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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I know this has been talked about on here a million times but I still don't get it to be honest.
I have been in the scene for around 15 years now on and off so I know the score when it comes to single guys.
Anyway I organised a GB for Slinky last night, as you can imagine plenty of offers with mails going back and forth.
By yesterday morning I had 20 definites and 14 maybes as the day wore on this chopped and changed as you'd imagine. By the time of the gangbang I had a total of 38 guys lined up, out of that 38 only 17 had the decency to actually get here.
Now I'm sure some of the reasons i got in the mails were absolutely genuine but it just strikes me that a 50% flake rate is still very very high considering that I only invited 'validated guys'.
It was that bad that I ended up inviting people during the GB just to make sure Slinky didn't go short.
Ends of the night Slinky was sore and couldn't take anymore (thats never happened before) so it was a really good party BUT my question is -
Why on earth go to all the trouble of mailing and making arrangements if you never had the intention of coming?
Is it a case of all mouth and no trousers or do you just get off on messing people around?
I guess the good news is that I now have 17 single guys i know I can trust and rely on and a list of guys that don't need to bother applying again.
Single guys, I have the utmost respect for the genuine ones as I wouldn't have the balls to do it and I'm certainly not trying to start a witch hunt by naming and shaming (I already have my shit list )but why make it so difficult for the couples who genuinely want to have fun, PLUS it also brings into question whether the verification system actually works or is it too easy to get around it?
All the best and keep your peckers up!
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I'm in a bit of a caustic mood, so apologies for being blunt but.....
".....i know the score when it comes to single guys."
The above are your exact words. If they are true, why were you surprised by the outcome? And was this thread really necessary?
I'll now sit back and watch the single male bashing unfold in earnest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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when i read thread like this it makes me realise how bad it is with guys messing and not turning up, also makes me wonder why i bother , as a genuine single guy you really are up against it on here and other sites ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi I got talking to a couple who arrange to meet 6 guys for nite with intention of only meeting 1 guy which they pick on the nite they work on similiar basis with your experience with no shows
However what if all 6 guys where available for the nite and didnt get a phone call not fair on them so guess works both ways |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm more in awe at 17 guys not being enough! Wow that must have been some session. "
by the way i read it, 17 were more than enough because she was sore and worn out by the end of the night.
personally, if i was one of the 35 that should have turned up, and it was a wasted trip because you had oversubscribed, i wouldnt have been too impressed and would be posting about timewasting GBers that organise things they cant follow through with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I got invited to a couples home a few years back, and on my arrival there were another 3 guys there. When I asked the husband what was going on, he said he invited extra guys "as lots don't turn up".
I was not best pleased  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm in a bit of a caustic mood, so apologies for being blunt but.....
".....i know the score when it comes to single guys."
The above are your exact words. If they are true, why were you surprised by the outcome? And was this thread really necessary?
I'll now sit back and watch the single male bashing unfold in earnest."
Sorry you are in a caustic mood, maybe you should have come last night, maybe you'd have woken up a little brighter  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm more in awe at 17 guys not being enough! Wow that must have been some session.
by the way i read it, 17 were more than enough because she was sore and worn out by the end of the night.
personally, if i was one of the 35 that should have turned up, and it was a wasted trip because you had oversubscribed, i wouldnt have been too impressed and would be posting about timewasting GBers that organise things they cant follow through with."
That was exactly my point that I had to invite double the number just to ensure we had enough.
There was never ever a possibility of all 35 turning up!  |
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"I got invited to a couples home a few years back, and on my arrival there were another 3 guys there. When I asked the husband what was going on, he said he invited extra guys "as lots don't turn up".
I was not best pleased "
You mean you were expecting to be the only guy there ? |
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"I'm more in awe at 17 guys not being enough! Wow that must have been some session.
by the way i read it, 17 were more than enough because she was sore and worn out by the end of the night.
personally, if i was one of the 35 that should have turned up, and it was a wasted trip because you had oversubscribed, i wouldnt have been too impressed and would be posting about timewasting GBers that organise things they cant follow through with."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got invited to a couples home a few years back, and on my arrival there were another 3 guys there. When I asked the husband what was going on, he said he invited extra guys "as lots don't turn up".
I was not best pleased
You mean you were expecting to be the only guy there ?"
Single guys always expect to have one on one with my girl, it doesn't happen , if she wanted one on one she would pick me lol.
And yes if you want 2 guys to turn up arrange for 6 , especially newbies etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In fairness to single guys i think a few will have bottled out if they realised the scale of what you were arranging. If I was invited to a house/hotel room with 35 other guys I'd probably make an excuse (well in advance of course). I imagine you would stagger arrival times etc but imagine if you had two dozen guys in the house, they can't all be with your partner together, some might picture a scene of them queueing up the stais while they wait. It could be a bit intimidating for less hardcore guys you invited. Unless they knew they were one of 35 and not half a dozen or so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got invited to a couples home a few years back, and on my arrival there were another 3 guys there. When I asked the husband what was going on, he said he invited extra guys "as lots don't turn up".
I was not best pleased
You mean you were expecting to be the only guy there ?"
Yes, he the invite was only for me orgionally  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I agree with some of the comments posted, but understand that you invite extra for those that drop out. Avoids disappointment. I once helped organise a gb, 10 guys definitely coming. 2 turned up and I was one of them. To say the two girls were fed up and disappointed, would be understating. But having said that, if I'd been invited unaware of the quantity you had, I would have been a bit miffed, too. If on the other hand, everyone was aware...good luck to you. Sounds fun. Sore but happy, I imagine!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree with some of the comments posted, but understand that you invite extra for those that drop out. Avoids disappointment. I once helped organise a gb, 10 guys definitely coming. 2 turned up and I was one of them. To say the two girls were fed up and disappointed, would be understating. But having said that, if I'd been invited unaware of the quantity you had, I would have been a bit miffed, too. If on the other hand, everyone was aware...good luck to you. Sounds fun. Sore but happy, I imagine!
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i can see how things can go wrong, but i think its more down to the selection process.
we had a n MMF meet.
we only invited 2 blokes and they both turned up. we took an age to decide on them, so maybe its more how you are selcting them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In fairness to single guys i think a few will have bottled out if they realised the scale of what you were arranging. If I was invited to a house/hotel room with 35 other guys I'd probably make an excuse (well in advance of course). I imagine you would stagger arrival times etc but imagine if you had two dozen guys in the house, they can't all be with your partner together, some might picture a scene of them queueing up the stais while they wait. It could be a bit intimidating for less hardcore guys you invited. Unless they knew they were one of 35 and not half a dozen or so."
We were open from the very beginning about how many people were invited, no point in hiding the plans from anyone |
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I think you had a really good turn out compared to some threads ive read about the same thing
If I was a single guy I think id be bored shitless with masses of other guys around and only one woman so I take my hat off to the guys that are happy to stand in line and wait  |
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I don't do gang bangs, they do nothing for me and I doubt they ever will; however each to their own and if you enjoy them do them.
One post on this thread I would comment on, is that if I were invited to meet a couple expecting a MFM threesome to find other guys there I would just walk away.
Its about honesty I think; not changing the rules as you go along because 'you can'.
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"I think you had a really good turn out compared to some threads ive read about the same thing
If I was a single guy I think id be bored shitless with masses of other guys around and only one woman so I take my hat off to the guys that are happy to stand in line and wait "
Completely agree we had a great turnout and the guys were staggered with timings so there was very little standing around.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't do gang bangs, they do nothing for me and I doubt they ever will; however each to their own and if you enjoy them do them.
One post on this thread I would comment on, is that if I were invited to meet a couple expecting a MFM threesome to find other guys there I would just walk away.
Its about honesty I think; not changing the rules as you go along because 'you can'.
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Each to their own. But yes I agree the type of meet should be known by all and guys not duped into something they're not into. |
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"I don't do gang bangs, they do nothing for me and I doubt they ever will; however each to their own and if you enjoy them do them.
One post on this thread I would comment on, is that if I were invited to meet a couple expecting a MFM threesome to find other guys there I would just walk away.
Its about honesty I think; not changing the rules as you go along because 'you can'.
Each to their own. But yes I agree the type of meet should be known by all and guys not duped into something they're not into."
To be fair to the OP I was myself invited to this meet and couldn't make it at the time they wanted to,start , which I let them know . But it was made crystal clear what this meeting was about and I was also made aware I was one of 30 + guys that had received and invite , so they misled no one in my opinion . |
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"I don't do gang bangs, they do nothing for me and I doubt they ever will; however each to their own and if you enjoy them do them.
One post on this thread I would comment on, is that if I were invited to meet a couple expecting a MFM threesome to find other guys there I would just walk away.
Its about honesty I think; not changing the rules as you go along because 'you can'.
Each to their own. But yes I agree the type of meet should be known by all and guys not duped into something they're not into.
To be fair to the OP I was myself invited to this meet and couldn't make it at the time they wanted to,start , which I let them know . But it was made crystal clear what this meeting was about and I was also made aware I was one of 30 + guys that had received and invite , so they misled no one in my opinion . "
My comments about being told the truth were NOT directed at the OP, merely commenting on what was said in a later post.
I did not want anyone to believe that the OP was in anyway acting dishonestly; their original post was crystal clear that all knew the score and I was not suggesting otherwise.
Apologies to OP and anyone who thought I was suggesting anything of the sort ! |
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