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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It costs nothing to reply to a mail, why are there so many rude females and couples on this site? you take the truble to mail people being polite and friendly, and what do you get, no reply mail deleted. And you lot bang on about single guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't worry about it. Just take it as they are not interested and try the next person who takes you fancy. It's not worth getting upset about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bad stuff happens to all of us....not everyone has the time to reply to all messages, don't take it as being rude and concentrate on those that do reply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The amount of messages some single women receive, it is impossible to reply to them all. I instantly delete and block any 'fancy a f**k' messages, but will take time to reply to a message that has been well put together!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"It costs nothing to reply to a mail, why are there so many rude females and couples on this site? you take the truble to mail people being polite and friendly, and what do you get, no reply mail deleted. And you lot bang on about single guys."

do you know those leaflets that get dropped through your letterbox..?

do you take the time to contact them and say no thanks..?

a reply is not obligatory..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will always answer even if it's no thanks with some exceptions the main reason I do not reply is when the writer has clearly not read my profile which sadly happens quite often

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having a bad Friday night are we?

Life sucks, deal with it. No one has to reply to you. Check the site rules.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If ignorance is a choosen bliss, so be it!

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By *my-blackTV/TS over a year ago

Poole

"I will always answer even if it's no thanks with some exceptions the main reason I do not reply is when the writer has clearly not read my profile which sadly happens quite often"

Im the same, most messages i will reply to but the ones that obviously havent read my profile i now dont reply to.

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By *RYBBWCouple over a year ago

Leeds.

There's nothing ignorant about not being interested in somebody...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pass the Tissues please

Him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having a bad Friday night are we?

Life sucks, deal with it. No one has to reply to you. Check the site rules."

Ooosssshhhhh. Don't hold back. Your Friday night a bit poo too? Lol

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

"Pass the Tissues please

Him"

I have no tissues....

Will a tiny violin do?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pass the Tissues please

Him

I have no tissues....

Will a tiny violin do?"
wet wipes then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're not owed or deserve a reply if you're not what the person is looking for, don't think you realise how much mail we get a day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're not owed or deserve a reply if you're not what the person is looking for, don't think you realise how much mail we get a day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

do you know those leaflets that get dropped through your letterbox..?

do you take the time to contact them and say no thanks..?

a reply is not obligatory.."
The leaflets dropped of usually are trying to relieve you of money for a service you never advertised for ! what a strange comment

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

If it costs nothing to reply to a message then it costs nothing to send a message. In which case why are you making a fuss?

If, however, as you also suggest, it is "truble" to write messages then maybe it's also "truble" to write replies.

Perhaps it's worth the "truble" to you, since you can decide how many messages you send, when and to whom. But maybe the recipient has more messages than they can handle, is fed up with getting messages from men who don't match what their profile says they are looking for, and would rather be able to spend their time messaging the people who do interest them rather than pandering to the whims of those who don't. Perhaps it's rather more "truble" for them to reply than it is for you to message.

Maybe you should stop thinking you have a right to make any demands on a stranger's time and get over yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because they think they are above answering mail. I wouldn't bother yourself by it. Better things to think about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because they think they are above answering mail. I wouldn't bother yourself by it. Better things to think about

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think you need to read the site's FAQ about it not being rude not replying....

and anyway.. just what do you want them to say...

"no thanks...... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!"

I think this type of thread really shows up how fragile some peoples egos are that they need a reply regardless!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

concentrate on those that send u mail back...theres loadsa whores on here who reply

oops...did I say that unprivately!?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"concentrate on those that send u mail back...theres loadsa whores on here who reply

oops...did I say that unprivately!?!"
Lol,erm no !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"concentrate on those that send u mail back...theres loadsa whores on here who reply

oops...did I say that unprivately!?!"

really? So this place is full of whores is it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"concentrate on those that send u mail back...theres loadsa whores on here who reply

oops...did I say that unprivately!?!

really? So this place is full of whores is it?"

some are offering 2 for a pound! its astonishing!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you need to read the site's FAQ about it not being rude not replying....

and anyway.. just what do you want them to say...

"no thanks...... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!"

I think this type of thread really shows up how fragile some peoples egos are that they need a reply regardless!"

shows the sycophants too. Yes, people should fucking reply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The arrogant sense of entitlement displayed in this post is exactly why some people "bang on about single guys"...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"concentrate on those that send u mail back...theres loadsa whores on here who reply

oops...did I say that unprivately!?!Lol,erm no !

dammit..I think I've lost me some meets

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you need to read the site's FAQ about it not being rude not replying....

and anyway.. just what do you want them to say...

"no thanks...... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!"

I think this type of thread really shows up how fragile some peoples egos are that they need a reply regardless!

shows the sycophants too. Yes, people should fucking reply"

Why? I have better things to do with my time than reply to messages I'm not interested in.

And how is this thread showing the sycophants?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The arrogant sense of entitlement displayed in this post is exactly why some people "bang on about single guys"..."

arrogant or assuming people on here have manners? I personally find couples arrogant and assuming

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"concentrate on those that send u mail back...theres loadsa whores on here who reply

oops...did I say that unprivately!?!"

Thank fuck for man whores.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The arrogant sense of entitlement displayed in this post is exactly why some people "bang on about single guys"...

arrogant or assuming people on here have manners? I personally find couples arrogant and assuming "

You find couples assuming? Sorry don't get what you mean.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think you need to read the site's FAQ about it not being rude not replying....

and anyway.. just what do you want them to say...

"no thanks...... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!"

I think this type of thread really shows up how fragile some peoples egos are that they need a reply regardless!

shows the sycophants too. Yes, people should fucking reply"

90% of the messages I get are from men who don't even nearly match what my profile says I am looking for.

They can waste their time messaging me if they want but if they expect me to waste more of my time than it takes to glance at their profile and hit delete on the message, they are dreaming.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lets be honest if you look after yourself and look good it is easy on this site.. If you pull in normal life you will here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"concentrate on those that send u mail back...theres loadsa whores on here who reply

oops...did I say that unprivately!?!

Thank fuck for man whores.

I'll pay myself to shag u steel.....now that is a REAL whore!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you need to read the site's FAQ about it not being rude not replying....

and anyway.. just what do you want them to say...

"no thanks...... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!"

I think this type of thread really shows up how fragile some peoples egos are that they need a reply regardless!

shows the sycophants too. Yes, people should fucking reply

90% of the messages I get are from men who don't even nearly match what my profile says I am looking for.

They can waste their time messaging me if they want but if they expect me to waste more of my time than it takes to glance at their profile and hit delete on the message, they are dreaming."

when I don't filter everyone out I get pages of messages. A no thanks takes seconds

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you need to read the site's FAQ about it not being rude not replying....

and anyway.. just what do you want them to say...

"no thanks...... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!"

I think this type of thread really shows up how fragile some peoples egos are that they need a reply regardless!

shows the sycophants too. Yes, people should fucking reply

90% of the messages I get are from men who don't even nearly match what my profile says I am looking for.

They can waste their time messaging me if they want but if they expect me to waste more of my time than it takes to glance at their profile and hit delete on the message, they are dreaming.

when I don't filter everyone out I get pages of messages. A no thanks takes seconds"

But that's your choice...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you need to read the site's FAQ about it not being rude not replying....

and anyway.. just what do you want them to say...

"no thanks...... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!"

I think this type of thread really shows up how fragile some peoples egos are that they need a reply regardless!

shows the sycophants too. Yes, people should fucking reply

90% of the messages I get are from men who don't even nearly match what my profile says I am looking for.

They can waste their time messaging me if they want but if they expect me to waste more of my time than it takes to glance at their profile and hit delete on the message, they are dreaming.

when I don't filter everyone out I get pages of messages. A no thanks takes seconds

But that's your choice... "

because I was brought up with manners and don't think I'm someone special

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Lets be honest if you look after yourself and look good it is easy on this site.. If you pull in normal life you will here! "

Half the problem is that people who can't pull in every day life sign up thinking this site will be full of people like them, gagging to get laid. It is, but only some of the blokes! The women and couples here are usually here for different reasons and a lot of guys don't, or can't, understand that.

When they find it isn't wall-to-wall free fanny begging to be fucked by anyone at all, and they have to make more effort than an out of focus cock photo and "will fill in later" on their profile, they get nasty and start blaming anyone and everyone but themselves.

It's just one of the joys of fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you need to read the site's FAQ about it not being rude not replying....

and anyway.. just what do you want them to say...

"no thanks...... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!"

I think this type of thread really shows up how fragile some peoples egos are that they need a reply regardless!

shows the sycophants too. Yes, people should fucking reply

90% of the messages I get are from men who don't even nearly match what my profile says I am looking for.

They can waste their time messaging me if they want but if they expect me to waste more of my time than it takes to glance at their profile and hit delete on the message, they are dreaming.

when I don't filter everyone out I get pages of messages. A no thanks takes seconds

But that's your choice...

because I was brought up with manners and don't think I'm someone special "

So is the only criteria for judging good manners replying to messages?

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By *heshsteve1972Man over a year ago

Prestbury

I send messages occasionally and sometimes dont get a reply. I dont think they are ignorant, I just accept they are not interested in me or my message didnt interest them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you need to read the site's FAQ about it not being rude not replying....

and anyway.. just what do you want them to say...

"no thanks...... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!"

I think this type of thread really shows up how fragile some peoples egos are that they need a reply regardless!

shows the sycophants too. Yes, people should fucking reply

90% of the messages I get are from men who don't even nearly match what my profile says I am looking for.

They can waste their time messaging me if they want but if they expect me to waste more of my time than it takes to glance at their profile and hit delete on the message, they are dreaming.

when I don't filter everyone out I get pages of messages. A no thanks takes seconds

But that's your choice...

because I was brought up with manners and don't think I'm someone special

So is the only criteria for judging good manners replying to messages?

of course not

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think you need to read the site's FAQ about it not being rude not replying....

and anyway.. just what do you want them to say...

"no thanks...... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!"

I think this type of thread really shows up how fragile some peoples egos are that they need a reply regardless!

shows the sycophants too. Yes, people should fucking reply

90% of the messages I get are from men who don't even nearly match what my profile says I am looking for.

They can waste their time messaging me if they want but if they expect me to waste more of my time than it takes to glance at their profile and hit delete on the message, they are dreaming.

when I don't filter everyone out I get pages of messages. A no thanks takes seconds"

They are my seconds though. And they add up. A handful per day might be ok. But I don't get a handful.

I won't my time on people who have already been told, by way of my profile, that I don't want to hear from them.

And no, before anybody starts, I won't block all men. That's like nailing your letter box up to prevent junk mail.

Unsolicited mail goes in the bin at home and it goes in the bin here. Anything from anyone far outside what my profile describes is unsolicited.

It would be manners for those people not to bother people who clearly don't want to hear from them.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I won't waste* my time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you need to read the site's FAQ about it not being rude not replying....

and anyway.. just what do you want them to say...

"no thanks...... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!"

I think this type of thread really shows up how fragile some peoples egos are that they need a reply regardless!

shows the sycophants too. Yes, people should fucking reply

90% of the messages I get are from men who don't even nearly match what my profile says I am looking for.

They can waste their time messaging me if they want but if they expect me to waste more of my time than it takes to glance at their profile and hit delete on the message, they are dreaming.

when I don't filter everyone out I get pages of messages. A no thanks takes seconds

But that's your choice...

because I was brought up with manners and don't think I'm someone special

So is the only criteria for judging good manners replying to messages?

of course not "

So why are you saying people who don't reply lack manners?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lets be honest if you look after yourself and look good it is easy on this site.. If you pull in normal life you will here! "

Not quite as simple as that in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you need to read the site's FAQ about it not being rude not replying....

and anyway.. just what do you want them to say...

"no thanks...... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!"

I think this type of thread really shows up how fragile some peoples egos are that they need a reply regardless!

shows the sycophants too. Yes, people should fucking reply

90% of the messages I get are from men who don't even nearly match what my profile says I am looking for.

They can waste their time messaging me if they want but if they expect me to waste more of my time than it takes to glance at their profile and hit delete on the message, they are dreaming.

when I don't filter everyone out I get pages of messages. A no thanks takes seconds

But that's your choice...

because I was brought up with manners and don't think I'm someone special

So is the only criteria for judging good manners replying to messages?

of course not

So why are you saying people who don't reply lack manners?"

because that's my opinion

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By *awty nigelMan over a year ago

stretford,Manchester

You talk alot of common sense but I do sense alot of anger!!? No?

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By *orn_To_PerformCouple over a year ago

Lincoln

"I will always answer even if it's no thanks with some exceptions the main reason I do not reply is when the writer has clearly not read my profile which sadly happens quite often"

This is the main reason for a lack of reply here. Profile says not looking for single men and you still get messages everyday. If people can't be bothered to read the profile and send a copy and paste....

Also while the op seems nice, there have been plenty of times we've messaged with a no thanks and either got a rude response or won't take no for an answer. Nothing is personal - we're all strangers afterall

MrsB

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In fairness, this is a big thing for those who do put effort into messages and ignored, I've come to terms with it now.

Admittedly women must get inundated with messages and it probably is almost impossible to reply, but sometimes even a no thank you is nice.

Especially so when you read the profile, and just scrutinise simply to make an attempt at conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lets be honest if you look after yourself and look good it is easy on this site.. If you pull in normal life you will here! "

There are some really good looking idiots on here too. Takes more than good looks to cut it for us.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"In fairness, this is a big thing for those who do put effort into messages and ignored, I've come to terms with it now.

Admittedly women must get inundated with messages and it probably is almost impossible to reply, but sometimes even a no thank you is nice.

Especially so when you read the profile, and just scrutinise simply to make an attempt at conversation."

If men fit what I am looking for, or are close, and make an effort to refer to something in my profile then I'd always reply.

I think sometimes how men interpret what I put in my profile must differ from how I read it though. I mean, when I get messages from 5' 6" smokers who describe themselves as "ample" then I would think it should be clear that it's going to be a no thanks. The no thanks is in the profile I took the time to write!

Some women and couples really do get 100+ messages a day though, and since it's not possible to scroll through pages of the mailbox, it's a nightmare trying to just keep up. Messages from people you do want to message get buried out of reach.

If the entire mailbox were accessible rather than just the newest page it would help.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Lets be honest if you look after yourself and look good it is easy on this site.. If you pull in normal life you will here!

There are some really good looking idiots on here too. Takes more than good looks to cut it for us.

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By *RYBBWCouple over a year ago

Leeds.

The arrogant sense of entitlement displayed in this post is exactly why some people "bang on about single guys"...

arrogant or assuming people on here have manners? I personally find couples arrogant and assuming "

As are some women...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The arrogant sense of entitlement displayed in this post is exactly why some people "bang on about single guys"...

arrogant or assuming people on here have manners? I personally find couples arrogant and assuming

As are some women..."

I don't doubt that

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By *aucy3Couple over a year ago

glasgow

No reply,

is a bit like calling the wrong number.

Don't be offended,but they are not who you are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No reply,

is a bit like calling the wrong number.

Don't be offended,but they are not who you are looking for.

whats ur wifes number again...she asked I call her in a mail she deleted before u could see...shhhh...honest...no joke...she wants me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would counter the OP by asking, why are there so many rude ignorant men on here ?

We get loads of messages from guys who don't fit what our profile says we are looking for. So annoying when we want to meet having to trawl through the straight guys who won't meet smokers and people over 50 and live 3 hours away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would counter the OP by asking, why are there so many rude ignorant men on here ?

I'm ur perfect match, I smoke, like sex and i love bi-sexual play

can I delete the slight lie just cos I want in Mrs pants

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would counter the OP by asking, why are there so many rude ignorant men on here ?

I'm ur perfect match, I smoke, like sex and i love bi-sexual play

can I delete the slight lie just cos I want in Mrs pants

Pinocchio

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

People moan about no replies all the time.. but clearly most dont read the profiles and take note of the words written.

I tend to ignore anyone with a cock avatar I look at the profile and all I see is cock and bum.. would just delete without a thought.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

bloody hell it's all gone jeremy kyle on here......

when i first joined the site i'd get indignant about no replys then i ended up seeing a lass off here and saw the sheer volume of stuff she'd get and realised what a pain in the arse it would be to reply to it all.....not a problem us fellas have so maybe we just dont see it ya know?

please regard that these people your messageing have lives beyond fab.....families, jobs and children etc etc so it just isn't feasable sitting for hours formlating polite replys to every single guy within seven million miles....just accept they're not into you and get on with it is all really....chill fella =)

everyone needs to chill and stop arguing on this thread...its a swinging site where we're supposed to be freindly not bitching like jeremy kyle stars at each other about who should and shouldnt reply to who.....

relax and accept your not for everyone =)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would counter the OP by asking, why are there so many rude ignorant men on here ?

I'm ur perfect match, I smoke, like sex and i love bi-sexual play

can I delete the slight lie just cos I want in Mrs pants

Pinocchio

she does get me a little woody

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People moan about no replies all the time.. but clearly most dont read the profiles and take note of the words written.

I tend to ignore anyone with a cock avatar I look at the profile and all I see is cock and bum.. would just delete without a thought."

sent u pics of my cock and arse...i have a face tattoo on both

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's awfully windy outside

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's awfully windy outside

even nicer ur fanny flaps in the wind...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We'll always reply to a polite & friendly mail that has some thought put into it & is specific to us - but never to a generic spam mail 'you ok' or 'what you up to'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We'll always reply to a polite & friendly mail that has some thought put into it & is specific to us - but never to a generic spam mail 'you ok' or 'what you up to'"

I think (insert name) is very gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We reply to some and others we don't bother. That's our choice.

Quite often it's not the first time they've sent a message but in a week we'll have forgotten that we said no and we'll have decided to meet a faceless cock pic who smokes!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I will always answer even if it's no thanks with some exceptions the main reason I do not reply is when the writer has clearly not read my profile which sadly happens quite often"
our profile is clear as can be still get messages off single guys who don't fit sometimes abusive because of our preferance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having a bad Friday night are we?

Life sucks, deal with it. No one has to reply to you. Check the site rules."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the single men concentrated more on selling themselves and stopped whingeing so much I m sure the site would be better !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I never take offence to not getting a reply. I know I'm not gods gift or to everyone's taste. I tend to send mail to those who seem to be looking for something similar. But I know how much mail gets sent to ladies and couples so its easy to get overlooked or Ijust ddon't take their fancy. Happy swinging to them I say

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By *ustcutieWoman over a year ago

edinburgh

If I get a "hi" or " how's you ?" Message from someone who I'm not interested in how can I reply no thanks when they haven't asked to meet? If I answer back it's like an invitation to start a conversation...... Can't win so I don't bother

Surely it would be worse to drag it on before I say no

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I will always answer even if it's no thanks with some exceptions the main reason I do not reply is when the writer has clearly not read my profile which sadly happens quite often"

This, also some single females dont get inundated with messages so have the time to reply lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I get a "hi" or " how's you ?" Message from someone who I'm not interested in how can I reply no thanks when they haven't asked to meet? If I answer back it's like an invitation to start a conversation...... Can't win so I don't bother

Surely it would be worse to drag it on before I say no

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get about 200 messages a day not just from guys but women and TVs just wanting girlie chat , couples asking about club reviews etc plus of course guys. Ive always without exception found if you reply ' no thanks ' all the guy sees is a message back and jumps back and says something else like ... Can you tell me why ? ..... Once it took me 8 hours solid just to clear my inbox after a busy weekend - as I try and do it as I go along. I replies to those I want to chat with - answer any club queries etc and just dont reply to ones im not interested in. I dont block anyone unless they are rude or pester me xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's very surprising that so many people want rejection written out in black and white.

Why do they really need that mail saying no?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's very surprising that so many people want rejection written out in black and white.

Why do they really need that mail saying no?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my profile is long enough so when I say London Scotland wales is too far away why should I respond to messages from them ....but anyone nearer to me Im polite and do reply even if its to say sorry but not what im looking for thank you ....costs nothing to be civil

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's very surprising that so many people want rejection written out in black and white.

Why do they really need that mail saying no?"

I can never understand that either. I'm never rude when I reply but sometimes I am tempted to ask why they think Id be interested if they're the opposite to what it says Im looking for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just had a Message from a Couple asking if WE would like a Threesome with them, How do you reply to people that cant even count to Four ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's awfully windy outside

even nicer ur fanny flaps in the wind..."
nice change of subject ....followed by usual funny bugger reply lol...must admit I did laugh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's awfully windy outside

even nicer ur fanny flaps in the wind...nice change of subject ....followed by usual funny bugger reply lol...must admit I did laugh

Paddy is a bugger

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

It may help you to read the FAQs which explains this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are a lot of rude and ignorant people on here, but that has nothing to do with them not replying to messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've decided to systematically block every one who starts a thread about no reply to messages then they won't have to deal with the obvious trauma of us not replying...

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By *riendly foeWoman over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Ignorance is bliss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it costs nothing to reply to a message then it costs nothing to send a message. In which case why are you making a fuss?

If, however, as you also suggest, it is "truble" to write messages then maybe it's also "truble" to write replies.

Maybe you should stop thinking you have a right to make any demands on a stranger's time and get over yourself. "

Hear hear! And I noticed the "truble" too lol! Guys, taking the TROUBLE to spell correctly gives you a much better chance! With me anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A lot of bitterness on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just had a Message from a Couple asking if WE would like a Threesome with them, How do you reply to people that cant even count to Four ?

Lol!

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By *lassyandadventurousMan over a year ago

England and Wales

I dont get bothered by people not replying for two reasons.

One is they dont have to reply either to abide by the fab rules or morally.

Secondly i have enough confidence to bounce back from rejection

Lastly a message to those who get affected by rejection......man up lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've decided to systematically block every one who starts a thread about no reply to messages then they won't have to deal with the obvious trauma of us not replying..."

That's not a bad idea hehehe!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A non-reply IS a polite way of stating sorry but no thank you. If someone messages that then the ego often wants to know why. Do you really want to know you're too fat/thin, tall/short, too ugly blah-di-blah-di-blah. Save your damn inflated ego from being bruised and accept the non-response as "many thanks but no"!

YOU alter your mindset and you will be far happier here.

AND it is still windy

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

None of us are entitled to messages, replies, or even meets on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

do you know those leaflets that get dropped through your letterbox..?

do you take the time to contact them and say no thanks..?

a reply is not obligatory..The leaflets dropped of usually are trying to relieve you of money for a service you never advertised for ! what a strange comment

We get messages everyday from guys offering services that we state very clearly we're NOT looking for , I thought it was a pretty good analogy myself lol

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By *oisisbackCouple over a year ago

exeter

Logged in one day to find 62 messages some were multiple messages from the same guys ! now if i were to answer every single message even with a no thanks to meeting it would have taken ages to do.

Then when you do take the time to reply with a no thanks the person then ends up sending more mail asking "why not?" or even becomes absusive ending in being blocked anyway.

If i send a message and it gets deleted i just add a note to that profile saying when i mailed got no reply and wont bother mailing again in the future easy peasy xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Logged in one day to find 62 messages some were multiple messages from the same guys ! now if i were to answer every single message even with a no thanks to meeting it would have taken ages to do.

Then when you do take the time to reply with a no thanks the person then ends up sending more mail asking "why not?" or even becomes absusive ending in being blocked anyway.

If i send a message and it gets deleted i just add a note to that profile saying when i mailed got no reply and wont bother mailing again in the future easy peasy xx "

Exactly this .

It's only desperate people who get upset at not getting replies .

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By *tirling DarkCouple over a year ago

Stirling

We wish that before starting a new thread on this subject people would take the time to check previous posts on this topic.

Done to death springs to mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We wish that before starting a new thread on this subject people would take the time to check previous posts on this topic.

Done to death springs to mind."

They don't even need to do that as the sites FAQs answers it for you. Yet people will still debate it.

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By *j_markCouple over a year ago
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Totteridge/Whetstone

You'll enjoy the site a lot more if you just take no reply as "not interested, thank you"

Admin x

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