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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have not met many girls on here (Don't worry it's not a pity me post) but the ones I have or women I have spoken too have told me they have never orgasmed, but on their verification the guys think they have done the job. Is this the case for most women? Do us guys all think we're the best ever but really not as good as we think? Or do you think I'm gullible and just been fed a load of shit, they tell that to most guys?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I didn't take a toy then it's almost certain I'd be one of those girls.
Unfortunately men think gushing = orgasm."
See I thought this as well but glad I have been told the truth as I think both parties should enjoy the experience not just one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just because a woman hasn't orgasmed doesn't mean she hasn't enjoyed the experience. Some women don't orgadm ever (not me). With strangers sometimes I do sometimes I don't more to do with mr than them I think. I don't feel the need to tell a random they didn't make me cum as it would just make them feel bad. Xx |
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It's not all about the orgasm and I've never had one with a meet but they have all still been enjoyable. But yes there are many guys on here that think they are the best and to be honest most have been pretty average. I've met a fair few and only really 2 have been really good and only one who was exceptional  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't orgasm at all and would never pretend that I have so the guy thinks we have had a good time, as I said on another post, so long as I have a good time, not having an orgasm is no big deal And no gushing/coming and orgasm are not the same thing at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pretty much every meet I orgasm. I'm disappointed if I don't. And, as has been said, gushing and squirting are not orgasms though some women can orgasm at the same time. "
And they are lucky biatches |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some guys on here have given me an utterly wonderful time (Thank You!!!) - but I've never orgasmed on a meet.
Like a lot of women on here, I'm simply not interested in an orgasm for myself - I very specifically don't want it.
I'm moving on from swinging now, and one of the reasons is that so many men just don't listen - they think that because an orgasm is important for them, then it must be the same for us - it isn't!!!
I'd have said Yes to a lot more guys if they'd listened to what I wanted instead of trying to tell me that they were going to "make me cum and squirt" etc...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondering as there seems to be a difference in opinion between the girl and the guys verification! Me personally woul rather be told I'm not doing something right so I can sort it out ha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it's not all about cumming for women in the same way as it is for me I don't think. of course this is not universally true.
I don't need to cum on a meet. I often have a vaginal orgasm. but I have to give myself a clitoral orgasm. that usually comes afterwards when I wank |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually orgasm on a meet, even if I have to sway things to a way that gets me there...think I'd be left pretty frustrated without to be honest. Guess we're all different though! |
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I've faked, I am great at faking.
Men feel good, I had fun, they had fun and everything is fine, we are both happy.
I've had a few that can actually bring me to orgasm, I've met a few that actually know when it really happens. I've met many that have said they really cant tell.
I've never yet met a man that was ok with me enjoying myself and not having an orgasm. So faking it is just easier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why is so much empahsis put on making a women orgasm. It just puts added pressure on the guy to perform and for the women to climax. What the hell happened to just enjoy the good fun time that can be had.
orgasm is not the be all and end all. x |
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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago
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Don't orgasm EVERY meet and it wasn't until the 6-7th meet that I had my first one. However, on some of our meets, the guys have had me cumming over and over again. One of our regulars just has to touch me and I'm ready to cum as I know he knows how to push all of my buttons and just that knowledge has me wet and ready.
Regardless of all that, I just really enjoy the experience and if I don't cum it's ok. I love to see the man cum and just love it when they cum on me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I must be one of the lucky ones - only one meet where I haven't, so I didn't go back when invited.
But didn't fake it - did enough if that when I was married! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is so much empahsis put on making a women orgasm. It just puts added pressure on the guy to perform and for the women to climax. What the hell happened to just enjoy the good fun time that can be had.
orgasm is not the be all and end all. x"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Guys were getting off corse here my point was that the guys thought they were amazing and fully satisfied them but turned out it was a different story their end. I don't put emphasis on cumming or orgasming!!! If you look at sex as a task where is the fun in that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A guy once asked if I'd verify him after a meet, I declined in the nicest way possible. I think he got the message that perhaps I didn't think the sex was all that great! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think women do tend to lie to men about how good they are sometimes, but if the meets great for them then there is a certain amount of pleasure in it knowing you've satisfied them, but it would be difficult for me personally to say to them nah didn't do it for me or something along those lines, I think men's performance is really important to them and wouldn't want to deflate their ego, ffs lol I'm obviously a soft touch  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never orgasm with men but always with my vibrator as it is so intense and powerful. I would never tell my partner not good for male ego  "
glad I'm not the only one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a woman has never had an orgasm either they are meeting the wrong men or shit at d.i.y "
Sorry but I don't agree with that at all, some of us have issues from the past that block the letting go and relaxing part that allow them to orgasm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guys were getting off corse here my point was that the guys thought they were amazing and fully satisfied them but turned out it was a different story their end. I don't put emphasis on cumming or orgasming!!! If you look at sex as a task where is the fun in that? "
I don't let guys necessarily think they were amazing or not, I don't meet someone who wasn't good again simple as that |
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There are an awful lot of men who cannot tell when a woman is cumming. A lot of men have thought I was cumming when I'm nowhere near. 
Just cos she gets wet and moans and twitches a bit doesn't mean you've done the job.
I also get the impression that ignorance is bliss for some guys. If they got educated in the real thing then they'd have to start thinking her pleasure is as important as his own!
Fortunately this is not the case for all men, but I certainly have had rave reviews off men which left me wondering if they were in the same room as me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I didn't take a toy then it's almost certain I'd be one of those girls.
Unfortunately men think gushing = orgasm.
See I thought this as well but glad I have been told the truth as I think both parties should enjoy the experience not just one "
Well said fella! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never orgasm with penetrative sex. Sometimes struggle to orgasm on a first meet clitorally. Harder, faster licking is sometimes too much. A lot of men really don't understand that! Then I get over sensitive.
Lots of men seem to be focused on giving me an orgasm. I get close but can't quite tip over the edge...gushing is also not an orgasm for me!
I have faked before I have to say... but I'm upfront now and tell my meets I don't cum x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been lucky I always cum but if the person I meet wasn't that great I'm not sure if i could tell them as wouldn't want to upset them but u wouldn't fake just to please them and wouldn't meet again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never orgasm with penetrative sex. Sometimes struggle to orgasm on a first meet clitorally. Harder, faster licking is sometimes too much. A lot of men really don't understand that! Then I get over sensitive.
Lots of men seem to be focused on giving me an orgasm. I get close but can't quite tip over the edge...gushing is also not an orgasm for me!
I have faked before I have to say... but I'm upfront now and tell my meets I don't cum x"
Too right aswell babe,how are these below par men ever gonna step their game up if they think they made you pop like a ballon??
A little healthy critique of their performances can only make it better for the next lady right,remember boys in this game it's gold for coming second!!! |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"There are an awful lot of men who cannot tell when a woman is cumming. A lot of men have thought I was cumming when I'm nowhere near.
Just cos she gets wet and moans and twitches a bit doesn't mean you've done the job.
I also get the impression that ignorance is bliss for some guys. If they got educated in the real thing then they'd have to start thinking her pleasure is as important as his own!
Fortunately this is not the case for all men, but I certainly have had rave reviews off men which left me wondering if they were in the same room as me! "
I think it's important not to fake it for that reason. How is any man to really learn about a woman's orgasm if they fake it all the time? I have had guys think I'm cumming when I'm just really warming up. I tell them directly that I'm not but also I take responsibility for my own orgasm. Many guys actually stop me cumming as they are so intent in trying various positions as this is what they think they should do. Once I'm properly warmed up keeping a good steady rhythm gets me off and I assume it's the same for other women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a really interesting thread! Men and women clearly have very different opinions on the importance of orgasm as a result of a meet.
Even as a man I appreciate you can have a nice time without orgasm as I often deny myself when 'DIY'. However I would feel a bit short changed if a meet did not include orgasm for me.
I definitely would not want to know a woman faked her orgasm, but truthfully would rather she didn't even fake one...I would believe her if she said she enjoyed herself with whatever we got upto. If she didn't, fair enough, don't meet again, I'm sure many of us have had meets we'd rather forget! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What kind of woman relies on a man to give them an orgasm?!
It's not the man's fault if we don't. "
I actually agree with this controversial statement lol
At the end of the day sex is in the mind as much as it is in the body and no one knows our minds and bodies better than we do ourselves.
For those that want to orgasm
Men aren't telepathic but we can communicate ...so tell us, without mocking us ... Because that only makes us more intent on 'getting it right' when by definition it seems we can't
I'm also not convinced that all men, as has been suggested, think squirting is an orgasm ...but if women are regularly faking this stuff then how are we suppose to know what is and what isn't? ...I say again we not telepathic.
Find out what, if anything, gets you there, and communicate it to us ...I can guarantee the men will love you for it and hopefully you'll have an even greater and more satisfying time.
For those that don't orgasm and fake it instead ...you doing no one any favours especially yourselves not to mention other women who then have sex with the disillusioned men who wrongfully think they're sex gods ...
Strange how we find the simple art of communication so difficult, as humans
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What kind of woman relies on a man to give them an orgasm?!
It's not the man's fault if we don't.
I actually agree with this controversial statement lol
At the end of the day sex is in the mind as much as it is in the body and no one knows our minds and bodies better than we do ourselves.
For those that want to orgasm
Men aren't telepathic but we can communicate ...so tell us, without mocking us ... Because that only makes us more intent on 'getting it right' when by definition it seems we can't
I'm also not convinced that all men, as has been suggested, think squirting is an orgasm ...but if women are regularly faking this stuff then how are we suppose to know what is and what isn't? ...I say again we not telepathic.
Find out what, if anything, gets you there, and communicate it to us ...I can guarantee the men will love you for it and hopefully you'll have an even greater and more satisfying time.
For those that don't orgasm and fake it instead ...you doing no one any favours especially yourselves not to mention other women who then have sex with the disillusioned men who wrongfully think they're sex gods ...
Strange how we find the simple art of communication so difficult, as humans
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We can still enjoy the experience without the orgasm!
I personally will never orgasm on a first meet.....and I dont repeat my meets...
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How do you ladies feel about the oposite situation i.e you come,but he just can't and feels bad because he doesn't want you to think it's you?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What kind of woman relies on a man to give them an orgasm?!
It's not the man's fault if we don't.
I actually agree with this controversial statement lol
At the end of the day sex is in the mind as much as it is in the body and no one knows our minds and bodies better than we do ourselves.
For those that want to orgasm
Men aren't telepathic but we can communicate ...so tell us, without mocking us ... Because that only makes us more intent on 'getting it right' when by definition it seems we can't
I'm also not convinced that all men, as has been suggested, think squirting is an orgasm ...but if women are regularly faking this stuff then how are we suppose to know what is and what isn't? ...I say again we not telepathic.
Find out what, if anything, gets you there, and communicate it to us ...I can guarantee the men will love you for it and hopefully you'll have an even greater and more satisfying time.
For those that don't orgasm and fake it instead ...you doing no one any favours especially yourselves not to mention other women who then have sex with the disillusioned men who wrongfully think they're sex gods ...
Strange how we find the simple art of communication so difficult, as humans
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Im good at communication in a social environment, cant shut me up, but in private in the bedroom, im shy and don't say what id like, I just let the guy take over. I do instigate kissing quite a bit and am touchy feely but chatty and stuff, no. Probably why most meets are a one-off. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I have not met many girls on here (Don't worry it's not a pity me post) but the ones I have or women I have spoken too have told me they have never orgasmed, but on their verification the guys think they have done the job. Is this the case for most women? Do us guys all think we're the best ever but really not as good as we think? Or do you think I'm gullible and just been fed a load of shit, they tell that to most guys? "
I don't always find it easy to orgasm ans sometimes it just doesn't happen at all. It is not the be all and end all for me. Just because I might not always orgasm doesn't mean I haven't enjoyed myself and had a bloody good time.
If I am struggling I normally give a bit of guidance or a helping hand. Can't see the point of faking.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to have an orgasm every time, is that being greedy lol! And I love to see a man cum too, but I either like hubby to help with some dirty talk and some kissing and sucking, whilst I have a good play or I get in a position I know will make me cum! But I love being taken by surprise when you don't think you will with sex and it just happens.. Bit I guess every time have sex I concentrate on me too, not just my man! It's about making each other feel good and if it's not happening or they are doing it wrong I tell them, not Just lay back and think of England or fake it! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At the end of the day sex is in the mind as much as it is in the body and no one knows our minds and bodies better than we do ourselves."
Strongly agree with this (and pretty much all of the rest of the post!). I used to struggle to orgasm but I was always conscious about being too loud, or not being vocal enough and also whether I was 'any good'. As I've got older I've got less concerned about these things and so I'm not distracted during sex. Being more relaxed allows me to properly let go and now I rarely have issues with orgasms |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We can still enjoy the experience without the orgasm!
I personally will never orgasm on a first meet.....and I dont repeat my meets...
How do you ladies feel about the oposite situation i.e you come,but he just can't and feels bad because he doesn't want you to think it's you??"
Ive had this happen to me with my regular fuckbuddy,he has a few times not cum and I do know its not me but him and his stressful life but other times hes cum bucket loads ...it does really stress about it and after some deep convos realises its the stress of his life and now is relaxed enough at our meets to let it happen in a natural way...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A man has to be pretty shit with his tongue and fingers if I don't cum , can cum in 2 mins if I'm horny although I have never had an orgasm through penetrative sex.
I have on occasions laid there and thought this guy is doing nothing for me and pretended.... I gush so they will think I have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pretty much every meet I orgasm. I'm disappointed if I don't. And, as has been said, gushing and squirting are not orgasms though some women can orgasm at the same time. "
This^^ I won't fake it x |
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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago
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I found this thread really eye opening. Why are these women meeting for sex if they never orgasm? I guess I am lucky but I expect at least one orgasm form an encounter. It must be so frustrating not being able to orgasm. |
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