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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My play partner has a hell of a lot more than you and has no issues with how many. The odd person has said he has to many but would you really be interested in someone that thinks that anyway. |
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"I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many? "
I think if a single guy has had 42 meets and has 22 verifications showing then it's way to much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many?
I think if a single guy has had 42 meets and has 22 verifications showing then it's way to much. "
Why is it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But yet women and couples show lots and it is usually more acceptable so ridiculous, I have no issue with how many verifications someone has, they do not mean they have played with all those people they could be from socials or clubs or just being seen in the cam rooms  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many?
I think if a single guy has had 42 meets and has 22 verifications showing then it's way to much. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can hide them then be called a liar. Too much sex on a site purely set up for sex, makes me laugh how people think on here. Married people could fuck 3 times a day every day but that would be ok |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But yet women and couples show lots and it is usually more acceptable so ridiculous, I have no issue with how many verifications someone has, they do not mean they have played with all those people they could be from socials or clubs or just being seen in the cam rooms "
I don't care even if they have had sex with them all. If I like someone and they like me I will have sex with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many?
I think if a single guy has had 42 meets and has 22 verifications showing then it's way to much.
Why is it . "
unless i'm very wrong i think that was tongue in cheek |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Genuinely interested in why you say that - my veri summary is 33 people, 42 meets and 22 showing - but that's not all in one week - that is over a year. |
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"I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many?
I think if a single guy has had 42 meets and has 22 verifications showing then it's way to much.
Why is it .
unless i'm very wrong i think that was tongue in cheek"
Go over there ---- and sit in the perceptive corner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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different people want different things tis all, i prefer to see quie a few as it means they know the game but i wouldn't dismiss someone cause they only had a couple as we all had to start somewhere
although i don't meet if none which is a little unfair i guess as everyone needs the chance to get their first one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many?
I think if a single guy has had 42 meets and has 22 verifications showing then it's way to much.
Why is it .
unless i'm very wrong i think that was tongue in cheek
Go over there ---- and sit in the perceptive corner"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i would prefer someone had quite a few verifications like you as it shows you are serious about meeting people and you must be alright, i like men who are experienced.
it doesnt bother me what people think usualy but i contacted a man that i used to see who isnt on here anymore, i mentioned that 3 men were meant to be coming round in the week and that he could join us as in the past he had said he would like to.
he made nasty comments just because he was jealous, he didnt have much luck on here and he had only wanted to see me on my own. |
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As a single guy you are damned if you do, and damned if you dont. I thought this site was a swinging site where you predominantly meet people for sex. I show all my verifications that I get.
The verifications that are not there are from where people have left the site. It shows that I am genuine. Also gives an insight to others what to expect when they meet me.
So as for the people who say you have too many verifications, take my advice and dont listen to them. Far too many things to worry about other than who has x amount of verifications |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But yet women and couples show lots and it is usually more acceptable so ridiculous, I have no issue with how many verifications someone has, they do not mean they have played with all those people they could be from socials or clubs or just being seen in the cam rooms
I don't care even if they have had sex with them all. If I like someone and they like me I will have sex with them"
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Like I said I have no issue with the amount of verifications someone has I was just merely pointing out that the people who do it doesn't mean they have played with all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"has any woman been put off by a single guy having too many verifications?
once, the guy had 144"
Serious question - why did that put you off - if that was the only thing that put you off him? |
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"I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many?
I think if a single guy has had 42 meets and has 22 verifications showing then it's way to much.
Why is it .
unless i'm very wrong i think that was tongue in cheek
Go over there ---- and sit in the perceptive corner
only if your keeping me company "
Only if we don't hijack this thread too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has any woman been put off by a single guy having too many verifications?"
occasionally, but that's also to do with the veri trail.
tbh you can't please everyone so don't worry about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't give a flying f*** how many veris a guy has. I only read them because I'm nosy and a lot of them are very entertaining.
So no, it wouldn't put me off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But yet women and couples show lots and it is usually more acceptable so ridiculous, I have no issue with how many verifications someone has, they do not mean they have played with all those people they could be from socials or clubs or just being seen in the cam rooms
I don't care even if they have had sex with them all. If I like someone and they like me I will have sex with them.
Like I said I have no issue with the amount of verifications someone has I was just merely pointing out that the people who do it doesn't mean they have played with all "
I know what you meant. Was just giving my POV |
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By *urvywelshCouple
over a year ago
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I like to look at verifications on a guys profile. Then I look at the person who has sent them. See if I am his type of woman. Being a 'big girl' I want to see if he has been with woman like me or just likes the slimmer girl. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i would prefer someone had quite a few verifications like you as it shows you are serious about meeting people and you must be alright, i like men who are experienced.
it doesnt bother me what people think usualy but i contacted a man that i used to see who isnt on here anymore, i mentioned that 3 men were meant to be coming round in the week and that he could join us as in the past he had said he would like to.
he made nasty comments just because he was jealous, he didnt have much luck on here and he had only wanted to see me on my own."
Fully appreciate that some guys turn into green monsters around the realities of swinging, some honestly think the person they have just has great sex with, won't go and have great sex with someone else tomorrow - by the way love your nickname I used to find her hilarious with her little squeaky voice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But yet women and couples show lots and it is usually more acceptable so ridiculous, I have no issue with how many verifications someone has, they do not mean they have played with all those people they could be from socials or clubs or just being seen in the cam rooms
I don't care even if they have had sex with them all. If I like someone and they like me I will have sex with them.
Like I said I have no issue with the amount of verifications someone has I was just merely pointing out that the people who do it doesn't mean they have played with all
I know what you meant. Was just giving my POV "
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I suppose since I have 100 ish verifys over about a 7 year people I must be damaged goods.... but most of mine are only social...
people read way too much into them at times, but I only show the non-rude ones.... I just want a feel for the person, not a blow by blow of someone elses encounter.... |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many? "
Next time someone says that tell them to piss off, block them and move on. Who the hell would want to meet someone so uptight and judgemental? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have 22 meets, from 19 diff ppl. the last one was a month ago. Been on the site for 18 months (with breaks) and yesterday I've been told I meet a lot... with different ppl.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many?
Next time someone says that tell them to piss off, block them and move on. Who the hell would want to meet someone so uptight and judgemental? "
Yes thats what i think. someone was saying the same type of things about a woman he had met, i thought if he says that about her he will say it about me too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has any woman been put off by a single guy having too many verifications?
once, the guy had 144
Serious question - why did that put you off - if that was the only thing that put you off him?"
i still met the guy, quite a number of times but the thought that 144 other women had been there before me was a little sickening and a lot.to live up to... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many?
I think if a single guy has had 42 meets and has 22 verifications showing then it's way to much.
Why is it .
unless i'm very wrong i think that was tongue in cheek
Go over there ---- and sit in the perceptive corner
only if your keeping me company
Only if we don't hijack this thread too"
ha ha that was you lol i thought it was i promise to sit quietly (ish) and be a bad girl no hijacking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has any woman been put off by a single guy having too many verifications?
once, the guy had 144
Serious question - why did that put you off - if that was the only thing that put you off him?
i still met the guy, quite a number of times but the thought that 144 other women had been there before me was a little sickening and a lot.to live up to..."
Why did it worry you... |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"has any woman been put off by a single guy having too many verifications?
once, the guy had 144
Serious question - why did that put you off - if that was the only thing that put you off him?
i still met the guy, quite a number of times but the thought that 144 other women had been there before me was a little sickening and a lot.to live up to..."
Wouldn't bother me one jot. I've met guys who have met lots of women - we're talking triple figures. I don't even think about it. At least it means they're experienced which is just what I'm looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has any woman been put off by a single guy having too many verifications?
once, the guy had 144
Serious question - why did that put you off - if that was the only thing that put you off him?
i still met the guy, quite a number of times but the thought that 144 other women had been there before me was a little sickening and a lot.to live up to..."
People like other people for all different reasons though. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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i just got to over 100 verifications... I wanted a testimonial for that... long service award....
a big social with old forum names past and present...
they said no.... (actually the words were "fuck" and "off".... lol) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a lot of couples and women like to feel they are doing men some kind of favour by meeting them that's why they don't like men with lots of veries, as popular men may not be as grateful, they prefer men who don't get many meets because they will be to hand when the woman/couple wants to meet again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's your profile and it's up to you how you use it...if someone doesn't like your profile then you're probably not that compatible. I personally don't think meeting 33 people over the course of what looks like 2 years is a high number at all...but then again even if it we're 33 in a weekend it wouldn't bother me as it's none of my business, although I'd probably be wanting to give a pat on the back!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think a lot of couples and women like to feel they are doing men some kind of favour by meeting them that's why they don't like men with lots of veries, as popular men may not be as grateful, they prefer men who don't get many meets because they will be to hand when the woman/couple wants to meet again "
You hit the nail right in the ... ouch lol.
Thats exactly the impression I get when reading profiles and its frustrating the thought that most will talk you down straight from the begining as if they are doing you a favour by even chatting with you.  sorry for the rant lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I meet with one guy who has a lot of veris, over 4 years. He is young(ish), free and single. Why shouldn't he show them? He is very respectful, fun and I have a great time with him.
I think no less of him for having the verifications |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It would put me off if it got to over about 30.."
Why though.. I can understand it's each to their own but why would it put you off on a site where if you went to a few fab social you could quite easily get that over them x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many?
I think if a single guy has had 42 meets and has 22 verifications showing then it's way to much. "
Why?
One gets you the green tick - the rest are just 'feedback' !
Can't work out why there should be a limit or why a certain number is 'too much' ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think its because I imagine they are easy and would fuck anyone? "
That is a very bad way to look at people on here. I have a fair few... But certainly am picky and not easy.
If I see a guy with lots of veries I think he is well respected and well thought of. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find the verification system very amusing. When people think that it is an honest representation of that person's entire sex life.
OP show however many you like. 
Are you trying to imply people on fab have sex outside of the world of fab...or even unverified sex from fellow fab members?! Shocking behaviour "
seriously, that's goes on?!
I'm going to have a lie down to recover from such shocking news |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't understand why people use verifications as a measure of how many people they've had sex with in the past?
I might have had sex with 250 guys before I met 2wheels but they haven't left me verifications so how would anyone know?!
Also, we don't use fab as our only source of fun so again, how does anyone know how many people we're having sex with?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think its because I imagine they are easy and would fuck anyone? "
What if someone had been on here for 8 weeks and had 5 veri's. That's about one meet every other week.
A guy on here for a year with 30 veri's would also be averaging about a meet every other week.
I'm not sure why that makes someone easy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think its because I imagine they are easy and would fuck anyone?
What if someone had been on here for 8 weeks and had 5 veri's. That's about one meet every other week.
A guy on here for a year with 30 veri's would also be averaging about a meet every other week.
I'm not sure why that makes someone easy. "
none of my veris are people I've met this year |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It would put me off if it got to over about 30..
You will have that in less than a year , so pot and kettle come to mind  "
Not a chance, too many oddballs on here.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This thread is ace,,, it's just another reason that people are looking for something they can't have,, having a dig at your veris is like telling me I'm a skinny ugly bitch, because I turned then down,,, jealous people everywhere x |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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Too many on here use veris to attack others or make them defensive.
So fucking what if someone has a load? If that kind of sexual freedom bothers you then maybe re_iew why you are on a site like this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Too many on here use veris to attack others or make them defensive.
So fucking what if someone has a load? If that kind of sexual freedom bothers you then maybe re_iew why you are on a site like this."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Too many on here use veris to attack others or make them defensive.
So fucking what if someone has a load? If that kind of sexual freedom bothers you then maybe re_iew why you are on a site like this."
The trouble is many on the forums forget why many people are here.....to have sex and meet people.....not to talk about it! |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Oh, I'm on a swinging site but ... I'm very fussy. I'm not a tramp like the others on here. I have standards - which means that anyone else has none at all."
Good lord people - we are not adolescents any more!! The old ideas about 'sluts' and 'slags' really should not apply. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Think its because I imagine they are easy and would fuck anyone?
Yes. And?
And it puts me off"
People having sex on a swinging site? The very idea!!
Obviously, each t their own, but there's no reason to accuse someone who obviously enjoys having recreational sex as being 'easy'. That's very secondary school thinking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think its because I imagine they are easy and would fuck anyone?
Yes. And?
And it puts me off
People having sex on a swinging site? The very idea!!
Obviously, each t their own, but there's no reason to accuse someone who obviously enjoys having recreational sex as being 'easy'. That's very secondary school thinking."
Sadly that thinking is rife xx |
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"I am a single guy with too many verifications apparently. Because I am honest and reliable, actually turn up for meets, treat people with respect, I then get told that with all my verifications I am either faking them (yeh right) or I look like a "player" - whatever one of those is. Some of my veris are from people I have known quite a while and have veried me a couple of times.
How many verifications for a single guy is too many? "
you only have 33! and as your first was 2 years ago...!!! have as many as ya like and enjoy! |
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Do you really honestly care what these sad people think. If they don't like it they don't contact you end of chat. I don't think this post can go forward only round in circles. @@@@ em and forget me is my _iew they feature not one one jot in my head. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think its because I imagine they are easy and would fuck anyone?
Yes. And?
And it puts me off
People having sex on a swinging site? The very idea!!
Obviously, each t their own, but there's no reason to accuse someone who obviously enjoys having recreational sex as being 'easy'. That's very secondary school thinking.
Sadly that thinking is rife xx"
How can anyone join a non-monogamous community and criticise non-monogamous behaviour?!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find the verification system very amusing. When people think that it is an honest representation of that person's entire sex life.
OP show however many you like.
Are you trying to imply people on fab have sex outside of the world of fab...or even unverified sex from fellow fab members?! Shocking behaviour
'Unverified sex' sounds well kinky. I want some of that! "
I have it all the time...I'm easy like that  |
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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago
A seaside town near you! |
""Oh, I'm on a swinging site but ... I'm very fussy. I'm not a tramp like the others on here. I have standards - which means that anyone else has none at all."
Good lord people - we are not adolescents any more!! The old ideas about 'sluts' and 'slags' really should not apply."
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"i just got to over 100 verifications... I wanted a testimonial for that... long service award....
a big social with old forum names past and present...
they said no.... (actually the words were "fuck" and "off".... lol)"
i got a bottle of champagne from the old owners when i reached my first 100 |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"It would put me off if it got to over about 30.."
okay i'll play ball...
30 over what period of time? weeks? months? a year? a few years?
do they all have to be play meets? a lot will be from social events up and down the country?
say i went to a social... and got 30 veri's on the same night, does that mean i then played with everyone?
and then so many people read WAY too much into then...... |
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