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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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something ive never thought about, be interesting to find out the numbers tho
altho im not as yet devorced, i have split from my husband after 9 years of swinging together, we'd been together 17 years, was nothing to do with swinging why we split tho, but i dont think having the openness of swinging will save anyones marrage, wether you swing or not some marrages just arnt ment to be  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i would imagine that genuine swingers are by definition very honest and open in their relationship so a marrage should last longer
but there are some who think that swinging will save a failing marrage, it wont |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We know of 2 swinging couples who divorced and then married each others partners, its a funny old world!  "
Over 20 years ago when it was known as wife-swapping, 2 couples across the road and living next door to each other started swapping, it was of course the talk of the street!
However, it all fell apart with both couples divorcing, and 1 hubby getting together with the other wife and disappearing into the sunset together!! |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
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well we've been married 32 years (yeah I know I was a craddle snatcher) and enjoyed every minute of it, been swinging 5 years now and enjoyed almost every minute of that too.
Must admit we have seen a few couples who thought swinging would save their marraiges, but it hasn't.
Can only speak for us but think you have to be very secure in your marraige to swing or it has potential to cause great problems - thankfully we are very secure lol |
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We don`t think swinging could save a marriage that has other problems, but if swinging allows couples to experience things which would perhaps be thought as adultery then maybe it could help if the problems were purely sexual? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we would say its about the same,for us the honesty,openess of swinging have probably made us stronger as a couple but then in all walks of life the tensions of the real world are the same and not every marriage ends due to adultery |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
Rushden |
"We know of 2 swinging couples who divorced and then married each others partners, its a funny old world! "
Strange that! We also know of a couple, local to us who met another couple to play. They are now divorced and married to each others ex-partners!
We know more swing people separated by the death of a partner, unlike in the "Vanilla" world! |
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By *edhot4blkCouple
over a year ago
York/London/Crantock |
we got married just over 30yrs ago, but chatted about swinging nearly str8 away, but thought we'd wait for the kids to come along, grow up, and then leave b4 we would get into it..so it was 19yrs b4 we started swinging but its not part of our life and never will be...xxxxx stella |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been married for 23yrs now. Been ups and downs but since we started swinging, we've noticed we are closer physically than we were before. Seem to be more open now with each other and have learnt more about what we want in the physical side of marriage. So far it has enhanced our marriage. Kids have noticed the difference too. Dad takes mum out bowling more often!!!LOL |
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Today "swinging" has become a synonym for an adventurous spirit and high sex drive both in the UK and worldwide. UK swingers sex culture has been spread all over the country and is still attracting new people. Couples may get into swinging for various reasons. Most of them want to improve their sexual life after 4-7 years of marriage or relationships. In a way swingers sex turns to be an alternative to cheating on spouses for couples where both people want to keep and strengthen their emotional bonds.
The latest researches show that swingers are happier in their relationships than average non-swinging couples. 60% of swingers claimed their relationships have been enhanced by the Lifestyle experience. While considering marriage and family life as a primary value, swingers are less likely to uphold traditional family roles. They also seem to be less racist, less sexist and lees religious than average non-swinging people.
A curious fact is that most of swingers consider themselves happier (59% against 32%) and are more satisfied with their lives (76% against 54%) when compared with the respondents not involved into swinging. The numbers above suggest the idea that swinging attracts people who in general have a higher level of happiness, tolerance and satisfaction with their lives comparing with the rest population. Such level of emotional health in its turn may be explained by an open-minded way of thinking and ability to overcome personal limits and taboos in order to explore all sides of one’s sexuality.
What you’d better think about before trying swingers sex?
Even keeping in mind all benefits of the "lifestyle" swinging obviously will not be appropriate for every relationship. Most people would feel confused if their sex partner offers them to try wife swapping. What a couple needs to think of before entering swingers scene?
If there is a high level of mutual trust in your couple.
If both partners feel comfortable with the idea to engage into swinging. All couples anyway feel a bit uneasy at the beginning because they are going to meet new people and do something they have never done before. Remember though that you must not do things that you feel isn’t right for you, neither should you engage in sexual act with people you are not interested in. You are both in the Lifestyle to enjoy it. Assure your partner that his/she will still be the most important person for you.
If you both can cope with jealousy. Jealousy is a normal part of live to some extent and may be overcome by a couple in the process of swinging. Experienced swingers suggest that you may solve this problem choosing sex partners together. Do not be afraid to tell your spouse that you do not like someone, when making a choice. Remember, you must communicate with each other and share your feelings.
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