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cold light of day......rejection.
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By *isser36 OP Man
over a year ago
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So following on from my last post..have you ever been the one sent on your way? I imagen it happens to plenty of guys, but have you women ever been rejected? Its a tuff one to admit to i know.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So following on from my last post..have you ever been the one sent on your way? I imagen it happens to plenty of guys, but have you women ever been rejected? Its a tuff one to admit to i know. "
of course! but i know that just as everyone isn't my cup of tea... I'm not everyone's. i don't take it personally or read anything into it. i just continue in my search and find someone with whom there is mutual compatibility. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I've been told no thanks, just as some men aren't my type, I'm not theirs either and its cool. Main difference is i move on, but alot of men continuously pester for reasons why and try to change my mind.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, on a meet. That and a few other incidents totally floored my confidence and I left Fab for a few months. "
Yes I know what you mean legs it does knock your confidence |
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I was years ago when I first started out, I agreed to meet a young guy who had chatted to me for weeks and I finally agreed to meet, unfortunately I think the reality of the situation got to much for him as on the drive to my home he asked me to pull over as he couldn't go through with it he said, I said fine and let him out the car miles from where he lived, hope he got home ok 
One of the reasons I won't meet young men  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I upped my lower age range after my meet too. We've spoken since and all ok but it was bad timing and other issues outside Fab didnt help my confidence or my mojo either. Not met anyone since coming back but the break was nice and Im quite happy chatting and lurking the Forums with the occasional post.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I upped my lower age range after my meet too. We've spoken since and all ok but it was bad timing and other issues outside Fab didnt help my confidence or my mojo either. Not met anyone since coming back but the break was nice and Im quite happy chatting and lurking the Forums with the occasional post. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How could anyone reject me??? 
seriously though, there isn't one person that has never suffered some sort of rejection. It's part of life. How we deal with that rejection is the important thing. On here I've approached guys and been rejected. it's not the end of the world. |
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"How could anyone reject me???
seriously though, there isn't one person that has never suffered some sort of rejection. It's part of life. How we deal with that rejection is the important thing. On here I've approached guys and been rejected. it's not the end of the world. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I upped my lower age range after my meet too. We've spoken since and all ok but it was bad timing and other issues outside Fab didnt help my confidence or my mojo either. Not met anyone since coming back but the break was nice and Im quite happy chatting and lurking the Forums with the occasional post.
It's nice to see you back "
Aw Thank you huni |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I upped my lower age range after my meet too. We've spoken since and all ok but it was bad timing and other issues outside Fab didnt help my confidence or my mojo either. Not met anyone since coming back but the break was nice and Im quite happy chatting and lurking the Forums with the occasional post.
It's nice to see you back
Aw Thank you huni "
Your welcome huni x |
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Rejection is always a blow in whichever form it takes, for me was a time we had been chatting online with couple for ages and they wanted to cam, I said sure but I like to make a bit of an effort nice sexy clothes do my hair bit of lippy etc, explained I was full of cold in my pjs they said its fine just to prove you are genuine couple, you know what comes next....put cam on 10 secs later they said ARGHHHHHHHHH NO THANKS at the time was gutted but cold light of day....their loss shallow buggers haha NEXT................. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep...no big deal...moved on...it's casual sex with strangers...not really important in the grand scheme of things...if you're not robust enough to be turned down then I'd say you're not emotionally in the right place to be here... |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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Yes, of course. I've been told no thanks on here and had messages deleted with no reply. I've also had social meets and dates, from here and other places, that have resulted in my being told I'm not their type.
It wasn't to be. It's no big deal. Some people seem to think a rejection is a personal slight. I don't understand that because it seems common sense to me that not everyone will find someone else attractive. There's nothing necessarily "wrong" with the people I decline, they just aren't for me. It therefore follows that when I am rejected it isn't a personal thing.
I'm a fat, opinionated, stubborn, "mature" (ahem!) lady so I'd be amazed if I didn't get turned down sometimes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Recently been told, via a lovely message, that a guy I saw a year ago didn't fancy me when he saw me again recently.
Oh dear! and I've changed sooooo much! lol
still friends though, honesty is definitely the best policy x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a bloke on here you have to be able to handle rejection.
Whenever a member is nice enough to reply with a "no thanks" I always thank them for the reply and wish them well
Any bloke who replies to rejection with abuse is not emotionally mature enough to be on a swinging site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In person , no .
But like most , we have had messages deleted , and had straightforward no thanks on occasion .
We do just the same , so it's really not an issue , mov on to the next one llol! |
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As I have my filters on, I prefer to message men and I must admit I often get messages ignored or told no thanks. Pretty used to it, doesn't bother me at all as I am aware I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I just move on to the next profile x |
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I've had a few testing the waters meets that have come to nothing. In most if not all cases, while as a bloke I would probably not have fought them off, I think I'd not deny the mutual attraction was pretty much absent.
I did once travel quite a distance to meet a couple, only to find that I wasn't wanted after all.
A few weeks later they got in touch again and said they'd had second thoughts and it was the start of a very fun friendship. |
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