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"Is the answer because the single guys that are so needy as to feel they deserve a reply are also the ones that will reply back to tge reply expecting an explanation or trying to get the sender ro change their mind?" Hmmmm can you change that to SOME single guys  | |||
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"As a single guy... I do understand and respect that not everyone on the site is entertaining us single guys....though some of you i guess have had sone bad experience with single guys.. Like being called names just cause you wouldn't meet.. Anyway my point is.. When myself and other single guys message other members either single girls or couples..although mostly both.. Most just delete the message sent and never even make an effort to reply.. Why can't one just say "thanks for the message and then say either no thanks..or perhaps something else if the message got your attention... After all.. Im sure most single guys here make a good effort in entertaining on their first message to the recipient... And by the way to all happy Christmas and happy new year.. And may the new year give you many fond memories." Dude its called FLOODGATES SOME guys but not all see it as a green flag to mail again and try and change a woman mind. They don't know who will pester or not is it really so hard not to take the "Message deleted" as a no thanks? Personally I and the majority of guys on here are fine with that its fair and I personally don't think every woman or couple should have to spend 30 mins or more sending out no thanks messages to people declining them as it may just make some think the site is not worth it and leave. | |||
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"Lots of females and couples will read a profile before reading the message. If the profile is not compatible then the message is irrelevant and then deleted. Nothing to get upset about it saves a lot of wasted time for them." Yup, this was my approach when I was meeting single men. Also, if you reply you then have the issue of having to block if you change your filters, and many guys see it as an opening to start a whole dialogue - why not, let me change your mind... this is meant to be fun not hard work! Take a delete as a polite no thanks. | |||
"As a single guy... I do understand and respect that not everyone on the site is entertaining us single guys....though some of you i guess have had sone bad experience with single guys.. Like being called names just cause you wouldn't meet.. Anyway my point is.. When myself and other single guys message other members either single girls or couples..although mostly both.. Most just delete the message sent and never even make an effort to reply.. Why can't one just say "thanks for the message and then say either no thanks..or perhaps something else if the message got your attention... After all.. Im sure most single guys here make a good effort in entertaining on their first message to the recipient... And by the way to all happy Christmas and happy new year.. And may the new year give you many fond memories." no offence... but what would you like people to say "no thank, but way to go champ!!!!" A bigger and bigger part of the issue is that people feel owed in some way a reply because they send out mail... I dont see many people replying to cold calling or junk mail..... maybe a mindset adjustment is needed... in the fact that every mail should be a no thanks until you hear back otherwise... actually... what I am more and more in favour of would be for site members to have the option of blocking others from seeing what they do with mail... maybe that would cut down the complaints... | |||
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"How about an automated "no thanks" botton similar to other sites" Only difference that'll make is that single men will complain that they only get an automated message and not a personal one. Or that people can't be bothered to even send an automated reply. The answer is simple. Lose the sense of entitlement that you somehow deserve a reply from someone that never asked for a message and has no interest in the person sending it. | |||
"How about an automated "no thanks" botton similar to other sites Only difference that'll make is that single men will complain that they only get an automated message and not a personal one. Or that people can't be bothered to even send an automated reply. The answer is simple. Lose the sense of entitlement that you somehow deserve a reply from someone that never asked for a message and has no interest in the person sending it." | |||
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"If you do a forum search you will find that this question has been answered. " Basically some guys have what it takes to get a sexy woman. And some don't. | |||
"The OP is incorrect in his assertion that most single guys write a decent and interesting first message. The sad fact is, They Don't !, 90% of our messages are one liners or 3 words! Those who do make an effort, always get a reply those who don't always get deleted and often blocked! We LIKE and MEET single guys, but you have no idea how difficult it is to find the right guys! Even with the vast number of candidates! " | |||
"do you reply with a nice letter to the dominos flyer you get in the post?" | |||
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"At first we would reply. Some took this as a signal we wanted to strike up a conversation. A few got abusive when we did not reply to their second message. Now just find it easier to delete. " | |||
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"How about an automated "no thanks" botton similar to other sites" No way, I'd definitely opt out of that one. Why should I thank someone who's mailed me on the off chance just because I'm on line and not bothered reading my profile to see what Im lookin for? Best answer in those cases is to delete!! | |||
"The OP is incorrect in his assertion that most single guys write a decent and interesting first message. The sad fact is, They Don't !, 90% of our messages are one liners or 3 words! Those who do make an effort, always get a reply those who don't always get deleted and often blocked! We LIKE and MEET single guys, but you have no idea how difficult it is to find the right guys! Even with the vast number of candidates! "this is so true | |||
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"How about an automated "no thanks" botton similar to other sites" Doesn't work. Been on a site which had that and most guys ignored it and just kept spamming until they were blocked. | |||
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"maybe if single females had access to better message filters they could block a lot more of the rubbish messages and stand a better chance of answering the good ones.... maybe an additional filter only allowing initial messages over a certain length?" Similar to what they have on that fish site...Good idea! | |||
"How about an automated "no thanks" botton similar to other sites Doesn't work. Been on a site which had that and most guys ignored it and just kept spamming until they were blocked. " Ive run out of good ideas now | |||
"Lots of females and couples will read a profile before reading the message. If the profile is not compatible then the message is irrelevant and then deleted. Nothing to get upset about it saves a lot of wasted time for them." ^^^^^This!!! | |||
"maybe if single females had access to better message filters they could block a lot more of the rubbish messages and stand a better chance of answering the good ones.... maybe an additional filter only allowing initial messages over a certain length?" and then you would get messages thus: fancy a fuck mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm lol | |||
"How about an automated "no thanks" botton similar to other sites" Then the forums are filled with "what's the point of joining a site and don't meet? Must be a power trip all these no thanks automated messages..." etc. Some men really can't take rejection.  | |||
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"How about an automated "no thanks" botton similar to other sites Only difference that'll make is that single men will complain that they only get an automated message and not a personal one. Or that people can't be bothered to even send an automated reply. The answer is simple. Lose the sense of entitlement that you somehow deserve a reply from someone that never asked for a message and has no interest in the person sending it." Spot on! | |||
"maybe if single females had access to better message filters they could block a lot more of the rubbish messages and stand a better chance of answering the good ones.... maybe an additional filter only allowing initial messages over a certain length?" Why ? would that encourage people to read the Profile first ? i havnt seen any replies from people saying that they would like the opportunity to answer the good ones Gary | |||
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"The OP is incorrect in his assertion that most single guys write a decent and interesting first message. The sad fact is, They Don't !, 90% of our messages are one liners or 3 words! Those who do make an effort, always get a reply those who don't always get deleted and often blocked! We LIKE and MEET single guys, but you have no idea how difficult it is to find the right guys! Even with the vast number of candidates! "Totally agree with this post | |||
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"Is the answer because the single guys that are so needy as to feel they deserve a reply are also the ones that will reply back to tge reply expecting an explanation or trying to get the sender ro change their mind? Hmmmm can you change that to SOME single guys "Nope..I think the answer was spot-on in every detail. | |||
"do you reply with a nice letter to the dominos flyer you get in the post?" Now you see this doesn't really work because I don't know anyone that advertises to say they want a pizza | |||
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" actually... what I am more and more in favour of would be for site members to have the option of blocking others from seeing what they do with mail... maybe that would cut down the complaints..." I don't think that would be a good idea as you might keep hoping...(and maybe send a follow? ) On a more serious note, I can't agree more with your suggestion of a mindset change. For me if I send a message (which i rarely do), and see read or deleted, that's my job done. if I don't get a reply it means my time and theirs saved. So, seeing the status of my sent mail in my pinion is a good move... | |||
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"Is the answer because the single guys that are so needy as to feel they deserve a reply are also the ones that will reply back to tge reply expecting an explanation or trying to get the sender ro change their mind? Hmmmm can you change that to SOME single guys "Captain Smug strikes again | |||
"We always reply to single guys. As for the disrespectful ones, we block them. We were all single guys and gals once "Exactly....!! | |||
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"How about an automated "no thanks" botton similar to other sites" there is one, its labelled delete! No reply = no thanks. | |||
"As a single guy... I do understand and respect that not everyone on the site is entertaining us single guys....though some of you i guess have had sone bad experience with single guys.. Like being called names just cause you wouldn't meet.. Anyway my point is.. When myself and other single guys message other members either single girls or couples..although mostly both.. Most just delete the message sent and never even make an effort to reply.. Why can't one just say "thanks for the message and then say either no thanks..or perhaps something else if the message got your attention... After all.. Im sure most single guys here make a good effort in entertaining on their first message to the recipient... And by the way to all happy Christmas and happy new year.. And may the new year give you many fond memories." Would a reply saying no thanks make you feel better? You don't get a reply = no thanks. You get a reply saying no thanks = no thanks. I fail to see why getting told no thanks is better than no reply. The outcome is the same. They don't want to meet you. | |||
"How about an automated "no thanks" botton similar to other sites" Admin tried this once. People complained the automated no thanks button was impersonal. | |||
"The OP is incorrect in his assertion that most single guys write a decent and interesting first message. The sad fact is, They Don't !, 90% of our messages are one liners or 3 words! Those who do make an effort, always get a reply those who don't always get deleted and often blocked! We LIKE and MEET single guys, but you have no idea how difficult it is to find the right guys! Even with the vast number of candidates! "This. A few years ago I was at a friends and she logged onto fab. She let me see the messages as they came into her. 99.9r% were things like Hi u want 2 fuck? Hi sexy. How r u? I am going to ruin you. There was even a few cheeky ones with things like Are you one of the genuine ones on here or another time waster? Let's see if you have manners and reply to this email. Even if it's just to say no thanks. | |||
"maybe if single females had access to better message filters they could block a lot more of the rubbish messages and stand a better chance of answering the good ones.... maybe an additional filter only allowing initial messages over a certain length?" Excellent idea. | |||
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"i am almost tempted to ask for the "unread/read/deleted" option to be removed... or for site supporters, the option to opt out.... it gives ppl one less thing to get paranoid over....." I see a problem with that. As people could not see if the email was read or deleted you would get people sending out emails like Hi XXXXXX I am not sure if you got my first email etc | |||
