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Fantasizing about an affair..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it looked down on about a woman fantasizing about having regular meet ups etc, with a married man?
There seems to be many on here, I am always a little hesitant when it comes to even replying to a message!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a bit, there are lots here who won't meet married men or women, some are a bit holier than thou about it but most just say its not their thing but go knock yourself out if it's yours x |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Enjoy what you do. Keep yourself safe. Don't harm anyone.
Realities don't always live up to the fantasies but enter with your eyes open and your heart protected and I am sure you will find someone on here just waiting to help.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Plenty on here look down on it
Plenty on here will say its immoral
Plenty on here will then put all that to one side if it means they can have sex with you.
Do what you feel comfortable with and ignore those that judge you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see a problem with fantasising about it.
If you choose to make the fantasy reality, be aware that there is a 3rd person involved without consent and be prepared for the potential fall out should he be caught out.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I kind of have the _iew of the fact it's not my problem, it's the one who is being unfaithful bla bla bla, if they don't get it from here they will from somewhere else? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I kind of have the _iew of the fact it's not my problem, it's the one who is being unfaithful bla bla bla, if they don't get it from here they will from somewhere else? "
You will get a lot of people telling you what THEY think is the right answer ...
Only you at the end of the day can make the decision as to what you do and who with
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I kind of have the _iew of the fact it's not my problem, it's the one who is being unfaithful bla bla bla, if they don't get it from here they will from somewhere else? "
Affairs are complicated relationships - there is you, there is him and then there is her/him. You meet one part of another relationship and whatever you might think they carry some of that person with them wherever they go.
Yes, they are the ones cheating. Yes, you are a free agent. Protect yourself and try not to harm anyone else. It's up to you what you do.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I kind of have the _iew of the fact it's not my problem, it's the one who is being unfaithful bla bla bla, if they don't get it from here they will from somewhere else? "
If it makes you feel better, carry on with that _iew. There are however sites dedicated to affairs etc. In some cultures, if a person pursues a married individal then they are just as guilty and are held accountable for their actions. Good luck. I hope the individual you are tempted by doesnt have children. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I kind of have the _iew of the fact it's not my problem, it's the one who is being unfaithful bla bla bla, if they don't get it from here they will from somewhere else? "
Speaking from bitter experience, be very careful but my advice, for what it's worth is walk away and leave well alone. You'll probably be the one who ends up hurt and having to cope with that alone. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I kind of have the _iew of the fact it's not my problem, it's the one who is being unfaithful bla bla bla, if they don't get it from here they will from somewhere else?
Speaking from bitter experience, be very careful but my advice, for what it's worth is walk away and leave well alone. You'll probably be the one who ends up hurt and having to cope with that alone. "
That's the price - nothing comes for free.
It wasn't a fantasy I had but I had an affair when I was much younger and I had the joy of him then cheating on me after he and his wife split. I've seen both sides and for that reason I don't judge. I do warn though.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I've been there and done that. Lived to tell the tale but went through hell when it came to a very bitter end. Still hurting months down the line  but it gets better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not particularly about what people think on here, just getting an all rounded _iew of what peoples thoughts are."
As with any topic on this forum, you will have extremes of opinion to choose from...so its best to stick with your own gut feeling...its usually the best measure of what's right or wrong for you x |
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"What a very quiet thread considering what the question is .
To the OP...if you click on "quote" people will know who you are answering.
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That wouldn't perchance be because the op is a woman?....... |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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if you are mature enough to consider the consequences, you are mature enough to see it through....
but be prepared for said consequences, they may be most unwelcome |
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"It's not a particular person, I just wondered peoples thoughts.
most people would probably think it's okay to fantasise but not to see it through.
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I would think anything is ok to fantasise about, reality is the thing that does the harm or good. |
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Remember that guys who are playing away from home can be unhappy and needing love.
You may think that your getting a man who will have no emotional ties and no strings.
What you may end up with though is an emotionally damaged person who is looking to feel loved. Other bad points is that he will use his "fuck buddy" to hurt his wife to show what's she's missing.
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You use the word affair implying emotional connection rather than just sexual, that can get very messy and never forget it wouldn't just be your emotions. Saying it's the other persons responsibility is a cop out in my opinion and yes it's true that if it wasn't you it would be someone else but that's a poor excuse that could be used for anything. In the final analysis the decision is yours though and although someone said the universe doesn't care......I think it does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i fantasise about things but it doesnt mean i always want to do those things.
having sex with a married man is one thing but i wouldnt get involved with a married man. i did when i was a teenager and it got complicated so never again. |
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