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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi guys ,been chatting to a swinger on here for a while now and last night asked her out on a date and she said yes ,does anyone have experience of dating another member if so can you lend me your advice thanks xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi guys ,been chatting to a swinger on here for a while now and last night asked her out on a date and she said yes ,does anyone have experience of dating another member if so can you lend me your advice thanks xx "
Yes enjoy the date and by all accounts don't wear trainers or socks with holes in.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can work, there are a good number of couples on here who met on here. I'm a part of one of them.
My advice would be to communicate how you feel about seeing others and meeting as a couple together. Its something we don't do, but only because talked to each other.
Enjoy your date.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course it will work, you both like sex with other people. No need to change that. Have a couples profile or even leave it as two singles.
Carry on swinging, as neither of you is going to give it up long term... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Carry on swinging, as neither of you is going to give it up long term...
Why? How do you know that neither of them is going to give it up long term?"
Anyone on here given up swinging??
It's too easy to be on the site. If you get a meet, great, you don't, then it's great too, as you can chat, flirt and read the forums.
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Carry on swinging, as neither of you is going to give it up long term...
Why? How do you know that neither of them is going to give it up long term?
Anyone on here given up swinging??
It's too easy to be on the site. If you get a meet, great, you don't, then it's great too, as you can chat, flirt and read the forums.
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i havent fucked anyone else since meeting my fella on here 18 months ago
licked some fanny though  |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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"I have to say, I have wondered if I am capable of a relationship now. I want one in honesty as I challenge you to find anyone more romantic and soppy than me. But not sure if its a case of once you have tasted it (excuse the pun ) that you can't have a relationship with a vanilla person.
Often a tricky one for me as I like to be honest with anyone I date but if they are not into a more hedonistic lifestyle, to use its broadest term, then maybe it wouldnt work anyway?? I have found vanilla guys are a bit sexually intimidated by me even they dont know about this side of me and I am just seeing them..so it must be something subconscious that just kicks in when I get naked! I can't get away with acting innocent! !! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to say, I have wondered if I am capable of a relationship now. I want one in honesty as I challenge you to find anyone more romantic and soppy than me. But not sure if its a case of once you have tasted it (excuse the pun) that you can't have a relationship with a vanilla person.
Often a tricky one for me as I like to be honest with anyone I date but if they are not into a more hedonistic lifestyle, to use its broadest term, then maybe it wouldnt work anyway?? I have found vanilla guys are a bit sexually intimidated by me even they dont know about this side of me and I am just seeing them..so it must be something subconscious that just kicks in when I get naked! I can't get away with acting innocent! !! "
Which is a problem of sorts. Once you have had sex with a few peopl, just for the sex, unfortunately it does change how you think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree....difficult as I have no problem giving it up to be honest but I cant change my mindset regarding sex. I mean...I cant just forget it like it didn't happen! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could give this up if I started a relationship. I've been on and off this site for about three years probably. I don't meet many or often as it's difficult to find reliable single men in this neck of the woods!
This is something I do as a single woman so IF I was looking, which I'm not and IF I was to meet anyone in the vanilla world, I don't think I'd find it a problem. Luckily were all different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Treat like any other dates....relax and have fun but just because she is a swinger don't expect her to give it up on the first date..."
Enjoy OP and good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I could give this up if I started a relationship. I've been on and off this site for about three years probably. I don't meet many or often as it's difficult to find reliable single men in this neck of the woods!
This is something I do as a single woman so IF I was looking, which I'm not and IF I was to meet anyone in the vanilla world, I don't think I'd find it a problem. Luckily were all different "
I thought that too...and I did meet more than one vanilla guy. They didn't know about this as I also only do it if single. I did stop but I think there must have been something about me because they could tell I was 'experienced' ....it was difficult to lie and I didnt want to but its a catch 22. You meet someone lovely and you lie about your past or you tell them and they run a mile!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I could give this up if I started a relationship. I've been on and off this site for about three years probably. I don't meet many or often as it's difficult to find reliable single men in this neck of the woods!
This is something I do as a single woman so IF I was looking, which I'm not and IF I was to meet anyone in the vanilla world, I don't think I'd find it a problem. Luckily were all different
I thought that too...and I did meet more than one vanilla guy. They didn't know about this as I also only do it if single. I did stop but I think there must have been something about me because they could tell I was 'experienced' ....it was difficult to lie and I didnt want to but its a catch 22. You meet someone lovely and you lie about your past or you tell them and they run a mile! "
I'm not that 'experienced' and a lot of things on these Forums have me  quite often lol but I understand what you mean.
I've always called this my secret fantasy life and that's the way I intend to keep it. I've not met that many over the years and nearly all of them on more on than one occasion. This is safer than having one night stands.
Well that's how I see it anyway, I'm sure many will disagree but my life, my profile, my secrets! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I could give this up if I started a relationship. I've been on and off this site for about three years probably. I don't meet many or often as it's difficult to find reliable single men in this neck of the woods!
This is something I do as a single woman so IF I was looking, which I'm not and IF I was to meet anyone in the vanilla world, I don't think I'd find it a problem. Luckily were all different
I thought that too...and I did meet more than one vanilla guy. They didn't know about this as I also only do it if single. I did stop but I think there must have been something about me because they could tell I was 'experienced' ....it was difficult to lie and I didnt want to but its a catch 22. You meet someone lovely and you lie about your past or you tell them and they run a mile!
I'm not that 'experienced' and a lot of things on these Forums have me quite often lol but I understand what you mean.
I've always called this my secret fantasy life and that's the way I intend to keep it. I've not met that many over the years and nearly all of them on more on than one occasion. This is safer than having one night stands.
Well that's how I see it anyway, I'm sure many will disagree but my life, my profile, my secrets! "
I see it as my secret life too. I dont do one nighters at all. Most meets are people I know. But my point is I am no angel......and I think they sense that naughty streak after a while...without me saying a word! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm dating someone I met on here. Its early days but I think it could work. We were both shit at vanilla relationships - always getting bored easily and playing away (yes I know it was wrong - don't shoot me!)
But this is the first time I've been able to be me in a relationship and I think thats mainly due to us having met on here so there were no secrets from the start.
Good luck - how it works out how you want it to. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I see it as my secret life too. I dont do one nighters at all. Most meets are people I know. But my point is I am no angel......and I think they sense that naughty streak after a while...without me saying a word! "
lol apparently I have a naughty twinkle in my eye anyway but I suppose what a lot of people would call straight laced when it comes to sex. Having said that, straight laced sex can be bledi mind blowing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm dating someone I met on here. Its early days but I think it could work. We were both shit at vanilla relationships - always getting bored easily and playing away (yes I know it was wrong - don't shoot me!)
But this is the first time I've been able to be me in a relationship and I think thats mainly due to us having met on here so there were no secrets from the start."
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"It can work, there are a good number of couples on here who met on here. I'm a part of one of them.
My advice would be to communicate how you feel about seeing others and meeting as a couple together. Its something we don't do, but only because talked to each other.
Enjoy your date. "
Just for clarification, Ruby... Are you saying neither of you see anyone else whether individually or as a couple? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We talked and talked and both decided we didn't want to carry on seeing other people and we'd make a go of it, happy days....
Except she decided she wanted to set up a single profile again without me knowing, and i found out...... So no, never, ever would i date anyone on here again.... |
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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago
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"We talked and talked and both decided we didn't want to carry on seeing other people and we'd make a go of it, happy days....
Except she decided she wanted to set up a single profile again without me knowing, and i found out...... So no, never, ever would i date anyone on here again...."
recipe for dissastor but each to their own i guess |
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