have to do that hey lol "
What, work?! Lucky you! Daytime meet....?! Lol |
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we both like dirty talk it gets mildred started mmm, I love to say it and she loves to hear it but she gets shy when she wants to say anything ,
nothing better than dirty talk to warm up when your with others before play gets everyone in the mood and breaks the ice a little |
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