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By *ubik cube OP Man
over a year ago
Near Liverpool |
Why on earth are there time wasters?
The reason I ask, at the weekend got chatting to a woman 30 miles away and was getting on well. Upon which she suggested for me to go to hers, to which I agreed. I was given her postcode and entered it into my Sat nav and set of. When I arrived at her house after messaging what was going to be the scenario on the way only to find as soon as I said "right I'm here now which house is it" only to find she's decided to go offline with no further response.
Driving an Audi Q7 cost me around £ 25 for a wasted trip. Is there any advice on spotting time wasters? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, chat for longer, chat on the phone and a always have a social meet half way first! Was she verified? |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Did you speak on the phone? |
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It wasn't a wasted trip..........
It was a "learning experience", and one to shrug off, smile, and put it behind you!
When going to a meet expect nothing, just a drive out and a coffee somewhere instead of sitting in watching the telly.
The more effort you put in, the more you get out.
Maybe the lady simply got cold feet, nerves.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh dear. Unfortunately it happens. It's not right but there's a lot going on.
Chalk it up to experience and report the profile (and buy a small runaround for occasions like these  |
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By *ubik cube OP Man
over a year ago
Near Liverpool |
"Yes, chat for longer, chat on the phone and a always have a social meet half way first! Was she verified? "
She had a verification by a meet |
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By *ubik cube OP Man
over a year ago
Near Liverpool |
"Did you speak on the phone?"
No we didn't unfortunately |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Did you speak on the phone?
No we didn't unfortunately"
Then maybe thats one to not do again.
You have to be careful on the net, some people are fakes and will mess people about, and not just on this site and if we were meeting couples or women we would have a phone call and a cam to show face on before leaving the house.
Report the profile just incase it is fake and let Admin take a look  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear you've been messed around, I've heard many other similar stories, sad how people can do that to others. You say you messaged to say you were there but she'd gone offline. Does this mean you didn't have her number? I've arranged meets with guys who were clearly reluctant to give out their number and for this reason I didn't pursue it. Having been mucked about at hotel meets I always meet socially first now, genuine people are happy to do that. |
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"Did you speak on the phone?
No we didn't unfortunately"
Sorry to be the one who says it but the only one that wasted your time was yourself. You shouldn't believe anyone on the Internet is who they say they are and driving 30 miles at the drop of a hat cause you're horny is a rookie mistake. Phone calls and social meets are the best way to avoid disappointment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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bet you wont do that again.
let brain in head negotiate, not brain in pants.
get a cheaper swinging car lol |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
Chalk it down to experience and learn from it! Next time use your head and not the one in your trousers. 
Not everyone is who and want they say.... |
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Is she still a site user buddy?
Ive never travelled before chatting on the phone |
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By *ubik cube OP Man
over a year ago
Near Liverpool |
"Is she still a site user buddy?
Ive never travelled before chatting on the phone "
She is also she is a gold member with two verifications by meets. Defiantly taking your advise on a phone chatting. Although the same could still happen even after physically chatting. |
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You can also check addresses on google earth or bing streetside, make sure they are what they are supposed to be, not the local chinese laundry! |
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As she explained why it was a no go?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is she still a site user buddy?
Ive never travelled before chatting on the phone
She is also she is a gold member with two verifications by meets. Defiantly taking your advise on a phone chatting. Although the same could still happen even after physically chatting. "
Gold membership means nothing - even so called 'timewasters' can afford a fiver!
Were the veri's recent? Did you check the profiles of those that left them? You can often spot suspicious patterns - i.e they only have one veri themselves, often webcam.
At the end of the day - not a nice experience - but one that you could have done more to avoid. A phone call. Getting a full address rather than just a postcode. Webcam perhaps.
Common sense and a little more homework would have saved you £25! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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lol wonder how many threads of timewasters we get a week. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why I don't take my Aston to meets anymore... |
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By *ubik cube OP Man
over a year ago
Near Liverpool |
"As she explained why it was a no go??"
I asked for an explanation but message just deleted without being read |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nasty disrespectful thing to do to someone. Report her and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You wasted your own time. Travelling to meet someone you haven't even met socially before, Fter a bit of messaging with no phone number or concrete address is just foolish.
Report her and learn from it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not saying what this woman has done is excusable but you should follow what's there in black and white in your own profile....you say you prefer a social meet first. I hate this expression but you should practice what you preach.
If nothing else, you will have learned a lesson.....an unfortunate one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is why I don't take my Aston to meets anymore... "
I agree , my Bugatti veron uses a lot of fuel as well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you speak on the phone?
No we didn't unfortunately
Sorry to be the one who says it but the only one that wasted your time was yourself. You shouldn't believe anyone on the Internet is who they say they are and driving 30 miles at the drop of a hat cause you're horny is a rookie mistake. Phone calls and social meets are the best way to avoid disappointment. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As she explained why it was a no go??
I asked for an explanation but message just deleted without being read"
Sounds a bit 'Crying Game' to me!
*and if you've not seen the film - spoiler alert! She's a he! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why on earth are there time wasters?
The reason I ask, at the weekend got chatting to a woman 30 miles away and was getting on well. Upon which she suggested for me to go to hers, to which I agreed. I was given her postcode and entered it into my Sat nav and set of. When I arrived at her house after messaging what was going to be the scenario on the way only to find as soon as I said "right I'm here now which house is it" only to find she's decided to go offline with no further response.
Driving an Audi Q7 cost me around £ 25 for a wasted trip. Is there any advice on spotting time wasters? "
The biggest error I can see here is the fact that you appear to have set off without having her full address; I'd never leave without that. I'd always try and have a mobile number to contact as well just in case of not being able to find the house etc., although I've met someone before who just never gives their number out and everything went fine anyway. Regarding verifications, far too many people seem to get hung up on this. I've used various sites on and off over the last few years and had plenty of successful meets without the use of veris. This is the only site I've used that has them. I've also never done social meets first, as I simply find them unnecessary. You just need to spend the right amount of time chatting and working out what the other person's like and to understand what you're both after, whether that's as friends first or simply someone who wants to have a good hard one-off fuck! Generally speaking, if you listen to your intuition it turns out right, whether that means meeting or not. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"This is why I don't take my Aston to meets anymore...
I agree , my Bugatti veron uses a lot of fuel as well "
Not as much as my helicopter!
To the OP - you could message for months, chat on the phone, Skype and webcam to your hearts content yet she still could have changed her mind. It was pants of her to do so the way she did, but never put yourself out of pocket for a meet. Next time, social first! |
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"Yes, chat for longer, chat on the phone and a always have a social meet half way first! Was she verified?
She had a verification by a meet"
One verification does not a genuine user make! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are only genuine when you turn up I guess no matter how many verifications a person has. Social meets are the way to go for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why on earth are there time wasters?
The reason I ask, at the weekend got chatting to a woman 30 miles away and was getting on well. Upon which she suggested for me to go to hers, to which I agreed. I was given her postcode and entered it into my Sat nav and set of. When I arrived at her house after messaging what was going to be the scenario on the way only to find as soon as I said "right I'm here now which house is it" only to find she's decided to go offline with no further response.
Driving an Audi Q7 cost me around £ 25 for a wasted trip. Is there any advice on spotting time wasters? "
Did you just name drop a car? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thats why I dont meet anyone more than 2 miles so easy to walk home lol. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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I think you have lots of advice now so will shut this.
Don't forget to report. |
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