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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For couples only,
How did you get into swinging?
I've met several, but been unable to find a partner interested. Not one that I clicked with and wanted to live with, anyway.
We're you kinky and open when you met, or did it happen gradually?
Just curious
Pete |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we started going on webcam at first just chatting away and putting photos up (different site)
got talking to other couples who told us about clubs and then here we are  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We met through the kink scene. I'm a kinky bitch and he's a swinging tart-together we were bound to continue down the path of deviance and debauchery!  
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We got the idea in our heads while talking dirty during a particularly steamy session. The suggestion that someone could be doing something with us or to us while we were in bed got us thinking and it snowballed from there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We met through the kink scene. I'm a kinky bitch and he's a swinging tart-together we were bound to continue down the path of deviance and debauchery!
crystal"
Probably should also mention that our 2nd date was at a fet event and you played with 3 other men... Kind of started how we meant to go on!
In all seriousness though we have both been having group sex for years and also been in non-monogamous relationships before so it was hardly a tough decision to make. |
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well for us after 25 years of marriage you start to get to know your partner fairly well and after many 'pillow time chats' and knowing that we are kinkier than your average couple thought we would look for something that would just spice things up a bit . We ended up going to the Birmingham Bizzare Bazzare and really enjoying that and then we went to their afterparty which we saw an event advertised at Xtasia .
and here we are now ,,,, 15 months down the line and having a wonderfull time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For couples only,
How did you get into swinging?
I've met several, but been unable to find a partner interested. Not one that I clicked with and wanted to live with, anyway.
We're you kinky and open when you met, or did it happen gradually?
Just curious
Pete"
We just decided one day to try it after talking about it for 8 months or so and not looked back. |
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We have always had a very sexual relationship and had spoken about what it would be like to have sex with someone else, so when it was my hubbys 40th birthday I asked him what he wanted and jokingly he said a 3sum. So we joined a swinging site and before we knew we had our first meet with another couple. We got very very d*unk and the whole thing was a total disaster in fact our first 3 meets were horrendous but valuable lessons learnt and over 2 years later we are having lots of fun. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We used to have sex on webcam on sites like Chateoulette, Omegle etc. we then made a Twitter account to post kinky pics/vids (@ is in our profile). Then someone on Twitter mentioned Fabswingers so we had a look and after a bit of pillow talk we dove in head first :D |
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By *xxjamCouple
over a year ago
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"We used to have sex on webcam on sites like Chateoulette, Omegle etc. we then made a Twitter account to post kinky pics/vids (@ is in our profile). Then someone on Twitter mentioned Fabswingers so we had a look and after a bit of pillow talk we dove in head first :D"
think we have seen ya twitter before lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Over a period of time really, he has been there got the T shirt, but I had not.
So over a course of time lots of talking and him knowing what I wanted ( I was the virgin) he set this up and showed me and here we are.
After two years we finally got there, after being on a site that was mainly for friends, and just ploding along really.
So far we have met some really nice people thanks to this site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My husband mentioned he'd like to try dogging, I appreciated his honesty(after he explained what dogging was...this was 7 years ago tho lol), I tried it after about 6 months and the rest is as they say, history!
We now both have single profiles along with our couples one and we're having lots of fun xx |
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Just after we got together he suggested we try a swinger club - something of a fantasy for us both - and we loved it so much we've never stopped. That was 10 years ago and we're glad we had the courage to give swinging a try! |
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As a now single, maybe I shouldn't answer, but we got into the scene around 20 years ago, we were on holiday and got friendly with a couple there. One night after too many drinks, my then wife started snogging the guy, so not wanting to be left out I did his wife, next thing I knew we were all shagging. Felt so much guilt next morning, blamed the drink etc and tried to live with it, ie "what happened on holiday, stayed on holiday...", then whilst fucking one night it just came up, and we met other couples through a magazine called Forum. the internet didn't exist then |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all your replies.
My own experience has been ... varied.
I secretely crossdressed for years, on alt etc. Came back from Australia travelling, replied to an ad in the local aberdeen paper, met a girl, had some sex nothing kinky, and we mutually split up. About a year later, I was dressed, wig and all, on alt and me and a girl, who I saw on her photos, chatted on cam. She soon realised who i was - that irish guy who smokes menthols (i did then) and we met up - she turned up at my flat with a rubber shet, lots of baby oil and I pissed all over her. we met a few times, but she had got married in the meantime. Weird - how you find out someone is kinky.
After that, I became more honest about my kinks, joined the local fetish scene, met a great dirty girl - did most of my fantasies, but we didn't click day-to-day.
I've had many kinky gfs, but always broke up because the other stuff didn't quite work.
Back on here, just wondering how to make it really work, like I observed with some of the kinky bi couples I met on here years ago - they seemed to have it all - nice relationship, and the intimacy of sharing cock with a strange(r) guy.
I guess the day-to-day stuff has to happen first, then take the risk of sharing fantasies, see if both are happy to continue.
Thanks again - I hope the info is usefil to other frustrated guys.
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have always been open about our fantasies and it just went from there.
We had a threesome about 7 years ago after a night of drinking with a friend but it took years for Miss Giggles to finally believe that Paul wanted to see her with a guy. so we finally took the plunge a couple of years ago and have never looked back. |
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When we first met 2 years ago we didn't mention sex for a while then it turned out we were as sex mad as each other. We started our fantastic relationship and had an amazing sex life but had fantasies of other people being involved. We talked each other into visiting a club to see what it was like and the rest is history. We have been swinging now since April last year and are pushing our boundaries further and further. We are having so much fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Bf was on here before always a ladies man. We rowed we finished I told him I was going on a date. He told me he was turned on. Had my first MMF last summer. |
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Happened very gradually ha ha upto 2 years ago it would have been a definite no no but we have slowly been enjoying ourselves and trying more. Getting a little more daring too lol
Been together over 20 years and still love fucking each other so it's not that we have gone off each other either lol  |
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By *andT17Couple
over a year ago
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A couple of years ago we visited a friend in France. In passing he told us about the nude beaches and sex clubs in Cap D'Agde. He said he'd been with his girlfriend and described watching a naked man being led around a club on all fours by a women pulling a lead.
It all sounded rather weird and pervy but quite exciting so we plucked up the courage to go to the nude beach for a day. Sat with no clothes on ordering bottles of wine in the sun. Found ourselves near a couple in their fifties who were doing the same, and tried not to look at their privates. Our waiter was an attractive young man (dressed) who didn't bat an eyelid, of course. After our second bottle of wine we asked him whether the "clubs" at the resort were good, and he said "very".
We ended the afternoon by walking up to the dunes as we'd heard that couples sometimes had sex there, but there was no-one around. So we had sex on our own. Looked up as we finished to see a guy had wandered over and was watching. We quickly rushed off giggling and went home rather sozzled - we didn't have the courage for a club yet.
Really enjoyed it, but we didn't have time to go again. So we cammed a couple of times in the following months, before deciding to go to a club in London (OP4F) with the idea of some exhibitionism. Enjoyed that immensely, so we've done the same a few times since. Still not sure if we are ready to "swap" yet, but we're not ruling it out. S has since played with a girl a little, so we're working on it!  |
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At our first party Leslie's fantasy was to have 2 guys so I built up the courage and sent her into the conservatory to bring 1 of the guys in to my amazement she brought the hostess in instead and had some fem fem play. I mainly sat and watched cacking my self as Leslie had said many many times she would not be interested in fun with another women. Now that we have settled in a little lol she absolutely loves some fem fem play and so do I ha ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We got the idea in our heads while talking dirty during a particularly steamy session. The suggestion that someone could be doing something with us or to us while we were in bed got us thinking and it snowballed from there."
The same for us x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'll shorten this the best I can...
I've always been "vanilla"
Met my man
Hot sex right from the start
Things got serious
Have always openly talked about sex
Turns out i was a filthy so and so all along... ha, who knew... anyway...
Ideas bounced between us
Suggestions
I wanted to be his, he wanted to be mine... Dammit that "L" word happened ...
I thought about someone else once upon a time, which turned Pete on... discussions quickly raced towards the "actual" fucking someone else ... remained as ideas for a while, but scenarios in our chats got more realistic...
then one day...
BAM there we are at Jungle Fever party at a swingers club... i dont think i could walk for a good few days...
Now this is all real, everything we spoke about, visualised, wanted, needed, craved... all coming to real life... And don;t forget as well above all that we are of course madly in love
That's all folks!!
... ish...!!
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Started soon after we got together, wanted to push our boundaries and thought swinging would be a good way to have sex outside our relationship without guilt or deceit. We both have high sex drives and like variety, and found it impossible to be 'faithful' in our previous marriages.
It worked! Our only reservation was how we'd react watching the other one fucking someone else, but we both found it a massive turn-on rather than causing jealousy. Swinging hasn't affected our love, in fact it has made it stronger. We married after a couple of years and are still swinging happily |
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