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"After five years you still don't know ?????? "lol....sorry to original poster but that made me laugh!! It will be our first time on saturday, we met the couple in question for a drink, chat, flirt last week which went very well, so meeting again for further drinks leading to the bedroom excited!!!!!!!  | |||
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"After five years you still don't know ?????? "That is funny....;-) Having said that... I know what the OP is talking about... that seemingly small step from chatting flirting to the physical "assault"... Difficult one, we have been in situations where out of courtesy we did not make a move as we felt it might be too pushy and later found out that the other party had felt the same... Hey, better that than moving too fast and spoiling an evening though?  | |||
"we have been swinging 5 years and wanted to know how everyone takes that next step and turns the flirting and chat to swinging,what works for you ?" You could try the subtle way we use in my native Germany... )))) | |||
"Difficult one, we have been in situations where out of courtesy we did not make a move as we felt it might be too pushy and later found out that the other party had felt the same" Oh dear, I've been there too, on many an occasion, not wanting to misread what may have just been polite conversation in a club, only to find it's been assumed I'm not interested. I'm a bit retarded, I think. I like a nice written invitation, delivered by a trumpeter herald on the back of a motorcycle courier, signed for, written in bright red ink (or lipstick), telling me "Game On, make your move NOW". Even then I might wonder if it's been delivered to the wrong person, so might be hesitant. And what to do? Just unzip my trousers and flop it out saying "Here, get a load of that then", or fold my clothes up in a business-like, efficient manner and wait for further instruction before proceeding? Tough call! I'm the kind of chap who likes to relax and be comfortable with anyone I'm playing with, which generally means a chat and a laugh or two. It's a yawning chasm between that atmosphere and "doing it" with people who are still relative strangers, I don't take lightly the privilege of being invited into someone else's sex life, that's serious stuff. It's difficult to work out that when someone says they are going to bed, does it mean "Come with me" or "Clear off"? The first party I went to was a bit stilted getting started. It was in a house after meeting in a pub, and we all stood around chatting like civilised people do. The host disappeared, came back bollock-naked, dipped his pud in the savoury dip and asked one of his friends to have a taste, which broke the ice somewhat (it meant I had to have Tortilla chips with no dip after that, meh!). At the same time his wife came back in, declared that trousers were banned in the house so we all had to take them off. The easier the access, the easier the progression! (Great party, I only went round from next door to ask them to turn the music down, I was there for 3 days ) | |||
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" (Great party, I only went round from next door to ask them to turn the music down, I was there for 3 days )"PMSL!!! They are the best kinds   | |||
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"thanks for the replys,we did struggle originally but have now invented a great game that helps ,people who we have met think its great as it does break the ice," ....and? More info please! | |||
" It will be our first time on saturday, we met the couple in question for a drink, chat, flirt last week which went very well, so meeting again for further drinks leading to the bedroom excited!!!!!!! ".... hope it goes well for all concerned. xxx | |||
"Difficult one, we have been in situations where out of courtesy we did not make a move as we felt it might be too pushy and later found out that the other party had felt the same Oh dear, I've been there too, on many an occasion, not wanting to misread what may have just been polite conversation in a club, only to find it's been assumed I'm not interested. I'm a bit retarded, I think. I like a nice written invitation, delivered by a trumpeter herald on the back of a motorcycle courier, signed for, written in bright red ink (or lipstick), telling me "Game On, make your move NOW". Even then I might wonder if it's been delivered to the wrong person, so might be hesitant. And what to do? Just unzip my trousers and flop it out saying "Here, get a load of that then", or fold my clothes up in a business-like, efficient manner and wait for further instruction before proceeding? Tough call! I'm the kind of chap who likes to relax and be comfortable with anyone I'm playing with, which generally means a chat and a laugh or two. It's a yawning chasm between that atmosphere and "doing it" with people who are still relative strangers, I don't take lightly the privilege of being invited into someone else's sex life, that's serious stuff. It's difficult to work out that when someone says they are going to bed, does it mean "Come with me" or "Clear off"? The first party I went to was a bit stilted getting started. It was in a house after meeting in a pub, and we all stood around chatting like civilised people do. The host disappeared, came back bollock-naked, dipped his pud in the savoury dip and asked one of his friends to have a taste, which broke the ice somewhat (it meant I had to have Tortilla chips with no dip after that, meh!). At the same time his wife came back in, declared that trousers were banned in the house so we all had to take them off. The easier the access, the easier the progression! (Great party, I only went round from next door to ask them to turn the music down, I was there for 3 days )"Wow, what an entertaining post - and by the sound of it you had an amazing time. So.. the conclusion for you in terms of how to make things happen? The hosts take the initiative... and if they do not... then you assume it is a non-event? Genuine question | |||
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"thanks for the replys,we did struggle originally but have now invented a great game that helps ,people who we have met think its great as it does break the ice," what sort of game,plz plz explain | |||
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"Yes, I suppose so, but only because I'm so non-pushy as to be passive. I'm not a chancer, were I to "try it on" with someone and they be horrified because they were simply being polite, I'd be embarrassed, not simply shrug it off and move onto the next hapless victim-to-be. The last thing I would want to be known as is an idiot who is always on the make." . I can vouch for that - always the gentleman! Hope you are still coming to the parties in May and Aug! | |||
"I can vouch for that - always the gentleman! Hope you are still coming to the parties in May and Aug! "Thank you, your cheque is in the post. And yes, I dare say I shall be at one or both, look forward to sitting in the jacuzzi with you and bitching about life! | |||
