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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago
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utter utter utter shite leading to to many wannabe doms/subs turning up at fetish events and on fetish sites that think the thing the god damn fetish bible and a how to .
its not its a piece of badly written twilight fan fiction re edited to make sales in the chick lit market
its about as relevant to fetish bdsm as a fishing rod is to a trawler |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One word Drivel.
Can see its appeal to certain demographics but the book and the current trend in online porn has warped SOME people into wannabe clumsy damaging Mr Greys.
(Great work by the Publisher though saw the niche and made some good dollar) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What I think is that it's lame, tame and in general has caused so much grief..
It's badly written, and should be a guide to doing it wrong. Yet too many see it as a how to book. At least until the film comes out the Mr greys have become less common |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never been involved in bdsm or dom/sub, so I don't know if the books are right or wrong but I enjoyed them. Bared to you and other books I've bought are boring |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i don't agree with the book at all. It has no relevance to sub/dom relationships. Any true dom will admit that ultimately it is the sub that has the control. It can be stopped at anytime.
And a sub is not a weak person but a strong, self confident person that is giving the dom a gift of trust . x |
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The book is what it is, a work of fiction designed to titilate, which it certainly appears to have suceeded in doing and at least has got people talking. However, and I have read it in part before I get told I am speaking without knowledge (really couldn't bring myself to read it all though), it is pretty poorly written, very unrealistic (yes, I know it is fiction) and largely not how a D/s relationship is in my experience. If you enjoyed it, fair enough but do not expect the reality to be the same! |
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"i don't agree with the book at all. It has no relevance to sub/dom relationships. Any true dom will admit that ultimately it is the sub that has the control. It can be stopped at anytime.
And a sub is not a weak person but a strong, self confident person that is giving the dom a gift of trust . x"
This, x10.
The best subs are strong confident people, usually with the need to be quite dominant in their 'real' lives, who almost resent but have no choice but to accept, their sub role to their Master and how much it fulfills them and turns them on.
A Dom is nothing without a sub and vice versa so it is also a relationship built very much on respect. |
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I haven't even read the book. Bdsm is great fun. When coupled with trust, trust, trust, communication & mutual respect.
Id be better off reading harry potter as a guide to my children's secondary school experiences. At least that's good fiction |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i don't agree with the book at all. It has no relevance to sub/dom relationships. Any true dom will admit that ultimately it is the sub that has the control. It can be stopped at anytime.
And a sub is not a weak person but a strong, self confident person that is giving the dom a gift of trust . x"
Not read the book.....only a few scathing reviews, but I entirely agree with this post! |
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50 shades of sh*** nothing to do with BDSM at all, same as femdom porn, utter tripe. Leads so many people to think they are experts in BDSM, wheh they are actually beginers in bedroom slap and tickle. However, subs don't have the control, it's equal control between both parties, often refered to as power exchange. A sub locked in chastity doesn't have any control over that unless he can saw off a padlock lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read the books to see what all the hype was about and was left very unsatisfied by it. A few things in it annoyed me such as the poor quality writing and absolute cluelessness about D/s (or any kink of kink!) but the biggest gripe was that there must be something wring with him to be Dom. The series is a love story with a bit of sex thrown in...it is not a story about BDSM. Only positives from it is that it has got some people reading that wouldn't normally read, and it's got people talking about sex a bit more openly...even though not accurately! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i don't agree with the book at all. It has no relevance to sub/dom relationships. Any true dom will admit that ultimately it is the sub that has the control. It can be stopped at anytime.
And a sub is not a weak person but a strong, self confident person that is giving the dom a gift of trust . x"
have you read the.book as he did say to her its the sub in control really as she held the safe word to stop at any point |
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Doesn't a sub/bottom submit control to their chosen Dominant or Top within agreed boundaries between both parties?
A sub makes a choice to offer their submission do they not? the control they have is to withdraw that which was offered certainly, though either party can do that. But the whole point is that the sub no longer wishes to have control is it not?
I don't see that as control as much as it is choosing to stop the agreement.
Control would be: 'Hey I know you want me to address you a certain way but I don't feel like it today. Oh and I know I'd usually recieve a flogging for that but not this time, I'm a bit tired'
We use the traffic lights because it is the easiest for D to remember when she's having a moment lol.
We've also used hand signals and held objects like squash balls.
I do think that when a Dominant has mastered their sub it's very rare that a safe 'whatever' will be needed but something so simple... Why not use it and be 100% safe. The best Dominant in the world is still human and can make mistakes or misread a signal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i don't agree with the book at all. It has no relevance to sub/dom relationships. Any true dom will admit that ultimately it is the sub that has the control. It can be stopped at anytime.
And a sub is not a weak person but a strong, self confident person that is giving the dom a gift of trust . x
This, x10.
The best subs are strong confident people, usually with the need to be quite dominant in their 'real' lives, who almost resent but have no choice but to accept, their sub role to their Master and how much it fulfills them and turns them on.
A Dom is nothing without a sub and vice versa so it is also a relationship built very much on respect."
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