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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anyone else find this? You chat for a while, swop pics, seem to get on well and mention a meet, to be sorted after the Xmas break
Then, nothing~do you wait for them to say or are they waiting for you too
Mine field isn't it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you have previously chatted and mentioned meeting after Christmas I wouldn't say that messaging them to make some more solid arrangements was being pushy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you have previously chatted and mentioned meeting after Christmas I wouldn't say that messaging them to make some more solid arrangements was being pushy."
Neither would I  |
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As im finding out how hard it is even to get a reply on here then id say message him/them and see if any reply.
If no reply soon then either 1 hes bottled it or was never gona meet or 2 his partner is there at the mo so he cant answer
Either way your better finding another fish as there is plenty of us out there |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you chatted at all in the meantime?
A bit, just don't want to seem pushy or like we are chasing, but then they may feel the same lol"
Maybe just ask if they're still up for that meet you talked about. Worst they can do is say no. Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As im finding out how hard it is even to get a reply on here then id say message him/them and see if any reply.
If no reply soon then either 1 hes bottled it or was never gona meet or 2 his partner is there at the mo so he cant answer
Either way your better finding another fish as there is plenty of us out there"
Really? That could be the only two reasons? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My New Years resolution is to make more of an effort with the people who we want to play with and not to expect them to keep up the communications. I agree a quick message saying lets pencil in a date now that Christmas is finished is fine and if no reply then its not to be. |
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"Anyone else find this? You chat for a while, swop pics, seem to get on well and mention a meet, to be sorted after the Xmas break
Then, nothing~do you wait for them to say or are they waiting for you too
Mine field isn't it "
I waited 3 weeks, then sent another message asking if still interested and was accused of being too pushy and blocked |
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"My New Years resolution is to make more of an effort with the people who we want to play with and not to expect them to keep up the communications. I agree a quick message saying lets pencil in a date now that Christmas is finished is fine and if no reply then its not to be."
i quite agree a simple holding message now saying "lets pencil in a date next xxx " would be the right way. nice one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else find this? You chat for a while, swop pics, seem to get on well and mention a meet, to be sorted after the Xmas break
Then, nothing~do you wait for them to say or are they waiting for you too
Mine field isn't it "
We'd just send a message saying hi, how were they and had they had any more thoughts about a potential date to meet...to the point but not pushy...if nothing further comes back well no great loss... |
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I dont know if Im strange or not.....
I chat to women for ages sometimes b4 a meet sometimes after, sometimes after day,weeks or months of sex....
If I send a message and get no reply I assume theyre not interested in me soooo I forget about em. Because Im not pushy then theyll text and say why havent you been intouch..... Women  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else find this? You chat for a while, swop pics, seem to get on well and mention a meet, to be sorted after the Xmas break
Then, nothing~do you wait for them to say or are they waiting for you too
Mine field isn't it "
Maybe they just changed their mind it happens. Messenger them and you will get your answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just message them to say hi, ask if they had good xmas etc... Just to gently remind them you still there and interested. If their into the idea still they'll get in touch |
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It's not being pushy. A gentle reminder after the holidays is fine. Lets face it, most of us probably chat with quite a few people and can quite easily forget people's profile names and loose track.
Plus real life can get in the way from time to time too. So a little jog after a couple of weeks is not a bad thing.
If you don't get a response after that and you can see that thy have been online, then you can reasonably assume that nothing is going to happen. |
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