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Do I have the right to be offended?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just saw on a couple of profiles that some people are looking for "white British people only"....

I can vaguely understand why people can say "caucasian only/black only/white only" (I guess it's a matter of taste) but I don't really see what nationality has to do with swinging...

I don't really feel offended to be honest, just feel a bit weird about that kind of restrictions. What do you think?

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I think you should ignore such profiles and concentrate on the ones without restrictions. People have their preferences, and they are only making them clear to prevent unwanted messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is a public place so you can be offended or take no offence from a persons profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you want to be offended then go right ahead

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why would you feel weird?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

maybe it's to do with accents too? perhaps they can't always understand what people from other nationalities are saying and think it's rude to constantly ask them to repeat themselves?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

why would you be offended by someone elses preferences no matter what they are?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it aint white it aint right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No reason to be offended. I personally am not attracted to Asian men, have no issues or problems with them, Im just not attracted. People's own preferences are exactly that, and no one has the right to question them or be offended by them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not offended, but pretty disgusting in my opinion. The line between preference and prejudice is always potentually blurred but that seems to be pretty clear."

Disgusting? For not wanting a bbc? Or any other type of bc? Really?

Does that mean your also disgusted at all those women on here who are specifically looking for bbc?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'd love to meet a couple from abroad. I like different accents and diversity.

When I was a kid, everyone I knew was white, spoke with a reyt thick local accent, everyone's dads worked in the same collieries and anyone who was the slightest bit different was marked out as an outsider. I'm so glad we are moving away from that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How can you be offended by something that is not objectively offensive. Whoever it is, is free to state whom they wish to play with as much as anyone else.

We agree that a preference such as this does seem a little restrictive, yet it is still non the less a valid one.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

You have a right to be offended if that's how you feel. It would be a waste of time though

. In our life outside of fab we quite often come across casual insults against the nationality of one of us and people are often surprised that we don't see the "joke", our kids got it at school too but on here it doesn't mean a thing because its easy to choose not to engage.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

As I said, I feel actually more uncomfy than offended...

People are perfectly entitled to their preference but as I said, I can understand when it is based on something concrete (cock or breast size, height, weight, race...), a bit less when it is based on something as random as nationality!

Though, I'm not judging those who do: just noticed and wanted your opinion!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So does a white british person from the falklands or gibralter still count?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some accents are sexy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not offended, but pretty disgusting in my opinion. The line between preference and prejudice is always potentually blurred but that seems to be pretty clear.

Disgusting? For not wanting a bbc? Or any other type of bc? Really?

Does that mean your also disgusted at all those women on here who are specifically looking for bbc? "

I didnt realise i was being prejudiced because i wont fuck someone only be friends with them because sexually they dont turn me on for one reason or another to do with accent or how they look.

Possibly they are from another country and british accents turn them on, would it be disgusting for me to say i was looking for an italian lover because the accent was hot?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So does a white british person from the falklands or gibralter still count?"

And what about a Brit who moved to Normandy vs a naturalised citizen.... Who will get some fun tonight??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not offended, but pretty disgusting in my opinion. The line between preference and prejudice is always potentually blurred but that seems to be pretty clear.

Disgusting? For not wanting a bbc? Or any other type of bc? Really?

Does that mean your also disgusted at all those women on here who are specifically looking for bbc?

I didnt realise i was being prejudiced because i wont fuck someone only be friends with them because sexually they dont turn me on for one reason or another to do with accent or how they look.

Possibly they are from another country and british accents turn them on, would it be disgusting for me to say i was looking for an italian lover because the accent was hot?

Exactly. Some folks on this site seem to have a warped sense of what's disgusting! I think the 'racist' card is pulled out far too easily nowadays.

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By *igSuki81Man over a year ago

Retirement Village

What's the point of being offended or uncomfy? If they don't want you move on bud

Take for example a post earlier where someone isn't attracted to Asians. Am I offended or uncomfy? Nope it's their choice and theirs to deal with even though its a bit more 'concrete' as you put it. I'm not going to let it bother me at all or get in my way of meeting people on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For everyone who doesnt want something someone else will be looking for it. Just talk to those people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As I said, I feel actually more uncomfy than offended...

Though, I'm not judging those who do: just noticed and wanted your opinion!"

Nationality isn't a random factor, that is why the phrase 'national identity' exists.

It is very much a concrete thing, a whole chunk of society sharing a common collective ideal based purely on where you come from.

As we have already stated we would not use this as a factor in choosing our potential playmates but it is never the less still a valid one for the person stating it within their profile.

Unfortunately you are French and thus do not meet this preference. Just move on to the thousands of other profiles which do not use this qualifying factor and stop thinking about whether you have a right to be upset about what might have been.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We only consider racial differences if we think it might lead to cultural differences...especially in their attitudes to women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What's the point of being offended or uncomfy? If they don't want you move on bud

Well, I move on... it's just that I saw 3 "nationality restrictions" in a row and it sounded wrong to me!

I regularly have to deal with some "casual" xenophobic behaviours and, maybe I'm naive, but I thought that on such a website, we were all "naked" and equal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If we were all naked and equal none of us would be allowed to say no to anyone and thats not right

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"but I thought that on such a website, we were all "naked" and equal

I am sure you have preferences as to who you meet. As someone said above, nationality is as much of a preference as colour, size, and gender. And at least you know that those people aren't your cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have the right to be offended, do I have the right not to care?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"What's the point of being offended or uncomfy? If they don't want you move on bud

Well, I move on... it's just that I saw 3 "nationality restrictions" in a row and it sounded wrong to me!

I regularly have to deal with some "casual" xenophobic behaviours and, maybe I'm naive, but I thought that on such a website, we were all "naked" and equal

the "casual" xenophobia is probably why you feel uncomfortable, our reactions are all based on previous experiences. As I mentioned above I completely understand "casual" xenophobia

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By *igSuki81Man over a year ago

Retirement Village

"If we were all naked and equal none of us would be allowed to say no to anyone and thats not right"

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By *ighland_RoseCouple over a year ago

Brigadoon

"Just saw on a couple of profiles that some people are looking for "white British people only"....

I can vaguely understand why people can say "caucasian only/black only/white only" (I guess it's a matter of taste) but I don't really see what nationality has to do with swinging...

I don't really feel offended to be honest, just feel a bit weird about that kind of restrictions. What do you think?"

I understand how you feel, I wouldn't give someone with that kind of thing on their profile another look. But look at it this way - you know they aren't for you and you haven't wasted any time on them...plus they are missing out on you so more fool them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's the point of being offended or uncomfy? If they don't want you move on bud

Well, I move on... it's just that I saw 3 "nationality restrictions" in a row and it sounded wrong to me!

I regularly have to deal with some "casual" xenophobic behaviours and, maybe I'm naive, but I thought that on such a website, we were all "naked" and equal

On your profile you say you have a sexy french accent. So your bringing your nationality into your profile, yet complain when other people also bring nationality into it.

If your going to try and get into peoples beds by using your accent then why are you surprised there are some people who are saying no to it. They are just being upfront, same as you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"but I thought that on such a website, we were all "naked" and equal

Sure, but once again: you can be attracted to fat or thin people, tall or small, black or white... I understand that! But I have some issues understanding how people can be attracted or not by you depending on what's written on your passport.

But then, once again: I personallu don't find it right, but they can very well do what they want (one sure thing, they won't want to meet me and I won't want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's the point of being offended or uncomfy? If they don't want you move on bud

Well, I move on... it's just that I saw 3 "nationality restrictions" in a row and it sounded wrong to me!

I regularly have to deal with some "casual" xenophobic behaviours and, maybe I'm naive, but I thought that on such a website, we were all "naked" and equal

You have an age restriction limit set at 43! Does that mean we can presume you are ageist? Do you have a 'phobia' of middle aged women? Or are you just excersising your right to a preference?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So, now that thats settled, can we all chill now?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, I move on... it's just that I saw 3 "nationality restrictions" in a row and it sounded wrong to me!

I regularly have to deal with some "casual" xenophobic behaviours and, maybe I'm naive, but I thought that on such a website, we were all "naked" and equal

Don't quite understand what you are insinuating here. Did any of the profiles state that they didn't want to meet specifically with French guys or were they objectively offensive to the French nation as a whole? Because if they weren't then they were only stating their particular preference and were not being xenophobic in any way.

Could you please clarify this, to enable us to understand if this is an issue of racism or whether this is a case of you being miffed because you do not fit the criteria that is required by the others profile?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go and do some research on communities and then have a think about why you're offended. Benedict Anderson wrote a book called Imagined Communities. It basically helps you to understand why people flock to one type or another.

At the end of the day you're allowed to be upset by it. It won't do you any good as its up to the individual who, when, and how they indulge in sex. You cannot force someone to share their body as that is classed as rape.

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

"What's the point of being offended or uncomfy? If they don't want you move on bud

Well, I move on... it's just that I saw 3 "nationality restrictions" in a row and it sounded wrong to me!

I regularly have to deal with some "casual" xenophobic behaviours and, maybe I'm naive, but I thought that on such a website, we were all "naked" and equal

Do you really think due to the nature of this site people are going to park their racial prejudices at the keyboard? Surely no-one is that naive?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The fact that you feel the need to make a thread about it, suggests that it hit a raw nerve with you.

Some people are very cold and clinical it doesn't mean they're out to offend anyone.

I prefer if a profile states exactly want they're seeking, it saves a lot of time potentially dithering tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

John you mention being French in your profile which means this must form at least some part of your identity, in the same way that your looks and interests will also play a part. It's nothing personal just some people narrowing down their search options.

For the record your written English seems better than many native writers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"John you mention being French in your profile which means this must form at least some part of your identity, in the same way that your looks and interests will also play a part. It's nothing personal just some people narrowing down their search options.

For the record your written English seems better than many native writers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you really think due to the nature of this site people are going to park their racial prejudices at the keyboard?"

So now because someone chooses a certain type of person they are a racist? That's a tad narrow minded.

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By *r and missus for cockMan over a year ago

bridgend

Think people put posts up just for the sake of it. Ffs.

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By *igSuki81Man over a year ago

Retirement Village

Looks like sh*ts going to hit the fan again with the thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What's the point of being offended or uncomfy? If they don't want you move on bud

Well, I move on... it's just that I saw 3 "nationality restrictions" in a row and it sounded wrong to me!

I regularly have to deal with some "casual" xenophobic behaviours and, maybe I'm naive, but I thought that on such a website, we were all "naked" and equal

On your profile you say you have a sexy french accent. So your bringing your nationality into your profile, yet complain when other people also bring nationality into it.

If your going to try and get into peoples beds by using your accent then why are you surprised there are some people who are saying no to it. They are just being upfront, same as you. "

I don't use it as a way to get into somebody's bed, it's just a fact: I have an accent (maybe I emphasised a little on the sexy part, haha!). If you had a "special feature", you'd emphasise on it, uh? (like your tattoos for instance

)

But it's not so much the fact they are saying no to my accent (after all, it is indeed their choice) but more the fact they're stating "British only"... Once again, it sounds casually xenophobic to me, and therefore not really right! But maybe I'm wrong...

Anyway, I'm glad I started a proper debate tonight! It's a bit of a change from the usual "kiss, fuck, pass"

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

You can be offended if you like; it's up to you.

Or, you can appreciate you don't fit their criteria, and move onto someone who would be happy to meet you.

Simples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Put it this way, I'd be constantly asking you to repeat yourself as French is one accent I can never quite understand so would feel awkward meeting a French person.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"So, now that thats settled, can we all chill now?"

Hear hear!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

cor its a thorny topic this nationality and race business.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a bald head and a beard. Some women hate that. NO FACIAL HAIR appears on many a status. However, i don't cry about it.

It takes all sorts to make a world. One of the great thing about this country is that freedom of speech is allowed and encouraged. There are only a handful of countries on earth where this conversation amongst swigers could be had.

Instead of making a fuss about it encourage diversity. This means that we also should not judge those who don't want to change.

Life is for living and its your prerogative to live it how you see fit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What's the point of being offended or uncomfy? If they don't want you move on bud

Well, I move on... it's just that I saw 3 "nationality restrictions" in a row and it sounded wrong to me!

I regularly have to deal with some "casual" xenophobic behaviours and, maybe I'm naive, but I thought that on such a website, we were all "naked" and equal

On your profile you say you have a sexy french accent. So your bringing your nationality into your profile, yet complain when other people also bring nationality into it.

If your going to try and get into peoples beds by using your accent then why are you surprised there are some people who are saying no to it. They are just being upfront, same as you.

)

Anyway, I'm glad I started a proper debate tonight! It's a bit of a change from the usual "kiss, fuck, pass"

Anyway, I agree with the person who said we should all chill out...

At the end of the day, as long as everyone has the fun they want, it's the essential!

(and for the records, I wasn't actually particularly interested in the people I saw these mentions on the profile... So, it wasn't really me "feeling rejected"

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I have a bald head and a beard. Some women hate that. NO FACIAL HAIR appears on many a status. However, i don't cry about it.

Instead of making a fuss about it encourage diversity. This means that we also should not judge those who don't want to change.

Life is for living and its your prerogative to live it how you see fit. "

Lol so free speech is to be encouraged but can he shut up now in other words

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My eyes have seen the glory of the trampling at the zoo,

We washed our hands in nig%ers blood and all the mongrels too,

We're taking down the Zog machine jew by jew by jew,

The white man marches on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a bald head and a beard. Some women hate that. NO FACIAL HAIR appears on many a status. However, i don't cry about it.

Instead of making a fuss about it encourage diversity. This means that we also should not judge those who don't want to change.

Life is for living and its your prerogative to live it how you see fit.

Lol so free speech is to be encouraged but can he shut up now in other words

Got it in one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's the point of being offended or uncomfy? If they don't want you move on bud

just as I don't get offended if someone's profile states they only want slim women. Won't even get offended if it said "fatties need not apply, get back to the fridge"

where did I put my chocolate. . . . .

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By *extoysareusCouple over a year ago

kinky heaven

No you shouldn't be offended, their body, their choice

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I have a bald head and a beard. Some women hate that. NO FACIAL HAIR appears on many a status. However, i don't cry about it.

Instead of making a fuss about it encourage diversity. This means that we also should not judge those who don't want to change.

Life is for living and its your prerogative to live it how you see fit.

Lol so free speech is to be encouraged but can he shut up now in other words

Got it in one.

Not so much as a hint of irony?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

(and for the records, I wasn't actually particularly interested in the people I saw these mentions on the profile... So, it wasn't really me "feeling rejected"

Is that really true or are you fibbing just a bit????

Don't worry there are plenty of others out there. But whilst we are on the subject of all things French, you guys were so jammy to qualify for Brazil and if you meet us there, you will get your arses kicked good and proper, so there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a bald head and a beard. Some women hate that. NO FACIAL HAIR appears on many a status. However, i don't cry about it.

Instead of making a fuss about it encourage diversity. This means that we also should not judge those who don't want to change.

Life is for living and its your prerogative to live it how you see fit. "

Couldn't you do a handstand when you meet them? Voila! Ful head of hair and no beard!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

(and for the records, I wasn't actually particularly interested in the people I saw these mentions on the profile... So, it wasn't really me "feeling rejected"

)

Is that really true or are you fibbing just a bit????

England look like they wont be too far behind france on the plane home...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a bald head and a beard. Some women hate that. NO FACIAL HAIR appears on many a status. However, i don't cry about it.

Instead of making a fuss about it encourage diversity. This means that we also should not judge those who don't want to change.

Life is for living and its your prerogative to live it how you see fit.

Lol so free speech is to be encouraged but can he shut up now in other words

Got it in one.

Not so much as a hint of irony?"

Irony is a communist trait. I dont mix with commies!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Incidentally being offended is your God given right. Vive la revolution!

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

Do you really think due to the nature of this site people are going to park their racial prejudices at the keyboard?

So now because someone chooses a certain type of person they are a racist? That's a tad narrow minded. "

Oh come on. Are you seriously trying to tell me there are no racists on this site? You only have to read between the lines on some of the threads to determine who they are.

And guess what? I am too towards a certain race, as one astute member who has blocked me determined for themselves.

For the record, I respect the honesty of those who put no blacks or Asians, saves at lot of time and wasted effort.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you really think due to the nature of this site people are going to park their racial prejudices at the keyboard?

So now because someone chooses a certain type of person they are a racist? That's a tad narrow minded.

Oh come on. Are you seriously trying to tell me there are no racists on this site? You only have to read between the lines on some of the threads to determine who they are.

And guess what? I am too towards a certain race, as one astute member who has blocked me determined for themselves.

For the record, I respect the honesty of those who put no blacks or Asians, saves at lot of time and wasted effort. "

Is it eskimos?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you really think due to the nature of this site people are going to park their racial prejudices at the keyboard?

So now because someone chooses a certain type of person they are a racist? That's a tad narrow minded.

Oh come on. Are you seriously trying to tell me there are no racists on this site? You only have to read between the lines on some of the threads to determine who they are.

And guess what? I am too towards a certain race, as one astute member who has blocked me determined for themselves.

For the record, I respect the honesty of those who put no blacks or Asians, saves at lot of time and wasted effort. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

(and for the records, I wasn't actually particularly interested in the people I saw these mentions on the profile... So, it wasn't really me "feeling rejected"

)

Is that really true or are you fibbing just a bit????

Haha, I'm sure about it... French team is shit!! (Though, are you sure we can talk about such a sensitive topic as football??

)

And actually, it's true: as I explained, jus saw it in three profiles in a row and it made me a tad nervous as, because I'm trying hard to be integrated in this country, it is a sensitive subject for me!

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

Do you really think due to the nature of this site people are going to park their racial prejudices at the keyboard?

So now because someone chooses a certain type of person they are a racist? That's a tad narrow minded.

Oh come on. Are you seriously trying to tell me there are no racists on this site? You only have to read between the lines on some of the threads to determine who they are.

And guess what? I am too towards a certain race, as one astute member who has blocked me determined for themselves.

For the record, I respect the honesty of those who put no blacks or Asians, saves at lot of time and wasted effort.

Is it eskimos?"

I have no personal experience of Eskimos, so no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you really think due to the nature of this site people are going to park their racial prejudices at the keyboard?

So now because someone chooses a certain type of person they are a racist? That's a tad narrow minded.

Oh come on. Are you seriously trying to tell me there are no racists on this site? You only have to read between the lines on some of the threads to determine who they are.

And guess what? I am too towards a certain race, as one astute member who has blocked me determined for themselves.

For the record, I respect the honesty of those who put no blacks or Asians, saves at lot of time and wasted effort. "

God no there are racist in all walks of life. Swinging is no different. However, i wouldn't class a sexual preference as racism though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's the point of being offended or uncomfy? If they don't want you move on bud

Well, I move on... it's just that I saw 3 "nationality restrictions" in a row and it sounded wrong to me!

I regularly have to deal with some "casual" xenophobic behaviours and, maybe I'm naive, but I thought that on such a website, we were all "naked" and equal

On your profile you say you have a sexy french accent. So your bringing your nationality into your profile, yet complain when other people also bring nationality into it.

If your going to try and get into peoples beds by using your accent then why are you surprised there are some people who are saying no to it. They are just being upfront, same as you.

)

Anyway, I'm glad I started a proper debate tonight! It's a bit of a change from the usual "kiss, fuck, pass"

Why thank you

And its nice to have a debate, without it actually turning into a name calling bloodbath lol

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By *igSuki81Man over a year ago

Retirement Village

Do you really think due to the nature of this site people are going to park their racial prejudices at the keyboard?

So now because someone chooses a certain type of person they are a racist? That's a tad narrow minded.

Oh come on. Are you seriously trying to tell me there are no racists on this site? You only have to read between the lines on some of the threads to determine who they are.

And guess what? I am too towards a certain race, as one astute member who has blocked me determined for themselves.

For the record, I respect the honesty of those who put no blacks or Asians, saves at lot of time and wasted effort.

Is it eskimos?"

you found eskimos !!!!

show me i've been searching for them for ages now

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By *igSuki81Man over a year ago

Retirement Village

"What's the point of being offended or uncomfy? If they don't want you move on bud

Well, I move on... it's just that I saw 3 "nationality restrictions" in a row and it sounded wrong to me!

I regularly have to deal with some "casual" xenophobic behaviours and, maybe I'm naive, but I thought that on such a website, we were all "naked" and equal

On your profile you say you have a sexy french accent. So your bringing your nationality into your profile, yet complain when other people also bring nationality into it.

If your going to try and get into peoples beds by using your accent then why are you surprised there are some people who are saying no to it. They are just being upfront, same as you.

)

Anyway, I'm glad I started a proper debate tonight! It's a bit of a change from the usual "kiss, fuck, pass"

Why thank you

And its nice to have a debate, without it actually turning into a name calling bloodbath lol "

i give it an hour tops

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

Do you really think due to the nature of this site people are going to park their racial prejudices at the keyboard?

So now because someone chooses a certain type of person they are a racist? That's a tad narrow minded.

Oh come on. Are you seriously trying to tell me there are no racists on this site? You only have to read between the lines on some of the threads to determine who they are.

And guess what? I am too towards a certain race, as one astute member who has blocked me determined for themselves.

For the record, I respect the honesty of those who put no blacks or Asians, saves at lot of time and wasted effort.

God no there are racist in all walks of life. Swinging is no different. However, i wouldn't class a sexual preference as racism though. "

No, you're right, a bona fide racist will happily fuck people of all creeds and colours.

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By *igSuki81Man over a year ago

Retirement Village

"What's the point of being offended or uncomfy? If they don't want you move on bud

just as I don't get offended if someone's profile states they only want slim women. Won't even get offended if it said "fatties need not apply, get back to the fridge"

where did I put my chocolate. . . . .

i nicked your chocolate cause it was dark chocolate rather than white chocolate. Didn't think you'd like it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you seriously trying to tell me there are no racists on this site? You only have to read between the lines on some of the threads to determine who they are.

And guess what? I am too towards a certain race, as one astute member who has blocked me determined for themselves.

For the record, I respect the honesty of those who put no blacks or Asians, saves at lot of time and wasted effort. "

Don't doubt that there are racists on this site, just as there are in all walks of life.

However find it hard for people to find this topic racist per se.

The OP states that the profiles he looked at wanted 'white british' and he felt affronted enough by this to start this thread. But unless I am mistaken I believe they guy in question is a white Frenchman and as such is of the same race as a white british guy, they are both Caucasian by race. The only bar to him in this case is his nationality, a different matter all together.

Maybe its the word white that brings forth notions of racism but that is not objectively true here. It is simply the personally preference of the persons who are looking to meet such guys.

Everyone is free to have sex with whomever they choose based upon their own personal preferences, skin colour is not always a indication of racist tendencies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you seriously trying to tell me there are no racists on this site? You only have to read between the lines on some of the threads to determine who they are.

And guess what? I am too towards a certain race, as one astute member who has blocked me determined for themselves.

For the record, I respect the honesty of those who put no blacks or Asians, saves at lot of time and wasted effort.

Don't doubt that there are racists on this site, just as there are in all walks of life.

However find it hard for people to find this topic racist per se.

Maybe its the word white that brings forth notions of racism but that is not objectively true here. It is simply the personally preference of the persons who are looking to meet such guys.

Everyone is free to have sex with whomever they choose based upon their own personal preferences, skin colour is not always a indication of racist tendencies."

I've heard rumours that even Mancs and Scousers have fucked each other. Although i must state that it is only a rumor!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd like to teach the world to sing in perfect harmony.

Ebony and ivory side by side on the keyboard so why Lord why can't we?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've heard rumours that even Mancs and Scousers have fucked each other. Although i must state that it is only a rumor!

As a Scouser, I have to say that you have gone to far now, (not that we wouldn't expect such behaviour from a Manc), and demand that you withdraw this scurrilous accusation at once

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

Are you seriously trying to tell me there are no racists on this site? You only have to read between the lines on some of the threads to determine who they are.

And guess what? I am too towards a certain race, as one astute member who has blocked me determined for themselves.

For the record, I respect the honesty of those who put no blacks or Asians, saves at lot of time and wasted effort.

Don't doubt that there are racists on this site, just as there are in all walks of life.

However find it hard for people to find this topic racist per se.

Maybe its the word white that brings forth notions of racism but that is not objectively true here. It is simply the personally preference of the persons who are looking to meet such guys.

Everyone is free to have sex with whomever they choose based upon their own personal preferences, skin colour is not always a indication of racist tendencies."

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism. "

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

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By *adyGardenWoman over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Not offended, but pretty disgusting in my opinion. The line between preference and prejudice is always potentually blurred but that seems to be pretty clear.

Disgusting? For not wanting a bbc? Or any other type of bc? Really?

Does that mean your also disgusted at all those women on here who are specifically looking for bbc?

I didnt realise i was being prejudiced because i wont fuck someone only be friends with them because sexually they dont turn me on for one reason or another to do with accent or how they look.

Possibly they are from another country and british accents turn them on, would it be disgusting for me to say i was looking for an italian lover because the accent was hot?

" Exactly. Some folks on this site seem to have a warped sense of what's disgusting! I think the 'racist' card is pulled out far too easily nowadays."

I totally agree that it is. I do not find asian or black men attractive but I doesn't mean I'm racist. It's just like some people don't like slim girls or curvy girls. I don't get offended as it is their taste and I wouldn't message a person that states no bigger women.

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By *igSuki81Man over a year ago

Retirement Village

"I'd like to teach the world to sing in perfect harmony.

Ebony and ivory side by side on the keyboard so why Lord why can't we?"

im not ebony or ivory you racist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've heard rumours that even Mancs and Scousers have fucked each other. Although i must state that it is only a rumor!

As a Scouser, I have to say that you have gone to far now, (not that we wouldn't expect such behaviour from a Manc), and demand that you withdraw this scurrilous accusation at once"

Hahaha never, im going to push the boat out further and suggest there may have been some fruit borne of these 'incidents' as if not im not sure the Windnes or St Helen's would exist!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd like to teach the world to sing in perfect harmony.

Ebony and ivory side by side on the keyboard so why Lord why can't we?

im not ebony or ivory you racist

and I am tone deaf you harmonist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've heard rumours that even Mancs and Scousers have fucked each other. Although i must state that it is only a rumor!

As a Scouser, I have to say that you have gone to far now, (not that we wouldn't expect such behaviour from a Manc), and demand that you withdraw this scurrilous accusation at once

Hahaha never, im going to push the boat out further and suggest there may have been some fruit borne of these 'incidents' as if not im not sure the Windnes or St Helen's would exist!"

Okay you have got me there... Warrington is obvious the capital of this unholy union

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've heard rumours that even Mancs and Scousers have fucked each other. Although i must state that it is only a rumor!

As a Scouser, I have to say that you have gone to far now, (not that we wouldn't expect such behaviour from a Manc), and demand that you withdraw this scurrilous accusation at once

Hahaha never, im going to push the boat out further and suggest there may have been some fruit borne of these 'incidents' as if not im not sure the Windnes or St Helen's would exist!"

We wouldn't shag anyone from Widnes. They smell funny.

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?"

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just saw on a couple of profiles that some people are looking for "white British people only"....

I can vaguely understand why people can say "caucasian only/black only/white only" (I guess it's a matter of taste) but I don't really see what nationality has to do with swinging...

I don't really feel offended to be honest, just feel a bit weird about that kind of restrictions. What do you think?"

I see no problem in looking for profiles they are all that way about age, size sexuality for what people want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some folk take this racist crap to heart! If a profile says no black, white, yellow, green or feckin purple, just move onto a profile that DOES suit you! What's the point in moaning about not meeting a specific preference?

It is NOT racist for a person to want to fuck a specific creed or nationality. It is a feckin preference, nothing more nothing less.

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By *habsMan over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I once saw a profile that said "I'm into black guys.. but no Africans,.. West Indians only for me". I thought "I'm African.. should I be offended?".

then I thought "Can't be bothered" and moved on to the next profile... after making a note ofcourse to "avoid if meet in person" on the notes section

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've heard rumours that even Mancs and Scousers have fucked each other. Although i must state that it is only a rumor!

As a Scouser, I have to say that you have gone to far now, (not that we wouldn't expect such behaviour from a Manc), and demand that you withdraw this scurrilous accusation at once"

Oh, i don't know about that! Have you seen Wayne Rooney?

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By *extoysareusCouple over a year ago

kinky heaven

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism."

I think its through choice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism."

Or attitude of certain groups in society. I know people who won't meet Muslims be they white Asian or African ones as their attitude to women often offends her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism."

On the flip side of the coin if a profile states only bbc does that not make you think its racism?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some accents are sexy

Omg yes they are!!!!

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

I think its through choice"

Well, yes, of course it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some accents are sexy

Omg yes they are!!!!

Cockney girls or irish girls accents are hot!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just saw on a couple of profiles that some people are looking for "white British people only"....

I can vaguely understand why people can say "caucasian only/black only/white only" (I guess it's a matter of taste) but I don't really see what nationality has to do with swinging

I don't really feel offended to be honest, just feel a bit weird about that kind of restrictions. What do you think?"

its just a preference.. as is age .. size etc!! iwork with asians and have no problem with them as people.. but my preference sexually is white caucasian!!! doesnt make me racist.. its just a choice

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Or attitude of certain groups in society. I know people who won't meet Muslims be they white Asian or African ones as their attitude to women often offends her."

I'm not familiar with the term for someone who doesn't like another person because of the their creed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism."

Sorry but that is bollocks and such a sweeping statement. Stating what they don't want is just as valid a method for selection as stating what they do want.

So is a black couple stating that they only want black guys racist too? And we have seen more than a few profiles that ask for this.

What about white couples who say they only want black guys, you know the hundreds of profiles that are looking for BBC, are you actually stating that they are racist against their own race?

Now I know you are not going to agree with this because it doesn't fit into your own little neat notions of what makes a racist on here.

This is simply people stating their own preferences and is no indication of racism.

If it were then do you think that Fab would allow such profiles on this site?

Don't look for problems were they might not exist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Or attitude of certain groups in society. I know people who won't meet Muslims be they white Asian or African ones as their attitude to women often offends her.

I'm not familiar with the term for someone who doesn't like another person because of the their creed."

Now you are jumping in again making assumptions its not creed its attitude to others which is preached in certain religions.

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By *igSuki81Man over a year ago

Retirement Village

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Or attitude of certain groups in society. I know people who won't meet Muslims be they white Asian or African ones as their attitude to women often offends her."

wow!! I'd love to meet these people so they can point out where MY attitude towards women offends them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Sorry but that is bollocks and such a sweeping statement. Stating what they don't want is just as valid a method for selection as stating what they do want.

So is a black couple stating that they only want black guys racist too? And we have seen more than a few profiles that ask for this.

What about white couples who say they only want black guys, you know the hundreds of profiles that are looking for BBC, are you actually stating that they are racist against their own race?

Now I know you are not going to agree with this because it doesn't fit into your own little neat notions of what makes a racist on here.

This is simply people stating their own preferences and is no indication of racism.

If it were then do you think that Fab would allow such profiles on this site?

Don't look for problems were they might not exist"

Holy shit. I agree with a scouser 100%. My parents will be distraught!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do think some people try to make out rejection is a racist thing be it to try and shame people into meeting them or trying to be spiteful and tar them with a racist brush. Its really sad when people do this as it doesn't accept people have choices based on many things.

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By *igSuki81Man over a year ago

Retirement Village

"I'd like to teach the world to sing in perfect harmony.

Ebony and ivory side by side on the keyboard so why Lord why can't we?

im not ebony or ivory you racist

and I am tone deaf you harmonist

sorry i didn't hear you i was distracted by your profile pic

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

On the flip side of the coin if a profile states only bbc does that not make you think its racism?"

Racists against who? As those asking for BBC are invariably white who are they being racist against? Their fellow Caucasians? Perhaps that can be classed as positive sexual discrimination.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Holy shit. I agree with a scouser 100%. My parents will be distraught!

Well thank god your a Manc and most likely have never met your parents, that should ease your pain a little

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My ex really fancied my mate. Anyway, we went for a few beers got him pissed and went back to ours. Long story short he wouldn't shag her because she was a ginger.

The guys an arse hole.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont wear clothes made in pakistan or eat from a pakistani take away or socialise with pakistanis.....but id happily shag a pakistani girl....does that make me racist?

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Or attitude of certain groups in society. I know people who won't meet Muslims be they white Asian or African ones as their attitude to women often offends her.

I'm not familiar with the term for someone who doesn't like another person because of the their creed.

Now you are jumping in again making assumptions its not creed its attitude to others which is preached in certain religions. "

Do you know the meaning of 'creed'?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dont wear clothes made in pakistan or eat from a pakistani take away or socialise with pakistanis.....but id happily shag a pakistani girl....does that make me racist?"

Some people would try and make it look that way but it doesn't make you one thing or another without reasons for why and why not. You do have the right to choose what you do and don't want though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Holy shit. I agree with a scouser 100%. My parents will be distraught!

Well thank god your a Manc and most likely have never met your parents, that should ease your pain a little

Fair point. I heard that no swinging parties happened in Liverpool. Every time they throw the car keys in the bowl the fuckers drive off in the cars never to be seen again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Put it this way, I'd be constantly asking you to repeat yourself as French is one accent I can never quite understand so would feel awkward meeting a French person. "

Now, there's a generalisation if I ever saw one. 'French is one accent'?

Firstly, there are umpteen accents/dialects prevalent in France, one easier to understand than another - same as here in the UK, as in every country.

And if everything about OP's profile and his pictures would appeal to you strongly, wouldn't you expect his spoken command of the English language to be on a par with his writing? Can I now safely assume you wouldn't contact him and try to get him at least on the phone or on Skype to see if you can communicate easily? Prejudice is a very limiting condition.

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By *igSuki81Man over a year ago

Retirement Village

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Or attitude of certain groups in society. I know people who won't meet Muslims be they white Asian or African ones as their attitude to women often offends her.

I'm not familiar with the term for someone who doesn't like another person because of the their creed.

Now you are jumping in again making assumptions its not creed its attitude to others which is preached in certain religions.

Do you know the meaning of 'creed'?"

i really want to meet this person who is offended by MY attitude towards women now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Put it this way, I'd be constantly asking you to repeat yourself as French is one accent I can never quite understand so would feel awkward meeting a French person.

Now, there's a generalisation if I ever saw one. 'French is one accent'?

Firstly, there are umpteen accents/dialects prevalent in France, one easier to understand than another - same as here in the UK, as in every country.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Holy shit. I agree with a scouser 100%. My parents will be distraught!

Well thank god your a Manc and most likely have never met your parents, that should ease your pain a little

Fair point. I heard that no swinging parties happened in Liverpool. Every time they throw the car keys in the bowl the fuckers drive off in the cars never to be seen again.

That's funny cause you normally say that any car parked in Liverpool ends up on bricks, you cant have your cake and eat it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Or attitude of certain groups in society. I know people who won't meet Muslims be they white Asian or African ones as their attitude to women often offends her.

I'm not familiar with the term for someone who doesn't like another person because of the their creed.

Now you are jumping in again making assumptions its not creed its attitude to others which is preached in certain religions.

Do you know the meaning of 'creed'?"

Hunni you don't have to try to be pedantic if you don't understand a viewpoint and people can use what terminology they like if you fail to comprehend that's your problem though.

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Sorry but that is bollocks and such a sweeping statement. Stating what they don't want is just as valid a method for selection as stating what they do want.

So is a black couple stating that they only want black guys racist too? And we have seen more than a few profiles that ask for this.

What about white couples who say they only want black guys, you know the hundreds of profiles that are looking for BBC, are you actually stating that they are racist against their own race?

Now I know you are not going to agree with this because it doesn't fit into your own little neat notions of what makes a racist on here.

This is simply people stating their own preferences and is no indication of racism.

If it were then do you think that Fab would allow such profiles on this site?

Don't look for problems were they might not exist"

Black couple looking black guys? You do realise racism isn't exclusive to white folk, yes?

I'm not saying they definitely are racists but......

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By *eggaeloverMan over a year ago

Bristol

But isn't it all about personalities not the colour of someone's skin? Therefore how can it be about 'preference', unless these people aren't really going by personality but just the surface.

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By *extoysareusCouple over a year ago

kinky heaven

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Sorry but that is bollocks and such a sweeping statement. Stating what they don't want is just as valid a method for selection as stating what they do want.

So is a black couple stating that they only want black guys racist too? And we have seen more than a few profiles that ask for this.

What about white couples who say they only want black guys, you know the hundreds of profiles that are looking for BBC, are you actually stating that they are racist against their own race?

Now I know you are not going to agree with this because it doesn't fit into your own little neat notions of what makes a racist on here.

This is simply people stating their own preferences and is no indication of racism.

If it were then do you think that Fab would allow such profiles on this site?

Don't look for problems were they might not exist

Black couple looking black guys? You do realise racism isn't exclusive to white folk, yes?

I'm not saying they definitely are racists but......"

Seems sad that people are confused on what racism actually is....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Sorry but that is bollocks and such a sweeping statement. Stating what they don't want is just as valid a method for selection as stating what they do want.

So is a black couple stating that they only want black guys racist too? And we have seen more than a few profiles that ask for this.

What about white couples who say they only want black guys, you know the hundreds of profiles that are looking for BBC, are you actually stating that they are racist against their own race?

Now I know you are not going to agree with this because it doesn't fit into your own little neat notions of what makes a racist on here.

This is simply people stating their own preferences and is no indication of racism.

If it were then do you think that Fab would allow such profiles on this site?

Don't look for problems were they might not exist

Black couple looking black guys? You do realise racism isn't exclusive to white folk, yes?

I'm not saying they definitely are racists but......

Seems sad that people are confused on what racism actually is....

Its okay everyone having an opinion on what racism is, try being a victim and you will be able to state facts!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Sorry but that is bollocks and such a sweeping statement. Stating what they don't want is just as valid a method for selection as stating what they do want.

So is a black couple stating that they only want black guys racist too? And we have seen more than a few profiles that ask for this.

What about white couples who say they only want black guys, you know the hundreds of profiles that are looking for BBC, are you actually stating that they are racist against their own race?

Now I know you are not going to agree with this because it doesn't fit into your own little neat notions of what makes a racist on here.

This is simply people stating their own preferences and is no indication of racism.

If it were then do you think that Fab would allow such profiles on this site?

Don't look for problems were they might not exist

Black couple looking black guys? You do realise racism isn't exclusive to white folk, yes?

I'm not saying they definitely are racists but......

Seems sad that people are confused on what racism actually is....

Or have a deviant nature and try and insinuate someone is racist when its not the case.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Black couple looking black guys? You do realise racism isn't exclusive to white folk, yes?

I'm not saying they definitely are racists but......"

You cannot be serious...

What about in the vanilla world? Are all couples who marry within their own race racist? You cannot be that cynical, or quite frankly that ridiculous.

It's a personal preference who people want as their partners, whether for purposes of marriage or a little casual sex.

Next you will be telling me that couples who don't want to meet bi-guys have husbands/partners who must be homophobic... Come on get real.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Sorry but that is bollocks and such a sweeping statement. Stating what they don't want is just as valid a method for selection as stating what they do want.

So is a black couple stating that they only want black guys racist too? And we have seen more than a few profiles that ask for this.

What about white couples who say they only want black guys, you know the hundreds of profiles that are looking for BBC, are you actually stating that they are racist against their own race?

Now I know you are not going to agree with this because it doesn't fit into your own little neat notions of what makes a racist on here.

This is simply people stating their own preferences and is no indication of racism.

If it were then do you think that Fab would allow such profiles on this site?

Don't look for problems were they might not exist

Black couple looking black guys? You do realise racism isn't exclusive to white folk, yes?

I'm not saying they definitely are racists but......

Seems sad that people are confused on what racism actually is....

Its okay everyone having an opinion on what racism is, try being a victim and you will be able to state facts!!!"

Bollocks! Can't white people be the victims of racism now then? Or is it just a black thing?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Course they can, just ask the jews

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

Racist and nationalistic then.

Look, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed the (legal) sexual partners they prefer. But let's not try and pretend that some of their preferences are not motivated by racism.

So let me get this right, you are suggesting that when colour is a stated preference for a meet that this is motivated by racism?

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Or attitude of certain groups in society. I know people who won't meet Muslims be they white Asian or African ones as their attitude to women often offends her.

I'm not familiar with the term for someone who doesn't like another person because of the their creed.

Now you are jumping in again making assumptions its not creed its attitude to others which is preached in certain religions.

Do you know the meaning of 'creed'?

Hunni you don't have to try to be pedantic if you don't understand a viewpoint and people can use what terminology they like if you fail to comprehend that's your problem though."

Pedantic? You said you know people who don't meet Muslims of any nationality. That is being prejudiced against someone because of their creed, whatever their justifications.

If you read my second post on this thread you'll see I don't have a problem with anyone stating they won't meet blacks or Asians. My problem is with naive people thinking it is purely down to preference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Course they can, just ask the jews"

Ahhh. The old 'ask the jews' card now! Are you going back to Moses time or just Hitlers?

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By *drianukMan over a year ago

Spain, Lancs

Perhaps John Nada is just a more caring and sensitive person than the rest of us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm erm, what was that??? Yeah, thats right! You just been told pal! Pipe down in future!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Course they can, just ask the jews

Ahhh. The old 'ask the jews' card now! Are you going back to Moses time or just Hitlers?"

Hitlers

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Sorry but that is bollocks and such a sweeping statement. Stating what they don't want is just as valid a method for selection as stating what they do want.

So is a black couple stating that they only want black guys racist too? And we have seen more than a few profiles that ask for this.

What about white couples who say they only want black guys, you know the hundreds of profiles that are looking for BBC, are you actually stating that they are racist against their own race?

Now I know you are not going to agree with this because it doesn't fit into your own little neat notions of what makes a racist on here.

This is simply people stating their own preferences and is no indication of racism.

If it were then do you think that Fab would allow such profiles on this site?

Don't look for problems were they might not exist

Black couple looking black guys? You do realise racism isn't exclusive to white folk, yes?

I'm not saying they definitely are racists but......

Seems sad that people are confused on what racism actually is....

What's sad is you thinking you know more about racism than I do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No you have no right to be offended. It's not directed at you, so man up and move on. Btw my gran is Jewish

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I'm saying when a profile specifically states they do not want blacks or Asians then there is a very high likelihood it is motivated by racism.

Sorry but that is bollocks and such a sweeping statement. Stating what they don't want is just as valid a method for selection as stating what they do want.

So is a black couple stating that they only want black guys racist too? And we have seen more than a few profiles that ask for this.

What about white couples who say they only want black guys, you know the hundreds of profiles that are looking for BBC, are you actually stating that they are racist against their own race?

Now I know you are not going to agree with this because it doesn't fit into your own little neat notions of what makes a racist on here.

This is simply people stating their own preferences and is no indication of racism.

If it were then do you think that Fab would allow such profiles on this site?

Don't look for problems were they might not exist

Black couple looking black guys? You do realise racism isn't exclusive to white folk, yes?

I'm not saying they definitely are racists but......

Seems sad that people are confused on what racism actually is....

What's sad is you thinking you know more about racism than I do"