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What do people think about same room or separate room?
We have only played in the same room before but are thinking of trying separate room.
I guess we are just looking to push boundaries a little but thought we would see what other peoples experiences are.
Your views and comments would be most welcome.
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"What do people think about same room or separate room?
We have only played in the same room before but are thinking of trying separate room.
I guess we are just looking to push boundaries a little but thought we would see what other peoples experiences are.
Your views and comments would be most welcome.
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If you are going to try separate room you need to be pretty sure of how you want to go about it and that you're both equally as keen on the idea. In the end only you can decide, hope you enjoy whatever the outcome. |
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries "
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers |
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"Proper swingers" ; those people in the swinging community and lifestyle who have been to swing finishing school, had elecution lessons and ride their playmates to the sound of a hunting horn  |
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers". "
do you have trust with those you play with and hope the feeling is mutual? |
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers". "
Good answer. I think what was trying to be said here is a good swinging couple has a strong trust, love and respect for each other.they are cool with each other and understand what the separation between playing and love making is. There's a lot out there that don't!! E.g one party is only doing it just to please the other or going into this to try to strengthen the relationship. "A proper swinging single understands this when meeting a couple or another single, and respects limits rules and boundaries. It's a big game of sex we are playing, you need to know your position understanding what part it is you play or what role it is you fill makes you a much better player and keeps you off the bench and in the game |
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers".
do you have trust with those you play with and hope the feeling is mutual?"
Trust in those I play with? Trust them how? I'm not being belligerent, Hercules, I just don't understand that last question. |
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers".
Good answer. I think what was trying to be said here is a good swinging couple has a strong trust, love and respect for each other.they are cool with each other and understand what the separation between playing and love making is. There's a lot out there that don't!! E.g one party is only doing it just to please the other or going into this to try to strengthen the relationship. "A proper swinging single understands this when meeting a couple or another single, and respects limits rules and boundaries. It's a big game of sex we are playing, you need to know your position understanding what part it is you play or what role it is you fill makes you a much better player and keeps you off the bench and in the game "
So are you agreeing some same room couples aren't about the voyeuristic but the policing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers".
do you have trust with those you play with and hope the feeling is mutual?
Trust in those I play with? Trust them how? I'm not being belligerent, Hercules, I just don't understand that last question. "
as a couple, trust is paramount, whether same or separate room is being done.
if you cant trust the person you are engaging with, whether it be your partner or the partner of someone else, then its just not going to work.
hence my question back to you.
if you dont trust the person you are doing things with, then how can you play with them? |
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers".
do you have trust with those you play with and hope the feeling is mutual?
Trust in those I play with? Trust them how? I'm not being belligerent, Hercules, I just don't understand that last question.
as a couple, trust is paramount, whether same or separate room is being done.
if you cant trust the person you are engaging with, whether it be your partner or the partner of someone else, then its just not going to work.
hence my question back to you.
if you dont trust the person you are doing things with, then how can you play with them?"
But surely that question shouldn't be addressed to me? I'm not playing as a couple with a loved one.
When meeting with a single female I only 'trust' we'll both have a great time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers".
do you have trust with those you play with and hope the feeling is mutual?
Trust in those I play with? Trust them how? I'm not being belligerent, Hercules, I just don't understand that last question.
as a couple, trust is paramount, whether same or separate room is being done.
if you cant trust the person you are engaging with, whether it be your partner or the partner of someone else, then its just not going to work.
hence my question back to you.
if you dont trust the person you are doing things with, then how can you play with them?
But surely that question shouldn't be addressed to me? I'm not playing as a couple with a loved one.
When meeting with a single female I only 'trust' we'll both have a great time. "
you dont trust she isnt carrying any passangers?
that her kids/husband arent going to walk in any minute?
there is always an element of trust involved, whether single or couple.
the only time trust isnt a requirement when sex comes into play is a dirty fumble on the bins down the back of the nightclub lol
i dont need to be with V to make sure she isnt doing something she shouldnt be, and the same the other way round.
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers".
Good answer. I think what was trying to be said here is a good swinging couple has a strong trust, love and respect for each other.they are cool with each other and understand what the separation between playing and love making is. There's a lot out there that don't!! E.g one party is only doing it just to please the other or going into this to try to strengthen the relationship. "A proper swinging single understands this when meeting a couple or another single, and respects limits rules and boundaries. It's a big game of sex we are playing, you need to know your position understanding what part it is you play or what role it is you fill makes you a much better player and keeps you off the bench and in the game
So are you agreeing some same room couples aren't about the voyeuristic but the policing? "
Good answer! Can't say I disagree with that as it may be true for some.
We just get a kick out of seeing each other get off. We always exchange glances with each other and that turns both of us on which is what we are into. Our preference is to share the experience. We talked about separate room fun and(both)agreed together with no argument that it would be just too weird. Not because we couldn't police each other just because it would feel more awkward maybe......
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers".
do you have trust with those you play with and hope the feeling is mutual?
Trust in those I play with? Trust them how? I'm not being belligerent, Hercules, I just don't understand that last question.
as a couple, trust is paramount, whether same or separate room is being done.
if you cant trust the person you are engaging with, whether it be your partner or the partner of someone else, then its just not going to work.
hence my question back to you.
if you dont trust the person you are doing things with, then how can you play with them?
But surely that question shouldn't be addressed to me? I'm not playing as a couple with a loved one.
When meeting with a single female I only 'trust' we'll both have a great time.
you dont trust she isnt carrying any passangers?
that her kids/husband arent going to walk in any minute?
there is always an element of trust involved, whether single or couple.
the only time trust isnt a requirement when sex comes into play is a dirty fumble on the bins down the back of the nightclub lol
i dont need to be with V to make sure she isnt doing something she shouldnt be, and the same the other way round.
"
Mmm, think that example of trust is a bit poor but if you refer to my response to Filthygorgeous1 you'll see I said "some" same room couples, not all.
I doubt any that only play same room to keep an eye on their partner will admit it in here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers".
Good answer. I think what was trying to be said here is a good swinging couple has a strong trust, love and respect for each other.they are cool with each other and understand what the separation between playing and love making is. There's a lot out there that don't!! E.g one party is only doing it just to please the other or going into this to try to strengthen the relationship. "A proper swinging single understands this when meeting a couple or another single, and respects limits rules and boundaries. It's a big game of sex we are playing, you need to know your position understanding what part it is you play or what role it is you fill makes you a much better player and keeps you off the bench and in the game
So are you agreeing some same room couples aren't about the voyeuristic but the policing?
Good answer! Can't say I disagree with that as it may be true for some.
We just get a kick out of seeing each other get off. We always exchange glances with each other and that turns both of us on which is what we are into. Our preference is to share the experience. We talked about separate room fun and(both)agreed together with no argument that it would be just too weird. Not because we couldn't police each other just because it would feel more awkward maybe......
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same here.
as said, nothing about policing.
everything about V liking seing me please another woman, and me enjoying her with a face full of another mans cock.
why would we deprive ourselves of this part of the whole experience? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers".
do you have trust with those you play with and hope the feeling is mutual?
Trust in those I play with? Trust them how? I'm not being belligerent, Hercules, I just don't understand that last question.
as a couple, trust is paramount, whether same or separate room is being done.
if you cant trust the person you are engaging with, whether it be your partner or the partner of someone else, then its just not going to work.
hence my question back to you.
if you dont trust the person you are doing things with, then how can you play with them?
But surely that question shouldn't be addressed to me? I'm not playing as a couple with a loved one.
When meeting with a single female I only 'trust' we'll both have a great time.
you dont trust she isnt carrying any passangers?
that her kids/husband arent going to walk in any minute?
there is always an element of trust involved, whether single or couple.
the only time trust isnt a requirement when sex comes into play is a dirty fumble on the bins down the back of the nightclub lol
i dont need to be with V to make sure she isnt doing something she shouldnt be, and the same the other way round.
Mmm, think that example of trust is a bit poor but if you refer to my response to Filthygorgeous1 you'll see I said "some" same room couples, not all.
I doubt any that only play same room to keep an eye on their partner will admit it in here. "
they then should not be swinging then, tbh.
trust is pretty much everything |
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers".
Good answer. I think what was trying to be said here is a good swinging couple has a strong trust, love and respect for each other.they are cool with each other and understand what the separation between playing and love making is. There's a lot out there that don't!! E.g one party is only doing it just to please the other or going into this to try to strengthen the relationship. "A proper swinging single understands this when meeting a couple or another single, and respects limits rules and boundaries. It's a big game of sex we are playing, you need to know your position understanding what part it is you play or what role it is you fill makes you a much better player and keeps you off the bench and in the game
So are you agreeing some same room couples aren't about the voyeuristic but the policing?
Good answer! Can't say I disagree with that as it may be true for some.
We just get a kick out of seeing each other get off. We always exchange glances with each other and that turns both of us on which is what we are into. Our preference is to share the experience. We talked about separate room fun and(both)agreed together with no argument that it would be just too weird. Not because we couldn't police each other just because it would feel more awkward maybe......
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do people think about same room or separate room?
We have only played in the same room before but are thinking of trying separate room.
I guess we are just looking to push boundaries a little but thought we would see what other peoples experiences are.
Your views and comments would be most welcome.
"
I never had any problems about Sandra playing alone, so long as she felt safe and happy. Its a personal thing. Doesn't work for everyone. |
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers".
do you have trust with those you play with and hope the feeling is mutual?
Trust in those I play with? Trust them how? I'm not being belligerent, Hercules, I just don't understand that last question.
as a couple, trust is paramount, whether same or separate room is being done.
if you cant trust the person you are engaging with, whether it be your partner or the partner of someone else, then its just not going to work.
hence my question back to you.
if you dont trust the person you are doing things with, then how can you play with them?
But surely that question shouldn't be addressed to me? I'm not playing as a couple with a loved one.
When meeting with a single female I only 'trust' we'll both have a great time.
you dont trust she isnt carrying any passangers?
that her kids/husband arent going to walk in any minute?
there is always an element of trust involved, whether single or couple.
the only time trust isnt a requirement when sex comes into play is a dirty fumble on the bins down the back of the nightclub lol
i dont need to be with V to make sure she isnt doing something she shouldnt be, and the same the other way round.
Mmm, think that example of trust is a bit poor but if you refer to my response to Filthygorgeous1 you'll see I said "some" same room couples, not all.
I doubt any that only play same room to keep an eye on their partner will admit it in here. "
Ok so my wife is an extremely attractive lady. If she goes out on the town she turns heads. Guys always hit on her all the time and I'm real proud of that, shit it makes me feel even luckier to be the one she chose to marry and spend the last twenty something years with. Now during that time together she has never given me any reason to doubt her nor I her. But put us in a "swing party" situation and we can both be "of loose morals to say the least" and although we are not stood over eachother like hawks we are still there perving every now and again from across the room and making sure each other is safe I guess.
We've been playing for over twelve of those years so you could say we are kind of experienced. So are we insecure for not wanting to go off on our own into a separate room with someone else or do we just really really like the way we've been doing things the way we do for over the last decade?? |
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"And of course with same room fun you can ensure your partner adheres to set boundaries
thats what trust is for.
an important trait found in proper swingers
Define "proper swingers".
Good answer. I think what was trying to be said here is a good swinging couple has a strong trust, love and respect for each other.they are cool with each other and understand what the separation between playing and love making is. There's a lot out there that don't!! E.g one party is only doing it just to please the other or going into this to try to strengthen the relationship. "A proper swinging single understands this when meeting a couple or another single, and respects limits rules and boundaries. It's a big game of sex we are playing, you need to know your position understanding what part it is you play or what role it is you fill makes you a much better player and keeps you off the bench and in the game
So are you agreeing some same room couples aren't about the voyeuristic but the policing?
Good answer! Can't say I disagree with that as it may be true for some.
We just get a kick out of seeing each other get off. We always exchange glances with each other and that turns both of us on which is what we are into. Our preference is to share the experience. We talked about separate room fun and(both)agreed together with no argument that it would be just too weird. Not because we couldn't police each other just because it would feel more awkward maybe......
same here.
as said, nothing about policing.
everything about V liking seing me please another woman, and me enjoying her with a face full of another mans cock.
why would we deprive ourselves of this part of the whole experience?"
Couldn't agree more x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do people think about same room or separate room?
We have only played in the same room before but are thinking of trying separate room.
I guess we are just looking to push boundaries a little but thought we would see what other peoples experiences are.
Your views and comments would be most welcome.
I never had any problems about Sandra playing alone, so long as she felt safe and happy. Its a personal thing. Doesn't work for everyone."
I get the impression that couples that play in separate rooms are few and far between . It's just not for us. "WE" swing. It's something "WE" do together. If we were going off to rooms without each other it would be a very different game in out eyes.
We're all here swinging for different reasons. We all like different aspects of it and for us it's a same room thing and that's unlikely to change. |
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Ok so my wife is an extremely attractive lady. If she goes out on the town she turns heads. Guys always hit on her all the time and I'm real proud of that, shit it makes me feel even luckier to be the one she chose to marry and spend the last twenty something years with. Now during that time together she has never given me any reason to doubt her nor I her. But put us in a "swing party" situation and we can both be "of loose morals to say the least" and although we are not stood over eachother like hawks we are still there perving every now and again from across the room and making sure each other is safe I guess.
We've been playing for over twelve of those years so you could say we are kind of experienced. So are we insecure for not wanting to go off on our own into a separate room with someone else or do we just really really like the way we've been doing things the way we do for over the last decade??"
I'm guessing your last question is rhetorical? |
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Ok so my wife is an extremely attractive lady. If she goes out on the town she turns heads. Guys always hit on her all the time and I'm real proud of that, shit it makes me feel even luckier to be the one she chose to marry and spend the last twenty something years with. Now during that time together she has never given me any reason to doubt her nor I her. But put us in a "swing party" situation and we can both be "of loose morals to say the least" and although we are not stood over eachother like hawks we are still there perving every now and again from across the room and making sure each other is safe I guess.
We've been playing for over twelve of those years so you could say we are kind of experienced. So are we insecure for not wanting to go off on our own into a separate room with someone else or do we just really really like the way we've been doing things the way we do for over the last decade??
I'm guessing your last question is rhetorical?"
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"What do people think about same room or separate room?
We have only played in the same room before but are thinking of trying separate room.
I guess we are just looking to push boundaries a little but thought we would see what other peoples experiences are.
Your views and comments would be most welcome.
I never had any problems about Sandra playing alone, so long as she felt safe and happy. Its a personal thing. Doesn't work for everyone.
I get the impression that couples that play in separate rooms are few and far between . It's just not for us. "WE" swing. It's something "WE" do together. If we were going off to rooms without each other it would be a very different game in out eyes.
We're all here swinging for different reasons. We all like different aspects of it and for us it's a same room thing and that's unlikely to change."
As I said. Doesn't work for everyone.
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By (user no longer on site)
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We seem to be in the minority. Our 1st meet was same room. Ok for me. He didn't like watching me. Then couldn't perform at the end. We now do separate room. Talk about it after. And still have fantastic after sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do people think about same room or separate room?
We have only played in the same room before but are thinking of trying separate room.
I guess we are just looking to push boundaries a little but thought we would see what other peoples experiences are.
Your views and comments would be most welcome.
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How do those that live in open-plan apartments cope...? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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sep room for us as few meets in same room we had problems with one or the other from the other Cpl being jealous of each other , ........ so dropped the same room and switched to separate rooms. we have full trust in each other, and each Cpl has to do what they feel is best for them, however we do feel a lot do same room to keep and eye on each other and not for the fun of it !!! Just our experience with same room fun ........   |
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Separate room for us,..
We like to hear what's going off & leave the rest to the imagination - then have a good talk about what went off,.. In great detail
Plus if your not watching or being watched, less distraction more enjoyment...
After all, 4 in a bed can get a bit crowded - no matter how big it is lol  |
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