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By *ansue35 OP Couple
over a year ago
yorkshire |
Hi
We looking at have at three sum FFM. (well trying LOL)
We have put tht we are soft swingers on our profile which is true, I Sue only soft swing with males.
But Ian (hubby) can full swing with fems he wants too.
So do we state this in our profile and hope that people read it as it should be or not.
A few messages to singles ladies have point this out and thus end and meet etc before it has started.
So people advice would be great.
thank you
Sue
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i personally cant see what difference it makes to sing women if the female soft swings with men or not, shes getting all she can from you and your hubby if he full swings, however i can see your situation putting a lot of couples off meeting you, cant see many men letting your fella have sex with his mrs if he cant with you, but so far as looking for a single female goes, i really cant see what their problem would be  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i personally cant see what difference it makes to sing women if the female soft swings with men or not, shes getting all she can from you and your hubby if he full swings, however i can see your situation putting a lot of couples off meeting you, cant see many men letting your fella have sex with his mrs if he cant with you, but so far as looking for a single female goes, i really cant see what their problem would be "
Yep...Fems you are looking to play with ...well the fact you only soft swing will be of absolutely no consequence to them....so whats the problem..???
Just a wild stab in the dark..but guessing you will struggle to find other couples to play with...because of the way you are choosing to play...but hey good luck..   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi
We looking at have at three sum FFM. (well trying LOL)
We have put tht we are soft swingers on our profile which is true, I Sue only soft swing with males.
But Ian (hubby) can full swing with fems he wants too.
So do we state this in our profile and hope that people read it as it should be or not.
A few messages to singles ladies have point this out and thus end and meet etc before it has started.
So people advice would be great.
thank you
Sue
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Just read your profile...states you are soft swingers....either both be soft swing or change your profile to be clearer about what you want...and are actually into...you never know..it might work..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile doesn't come across as swingers or people who play.
As you noticed, people are not interested due to how you want to play. Of course, you can chose to play anyway you like, but again not many seem to want to play like you want to...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi
We looking at have at three sum FFM. (well trying LOL)
We have put tht we are soft swingers on our profile which is true, I Sue only soft swing with males.
But Ian (hubby) can full swing with fems he wants too.
So do we state this in our profile and hope that people read it as it should be or not.
A few messages to singles ladies have point this out and thus end and meet etc before it has started.
So people advice would be great.
thank you
Sue
Just read your profile...states you are soft swingers....either both be soft swing or change your profile to be clearer about what you want...and are actually into...you never know..it might work.. "
yeah must admit i read their profile and nowhere on it does it say he can have full sex but she can't/don't, it just says your a soft swinging couple, you really need to clear that up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your profile doesn't come across as swingers or people who play.
As you noticed, people are not interested due to how you want to play. Of course, you can chose to play anyway you like, but again not many seem to want to play like you want to...
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i dont think their profiles the problem they just sound like every day soft swingers to me and there are lots of soft swinging couples about, the only problem i can see is the fact that one does full sex and the other one dont, which isnt stated on their profile, but to be honest i really cant see many couples being interested in playing like that, i think they will find couples either wont contact them or contact them saying they are interested in soft swing only for everyone |
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I can understand why couples softswing, but as a single female if I thought that was all that's on offer I would feel more like a fluffer... there for the warm-up but not for the main event. From your post I can see that is not the case, however from your profile I would assume it was.
May I suggest you do alter your profile to explain the situation in a little more detail. Something like....
"When meeting couples our preference is to softswing, as Sue prefers to not have penetrative sex with other males. Whilst Sue is happy for Ian to full swing, it seems fairer to keep it to just soft swing in this situation and we will totally respect your preferences.
We’d also like to meet a single female. This would not be a softswing situation as it is only Sue’s preference to refrain from penetration, so the lovely ladies will be at liberty to enjoy Ian’s full range of bedroom techniques."
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By *ansue35 OP Couple
over a year ago
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HI
thanks for the replys.
Well, as a rule we both only soft sewing.
We have had a few meets plays, so not short of meeting people.
I think a re-write of the profile is in order.!!
Ian can full swing if he wants, just that I do not want, (might change later)
Ian agrees with, well you can't shag my Mrs but ian can shag yours,
Hence why we put soft swing down and really happy to just do that.
Just on the FFM side most of the ladies we have talked too like to full swing, which we do not have a problem with at all.
Just for us meeting couples we only soft swing.
Not sure if I have put it in the right context or not.
Any way thanks again for the replies.
Happy swinging LOL
Sue
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By *ansue35 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I can understand why couples softswing, but as a single female if I thought that was all that's on offer I would feel more like a fluffer... there for the warm-up but not for the main event. From your post I can see that is not the case, however from your profile I would assume it was.
May I suggest you do alter your profile to explain the situation in a little more detail. Something like....
"When meeting couples our preference is to softswing, as Sue prefers to not have penetrative sex with other males. Whilst Sue is happy for Ian to full swing, it seems fairer to keep it to just soft swing in this situation and we will totally respect your preferences.
We’d also like to meet a single female. This would not be a softswing situation as it is only Sue’s preference to refrain from penetration, so the lovely ladies will be at liberty to enjoy Ian’s full range of bedroom techniques."
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Hi
Can i use that !
You put just what i was thinking.
Well better get to work.
Thanks Polo
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi
We looking at have at three sum FFM. (well trying LOL)
We have put tht we are soft swingers on our profile which is true, I Sue only soft swing with males.
But Ian (hubby) can full swing with fems he wants too.
So do we state this in our profile and hope that people read it as it should be or not.
A few messages to singles ladies have point this out and thus end and meet etc before it has started.
So people advice would be great.
thank you
Sue
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Nothing wrong with asking for that - after all we all have preferences and the beauty of the scene in general is that most people are that little bit more tolerant, less judgemental of others, well in our experience.
We would not have a problem with your request and then again, we would not have problem if it were reverse? For us bottom line would be whether we all got on as people...
Now, in our experience stating this in your profile would be the honest and open thing to do (we have a few restrictions ourselves), however it probably will reduce the number of people considering approaching you. Then again, if you are set on this, you would not want to meet them anyway?
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By *ansue35 OP Couple
over a year ago
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HI
I agree that as people with in this life style, getting on with people and enjoying what everyone likes to do is the best thing about swinging.
We all have our rules differences etc.
We set out swing with the view we will only do the thngs we like or want.
I never in a million years thought that i would like girl on girl.
When we went to our first club i stated on the form ST8.
well i did change my mind. ( like us women do) Know love fem on fem.
But still nervse about FFM why ? not sure.
Thanks all for the advice,also to the people that have messaged us!!!.
trouble with this site, you keep thinking just pop into check mail etc and never get any wok done.
Anyone else have the same problem.
take care
Sue
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By (user no longer on site)
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"HI
I agree that as people with in this life style, getting on with people and enjoying what everyone likes to do is the best thing about swinging.
We all have our rules differences etc.
We set out swing with the view we will only do the thngs we like or want.
I never in a million years thought that i would like girl on girl.
When we went to our first club i stated on the form ST8.
well i did change my mind. ( like us women do) Know love fem on fem.
But still nervse about FFM why ? not sure.
Thanks all for the advice,also to the people that have messaged us!!!.
trouble with this site, you keep thinking just pop into check mail etc and never get any wok done.
Anyone else have the same problem.
take care
Sue
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I totally understand the nervousness about a ffm....yes I know you are all laughing your heads off but..I do GET it
Girl on girl in a couples 4some situation... is in my experience totally different from G on G in a ffm 3some...x
When I was a single bi girl I only ever met 0ne couple for a ffm...its was a blooming fiasco..!! Met the fem on her own for a coffee..Wow..so much chemistry....flirting like crazy with each other...parting with a slow sensual kiss....yum
Her hubby looked lovely..so arranged a meet...went to their house...and felt really weirded out ..no chemistry with him at all...we all felt tense ..and all I wanted to do was run away...eventually it turned into a girl on girl soft porn kinda snoggy grope fest...but one of those things you chalk up to experience..
The best ffm fun I have had.. was always in situations.. where I have slept with either the guy or the girl before hand and in a party or club situation...and another friend..my partner..or some gorgeous creature.. that happens to be there.. just spontaneously joins in...always spontaneous..always unplanned...and thats how we like our 3somes...now as a couple...
So good luck...enjoy your3some...yes.. they can seem like the holy grail of swinging...but how often they happen outside of the party and club scene I am not really sure... |
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By *ansue35 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Try going to a swingers club and making contact that way I find it easier than chatting one on one and then you can pick and choose your fun."
hi
tanks for the advice about clubs.
have to try chams as seems be a good plavce to go and play and also seems a few lady go as well.
We been to a few clubs and hardly any single ladies have been there.
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