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"Discreet" = Attached?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people compose their profiles to appeal to the majority, or so they think. I thin they think  discretion is sought, maybe as standard.
I always ask why they need to be discreet. Many don't need to be discreet. Many are discreet for they (sometimes) have children at home.
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
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That's my feeling, especially when they like to play by day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I offer discretion because the "happily married straight" guys who meet me are usually very local, and in a small community, nearly everyone knows everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For different reasons I guess, for some you may be correct.
I see it as being considerate of the fact many people like to separate their lives on here from their real lives, and am aware and mindful of that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
That's my feeling, especially when they like to play by day."
I have custody of my 3 children, sometimes I can only play during school hours. I'm discreet because not everyone likes the fact they have sex with strangers shouting from the rooftops.
The best way to ascertain if someone is genuinely single is to get to know them a bit, ask plenty of questions and make your mind up that way, to tar everyone who has discreet on their profile is a little unfair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I offer discretion because the "happily married straight" guys who meet me are usually very local, and in a small community, nearly everyone knows everyone"
happily married straight guys.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I disagree, if I were to say I'm discreet I'm simply advising that I respect the wishes of those I meet may have family lives outside if swinging that they don't want overlapping, of course there are plenty cheating on here but I don't believe there is a 'code' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I disagree, if I were to say I'm discreet I'm simply advising that I respect the wishes of those I meet may have family lives outside if swinging that they don't want overlapping, of course there are plenty cheating on here but I don't believe there is a 'code' "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For different reasons I guess, for some you may be correct.
I see it as being considerate of the fact many people like to separate their lives on here from their real lives, and am aware and mindful of that."
Totally agree with this, also some people have jobs where they are out in the community/public eye. I have ot be discrete with my job. We get warnings at work regarding facebook, they'd have a hissy fit if they know about this site, and besides my family & friends outside of this don't know about my swinging life. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
That's my feeling, especially when they like to play by day.
I have custody of my 3 children, sometimes I can only play during school hours. I'm discreet because not everyone likes the fact they have sex with strangers shouting from the rooftops.
The best way to ascertain if someone is genuinely single is to get to know them a bit, ask plenty of questions and make your mind up that way, to tar everyone who has discreet on their profile is a little unfair."
well say fella, some seem to think that because your a single guy you can't be a full time dad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Discretion should be expected from everyone in the lifestyle - in that, who and where you meet and what you get up to together is no-one's business but your own.
Unfortunately there's too many folks who brag about their encounters, even naming names and sharing pics/stories about folks too - these are the ones I avoid.
Only time to share is when someone is not what they purport to be - and then you should report them to Admin.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
That's my feeling, especially when they like to play by day.
I have custody of my 3 children, sometimes I can only play during school hours. I'm discreet because not everyone likes the fact they have sex with strangers shouting from the rooftops.
The best way to ascertain if someone is genuinely single is to get to know them a bit, ask plenty of questions and make your mind up that way, to tar everyone who has discreet on their profile is a little unfair.
well say fella, some seem to think that because your a single guy you can't be a full time dad"
It's bloody hard work, I also work full time too. |
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I am completely single.
Always make it clear that I am happy to accomodate but also always state that I am discreet and would like the same in return.
I run 3 local companies and would not like to be the subject of local gossip for being 'on the scene' and I'm sure most people feel the same?
My ex was a school head teacher and had to be very careful when we met people and over the years I have met police officers, magistrates etc.
That's why I personally feel discretion is rather important but also understand other peoples need for seeing face pics.
But be warned, never trust the Internet, it can bite you and your career on the arse!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"men often say discreet meaning they wont talk about you, but most do, as well as the married ones."
Replace the word 'most' with 'some' and you might be nearer the mark.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
That's my feeling, especially when they like to play by day.
I have custody of my 3 children, sometimes I can only play during school hours. I'm discreet because not everyone likes the fact they have sex with strangers shouting from the rooftops.
The best way to ascertain if someone is genuinely single is to get to know them a bit, ask plenty of questions and make your mind up that way, to tar everyone who has discreet on their profile is a little unfair.
well say fella, some seem to think that because your a single guy you can't be a full time dad
It's bloody hard work, I also work full time too. "
im the same mate, only got one but work full time, I take my hat off to you sir |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"men often say discreet meaning they wont talk about you, but most do, as well as the married ones."
you sure women don't do this either, play fair its not just men all the time |
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By *opinovMan
over a year ago
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"men often say discreet meaning they wont talk about you, but most do, as well as the married ones.
you sure women don't do this either, play fair its not just men all the time"
Indeed. Whenever I see posts like this I think:
OP = misandrist = sexist  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
That's my feeling, especially when they like to play by day.
I have custody of my 3 children, sometimes I can only play during school hours. I'm discreet because not everyone likes the fact they have sex with strangers shouting from the rooftops.
The best way to ascertain if someone is genuinely single is to get to know them a bit, ask plenty of questions and make your mind up that way, to tar everyone who has discreet on their profile is a little unfair."
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"men often say discreet meaning they wont talk about you, but most do, as well as the married ones.
you sure women don't do this either, play fair its not just men all the time
Indeed. Whenever I see posts like this I think:
OP = misandrist = sexist "
Erm, I didn't specifically refer to any gender. This could apply to either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
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or we work in public facing roles and don't want dickheads shouting OI! I SAW YOUR MISSUS ON WEBCAM LAST NIGHT  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"men often say discreet meaning they wont talk about you, but most do, as well as the married ones.
you sure women don't do this either, play fair its not just men all the time
Indeed. Whenever I see posts like this I think:
OP = misandrist = sexist
Erm, I didn't specifically refer to any gender. This could apply to either."
to be fair you didnt, it wasnt you I quoted off |
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My profile, until very recently said discretion needed and given.
I'm single. No fwbs/fbs/husband/boyfriends other labels. But I dont want my user name passing to mates or my kids friends parents finding out and having a tattle at the school gate, to come back on my kids. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Discreet in isolation doesn't bother me. When it's mentioned several times though... or combined with no face pics, or can't accommodate or can only meet at specific times. It's not hard to come to an obvious conclusion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"men often say discreet meaning they wont talk about you, but most do, as well as the married ones.
you sure women don't do this either, play fair its not just men all the time"
Yes certain types of women do, mostly men though. i am only going by what i have heard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"men often say discreet meaning they wont talk about you, but most do, as well as the married ones.
you sure women don't do this either, play fair its not just men all the time
Yes certain types of women do, mostly men though. i am only going by what i have heard."
should never go on rumours  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"men often say discreet meaning they wont talk about you, but most do, as well as the married ones.
you sure women don't do this either, play fair its not just men all the time
Yes certain types of women do, mostly men though. i am only going by what i have heard.
Well when you get to my age you sort of find out these things. 52 that is.
should never go on rumours "
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"Discreet in isolation doesn't bother me. When it's mentioned several times though... or combined with no face pics, or can't accommodate or can only meet at specific times. It's not hard to come to an obvious conclusion. "
Yes, good point. If discretion is mentioned more than once I tend to get a bit hmm... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What is the big deal? Just ask, likewise when you see the "cannot accommodate".
Mind you, don't bother unless they tick some of your boxes. I personally think that going around random profiles asking questions that you couldn't give a damn what the answer is, may be a little ermmmm daft  . |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
That's my feeling, especially when they like to play by day.
I have custody of my 3 children, sometimes I can only play during school hours. I'm discreet because not everyone likes the fact they have sex with strangers shouting from the rooftops.
The best way to ascertain if someone is genuinely single is to get to know them a bit, ask plenty of questions and make your mind up that way, to tar everyone who has discreet on their profile is a little unfair."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its best not to sit behind a screen pre-judging so much, when the possible meets to be arranged, its easy enough to check for someone who is flexible(I mean by time!), now if they constantly give 1hr lunch windows etc etc , then you may be correct |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Vanilla?
I sense a little tension? Lol
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That was yesterday. Today is all about fairies and butterflies (and gremlins begging for sweets - I do love my children) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ive put Discreet in my profile because I believe it is being considerate to possible meets. I am aware that others may be worried if neighbours etc see me going into a person's house for a meet. I also believe that the nature of swinging gets enough bad press, which is interpreted as being seedy n what not. Plus hopefully reassures people that I am not likely to be off down the pub bragging about any conquests.
Guess everyone has their own interpretation of what discretion is I suppose. Although to state that if somebody states that they are discreet means they are married etc not too sure that is what it means. I am discreet and not married, not living with anybody well except my dog.  |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"For different reasons I guess, for some you may be correct.
I see it as being considerate of the fact many people like to separate their lives on here from their real lives, and am aware and mindful of that."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am married. But.need.to be discreet cause.my.grown up kids "
I've had to block 2 of my kids on here as they swing as well. Its just as difficult when family know as the last thing I want is to go to a party or club and find my daughter playing.  |
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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago
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Unless you don't mind the world and its mother knowing about your swinging lifestyle, then you value discretion. That just about covers over 99% of swingers.
So, demanding discretion does not mean you're cheating. If you want to avoid meeting swingers playing without their partner's knowledge, there are far better ways to spot this, than a request for discretion on someone's profile |
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
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A few times a year I have parties at my house. For the rest of the year I still have to live here too. So I'm not particularly keen on my neighbours getting to know what goes on. Asking for a bit of discretion can be as straightforward as that. No "code", no cheating...just a simple request for a bit of respect for my little personal environment. |
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
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No you are not right in a number of circumstances. Yes there are married people playing away but then there might just be people who dont want you running up yo them and talking about the 50 guy gang bang you saw them at when you see them in the street!! |
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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
No you are not right in a number of circumstances. Yes there are married people playing away but then there might just be people who dont want you running up yo them and talking about the 50 guy gang bang you saw them at when you see them in the street!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For different reasons I guess, for some you may be correct.
I see it as being considerate of the fact many people like to separate their lives on here from their real lives, and am aware and mindful of that."
This.
Why are assuming otherwise? |
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Hmm, interesting responses!
As I said above, discretion should come as standard as most people, even vanilla folks, don't discuss their sex lives in too much detail with all and sundry. Anyway, if you are spotted by someone in a public place after a gang bang/club visit/cam session, the spotter can't really say anything because they were there too!
From my point if _iew, if someone puts "discreet" on their profile my first thought is why they need to even mention it in the first place unless they are doing something shady.
And in my personal experience, most of the people who put this on their profile are indeed up to something. And the ones who put "genuine" are the time wasters who don't show up!
We can't win really... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hmm, interesting responses!
As I said above, discretion should come as standard as most people, even vanilla folks, don't discuss their sex lives in too much detail with all and sundry. Anyway, if you are spotted by someone in a public place after a gang bang/club visit/cam session, the spotter can't really say anything because they were there too!
From my point if _iew, if someone puts "discreet" on their profile my first thought is why they need to even mention it in the first place unless they are doing something shady.
And in my personal experience, most of the people who put this on their profile are indeed up to something. And the ones who put "genuine" are the time wasters who don't show up!
We can't win really..."
Personally I think you're reading too much into it.
People use the words discreet and genuine to attract and reassure potential meets. Granted, some will be Muppets but you'll also find that they're the ones with nothing but cock pics (not even a face pic in private) and no verifications or only verifications by webcam. |
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"For different reasons I guess, for some you may be correct.
I see it as being considerate of the fact many people like to separate their lives on here from their real lives, and am aware and mindful of that."
this.... |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"For different reasons I guess, for some you may be correct.
I see it as being considerate of the fact many people like to separate their lives on here from their real lives, and am aware and mindful of that."
This ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like to be discreet because in my job as a Midwife, imagine a newly pregnant couple coming to clinic and I have had sex with the man! I would of course be professional and keep a straight face "
similar situation here, doubt many of us would like work collegues to know about our 'fab lives' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
That's my feeling, especially when they like to play by day.
I have custody of my 3 children, sometimes I can only play during school hours. I'm discreet because not everyone likes the fact they have sex with strangers shouting from the rooftops.
The best way to ascertain if someone is genuinely single is to get to know them a bit, ask plenty of questions and make your mind up that way, to tar everyone who has discreet on their profile is a little unfair."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
That's my feeling, especially when they like to play by day.
I have custody of my 3 children, sometimes I can only play during school hours. I'm discreet because not everyone likes the fact they have sex with strangers shouting from the rooftops.
The best way to ascertain if someone is genuinely single is to get to know them a bit, ask plenty of questions and make your mind up that way, to tar everyone who has discreet on their profile is a little unfair."
Agree with this. Too many assumptions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
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Absolutely 100% wrong assumption |
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
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Discretion for me is the default setting: I don't expect meets to turn up on my doorstep with Millie Jackson's Fuck You blaring out of their car speakers, alighting from their cars in a harness, collar and holdups carrying a clear bag of ribbed condoms and tingle lube!
Therefore, profiles with "discreet" littered through it, can't accommodate, I'm forensic clean and you MUST be too etc has me flicking to the next profile.
For those who have that on their profile and single: I...don't...care! It's another filter I use in deciding who to meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
Discretion for me is the default setting: I don't expect meets to turn up on my doorstep with Millie Jackson's Fuck You blaring out of their car speakers, alighting from their cars in a harness, collar and holdups carrying a clear bag of ribbed condoms and tingle lube!
Therefore, profiles with "discreet" littered through it, can't accommodate, I'm forensic clean and you MUST be too etc has me flicking to the next profile.
For those who have that on their profile and single: I...don't...care! It's another filter I use in deciding who to meet.
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At least everyone seems to spell 'discreet' correctly |
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"I disagree, if I were to say I'm discreet I'm simply advising that I respect the wishes of those I meet may have family lives outside if swinging that they don't want overlapping, of course there are plenty cheating on here but I don't believe there is a 'code' "
Does it need to be said though? Isn't being mindful of others axiomatic? |
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I take it with a pinch of salt. Many tend to be blabbermouths anyway and can't be trusted with personal information.
I don't immediately assume they are attached though. But then, i always ask that question directly. |
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"Discreet in isolation doesn't bother me. When it's mentioned several times though... or combined with no face pics, or can't accommodate or can only meet at specific times. It's not hard to come to an obvious conclusion. "
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"Hmm, interesting responses!
As I said above, discretion should come as standard as most people, even vanilla folks, don't discuss their sex lives in too much detail with all and sundry. Anyway, if you are spotted by someone in a public place after a gang bang/club visit/cam session, the spotter can't really say anything because they were there too!
From my point if _iew, if someone puts "discreet" on their profile my first thought is why they need to even mention it in the first place unless they are doing something shady.
And in my personal experience, most of the people who put this on their profile are indeed up to something. And the ones who put "genuine" are the time wasters who don't show up!
We can't win really..."
Yes, they will be up to something, theyll be up to trying to find some NSA sex like everybody else on the site is |
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"I take it with a pinch of salt. Many tend to be blabbermouths anyway and can't be trusted with personal information.
I don't immediately assume they are attached though. But then, i always ask that question directly."
That's another thing: like "safe sex" on profiles of singles with multiple close up penetration shots without a condom in sight. The "straight" men with multiple verifications from men praising their oral skills and stamina!
People use these buzz words knowing some will take it as gospel as they've seen it in print! |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Hmm, interesting responses!
As I said above, discretion should come as standard as most people, even vanilla folks, don't discuss their sex lives in too much detail with all and sundry.
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You would think so, but it isn't always the case on both the points. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Discreet in isolation doesn't bother me. When it's mentioned several times though... or combined with no face pics, or can't accommodate or can only meet at specific times. It's not hard to come to an obvious conclusion.
Exactly! "
Maybe they're shy?
Some people mention it simply because they've had experiences in the past where their privacy was compromised. Some people are doing the dirty.
But assuming things won't help. I'm not going to assume someone will be discreet because my personal experience has shown that I shouldn't. Tell-tale signs are not concrete evidence. They are simply markers as are most of the "clues" in people's profiles. We jump to our own conclusions but it doesn't make us right.
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By *utzzCouple
over a year ago
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We are discreet. Call us old fashioned but we really don't want our families, neighbours, friends, colleagues, customers, acquaintances or even strangers knowing about our sex lives.  unless theyre sexy and swing as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
Absolutely 100% wrong assumption"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im a single father and also im a profesional man in a very large company . So thats the reason i say discreet .
Yes i get accused of being married or having something to hide . Of which neither is true its just the fact that i want this as my private fun !
My little escape every now and then .... |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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in this world, the need to grandstand being part of the swinging 'elite' is often prioritised over being discrete.
announcing meets, running commentaries during meets and post meet declarations of sexual gymnastics for all to see is more of a concern to me than if someone is cheating on their partner. |
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"in this world, the need to grandstand being part of the swinging 'elite' is often prioritised over being discrete.
announcing meets, running commentaries during meets and post meet declarations of sexual gymnastics for all to see is more of a concern to me than if someone is cheating on their partner. "
very well put |
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"For different reasons I guess, for some you may be correct.
I see it as being considerate of the fact many people like to separate their lives on here from their real lives, and am aware and mindful of that.
Totally agree with this, also some people have jobs where they are out in the community/public eye. I have ot be discrete with my job. We get warnings at work regarding facebook, they'd have a hissy fit if they know about this site, and besides my family & friends outside of this don't know about my swinging life. xx"
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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago
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"in this world, the need to grandstand being part of the swinging 'elite' is often prioritised over being discrete.
announcing meets, running commentaries during meets and post meet declarations of sexual gymnastics for all to see is more of a concern to me than if someone is cheating on their partner. "
I couldn't agree more. There's far too much grandstanding, posturing, moral exhibitions and a desire, nay, need to be seen as the perfect example of an ideal swinger that goes on in the forums.
I don't see the need to burden one's self with all these forensic detective work to read between the lines of what is written in people's profiles and what they're doing in their pictures.
As long as the distinction between my private & swinging life is not compromised by potential playmates, I don't care how many times the word "discreet" appears on their profile.
I don't care whether they say they only play safe but then have bareback pictures on their profile. If we get as far as arranging a meet, I will be bringing my own condoms, and I will be using them.
It really should be as simple as that. |
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"in this world, the need to grandstand being part of the swinging 'elite' is often prioritised over being discrete.
announcing meets, running commentaries during meets and post meet declarations of sexual gymnastics for all to see is more of a concern to me than if someone is cheating on their partner.
I couldn't agree more. There's far too much grandstanding, posturing, moral exhibitions and a desire, nay, need to be seen as the perfect example of an ideal swinger that goes on in the forums.
I don't see the need to burden one's self with all these forensic detective work to read between the lines of what is written in people's profiles and what they're doing in their pictures.
As long as the distinction between my private & swinging life is not compromised by potential playmates, I don't care how many times the word "discreet" appears on their profile.
I don't care whether they say they only play safe but then have bareback pictures on their profile. If we get as far as arranging a meet, I will be bringing my own condoms, and I will be using them.
It really should be as simple as that."
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"I tend to avoid anyone who bangs on about being "discreet" on their profile, my interpretation is that they are attached and cheating.
Am I right?! Is this like code language or something?!
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I have on my profile that discretion will be given, not because I am cheating or attached, purely because I have seen a number of single female profiles requesting discretion. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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it is also amazing at times when you are invited to 'connect' with people you know in the swinging world on Linkedin & other unrelated sites.
They get/know your real name and their research commences as Google may be their friend, not yours.
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I mention that im discreet on my profile but I dont ask for it, purely an underatanding of empathy towards others not an indicator for being married or hiding an unaware other.
Sure your sixth sense does you proud. |
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"We are discreet. Call us old fashioned but we really don't want our families, neighbours, friends, colleagues, customers, acquaintances or even strangers knowing about our sex lives. unless theyre sexy and swing as well "
In a nutshell! |
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i think, in a lifestyle such as this, discretion should be a given, much like safe sex, unless its agreed not to by all parties.
its just one of those things we would expect anyone we met to be fully aware of anyway, without the need to mention it on a profile, so maybe, those that bang on about the need for it do actually have more than just swinging to hide.
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"it is also amazing at times when you are invited to 'connect' with people you know in the swinging world on Linkedin & other unrelated sites.
They get/know your real name and their research commences as Google may be their friend, not yours.
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I do Google when my spider senses get tingling. Amongst the various articles written about one potential single playmate was a picture of him receiving a trophy. He was standing next to his wife. Another I found his home address, land line, email and mobil number on the BNP supporters list published by the Mirror.
I'm a single woman living with my two daughters. This is fun but it could have serious consequences: I make no apology for checking as best I can who I invite into our home. |
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