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Selecting a Single guy for a 3some?
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Out of curiosity...how do you make the selection of a single guy to make up your MMF 3some?
Do you both choose him ?,hubby choose?or is it whoever takes an interest in you? .Whats important?.looks?.cock size ?age? Do you insist he's single or unattached ?or has it turned out to be a friend you've added to your equation?
Some like different guys regularly,others like myself would prefer just one regular guy...(more chance of finding Rocking horse Poo!!  ..lol)...
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over a year ago
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We gave up on here, just use to meet couples.
Get a single guy at the pub, you will be surprised how many are interested and it's quicker and easier than here , and the bonus is they already turned up lol |
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over a year ago
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"Out of curiosity...how do you make the selection of a single guy to make up your MMF 3some?
Do you both choose him ?,hubby choose?or is it whoever takes an interest in you? .Whats important?.looks?.cock size ?age? Do you insist he's single or unattached ?or has it turned out to be a friend you've added to your equation?
Some like different guys regularly,others like myself would prefer just one regular guy...(more chance of finding Rocking horse Poo!! ..lol)...
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I tend to put a few guys I know the mrs will find attractive in hotlist and then she will chat to one she likes and see how they get on and I trust her judgment and then arrange a meet.... Must add we've only done this once lol |
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"We gave up on here, just use to meet couples.
Get a single guy at the pub, you will be surprised how many are interested and it's quicker and easier than here , and the bonus is they already turned up lol"
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This would be my choice if i had a option, A chance meeting sounds better then my first arranged meet |
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over a year ago
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We both have to feel very comfortable with any single man we invite to join us hence why we do not use Fab to look for single guys as we meet plenty of them in our social shenanigans. In my experience, the most successful single guys are regulars at certain clubs and events, have built up a good group of friends and don't have sex as their only objective.
The guys we have allowed to join us have got a great group of friends (you can tell a lot about someone from the company they keep), have spoken to us as normal people, not potential conquests and are able to hold an intelligent conversation with plenty of humour and banter.
We both have to like him otherwise how can we all enjoy ourselves fully if someone in the group isn't 100% happy and comfortable?
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over a year ago
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It's usually me and how we get along on here first. We always meet for a drink first so no expectations etc and if everyone is happy then we let it go further. X |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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We both have to be in agreement whether we are meeting a couple or single.
I (Mrs) tend to do a search and add any that interest me to our hotlist. Mr B will then have a look and read. Will then decide if we are going to message any... |
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When we are choosing a guy to join us we both check each guy out and there profile and then we message them and we go by there attitude when there messaging us back like we get guys who totally ignore we are couple and act more like it's going be a one on one and hopefully a guy that lasts longer than 2 mins lol no names  |
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Charlie spends hours painstakingly sifting through scores of single males to create a quality short list. Sasha spends two minutes decimating it. Charlie starts again.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Plenty of non pushy guys on fab that enjoy threesomes, always turn up clean, smelling fresh & ready to go. You just gotta read the veri's & not make the mistake of painting all single men with the same brush! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would get to choose.
But if he didn't like him for whatever reason that would be it.
I trust his judgement on that.
Looks are not foremost for me, I like a good laugh, if that and a good connection there, that's all that matters.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get to choose him but if sam thinks he is not for us then we will not go ahead. He knows my type and regularly hotlists men for me to check out later.
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"Plenty of non pushy guys on fab that enjoy threesomes, always turn up clean, smelling fresh & ready to go. You just gotta read the veri's & not make the mistake of painting all single men with the same brush! "
That is not our experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The guys that we played with were respectful clean and not pushy no don't tar all men with the same brush x he found them I gave the nod loll
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"Charlie spends hours painstakingly sifting through scores of single males to create a quality short list. Sasha spends two minutes decimating it. Charlie starts again. "
That sounds a bit like us actually.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I will put the single guys on a hot list, Luke looks through them and says yeah or no, we then meet for a quick drink, and we have learnt a secret way of letting each other know if it's still a yes or a no.. So I guess we both choose. |
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"I dont like the idea of being someones regular guy...especially if they have their own partner anyway"
My own _iew is the opposite of this: I've been seeing a married couple for a couple of years now and get on with both of them really well. The sex gets better as the friendship develops. |
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"Charlie spends hours painstakingly sifting through scores of single males to create a quality short list. Sasha spends two minutes decimating it. Charlie starts again.
That sounds a bit like us actually. "
We do the same thing. X  |
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I'm still yet to meet a couple.
...but, if i was in a couple. I think we'd both decide but i'd let her have the final say as it would be for her pleasure. And i'd be okay with whoever she decides in the end without any bad feelings.
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"I'm still yet to meet a couple.
...but, if i was in a couple. I think we'd both decide but i'd let her have the final say as it would be for her pleasure. And i'd be okay with whoever she decides in the end without any bad feelings.
Let her have final decision as its for her pleasure ?? What kinda take one for the team no thanks anything i do i would do for our pleasure
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"I'm still yet to meet a couple.
...but, if i was in a couple. I think we'd both decide but i'd let her have the final say as it would be for her pleasure. And i'd be okay with whoever she decides in the end without any bad feelings.
Let her have final decision as its for her pleasure ?? What kinda take one for the team no thanks anything i do i would do for our pleasure
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I won't be taking one for the team. It would still be a mutual decision who it is. But, if there's someone that tickles her fancy more than another on our 'list' - then why can't she have him?
It's not like i'd be fucking the guy now is it. If she's happy, i'm happy. Doesn't bother me in the slightest.
...but, i'm just openminded about things i guess.
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" we have learnt a secret way of letting each other know if it's still a yes or a no.. So I guess we both choose. "
Is that where you look at each other then shout 'Fucking leg it!' and charge out of the bar?
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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We love a mmf,it's one of our favourite things.
Although not a scenario we play out as often as we would like.
Reasons being,in society,
a promiscuous female will be judged a slut.
A promiscuous couple,meeting single guys,will be judged weirdos,with a female who is a slut.
And yet a Guy who shags lots of females,will be judged a stud.
So it's only common sense,to be cautious,when the wrong choice could be irrevocably detrimental in people's opinions of who you are,
And yet only enhance the reputation of the single guy.
So single guys,have the least to lose,with the most to gain,and yet feel they are treated unfairly.
Try to see it from the other side.
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"Charlie spends hours painstakingly sifting through scores of single males to create a quality short list. Sasha spends two minutes decimating it. Charlie starts again. "
Sounds familiar lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Bev loves spontaneous meets with strangers, so I tend to do the selection.
If guys mail us I read profile first, make sure they have a few veris, match our criteria and then exchange a few mails, if all appears ok then I arrange for bev to go and meet them alone and phone me and he sends pics after we find this a huge turn on.
This process has only let us down once where a selfish guy promised everything to get the meet but only sent 4 pics at the end, so it works for us |
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"I dont like the idea of being someones regular guy...especially if they have their own partner anyway
My own _iew is the opposite of this: I've been seeing a married couple for a couple of years now and get on with both of them really well. The sex gets better as the friendship develops."
Most couples dont want to let someone in to this degree , so good to see |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" we have learnt a secret way of letting each other know if it's still a yes or a no.. So I guess we both choose. Is that where you look at each other then shout 'Fucking leg it!' and charge out of the bar? "
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We tend to have a few friends that we have met elsewhere, parties, clubs or mutual friends...so we've had some degree of interaction already...perhaps already played in that context so know we both get on with him...we don't look to meet single men through looking on here... |
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We love meeting single guys , and 99% of the time it's spontaneous , either from a meet today request on here , or at a club .
We rarely do repeat meets , as the buzz and excitement is rarely as good second time round , and we are not particularly looking to form friendships .
We love first timers , there is no sense of expectation , and the thrill is second to none .
The selection process is a joint effort . At a club ,my wife will see a guy she finds attractive and I will give my blessing . She will make the initial contact and it goes from there .
On fab , I will check out responses and select likely candidates , and she will then choose .
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I dan usually look through the profiles / messages/ winks and if any guys/ couples take our fancy we both gave a look if Leslie is interested then we will message and go from there. Only met 2 single guys upto now we both more into couples with bi fems but if we fancy a change then who knows |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We love a mmf,it's one of our favourite things.
Although not a scenario we play out as often as we would like.
Reasons being,in society,
a promiscuous female will be judged a slut.
A promiscuous couple,meeting single guys,will be judged weirdos,with a female who is a slut.
And yet a Guy who shags lots of females,will be judged a stud.
So it's only common sense,to be cautious,when the wrong choice could be irrevocably detrimental in people's opinions of who you are,
And yet only enhance the reputation of the single guy.
So single guys,have the least to lose,with the most to gain,and yet feel they are treated unfairly.
Try to see it from the other side.
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"Plenty of non pushy guys on fab that enjoy threesomes, always turn up clean, smelling fresh & ready to go. You just gotta read the veri's & not make the mistake of painting all single men with the same brush! "
well say mate...
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I do most of the searching but we both always have to agree who we play with and we do have a few guys and couples we have met through swinging who we now see them as our friends and play with more than just once |
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Most important@ Decent and discrete attitude - If he had a 6 pack, 10 inch cock, was black, but had a pushy attitude, Sue simply wouldn't go near him. Attitude and respect go a loooooong way fellas |
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"this is why i keep getting looked at by couples who say they are not looking for single men"
Couples look at you because you post in the forums just to see who you are. Not as a potential meet. Simples. |
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we both decide (and often both say no than k you lol) we personally do insist they are reasonably unattached (ie not living full time with a girl) there is no definitive "type" we all like different things |
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"Most important@ Decent and discrete attitude - If he had a 6 pack, 10 inch cock, was black, but had a pushy attitude, Sue simply wouldn't go near him. Attitude and respect go a loooooong way fellas"
I'd also say some contact with the female half is paramount |
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I had my hubby join a couple last week, loved hearing about it afterwards, maybe it's easier for a couple to trust a male half of another couple? More security etc, not sure maybe some couples could shed some light on that |
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"Most important@ Decent and discrete attitude - If he had a 6 pack, 10 inch cock, was black, but had a pushy attitude, Sue simply wouldn't go near him. Attitude and respect go a loooooong way fellas
I'd also say some contact with the female half is paramount"
Absolutely. We would never meet anyone unless she'd spoken to him first and the guys who recommended us could verify that too. But the woman also has to want to speak to the guy... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"this is why i keep getting looked at by couples who say they are not looking for single men
Couples look at you because you post in the forums just to see who you are. Not as a potential meet. Simples. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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We both see who has shown interest in us, then we look to see who has actually read our profile. Once we have that short list we both chat to them and decide from there. Personality comes first for us though. |
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