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So I hear alot on here how writing fun detailed message with jokes, wit etc are the ones that women are more likely to reply to.
Personally Im not sure how true this really is. Since I started I've been writing detailed and specially tailored messages to every woman I contacted without much luck. Now in the last few days Ive decided to just go simple and say the basic "Hi how are you? My name is ..... what is yours?"
Now from this Ive had the same if not more success.
So Ive come to the conclusion that unless you write the perfect message women have most likely made up their mind about you from your profile and no special message is ever going to change her opinion.
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"So I hear alot on here how writing fun detailed message with jokes, wit etc are the ones that women are more likely to reply to.
Personally Im not sure how true this really is. Since I started I've been writing detailed and specially tailored messages to every woman I contacted without much luck. Now in the last few days Ive decided to just go simple and say the basic "Hi how are you? My name is ..... what is yours?"
Now from this Ive had the same if not more success.
So Ive come to the conclusion that unless you write the perfect message women have most likely made up their mind about you from your profile and no special message is ever going to change her opinion.
What say you people of fab?"
I think you are right most of the time. Most of the time I will check out the profile and either like or not like, respond positively or negatively.
But, occasionally a good message will make me consider someone I would not have otherwise considered, or just be the deciding factor. Though maybe it makes less difference if you have a good profile anyway? |
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over a year ago
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Maybe you're not someone's cup of tea, nothing to do with the messages, women get loads a day so it's hard to keep track of, remember, you can't please everyone, talk to women how you would in person |
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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago
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Certainly when a message has decent grammer and spelling we will look further. Also if its polite we will check out the senders profile and if they meet our requirements we go from there. Sometimes we get messages that are simply unintelligible and we take that as an indication of the type of person contacting us, so first impressions do matter. Xx |
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By *spot50Man
over a year ago
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"So I hear alot on here how writing fun detailed message with jokes, wit etc are the ones that women are more likely to reply to.
Personally Im not sure how true this really is. Since I started I've been writing detailed and specially tailored messages to every woman I contacted without much luck. Now in the last few days Ive decided to just go simple and
say the basic "Hi how are you? My name is ..... what is yours?"
Now from this Ive had the same if not more success.
So Ive come to the conclusion that unless you write the perfect message women have most likely made up their mind about you from your profile and no special message is ever going to change her opinion.
What say you people of fab?"
I have had same experiance, read ladies profiles, leave a detailed message if I fit there criteria, and get the same response as of I say hi how's you. |
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I think a brief polite hello with pic attached is the best first contact. As it really doesn't matter what you write, if someone isn't physically attracted to another, it's never going to happen! Just my opinion...  |
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"Maybe you're not someone's cup of tea, nothing to do with the messages, women get loads a day so it's hard to keep track of, remember, you can't please everyone, talk to women how you would in person"
well this is mainly my point. Regardless of message content a woman is going to reply based on what she sees in your pictures or text.
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"So I hear alot on here how writing fun detailed message with jokes, wit etc are the ones that women are more likely to reply to.
Personally Im not sure how true this really is. Since I started I've been writing detailed and specially tailored messages to every woman I contacted without much luck. Now in the last few days Ive decided to just go simple and
say the basic "Hi how are you? My name is ..... what is yours?"
Now from this Ive had the same if not more success.
So Ive come to the conclusion that unless you write the perfect message women have most likely made up their mind about you from your profile and no special message is ever going to change her opinion.
What say you people of fab? I have had same experiance, read ladies profiles, leave a detailed message if I fit there criteria, and get the same response as of I say hi how's you. "
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"I think a brief polite hello with pic attached is the best first contact. As it really doesn't matter what you write, if someone isn't physically attracted to another, it's never going to happen! Just my opinion... "
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"I think a brief polite hello with pic attached is the best first contact. As it really doesn't matter what you write, if someone isn't physically attracted to another, it's never going to happen! Just my opinion... "
Yeah Im pretty sure this is truth for most people. |
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You have to remember that a lot will look at your profile before reading a message to see if you fit their criteria. If you don't then chances are they're not going to bother reading it.
As has already been suggested, a simple introductory message with a few pics attached should do just fine. 
P.S: You have a lovely booty! 
- Amy. x |
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"You have to remember that a lot will look at your profile before reading a message to see if you fit their criteria. If you don't then chances are they're not going to bother reading it.
As has already been suggested, a simple introductory message with a few pics attached should do just fine.
P.S: You have a lovely booty!
- Amy. x"
Yeah it definitely seems that is the best way forward.
And thank you for the compliment.
I'm sure we could compliment each other in many ways. |
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"Maybe you're not someone's cup of tea, nothing to do with the messages, women get loads a day so it's hard to keep track of, remember, you can't please everyone, talk to women how you would in person
well this is mainly my point. Regardless of message content a woman is going to reply based on what she sees in your pictures or text.
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They won't all reply if they don't likeyou, most will block and delete |
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By *spot50Man
over a year ago
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"Maybe you're not someone's cup of tea, nothing to do with the messages, women get loads a day so it's hard to keep track of, remember, you can't please everyone, talk to women how you would in person
well this is mainly my point. Regardless of message content a woman is going to reply based on what she sees in your pictures or text.
I find that is the general rule, ignored or blocked, it'll be so much easier saying no thanks,
They won't all reply if they don't likeyou, most will block and delete"
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By (user no longer on site)
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I actually prefer short to the point messages. I don't want compliment after compliment. If I'm interested in someone a short message is easier to reply to. I don't spend all day on here and feel that if someone had written loads I can't just respond with a short answer and I'll leave the message to reply when I have more time. Sometimes those messages get forgotten about or disappear off the screen before I get round to responding. |
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"I actually prefer short to the point messages. I don't want compliment after compliment. If I'm interested in someone a short message is easier to reply to. I don't spend all day on here and feel that if someone had written loads I can't just respond with a short answer and I'll leave the message to reply when I have more time. Sometimes those messages get forgotten about or disappear off the screen before I get round to responding."
I thought you loved compliments  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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To us, yes it does....
We don't reply to one liners whether they are from a single or a couple.
Don't expect or want an essay just a short message that shows some effort and that they have read our profile.
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"To us, yes it does....
We don't reply to one liners whether they are from a single or a couple.
Don't expect or want an essay just a short message that shows some effort and that they have read our profile.
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Hmm maybe its different for couples. |
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"So I hear alot on here how writing fun detailed message with jokes, wit etc are the ones that women are more likely to reply to.
Personally Im not sure how true this really is. Since I started I've been writing detailed and specially tailored messages to every woman I contacted without much luck. Now in the last few days Ive decided to just go simple and say the basic "Hi how are you? My name is ..... what is yours?"
Now from this Ive had the same if not more success.
So Ive come to the conclusion that unless you write the perfect message women have most likely made up their mind about you from your profile and no special message is ever going to change her opinion.
What say you people of fab?"
Lots of people have said when they get a message before opening it they look at the persons profile. If the profile is not interesting the message gets deleted. If the profile is interesting they read the message. |
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"So I hear alot on here how writing fun detailed message with jokes, wit etc are the ones that women are more likely to reply to.
Personally Im not sure how true this really is. Since I started I've been writing detailed and specially tailored messages to every woman I contacted without much luck. Now in the last few days Ive decided to just go simple and say the basic "Hi how are you? My name is ..... what is yours?"
Now from this Ive had the same if not more success.
So Ive come to the conclusion that unless you write the perfect message women have most likely made up their mind about you from your profile and no special message is ever going to change her opinion.
What say you people of fab?"
Tbh no it doesn't matter, just copy and paste your opening message, as long as it's no to cheesey you should get results  |
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By *nnyMan
over a year ago
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Back in the days of contact mags, it was believed that a 'good' advert wouldn't necessarily improve your chances if your pic was poor but a 'bad' advert could ruin even an excellent pic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe you're not someone's cup of tea, nothing to do with the messages, women get loads a day so it's hard to keep track of, remember, you can't please everyone, talk to women how you would in person
well this is mainly my point. Regardless of message content a woman is going to reply based on what she sees in your pictures or text.
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You're right in that if you're not a woman's type it doesn't matter what you write however i get a lot of messages from guys who LOOK my type but then the message is so disgusting or so poorly written that they're not my type. But i do prefer just a simple message. The amount of messages most single females get, it's best to keep the message short. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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You're right in that if you're not a woman's type it doesn't matter what you write however i get a lot of messages from guys who LOOK my type but then the message is so disgusting or so poorly written that they're not my type. But i do prefer just a simple message. The amount of messages most single females get, it's best to keep the message short."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This .... depends on whether the writer is what I'm looking for or not - profile write up matters a lot as do pics, so if those are attention grabbing then a nice, well written message should follow... |
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"This .... depends on whether the writer is what I'm looking for or not - profile write up matters a lot as do pics, so if those are attention grabbing then a nice, well written message should follow..."
Ah. Wish I could message you to test this theory. Just out of age range. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We'd prefer to see something beyond......'hi, how are you?' in a message. We don't expect War and Peace for an introduction but if you wanna be getting us between the sheets then there has to be something of substance. Tell us something about you or make us smile. |
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"We'd prefer to see something beyond......'hi, how are you?' in a message. We don't expect War and Peace for an introduction but if you wanna be getting us between the sheets then there has to be something of substance. Tell us something about you or make us smile. "
Hmm good advice. I always not sure what details to put in it though. Since my profile already has everything that needs to be said about me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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for me it's not lengthy responses that matter but demonstrating that you have a) reasonable manners, b) 2 brain cells that connect and c) read the profile which i took the time to write.
if a message catches my attention i will then look at the profile and politely respond either in the affirmative or the negative. one line, poorly thought out, phone sex/ cam sex invites, ones which come across as cut and paste bulk send, or ones which clearly haven't read my profile are ignored. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hmm good advice. I always not sure what details to put in it though. Since my profile already has everything that needs to be said about me."
perhaps something you find in their profile which you have in common? something that says 'why' you think you fit the criteria they are looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree.i've written hundreds of messages(seems like that anyway)to women and gotten nowhere in the year since joining.I started with giving details and chat in the first few months but as the rejections have piled up the messages have gotten shorter.I always put my photo on as its not on my profile.do girls look at photos on messages sent to them or just go straight to profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think a brief polite hello with pic attached is the best first contact. As it really doesn't matter what you write, if someone isn't physically attracted to another, it's never going to happen! Just my opinion... "
agree!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree to all of the above. Ive seen it from both points of view. As a guy ive found that saying hello with a pic garners a reaponse if there is interest. Obviously write with politeness and grammar!!
I do however still receive very few replies but that's the world we live in.
I had a couple profile for a while and couldnt believe the number of poorly written, pictureless and quite desperate sounding messages we would get. Out of about 100 candidates around 4 were suitable. To be fair though one or two of those had gone to a bit of effort and enclosed a few pics which I would think helps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interestingly unsolicited messages of various kinds are the least successful method I have used for engaging ladies in conversations that may lead to meeting. Interaction on the forum and previously in the chatrooms is significantly more effective. |
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but in a first message it's a bit ott!
