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seperate room play.. advice and experiences please
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello
Playing as a couple that play together is new to me.. and we are just a play couple.. and had always agreed that we would still play as singles.
Now when he's played without me there at all.. it's just turned me on .. yet recently seperate rooms happened although I was not playing as I've found I don't want too... However I found I didnt like it.. not from jealousy but because I felt excluded and like a spare part.. I've made this clear but I know many enjoy it..
And irony is previously id mostly done seperate play with partners.... So it's not making much sense to me..
So couples play or proper who play in seperate rooms.. what is your secret...
I need to make it clear that this isnt jealousy it's to do with feeling excluded and because I can't watch.
Had it been in a room I could view it would have been awesome.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i had this with my ex we did full swap same room and i loved it, a couple suggested seperate room and we thought yeah sod it we'll try it did nothing for me and did kind of feel abit like cheating
not knocking those that like it thats their choice but nope when i was in a couple it wasnt for me |
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we have tried both and we both agreed it was much more fun for all to be in the same room. We enjoy seeing the fun as well as taking part so it's a win-win.
We didn't get jealous, just not as much fun |
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Hi Love, we will only do same room as for us the excitement comes after the meet when we discuss things with each other and ultimately it enhances our own lovemaking. We have once done seperate room but I didnt like it as I felt vulnerable and very overwhelmed and there was no spark. I can understand why you would feel like a spare part tho as we have been on meets where the other guy just wants to watch.
Next time we meet it will be all 4 of us having fun. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi Love, we will only do same room as for us the excitement comes after the meet when we discuss things with each other and ultimately it enhances our own lovemaking. We have once done seperate room but I didnt like it as I felt vulnerable and very overwhelmed and there was no spark. I can understand why you would feel like a spare part tho as we have been on meets where the other guy just wants to watch.
Next time we meet it will be all 4 of us having fun. xxx"
It's the feeling like a spare part .. although I acutually didny mind when I knew and heard all the details after... We tried once with both in other rooms and I hated the playing on my part but loved what lee was getting up too.. but I knew that was happening.. so maybe it's when I don't know and am not included in the planning or anything xx
I'm just trying to get a understanding of why I hated it so much last time... And hear from people that enjoy it..
Although perhaps it's just not for me |
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Perhaps its because although you are only playmates as you say you still want to feel included and by at least having a part in planning something even if you dont play makes it easier to visualise what your partner is doing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't like separate room either. If he's on a meet by himself it doesn't bother me at all. But if I'm there I want to be included. Hate feeling like a spare part. |
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"I don't like separate room either. If he's on a meet by himself it doesn't bother me at all. But if I'm there I want to be included. Hate feeling like a spare part. "
That's exactly how I felt.. when he meets without me there at all I am excitedly waiting to find out all about it.. it's horny as hell.. but when we are somewhere together I felt very put out and excluded and made me behave totally off for me. |
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we much prefer separate room, mostly as we have had loads of experiences of the other couples spend the whole time watching what each other are doing and making sure they're not enjoying it too much. Plus the wife gets the guy who's over and done with in 2 mins then what do I do, polite and finish quick or carry on. We've had too many duff experiences and find it much easier to play separate. To be fair, the wife finds any bloke in a couple much less attractive, simpler with single guys. |
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"I don't like separate room either. If he's on a meet by himself it doesn't bother me at all. But if I'm there I want to be included. Hate feeling like a spare part.
That's exactly how I felt.. when he meets without me there at all I am excitedly waiting to find out all about it.. it's horny as hell.. but when we are somewhere together I felt very put out and excluded and made me behave totally off for me. "
Stuff like this used to bother me but now I have decided it's just how I am and so I only play the way that I know I will have fun. If I am cramping anyone's style they can play with someone else. I won't make myself feel uncomfortable just so other people are happy. I enjoy plenty of scenario's so I stick with those.   |
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