I think it helps if people do move about, and not get fixed in one particular spot. There may be others who'd like to be in that vicinity, to chat to people they know etc, but feel displaced and won't want to intrude on someone's space.
It also can help keep you aware of who's around, if you're moving, and may inspire some action, or at least give some voyeuristic pleasure.
By far the best places to end any isolation are the social areas, like the bar. Even if you smile, as you stand near to people waiting to be served etc, it can serve as an introduction, to then move onto chatting. Things can be as social as if you're standing next to someone in a shop queue, and non-sexual.
Wait for and read the prompts that others give you - if they're interested, would prefer a little break/some space and often less is more. Anyone who has outstayed their welcome is unlikely to be given many more, or any, chances. If you keep things brief, without outstaying your welcome, then you can pick up the chat later on.
Moving around also gets people to be more familiar with you. It gets you more comfortable in the surroundings, so you know where everything is - many hosts will escort you and show you stuff, but taking things are your own pace is helpful too, if your first time.
Make eye contact with others, including people you don't fancy. Know when brief eye contact is enough, and hasn't become a stare. Smiles melt hearts and blocks that others may have. Anyone you ever chat to at a club may be someone that knows your route to perfect sex - a friend of someone else, or someone that encourages you to join in a group session etc.
Never make rules to yourself that you must get a shag - it may make you feel desperate, and others may pick up on this too. Aim to spend less time there than you could, as you'll feel brighter, or less jaded, than you may have otherwise. If all's great, keep it going, but know when enough is enough.
If there are spa like facilities, use them for your personal benefit, other than just for trying to pull. A shower can help invigorate you, even if you don't use jacuzzi etc.
Remember, single guys are as welcome as everyone else, and there will be people who would welcome the chance to get to know. You just may not encounter them on any one particular meet.
I look at life as an adventure. There's always something to appreciate, enjoy etc. We don't have to rely on others to keep us satisfied. Stay flexible, if one approach doesn't work, try another. If you feel stressed when talking to someone, slow down and ensure that your breathing is deep and slow. You'll retain your strength of mind and body. |
So what exactly should single guys be doing? Sitting silently by the bar with their hands in constant _iew, not chatting or making eye contact? And certainly not watching people having sex... ?
or am I wrong in this