FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > bi-fems but not really

bi-fems but not really

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

this has probably been said before but we have noticed it more and more lately - profile says bi-fem but when you get chatting they say oh but i have a partner who i would want to play also - most say quite early on in the chat but some wait til we are talking a day and time to meet - we dont mind if they have a single and a couples profile or just say from the off what they want - that is what a profile is for surely - even if the person is new to the scene and we nicely suggest they are clearer in what they want in the blurb they never change the script - must be a trend lol

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think some do it to please their blokes..seen it a bit..i would love to try it but would never proclaim to be bi yet

.only if i enjoyed a few times..and i certainly wouldnt do it to please a man..needy and desparate springs to mind...nette

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

we would hate to meet a girl just for her to please her man and hope we would be able to tell and stop play as that isnt what we are about - all happy or it doesnt happen

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"this has probably been said before but we have noticed it more and more lately - profile says bi-fem but when you get chatting they say oh but i have a partner who i would want to play also - most say quite early on in the chat but some wait til we are talking a day and time to meet - we dont mind if they have a single and a couples profile or just say from the off what they want - that is what a profile is for surely - even if the person is new to the scene and we nicely suggest they are clearer in what they want in the blurb they never change the script - must be a trend lol

If you're getting a message from a single female profile saying they will only meet as a couple, then they are a couple. Report the profile to admin so they can get it amended. I've reported several because it gets annoying searching for one thing and finding another

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

some will say it is for their security...

some will say it is not exploiting the fact single bi females are more marketable than if they were a couple...

your choice if you play with her/them

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

these are profiles saying single bi fem only when we chat they add in the extras - we hve reported some that we felt we really wasting time etc

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are a couple, but I also play alone with girls. We get off on me telling my man what I've been doing with the other girl. It is impossible to find the same. If we chat to a couple, they always want their guy to watch. When I say I can't put on a show they back off. Never had any luck with single girls.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

this is more an observation than anything - we just move on -

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a singles profile as I sometimes meet guys from mine.. and am a single.. however I have no wish to play with a couple as a single.. I think it's clear on my profile xx

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have a singles profile as I sometimes meet guys from mine.. and am a single.. however I have no wish to play with a couple as a single.. I think it's clear on my profile xx"

it is - says youre using your profile to chat and everything else is obvious - its when we read a profile thats as clear as that but they change once you start to talk that gets us

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I (bi fem) also have a single profile, it says I'm looking for couples, I don't meet couples on my own BUT I state on my profile I have other options for this.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm bi and only meet single men from here. I would love a mmff but as I don't have a real partner it won't happen. Couples only seem to want couples in real relationships to socialise with or single bi women for the female or soft swing only. I'd love to share some of the men I know

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile say straight.so who miss leading who.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your profile say straight.so who miss leading who."

me? I'm not looking for women on here. I did say I'm only meeting single men off here. I'm not misleading anyone. If I want a woman to fuck I will change my status to bi sexual

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *onConformistLikeUMan over a year ago

Chorley

I never complained about my ex being bi but I got the feeling it was more to do with her ego than her labedo. In fact the more I think about it the more I realise she was just mental. I'm not saying this translates to anything going on here but it seems bi females are in fashion at the moment. It can be fun and exciting for a while but it got on my tits after a while.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never complained about my ex being bi but I got the feeling it was more to do with her ego than her labedo. In fact the more I think about it the more I realise she was just mental. I'm not saying this translates to anything going on here but it seems bi females are in fashion at the moment. It can be fun and exciting for a while but it got on my tits after a while."

I like women's bodies and doing sex stuff to them. For our pleasure not a man's or because it's a trend

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *onConformistLikeUMan over a year ago

Chorley

I like women's bodies and doing sex stuff to them. For our pleasure not a man's or because it's a trend

I wouldn't doubt it for a minute but I assure you that my ex was just mental.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think some do it to please their blokes..seen it a bit..i would love to try it but would never proclaim to be bi yet

.only if i enjoyed a few times..and i certainly wouldnt do it to please a man..needy and desparate springs to mind...nette "

V is interested in playing with women, loves the soft kissing and findling, but as of yet is not totally into licking pussy.

unfortunately there is only an option for bi, or curious, nothing less than that.

and no, she doesnt do it to please me.

the only thing she does to please me is stays with me lol

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *reedy_for_funCouple over a year ago

My House

I don't have bi on my profile though I have been known to play with the female half of couples if they are that way inclined. It's not something I actively seek but it's pleasant when it happens. I think of it as something that adds to the whole sexual ambiance of the moment.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *bbwlizWoman over a year ago

oldham

Most of the ladies on here are not truly bi to me. There bi as far as swinging is concerned, and as it's seen very acceptable and a huge turn on for men, there isn't a big deal to try/do it.

I started to play with women one on one, as I refuse to do it for a fantasy. It's a huge turn off knowing the lady is just acting.

Also I find it so rude and insulting if a lady says to me, I can play with a girl but I still need a man. Well in that case can you really be bi?

How many bi ladies would actually have a relationship with another women? I can sense when I play with ladies, who the true bi ones are.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Most of the ladies on here are not truly bi to me. There bi as far as swinging is concerned, and as it's seen very acceptable and a huge turn on for men, there isn't a big deal to try/do it.

I started to play with women one on one, as I refuse to do it for a fantasy. It's a huge turn off knowing the lady is just acting.

Also I find it so rude and insulting if a lady says to me, I can play with a girl but I still need a man. Well in that case can you really be bi?

How many bi ladies would actually have a relationship with another women? I can sense when I play with ladies, who the true bi ones are. "

No I wouldn't have a relationship with another women.

Yet I love playing with women either with or without men present. I do it for my pleasure and enjoyment.

Sorry but I don't care if that makes me not truely bi to some people definitions.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I assume that some people do this as a single female profile will get more attention.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most of the ladies on here are not truly bi to me. There bi as far as swinging is concerned, and as it's seen very acceptable and a huge turn on for men, there isn't a big deal to try/do it.

I started to play with women one on one, as I refuse to do it for a fantasy. It's a huge turn off knowing the lady is just acting.

Also I find it so rude and insulting if a lady says to me, I can play with a girl but I still need a man. Well in that case can you really be bi?

How many bi ladies would actually have a relationship with another women? I can sense when I play with ladies, who the true bi ones are. "

I find women sexually attractive but don't want to date one. I have female friends I love having sex with and lunch,shopping etc but not a relationship. I don't think I could love a woman like I can a man but I'm not that into men for anything serious anyway. I asked on the forum a while ago what my sexuality should be on here. For the purposes of the site I am bi sexual as I enjoy sex with women Full sex not boob play. I will play alone with a woman but if a cock is on offer too I will take it. I am not looking for women from here at the moment so my profile says straight for obvious reasons

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Look in the top fabbed list daily there are "single" women who only play as a couple.reporting it won't change.

I often wonder if its the male half getting a kick ou of his wife/gf being looked at.

Very annoying but hey ho,have to ignore them

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

"Most of the ladies on here are not truly bi to me. There bi as far as swinging is concerned, and as it's seen very acceptable and a huge turn on for men, there isn't a big deal to try/do it.

I started to play with women one on one, as I refuse to do it for a fantasy. It's a huge turn off knowing the lady is just acting.

Also I find it so rude and insulting if a lady says to me, I can play with a girl but I still need a man. Well in that case can you really be bi?

How many bi ladies would actually have a relationship with another women? I can sense when I play with ladies, who the true bi ones are. "

but what you are describing is gay BI means you like both not just women

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now I don't understand this report them malarkey !

Are you seriously saying that profiles of single bi females who won't play as singles should be reported ?

Whatever next ?

It's up to them to play how they like !

She may have regular fb's ... both male and female so she is single . Actually so what , it's her profile to do as she pleases .

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Now I don't understand this report them malarkey !

Are you seriously saying that profiles of single bi females who won't play as singles should be reported ?

Whatever next ?

It's up to them to play how they like !

She may have regular fb's ... both male and female so she is single . Actually so what , it's her profile to do as she pleases .

its against site rules to be 'single' yet never meet as such.

pure and simple

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not really.

You have to be who you say you are.

Having a single fem profile when you only meet with your husband is as far as I know against site rules.but there are lots of said profiles on here

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A straight woman mailed me other day to " scratch her itch"

I said but your straight?

She says yes but ive needs, ...

I only play with REAL bi fem woman with no partner/ fb tucked away,.. id not enjoy just doing it for sake of sex... Id not feel right.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most of the ladies on here are not truly bi to me. There bi as far as swinging is concerned, and as it's seen very acceptable and a huge turn on for men, there isn't a big deal to try/do it.

I started to play with women one on one, as I refuse to do it for a fantasy. It's a huge turn off knowing the lady is just acting.

Also I find it so rude and insulting if a lady says to me, I can play with a girl but I still need a man. Well in that case can you really be bi?

How many bi ladies would actually have a relationship with another women? I can sense when I play with ladies, who the true bi ones are. "

I'm bi in so far as I enjoy having sex with certain men, but I've never met a man I've had feelings for and never contemplated having a relationship with one. Am I just acting?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a single bi female as stated but I don't meet couples just to be used as a toy. Its got to work all three together or not at all

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not really.

You have to be who you say you are.

Having a single fem profile when you only meet with your husband is as far as I know against site rules.but there are lots of said profiles on here "

Could we have clarification of this ?

What about profiles which never meet ?

What if the girl is single but plays with fuckbuddies ?

I am pretty sure if a single guy offered to bring female company with him it would be a different story !!!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not really.

You have to be who you say you are.

Having a single fem profile when you only meet with your husband is as far as I know against site rules.but there are lots of said profiles on here

Could we have clarification of this ?

What about profiles which never meet ?

What if the girl is single but plays with fuckbuddies ?

I am pretty sure if a single guy offered to bring female company with him it would be a different story !!!"

profiles which never meet are inconsequential as there is nothing to get confused over.

if you are talkign to a single (of either gender) and they tell you they dont meet unless it is with them bringing a partner along, no matter how its dressed up, its not a single profile, end of, and against site rules.

and, tbh, IF we were setting up to meet a single guy, and he insisted on bringing a female along, then we would turn him away too.

you want what you want, not what you want with someone else tagging along

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well this is the problem as we see it ...

You are chatting to a single and they say they want to bring a partner - why not just say no and move on ?

The same person may happily meet another single on their own , or they may not feel comfortable with you on their own ..... but meet others on their own ?

So reporting etc...... pfffffftttt !!!!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Now I don't understand this report them malarkey !

Are you seriously saying that profiles of single bi females who won't play as singles should be reported ?

Whatever next ?

It's up to them to play how they like !

She may have regular fb's ... both male and female so she is single . Actually so what , it's her profile to do as she pleases .

If they're only willing to meet with a partner then they need to create a couples profile to do this from, otherwise it's misleading. I am a single female who meets with a FB but this is my profile and we have a separate couples profile. If I met someone from my singles profile and it came into conversation about meeting with him then that's one thing but to insist from a single profile that I only meet with him in tow means I wouldn't be meeting as a single female!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well this is the problem as we see it ...

You are chatting to a single and they say they want to bring a partner - why not just say no and move on ?

The same person may happily meet another single on their own , or they may not feel comfortable with you on their own ..... but meet others on their own ?

So reporting etc...... pfffffftttt !!!!"

but thats the point.

the profiles that are singles, that state they only meet with someone else coming along.

singles that actually meet as singles arent an issue

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We like it if people are honest and tell us early on there is nothing worse than being mislead and finding out later.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *uietlykinkymeWoman over a year ago

kinky land

Those 'singles' whether male or female, that decide during conversation that they want to 'couple up' should have a couples profile.

Report those 'singles' that do not meet alone and let admin change their profile.

They'll soon be over in fabs feedback getting advised to make their profile 'sound like they're single' so it wont last long but it might save a few of these threads

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your profile say straight.so who miss leading who."

it says im bi sexual

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

"Your profile say straight.so who miss leading who.

it says im bi sexual"

this is the problem when you only have initials for each person.

People dont know who is who

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My profile is for me meeting females on my own (or couples now and then)

It clearly states it on my profile that this profile is for meets with me, not me and the FB

But like others have said, its a blinkin' nightmare trying to find a single female who plays on her own

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *inktherapyCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"Those 'singles' whether male or female, that decide during conversation that they want to 'couple up' should have a couples profile.

So on that basis if I meet alone (as well as with my husband) should I also have a singles profile? I really can't be bothered to, tbh

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't have bi on my profile though I have been known to play with the female half of couples if they are that way inclined. It's not something I actively seek but it's pleasant when it happens. I think of it as something that adds to the whole sexual ambiance of the moment.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Most of the ladies on here are not truly bi to me. There bi as far as swinging is concerned, and as it's seen very acceptable and a huge turn on for men, there isn't a big deal to try/do it.

I started to play with women one on one, as I refuse to do it for a fantasy. It's a huge turn off knowing the lady is just acting.

Also I find it so rude and insulting if a lady says to me, I can play with a girl but I still need a man. Well in that case can you really be bi?

How many bi ladies would actually have a relationship with another women? I can sense when I play with ladies, who the true bi ones are.

but what you are describing is gay BI means you like both not just women

this i agree with totally

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Now I don't understand this report them malarkey !

Are you seriously saying that profiles of single bi females who won't play as singles should be reported ?

Whatever next ?

It's up to them to play how they like !

She may have regular fb's ... both male and female so she is single . Actually so what , it's her profile to do as she pleases .

not when you get as far as to chat on the phone and its the bloke not her

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Those 'singles' whether male or female, that decide during conversation that they want to 'couple up' should have a couples profile.

So on that basis if I meet alone (as well as with my husband) should I also have a singles profile? I really can't be bothered to, tbh"

no cos on your profile you state that pink looking for single males somtimes -

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *uietlykinkymeWoman over a year ago

kinky land

"Those 'singles' whether male or female, that decide during conversation that they want to 'couple up' should have a couples profile.

So on that basis if I meet alone (as well as with my husband) should I also have a singles profile? I really can't be bothered to, tbh"

Nope from my point of _iew, if you have a single females profile, you shouldn't meet with your fella in tow.

The amount of times I'll chat with someone and they pop up with so, when are you going to tell us about your husband/boyf/other half then?

My usual response... When I meet someone and decide I want a relationship with them, I probably wont bother telling you though

I have no issues with single women having single women profiles If they meet as single women. It's when they are actually a couple and only have a single woman profile to increase their incoming messages/attention & no intention of meeting as a single woman

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *bbwlizWoman over a year ago

oldham

"Most of the ladies on here are not truly bi to me. There bi as far as swinging is concerned, and as it's seen very acceptable and a huge turn on for men, there isn't a big deal to try/do it.

I started to play with women one on one, as I refuse to do it for a fantasy. It's a huge turn off knowing the lady is just acting.

Also I find it so rude and insulting if a lady says to me, I can play with a girl but I still need a man. Well in that case can you really be bi?

How many bi ladies would actually have a relationship with another women? I can sense when I play with ladies, who the true bi ones are.

I'm bi in so far as I enjoy having sex with certain men, but I've never met a man I've had feelings for and never contemplated having a relationship with one. Am I just acting?

You've just answered one of my points - bi as far as swinging is concerned, so I can come to the conclusion that you wouldn't date the same sex.

Not all people put an act on and enjoy it, but tends more to be if the opposite sex is present, or they know there going to get some later.

My opinion is, if a person is really bi, they do not require both or the opposite sex to fulfil them.

This is the main reason a lot of my lesbian friends won't date, and are not interested in bi women, as they feel it's only a sexual interest.

I understand fully how people get turned on watching women and wanting that fantasy.

Just not with me!