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By *D40 OP Couple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
When we decided to swing we agreed it was something we'd do together. Recently at a party my bloke met a woman who was great fun. I know he'd like to play & he has suggested going for a visit. I'm more than happy for him to go & if invited will go with him & have a cuppa while he plays.
This is changing our guidelines which I don't think I mind as a one off. Not sure I'd like it as a regular occur acne. Much rather party play than arrange one to ones.
Have other couples changed the rules & if so how did it work out?
Julie xx |
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By *amamanMan
over a year ago
Inverness and around. ... |
rules are made to be broken ....  it all depends on how comfortable you are with rules being bent or slightly changed..as long as you are happy to let him play alone its up to you really ...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First off , how do you know it would be a one off ?
Secondly , if your relationship isn't rock solid there is a chance you may wonder whether his desire for her may be more than you are comfortable with .
But if you are truly happy for him to go ahead with or without you - go for it !
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"When we decided to swing we agreed it was something we'd do together. Recently at a party my bloke met a woman who was great fun. I know he'd like to play & he has suggested going for a visit. I'm more than happy for him to go & if invited will go with him & have a cuppa while he plays.
This is changing our guidelines which I don't think I mind as a one off. Not sure I'd like it as a regular occur acne. Much rather party play than arrange one to ones.
Have other couples changed the rules & if so how did it work out?
Julie xx"
I can hear alarm bells already |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Evolving is inevitable over time BUT you clearly have some concerns over this situation and would strongly recommend you two sit down and discuss the situation fully, it's a very dodgy place to be if BOTH of you are not 100 per cent up for any scenario x |
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"Evolving is inevitable over time BUT you clearly have some concerns over this situation and would strongly recommend you two sit down and discuss the situation fully, it's a very dodgy place to be if BOTH of you are not 100 per cent up for any scenario x"
His idea or yours?
OUR fun is as long as we are together in the same room, go for it, but we are always together.
I really wouldnt be happy if the Mrs went upstairs and left me alone with a Cuppa whilst she was in another room enjoying herself.
I think I am a lucky guy enjoying this game, but we have rules for both of us and that is we only do this together. |
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I think it's simple, if you are ok with it then you are ok with it. If you are only ok with it as a one off, then he will have to live with the one off.
In the end it's about talking it through between the 2 of you.
As for changing the rules, Hell yeh, we changed them the first time we walked into a swingers club and then the 2nd time.
The first time we just wanted to watch and maybe try some girl on girl stuff. That lasted about 30 minutes. When a couple we where playing with girl on girl style. Took my blokes cock out of my pussy and sucked it.
He did not mind and I was having fun so. It was all good.
The 2nd occasion was when we went to La Chambre for the first time. We were more comfortable at this point so had agreed to play with those we liked together.
However I did not want to play with anyone too young so no one under 25ish or too old 45 ish. (For us)
The first girl I hit on and played around with was 19, the next couple were in their 50's 
Best laid plans and all that.
From the start I have become more relaxed. From not wanting Him to play with anyone but me. To being ok with him getting sucked off. etc etc. Now I even fantasize about him taking a lady up to a room and fucking her without me knowing.
I think that's called mission creep. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're at all uncomfortable, don't do it. It's not worth the heartache.
No harm in trying it once if you think you'd be ok with it though. And then see how you feel about doing it again. x |
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By *D40 OP Couple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"Do not think we would ever play without each other. For us is the fun of fucking other people and watching each other"
We don't fuck in the same room. He has no desire to watch me have sex with another bloke & to be fair I don't want him too. I like to watch him tho. We connect while he's fucking other women
Our relationship is strong & the minute I had concerns I'd call swinging cease fire.
Julie x |
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