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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As sub not slave, I find the controlling influence very beneficial I tend to find it hard to make decisions even when its something I want to do, having a good dom (not just sex role play where) who knows what I need and pushes me to go and do it is very helpful.
But that's something that stays for very rare long term relationships not sex meets etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Won't comment on this either. Just to say Master and slave and Master and submissive are very different
 
How?"
A dictionary would probably give you the basic jist of the difference there.
Maybe go read wikipedia for a while |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Won't comment on this either. Just to say Master and slave and Master and submissive are very different
How?
A dictionary would probably give you the basic jist of the difference there.
Maybe go read wikipedia for a while"
A simple question thats not offensive is it? |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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"Just its something that dosn't entertain
Just asking what the appeal was"
thats an odd justification for asking.
Not a slave or a master, so can't comment, but love being sub with the right person. |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"Just its something that dosn't entertain
Just asking what the appeal was
thats an odd justification for asking.
Not a slave or a master, so can't comment, but love being sub with the right person. "
Personally i can be sub or dom dependent on who i'm with.
I think (and i may be wrong) the OP is trying to understand or learn about the bdsm scene and what is it that turns people on or excites them in a more extreme some or dom role.
Or at least thats how i interpreted it & hence my interest  |
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"Just its something that dosn't entertain
Just asking what the appeal was
So because its not for you; you thought you'd start a thread about it  "
I think it's a bit harsh to knock the guy for trying to find out a bit more from people who can, if they wish, enlighten him. There are things that on face value don't appeal to me but that doesn't mean I'm not curious to know what draws people to participate. It may be that knowing a bit more could spark a genuine interest. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What it is on my updates I have a couple who say they have a master
Last night 1 of them got told to sleep with elastic bands around his genitals to which he did.
I wouldn't be asking but they are updating about every hour.
I have no interest im it at all not my thing was just asking what you get out of (how I see it) the humiliation? |
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So far a whole bunch of non helpful rubbish. You would be best to look it up simply because the explanation is very lengthy and depends on the perspective of the observer.
I am a dom, but what we term a daddy dom, ie I want to look out for the well-being of my partner and satisfy her needs and desires. She needs a controlling (read that as decision making not abusive) person to steer her and let her blossom without the fear of failure.
For the most part subbing is about giving control to another so that you can be free to experience without fear or guilt. Its a beautiful thing but requires the ultimate trust.
For me its about making people realise their dreams and allowing me to help them grow, by them relinquishing control to me they give me the ultimate gift. True trust and in my wife's case - love.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just its something that dosn't entertain
Just asking what the appeal was"
Most will answer carefully as a full description doesnt please all. Subs and slaves are different but would take a lot of explaining... But as to what I get as a sub/slave as been both..
I get a huge sense of satisfaction at pleasing my dominant. When fully submitting its such a realease as I dont need to make decisions, it helps me to grow and helps me in areas that if it was just to please me I'd never move in..
It's not about the spankings or anything for me.. it's the total release of giving myself over..
To be honest I get quite bratty without a very firm hand.. But mostly that's because while being given commands I get the attention I crave... But for me the biggest prize is to be told that he is proud of me.
I could chat all day about what it is to me... But it is something that I enjoy , although currently enjoying a more laid back approach.. even if the basics for me are the same... It's just I will refuse or question things as equals currently xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So far a whole bunch of non helpful rubbish. You would be best to look it up simply because the explanation is very lengthy and depends on the perspective of the observer.
I am a dom, but what we term a daddy dom, ie I want to look out for the well-being of my partner and satisfy her needs and desires. She needs a controlling (read that as decision making not abusive) person to steer her and let her blossom without the fear of failure.
For the most part subbing is about giving control to another so that you can be free to experience without fear or guilt. Its a beautiful thing but requires the ultimate trust.
For me its about making people realise their dreams and allowing me to help them grow, by them relinquishing control to me they give me the ultimate gift. True trust and in my wife's case - love.
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 . That is very much how I see it.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What it is on my updates I have a couple who say they have a master
Last night 1 of them got told to sleep with elastic bands around his genitals to which he did.
I wouldn't be asking but they are updating about every hour.
I have no interest im it at all not my thing was just asking what you get out of (how I see it) the humiliation?"
Well let's.hope they were careful with that or man may very well.be castrated by now, or at least going to enjoy the unique agony of tissue death and necrosis |
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