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Do you have a disability on here?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

And if so is it mentioned on your profile?

The reason I ask this as I do and I mention it, but know not everyone does. Now I know from reading past posts as to whether that would make a difference to meeting them the majority seemed to say it wouldn't. So do you think it should be?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

either on the profile or mentioned early on in any communication is probably the best idea.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Mine is mentioned on the profile. Just like to be straight up and honest before it got to the phone call stage. But if I tried that way and it went all quiet, then I would know the reason why it did.

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By *asandmeCouple over a year ago

camden town

I don't but my wife does. She has MS and it has lost us quite a few meets and actually, a few nasty messages.

Not gonna let it get to us though

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've not, but I feel that it is something that should either be on the profile or mentioned sooner rather than later. I don't believe it would put me off meeting someone, but it is something that I would take into material consideration when organising a meet. If someone isn't great on their feet, then I'd not suggest a clubbing night in Leeds or at BNO, ditto if they have a problem with lights. I'd try to work a meet round what would work best for all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And if so is it mentioned on your profile?

Shouldn't make a difference and to those that it does, then they have a much greater disability.

Was wondering if you could help me out though? x

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By *riendly foeWoman over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Think people should mention it on profile.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my face is my disability nowt i can do about that really

being serious i would mention it in my profile. That way it wont be a issue with ppl that message you...unless they dont read your profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't. Nowt to do with them. If it comes up then I'll be honest. Only those who are genuine will look past it. At the end of the day, it's down to you if you post it or not. Makes no difference to me. A disability does not mean we cannot have sexy fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't but I'd prefer to know. As Tina said it would affect what I might suggest for a meet.

I hope you don't feel bad if someone doesn't want to meet you because of it. Any little thing can put people off. A guy once used the word 'boobies' in a mail- instant turn off. I don't mean that to sound flippant or uncaring. Just trying to show that anything can change someone's mind about a meet. You might think it's that but it maybe something else they don't like.

As usual I am digging myself into a hole! I know what I mean, hope you do too. xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have epilepsy, though it is classed as a disability i don't class myself as having a disability, simply because I lead a normal life and besides not being allowed a drivers licence it does not affect me one bit, i have the accessional fit but that's it, i don't tell people i meet because it wont affect them so i don't feel they need to know

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By *r_and_MrsxxCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

Wheelchair user here, mentioned in our profile ...... Best to be open and honest from the start we thought when we put our profile together...... No shortage of winks, messages and meets ..... Doesn't seem to put alot of folk off us tbh ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wheelchairs, epileptic, deaf, blind, missing limbs, who cares. As long as it grows or gets wet then that all that matters!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't. Nowt to do with them. If it comes up then I'll be honest. Only those who are genuine will look past it. At the end of the day, it's down to you if you post it or not. Makes no difference to me. A disability does not mean we cannot have sexy fun. "

I think that is a terrible comment to make, "only those who are genuine will look past it".

That's just like me saying "those who are genuine will meet me." Nothing to do with the fact that they are or are not attracted to me. It's all about attraction when it comes to meeting someone, if you're not attracted to them then it just isn't going to work. If it is a noticeable disability that would be noticed upon meeting even of it isn't mentioned then it is only fair that it is mentioned in advance in the early stages of the conversation. Otherwise both parties are being put in an unnecessary awkward social situation.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

If my discability likely involved major changes to someones expected fun, then Id mention it. Otherwise, it is about getting to know each other and things dont have to have a set pattern. Many disabilities are invisible and dont have to be anyones business.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't. Nowt to do with them. If it comes up then I'll be honest. "

The way this reads to me, is that you're hiding something.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i have dyspraxia so i always mention it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wheelchairs, epileptic, deaf, blind, missing limbs, who cares. As long as it grows or gets wet then that all that matters!

that's not all that matters....it matters about whether you're attracted to them too...

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By *rumCoupleCouple over a year ago

birmingham

Our profile is honest ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't but my wife does. She has MS and it has lost us quite a few meets and actually, a few nasty messages.

Not gonna let it get to us though"

Wow, I can understand people not wanting to meet for whatever reason, that is their choice, but nasty messages what the fuck is that all about? Staggering!

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By *icolerobbieCouple over a year ago

walsall

"I don't but my wife does. She has MS and it has lost us quite a few meets and actually, a few nasty messages.

Not gonna let it get to us though"

That is unbelievable......why would someone do that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think its best to put it in your profile. It might hurt a bit the thought that you are loosing out on meets because of it but at the end of the day whats not for you is not good for you either. It hurts more when you dont mention it in your profile than as soon you do in your conversation people go quiet on you.

I had the same experience, not with a physical disability but the fact that I am a foreigner and that English is not my first language. Since I put it in my profile I get much less interest but I know those who are interested have no issues with it and it avoids the hard feelings I get each time I am rejected because of it. Upfront honesty is the right way to go in my opinion.

Personally if I am attracted to tgat person then it wont bother me if they have a disability as long as we both can have fun and make each other smile and enjoy our time together. However as Tina has put it its necessary to know in advance.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

Honest on my profile, but luckily I've only had grief for being fat! Maybe its because I don't look like I have any disabilities, as 3 of them are invisible. Can't hide the wheelchair or walking stick though. In small clubs, I'm able to potter around, but need to be sat down most of the evening!

Would I meet someone else with a disability? That depends if I click with the person and found them attractive. I wouldn't give or ever expect to receive a sympathy shag.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"And if so is it mentioned on your profile?

Shouldn't make a difference and to those that it does, then they have a much greater disability.

Was wondering if you could help me out though? x"

Really?!!

If I'm meeting sub men to hang from hooks and/or the brackets in my first floor bedroom *I'd* be lacking somehow in not wanting to meet someone with mobility issues or arthritis in their upper limbs?!!

Right! Gotcha!

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By *awty bi coupleCouple over a year ago

Wet Walsall

Same here, I (S) have MS but don't publicise it on our profile coz it's my business. If someone suggests a meet that I don't think I can manage then I'll say so, otherwise it shouldn't make any difference whether I tell people or not.

Do you put it on your profile of you've got acne, piles, thrust, a boil on your bum, etc?

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By *awty bi coupleCouple over a year ago

Wet Walsall

That should have said thrush, but thrust sounds good to me .. lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At the end of the day, I think it's down to the person whether they want to put down their disability on here. Each to their own I say. Is happily meet someone in a wheelchair, with sticks, anything cos the social aspect is just as fun. I've had hundreds of apologises when I say I can't do certain things cos of my disability (hate that word!) but I don't want apologises. Look past it, see the person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being honest is always the best way~in the end this is all down to attraction.

We met a guy once, who said he had a scar on his face, no problem we thought. Hadn't seen a picture but went to meet him. Half his face was missing, I think the shock took away any attraction that may have been there.if we had been forewarned things may have been different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being honest is always the best way~in the end this is all down to attraction.

In cases like that I totally understand. Honesty is best. However mind is not like that, mine is hidden yet funny enough if peeps know they go funny!! So sometimes I wait till I've either chatted for a while or on a meet and they can see that I am not strange! Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

As my disability is very much apparent then I feel I should mention it on my profile, as I prefer and expect others to be honest as well. But at the end of the day it is their choice as it depends also on how that might affect a potential meet. I would want to be made aware of as well.

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By *uby0000Woman over a year ago

hertfordshire

I do think it best to be honest from the beginning on your profile and they wouldn't be nice people if that was their reason for not mailing so I wouldn't want to meet them anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would always mention prior to a meet if I had a disability.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am partially sighted I don't mention it on my profile as it makes no difference to me

I do mention it just as we are meeting as I can't see them so tell them to look out for me

I also have epilepsy

But only people close to me or over night things I tell people

I also broke my pelvis so can not get in certain positions but that's not mentioned either lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

dont mention it, but when we send face pics, its easy to see, so its there choice then.

saying that, its the face i was born with so nothing i can do

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By *edangel_2013Woman over a year ago

southend

I have epilepsy, but I don't mention it on my profile. I don't see it as a disability either, although some do.

I usually know if I'm going to have a seizure, I'll mention it then, but otherwise I don't bother.

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By *uby0000Woman over a year ago

hertfordshire

i met a deaf man once didn't think it would make a difference but of course it did as I had to make sure he could lip read and I couldn't understand what he was saying

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have no doubt that some will not get in touch because I have to use a stick to walk around with due to my osteoarthritis in my right hip. Bone has worn away and I have lost height in my right leg and some bedroom positions are not an option any more. But if you pass me by because of this then that's there choice.

Not sure I could leave it until the phone chat and get the awkward silence the other end.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i met a deaf man once didn't think it would make a difference but of course it did as I had to make sure he could lip read and I couldn't understand what he was saying "

That wasn't me was it?! Lol. No, each to their own. I almost met a girl that said she could only do 2 positions comfortably. Didn't bother me, after all, fun is fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"i met a deaf man once didn't think it would make a difference but of course it did as I had to make sure he could lip read and I couldn't understand what he was saying

That wasn't me was it?! Lol. No, each to their own. I almost met a girl that said she could only do 2 positions comfortably. Didn't bother me, after all, fun is fun.

Almost met.. what happened?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have epilepsy, but I don't mention it on my profile. I don't see it as a disability either, although some do.

I usually know if I'm going to have a seizure, I'll mention it then, but otherwise I don't bother. "

I met a guy once we got a hotel together, I felt a seizure coming on so I went to the bathroom, locked the door and then came out when it had finished, he didn't have a clue, I didn't tell him, we carried on as normal, its only a disability is you allow it to become one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have epilepsy, but I don't mention it on my profile. I don't see it as a disability either, although some do.

I usually know if I'm going to have a seizure, I'll mention it then, but otherwise I don't bother.

Haha you're a weirdo

. What if you needed help and the door was locked?! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have epilepsy, but I don't mention it on my profile. I don't see it as a disability either, although some do.

I usually know if I'm going to have a seizure, I'll mention it then, but otherwise I don't bother.

Haha you're a weirdo

. What if you needed help and the door was locked?! X"

shit happens

it's never happened so far, there's not really any reason why i would need help, i have lived with it all my life and i have learned the best way to deal with it in different situations, i have on occasion had misfortunes i once cut my head open as i didn't get to the ground quick enough so hit my head on the way down, i also fell once and as i was out my face was against the hot water pipes and i burnt my face quite badly, but luckly both times i was at home alone so no one saw it happens, the trick is to lay down quick before you go and fall, they was both many years ago now thought, you learn to deal with it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have epilepsy, but I don't mention it on my profile. I don't see it as a disability either, although some do.

I usually know if I'm going to have a seizure, I'll mention it then, but otherwise I don't bother.

Haha you're a weirdo

. What if you needed help and the door was locked?! X

shit happens

Think everyone knows now!! Lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have epilepsy, but I don't mention it on my profile. I don't see it as a disability either, although some do.

I usually know if I'm going to have a seizure, I'll mention it then, but otherwise I don't bother.

Haha you're a weirdo

. What if you needed help and the door was locked?! X

shit happens

Think everyone knows now!! Lol x

bugger, well I may as well just leave the site now

i'm sure there are plenty of guys who don't use the forums and who haven't read this who will still message me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have epilepsy, but I don't mention it on my profile. I don't see it as a disability either, although some do.

I usually know if I'm going to have a seizure, I'll mention it then, but otherwise I don't bother.

Haha you're a weirdo

. What if you needed help and the door was locked?! X

shit happens

Think everyone knows now!! Lol x

bugger, well I may as well just leave the site now

i'm sure there are plenty of guys who don't use the forums and who haven't read this who will still message me

Maybe! I'd message ya, despite your tendency to disappear! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I believe honesty is the best policy, I personally would not let a disability get in the way of meeting someone.

The other person is the heart of the attraction not the disability, some beauty things need to be understood and worked with. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I would like to be made aware as well before meeting, but this hasn't always been the case.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have rheumatoid arthritis, in my hips and I'm totally honest about it as I'd hate to waste my time on someone not willing to see past my disability

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met a guy in a wheelchair and had a lovely time and will be meeting him again. He told me in his first message and there is a pic on his profile. It was then up to me to decide. Had he not mentioned it - it may well have been rather difficult at the beginning as it would inevitably have led to a bit of awkwardness - probs from me trying to pretend I hasnt noticed etc.

OP - your profile reads honest and genuine and you sound lovely. My mum has arthiritis since she was 16 so I feel for you xx all the best xx

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By *sian SwingerMan over a year ago

stoke

Honesty is the best policy but not everyone does

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By *lf and ElfetteCouple over a year ago

Goole

As someone who has been involved with a couple of disability groups, I can honestly say I would not have a problem with meeting someone who has any form of a disability but would like to know either on profile or in first message so I could discuss any requirements they may have if any lol

Eg, difficulties with stairs or variety of positions or wheelchair access

Op good for you for not letting your health condition control your life like some folks do

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By *lactontogMan over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

I have Temporal lope epilepsy which only effects me a few times a year & i pass out for a few seconds, luckily its never happened while swinging or on film shoots.

I have always found if someone is to shallow to overlook a persons disability they are not worth meeting anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As someone who has been involved with a couple of disability groups, I can honestly say I would not have a problem with meeting someone who has any form of a disability but would like to know either on profile or in first message so I could discuss any requirements they may have if any lol

Eg, difficulties with stairs or variety of positions or wheelchair access

Op good for you for not letting your health condition control your life like some folks do "

Thank you for the support and comments.

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

So, let's see if I've got this right: it's ok to express a preference for men with big cocks; it's ok to express a preference for BBWs; it's ok to express a preference for someone with, or without, a particular skin colour but if you prefer not to meet someone who's condition seriously curtails the sexual activity you can participate in you're suddenly a terrible human being?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, let's see if I've got this right: it's ok to express a preference for men with big cocks; it's ok to express a preference for BBWs; it's ok to express a preference for someone with, or without, a particular skin colour but if you prefer not to meet someone who's condition seriously curtails the sexual activity you can participate in you're suddenly a terrible human being?"

Apparently so!

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

Apparently so!"

Thanks for clearing that up for me, Scarlet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And if so is it mentioned on your profile?

I do have a mobility problem which i tell anyone i chat to or meet.being Truthful is always better

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