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By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago
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Are they still considered a taboo?
I don't mean in the swinging world i mean in the vanilla world. Just an open question i'd like to here people thoughts on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say they are taboo but suspect they still attract more than their fair share of prejudice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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is this guy for real???  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only from narrow-minded people. |
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What year are we living in... why would it be a taboo subject. I'm lost for words. |
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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago
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I don't think they've been considered taboo since the 60's maybe 70's have they? We have friends who are in interracial relationships, quite happily and greedily play with interracial singles and couples etc. We've never really considered it before tbh but we can't see a problem with it
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The heart can't tell what colour a person is, only how you feel about them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who give a hoot what colour people are. We are all pink in the middle ! |
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Lol what world are you living in??
Never known for it to be taboo.
unless maybe the royal family |
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"Are they still considered a taboo?
I don't mean in the swinging world i mean in the vanilla world. Just an open question i'd like to here people thoughts on "
I'm not English but having relationship/ partner/ lover (whatever you name it) with English man.
Is it taboo?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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to a small minority maybe.
there are more people that dont like going outside their race for other reasons |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cannot see why this is being bought up to be honest.  |
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"Lol what world are you living in??
Never known for it to be taboo.
unless maybe the royal family"
Did the Royals not make him end his Relationship with the south African ???  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd probably look twice if I saw an English man or woman walking down the street with an Inuit to be fair |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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I think Suki is just asking a general question about people's views, rather than anything else.
I believe that things have moved on in a welcome and much better way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think Suki is just asking a general question about people's views, rather than anything else.
I believe that things have moved on in a welcome and much better way "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People act as though racism is back in the dark ages but I still see and hear plenty of it. Mostly of ignorance, some malicious.
There seem to be more and more with the 'no Blacks/Asians (just my 'preference')' line on here too.
I don't think there's generally an issue about mixed relationships though. At least not that people would admit to openly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A few of my rellies are married to white folk |
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some people consider them taboo even now. I doubt the BNP membership are massively encouraging of them for example.
Having first hand experience of a mixed race relationship I would say that in general people are more accepting now but lots of people still think its wrong and would be deeply upset if a member of their family entered in to one. |
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My brother in-law is white, my son-in-law is white, my new partner is white. My daughter lives in Berkshire, my sister in Milan, me London.
2013...same sex marriages are common place yet people still see interracial relationships as taboo?!! Really?!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who said they were? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd probably look twice if I saw an English man or woman walking down the street with an Inuit to be fair"
is that because they were in full winter gear ? Lmao |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Simple answer = no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People act as though racism is back in the dark ages but I still see and hear plenty of it. Mostly of ignorance, some malicious.
There seem to be more and more with the 'no Blacks/Asians (just my 'preference')' line on here too."
To be fair I understand the who no asian just my preference thing- im (south) asian and other (south) asian girls just don't turn me on at all. No matter how pretty. never dated asian nor chinese and not sure i will. So i avoid them but thats just my preference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The answer should of course be no and for the majority I think it would be however yhe're are small factions of society who wouldn't agree ans not all White people either.
Older generations could possibly still harbour racist attitudes.
A lot of cultures forbid their children to date people from other races etc
It is a more enlightened world that we live in but there is still racism out there and those who think there isn't are blinkered. Just because you accept doesn't mean everyone does although they should.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People act as though racism is back in the dark ages but I still see and hear plenty of it. Mostly of ignorance, some malicious.
There seem to be more and more with the 'no Blacks/Asians (just my 'preference')' line on here too.
To be fair I understand the who no asian just my preference thing- im (south) asian and other (south) asian girls just don't turn me on at all. No matter how pretty. never dated asian nor chinese and not sure i will. So i avoid them but thats just my preference."
No your 'preference' is for the things you prefer, not those you avoid. I can see why people would seek out what they most find attractive, but have difficulty understanding why people instead put an emphasis on what they don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first meet on here opened my eyes to the fact that some people are extremely racist.
So would say that people still disagree with interracial relations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually rather stupidly I'd forgotten that I have a friend whose family have cut her off because she had a child with a White man.
So guess it still is a problem, certainly for her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The last time I checked we were in 2013 not the 1950s!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The last time I checked we were in 2013 not the 1950s!!!"
So are you saying that there is no racism now? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My last boyfriend was black, my family stopped talking to me over it and it made life difficult |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The last time I checked we were in 2013 not the 1950s!!!
So are you saying that there is no racism now? "
Course not but it's certainly not a taboo. You're always going to get narrow minded people but that's the same with anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cannot see why this is being bought up to be honest. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No your 'preference' is for the things you prefer, not those you avoid. I can see why people would seek out what they most find attractive, but have difficulty understanding why people instead put an emphasis on what they don't."
Yes my preference is for white, is what I meant but my post was getting too long (using mobile).
I havnt added any exclusions on my profile, just stuff I "prefer".
I personally do find it easier to not have to contact those that say they dont want asian, racist or not, and I dont mind because there is clearly a significant percent of members who dont mind, or infact prefer some colour with a good cock lol |
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Met an Israeli girl in India and we fell passionately in love.
She phoned her parents about us.
First thing they asked was if I were a jew.
I phoned my mum up first thing she asked if she was black.
We are a mixed race couple and was amazed at how many mixed race couples go to abfabs.
Must be popular |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah i have to say there does seem to be some blinkered responses on here. YES we are living in 2013 and NO racism isn't a thing of the past sadly. My ex was black and i found out rather harshly what some so called friends of both hers & mine thought about it, albeit not too blatant in front of us (which kinda makes it worse) But more like silly little jibes & comments. Altho when we were goin' through a rough patch & i was being mucked around a bit i was told it was because she was one of 'them', unreal. Personally i find black/mixed race gals extremely attractive and each to their own, but i would never pass judgement on any relationship based on race alone... |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Are they still considered a taboo?
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I guess it depends on who you're talking too. My family is whiter than white, lived in the whitest city in the UK. I certainly had no experience with black or Asian guys until I moved away from York. But I'd bet you right now if I met a guy and had a serious relationship with him my mother would be more concerned about his employment history than his colour.
Racism is unfortunately still very prevalent in this country. We may not have the old 'no blacks, jews, or dogs' signs in the windows but there is still a taboo in certain areas of the country. Shame really. |
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For the most part...no.
Certain areas of the North (of the UK) have a harder time accepting these than others (i guess the same could be said for the South, but i'm speaking from experience). But most SANE, tolerant people don't bat an eyelid at it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it aint white it aint right, n what not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think this guy must have been locked in a cupboard for the last 30 years.
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By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago
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Thank you all for your opinions, but an even bigger thank you to those who read an understood the question i was asking, just to be clear my initial post was this:
"Are they still considered a taboo?
I don't mean in the swinging world i mean in the VANILLA world. Just an open question i'd like to here people thoughts on "
Seems a fair few of you missed the word vanilla. The reason i asked was because of my experience being with a non-asian lass and a conversation i had with a friend on here about mixed race relationships and whether the world had moved on. For me it was frowned upon from both sides and that was less than 7 years ago!!
So yes there was a reason why i brought it up for a general open discussion, no i haven't been locked in a cupboard for the last 30 years and i know it's 2013 but whomever thinks people have moved on and this is considered acceptable in wider society perhaps should read Medwayman and JFun's posts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think this guy must have been locked in a cupboard for the last 30 years.
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I think you are kidding yourself if you don't think this topic is still relevant today. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Question: when will there be peace on earth?
Answer: when the earth falls to pieces |
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"The heart can't tell what colour a person is, only how you feel about them."
Whilst i agree with this. I also believe some do still look down at mixed race couples.
Sorry to say some of my own family had comments when i got pregnant 
Admitted it isn't so much a factor now but there will always be those that disagree
A blanket statement saying in todays age; really is a bit daft.
Because not everyone will be honest & say its the colour of the person that's the issue. |
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Its refusal to accept or acknowledge that racism still abounds that's dangerous. People I know quite well who seem well educated and intelligent would not accept a mixed race relationship in their family.
Coming from a home that my father once described as the league of nations I don't understand the mindset that's behind this way of thinking but I don't deny that it exists.
Complacency is dangerous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be fair I think the OP asked a fair question. It SHOULN'T be tabboo in this day and age but I would say that some people would look twice at mixed race couples. Tabboo is probably too strong a word though, but I know if I was in a mixed race relationship, living where I do, I would expect second glances and comments. Not that it would stop me, before anyone says anything but some people are still very narrow minded about certain things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say taboo but its certainly not common place.
So Suki - is there something youd like to tell us ?  x |
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Can't see why the fuss gas ever been about, after all men have been marrying women for centuries ....... Now that is interracial in any book..... Or is it interspieces.....;-) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can't see why the fuss gas ever been about, after all men have been marrying women for centuries ....... Now that is interracial in any book..... Or is it interspieces.....;-)"
Only if men and women actually came from mars and Venus respectively  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with suki. My partner is black.her mam don't accept my as all she dated was black men before me.she has a black child.myself I've always dated black women.my family don't care what colour you are.in my own experience I've had more grief from black people for being with a black woman.and its been more from black men.double standards if you look at the amount of black men with white women.anyway your always going to get ignorant people.as for vanilla sex.only can say until you try outside side your comfort zone your never gonna know |
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By *FlackoxCouple
over a year ago
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Honestly racisim is still eminent in our society of today, the difference is this days they add a smile to it, however its getting better than it used to be but most especially the Day everyone black white asian or whatever race begin to all see each other as one then it would be a better place which doubt is ever again, furthermore as regards to the swinging lifestyle we dont mind people who have no blacks or asians on there profile because we know people are here to live out their fantasies and everyone should be entitled to their own opinions. The weird part is couples who clearly have no blacks on their profiles speaking to us but oh well lol. |
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By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago
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Some very interesting views and experiences from all
I do think, although times have moved on, vanilla mixed race relationships are still looked at in an odd way. It's still an unfortunate but true side of some parts of society & the comments of disapproval come from both sides of the fence  |
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"Some very interesting views and experiences from all
I do think, although times have moved on, vanilla mixed race relationships are still looked at in an odd way. It's still an unfortunate but true side of some parts of society & the comments of disapproval come from both sides of the fence "
Sod em though, really
If they (who ever they are) care more about the colour of someones skin, and not of your happiness; do you really want them in your life?
I know I had no qualms about what I was doing, so I wont tolerate those that judged me based on my ex's skin colour.
Their opinions/thoughts just showed them for what they really are, and have had no impact on me, or my little one x |
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For all of our friends its never even really discussed or mentioned.
But we have had the odd racist jibes on the street, ironically nearly always from other black people.
Previously with an ex we had one from a bus driver, shouting out the window of his cab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be fair I think the OP asked a fair question. It SHOULN'T be tabboo in this day and age but I would say that some people would look twice at mixed race couples. Tabboo is probably too strong a word though, but I know if I was in a mixed race relationship, living where I do, I would expect second glances and comments. Not that it would stop me, before anyone says anything but some people are still very narrow minded about certain things."
Are there any black people in Aberaeron yet then ?? lol. When i lived near you think there was like one black family in Cardigan, and they never suffered any racism, whereas me...being an english kid in a backward welsh school suffered plenty ! And that was just from the teachers ! ;p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My niece has been totally disowned by her mum and the family apart from myself and my younger sister... Because she is now dating an Asian guy... And expecting his baby... While I personally wouldn't.. I don't think it's right she has been totally excluded.. but then my cousin suffered the same fate when he married a lady he had met while serving over seas.
My family is very anti mixed race... But I would hope I would be more understanding if it was my children. |
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By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago
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"My niece has been totally disowned by her mum and the family apart from myself and my younger sister... Because she is now dating an Asian guy... And expecting his baby... While I personally wouldn't.. I don't think it's right she has been totally excluded.. but then my cousin suffered the same fate when he married a lady he had met while serving over seas.
My family is very anti mixed race... But I would hope I would be more understanding if it was my children. "
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"Are they still considered a taboo?
I don't mean in the swinging world i mean in the vanilla world. Just an open question i'd like to here people thoughts on "
Not in our home its not .... we think they are great !!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People act as though racism is back in the dark ages but I still see and hear plenty of it. Mostly of ignorance, some malicious.
There seem to be more and more with the 'no Blacks/Asians (just my 'preference')' line on here too.
I don't think there's generally an issue about mixed relationships though. At least not that people would admit to openly."
Racism is still alive and well sadly.
And as was pointed out above, there's no general issue with mixed relationships and if there was, you won't find people openly admitting it.
Ask a few Asian girls if their parents would freak if they brought a black guy home for them to meet?
Maybe "taboo" was the wrong word to use but to think society has moved on completely from the issue of interracial relationships is a little naive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are they still considered a taboo?
I don't mean in the swinging world i mean in the vanilla world. Just an open question i'd like to here people thoughts on "
People who were bigoted 20 years ago will still be most likley but these days its fairly common place so you don't get people looking and pointing. If it works for people then thats all that counts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The heart can't tell what colour a person is, only how you feel about them."
I'm with SexyBrian on this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex (who was white) and I ultimately broke up because we come from different ethnic backgrounds. I think it can be harder to be in mixed relationship but it can work too. |
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I have a dream. A world full of coffee coloured individuals. Tasty. |
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"My ex (who was white) and I ultimately broke up because we come from different ethnic backgrounds. I think it can be harder to be in mixed relationship but it can work too. "
I would agree with that broadly, even more so if the people have been brought up in vastly different cultures. |
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"My ex (who was white) and I ultimately broke up because we come from different ethnic backgrounds. I think it can be harder to be in mixed relationship but it can work too. "
My daughter was in a relationship with a Ghanian for six years. Although they're both black culturally they were polls apart. She's now married to a white man, her equal, treats her like the princess she is. My ex-husband and I love him to bits, so yes, it can work! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Friend of a friend married a woman from Afghanistan, her family still pray for his death. |
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Whilst by and large i would say we as a society have moved on and are more tolerant in the majority about lots of aspects, would also say for some any marriage or partnership outside of their perceived parameters (colour, class or culture etc) may be deemed to be 'taboo'..
same may well be said for same sex relationships, some will always have prejudice, ignorance and intolerance as part of their psyche.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP has every right to ask a valid q. I see it on.here all the time. BBC Only or no asian men.please, just a preference....
Both those sort of lines are bandied about like confetti on here. Both are excluding at best and racist at worst.
If you have the need to exclude who you fuck.by colour just.dont.reply when they enquire. Simple really
Like Bertie Basset, I like allsorts.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've noticed more racism, not less, in recent times. It's a different kind of racism, but still there. |
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By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago
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"is this guy for real??? ...It seems so this is 2013 yes we haven't gone back in time have we.  "
Yes this guy is for real and no we haven't gone back in time!!
It's interesting from my perspective that i have asked a legitimate question that site members have understood & made observations & comments from their own experiences whilst some are questioning what year i'm from and blocking me
No skin off my nose i'm happy with any comment but the question i asked was based on my own experience of a relationship i was in &, from what's been said on here by those who understood the question, i'm not alone in thinking that not everyone in society has moved on or is willing to accept it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't think it was, never think twice about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are they still considered a taboo?
I don't mean in the swinging world i mean in the vanilla world. Just an open question i'd like to here people thoughts on "
It's as redundant an issue in 2013 as you could wish to imagine.
But as Wheels notes early, a subject that courts prejudice I'm sure.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been one, long term... Making a lifetime commitment opened up too much for me to compromise on. I bailed.
It was personal to me, you can't make generalisations... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are they still considered a taboo?
I don't mean in the swinging world i mean in the vanilla world. Just an open question i'd like to here people thoughts on
It's as redundant an issue in 2013 as you could wish to imagine.
But as Wheels notes early, a subject that courts prejudice I'm sure.
J x"
Redundant ? Live the life and see how redundant it really is,You can ram as much Equality and PC bollox down the publics throats as you like but as someone who has spent 58 years with it i can assure you that Racism is alive and prospering in this Country |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"i'm not alone in thinking that not everyone in society has moved on or is willing to accept it."
Someone show me where, in this sentence, the OP states HE does not accept it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have trouble reading after a few mulled wines. I'm seeing more than double now.. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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It's not a silly question at all, and of course it depends on the people involved. Speaking personally (M), I had a relationship for five years with a woman whose parents never knew I existed, simply because my race meant the relationship would have been unacceptable to them.
Racism is the worst kind of stupidity, but sadly that doesn't preclude it from existing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think explaining it will help. Not until the morning at least. But the smileys keep being quoted is funny. |
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"I don't think explaining it will help. Not until the morning at least. But the smileys keep being quoted is funny."
You're right. A case of one too many creme de menthes at the works Christmas do I think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many an emotion tonight LOL |
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"I don't think explaining it will help. Not until the morning at least. But the smileys keep being quoted is funny.
You're right. A case of one too many creme de menthes at the works Christmas do I think."
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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im giving it 5 more mins till the step beckons funny tho  |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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Merry Christmas everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you read your own profile? It says you're 'social drinkers'.
The reading bit does seem an issue. But the smileys make for a good party atmosphere - like the end of a dodgy works Xmas party. |
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