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Assumption you will play again
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It's better to part and feel more would be nice, even if it never happens. Saying you'd like more is nt giving a cast iron guarantee of more meets, just that it may be great - we often cant meet really quickly anyway. I wouldn't mislead someone, so it is better to be clear though. Sometimes once is totally enough, but this can be said whilst respecting feelings and dignity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" If you've played with someone once, maybe even more and they assume you will want to play again.
What do you say 
If we want to we say yes if we don't we say no thank you."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would prefer it was made clear.
We have people we have met a number of times and would definitely meet again, we have also had meets that have not been repeated, some we would have liked to, others not.
We would much prefer it was made clear if they don't want to repeat, and we try to make it clear (gently) if we don't want to.
I think everyone has had meets they would not repeat, sometimes for reasons you can't quite put your finger on yourself, It happens. We never give the impression we would like to repeat when we wouldn't as you are unfairly raising expectations then.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It can be jolly awkward when someone who you've met a couple of times sends messages asking for all a meet every time you are available.  "
Some people can be too pushy for their own good. We met a couple at a club and had a great night, but they messaged us to the extent that we ultimately blocked them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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From reading several threads, it seem people find it difficult to meet people for fun, so it would follow if 2 people do meet for fun, they will want to do it again, if it was enjoyable, take it as a great compliment, if someone wants to spend more time with you, you must be worth the effort, time is the most precious gift we have.
Of course, no 2 people will experience the same feelings at the same time, so if he or she doesn't rock your boat, be kind, be gentle and say so.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It can be jolly awkward when someone who you've met a couple of times sends messages asking for a meet every time you are available. "
It is also very flattering, nice to know you gave someone pleasure.  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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It is also very flattering, nice to know you gave someone pleasure. "
I agree, babe, but I do sometimes wonder if I'm the only person to say 'yes, tonight, Josephine' to them and so they go for the easy replay, rather than carry on trying to find someone else  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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It is also very flattering, nice to know you gave someone pleasure.
I agree, babe, but I do sometimes wonder if I'm the only person to say 'yes, tonight, Josephine' to them and so they go for the easy replay, rather than carry on trying to find someone else "
Yes Tina this is more the case I feel. I certainly don't feel flattered, I feel pestered. |
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I often get this. I must be honest, I usually say something like, "yes hun, we'll see how things pan out".
Sometimes I do want to play again... Sometimes I don't. I don't like to hurt these women though. I often just let it phase out if I'm not interested because I've noticed that women get upset, etc.
At one time, I was more direct but I think it can be painful and I often do like the women but decide that I don't want another sexual meet with them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I often get this. I must be honest, I usually say something like, "yes hun, we'll see how things pan out".
Sometimes I do want to play again... Sometimes I don't. I don't like to hurt these women though. I often just let it phase out if I'm not interested because I've noticed that women get upset, etc.
At one time, I was more direct but I think it can be painful and I often do like the women but decide that I don't want another sexual meet with them.
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Yes that's it. I don't want to have to be blunt. I think men are more persistent though and don't take the hint very well.
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"I often get this. I must be honest, I usually say something like, "yes hun, we'll see how things pan out".
Sometimes I do want to play again... Sometimes I don't. I don't like to hurt these women though. I often just let it phase out if I'm not interested because I've noticed that women get upset, etc.
At one time, I was more direct but I think it can be painful and I often do like the women but decide that I don't want another sexual meet with them.
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Yes that's it. I don't want to have to be blunt. I think men are more persistent though and don't take the hint very well.
Great post "
Thank you!
Yeah, I know men are more persistent. With men, I'm afraid I'd have to be straight. "You're pestering me." Don't be nasty ofcourse, but that should suffice. If they don't get that hint then I'm sorry but they're too desperate.
Women on here and ones I've met never pester me. They might hint a lot but they never pester so yes, it is different!
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We both like eating cake, that's why we regularly go to a cake eating club. We don't always want to eat the same cakes we've eaten before, but to try new interesting cakes as well as eating cakes we have eaten and enjoyed before as the mood takes us.
Cakes that become cloying or leave a bad taste in the mouth get binned.
Hmmm, so what sort of cake do we want next?
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
" If you've played with someone once, maybe even more and they assume you will want to play again.
What do you say "
We are always honest if we don't want to take things further or meet/play again.
Same as we would rather people be honest with us if they don't want to meet us again.
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"We would prefer it was made clear.
We have people we have met a number of times and would definitely meet again, we have also had meets that have not been repeated, some we would have liked to, others not.
We would much prefer it was made clear if they don't want to repeat, and we try to make it clear (gently) if we don't want to.
I think everyone has had meets they would not repeat, sometimes for reasons you can't quite put your finger on yourself, It happens. We never give the impression we would like to repeat when we wouldn't as you are unfairly raising expectations then.
xx"
Great post......
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