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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi guys.
Did i do something wrong here?
Chatting to a couple, swapped mobile numbers, they asked if they could call, I said I was busy with my kids, cuddling up watching a movie and i will speak later on. They ignored me and phoned anyway and when I said as politely as i could that i have said it was not a good time, I was accused of being a time waster. I tried to explain I was busy with my kids but was told I am not meeting them half way 
Im pissed off about it as I would never waste people's time but surely it was not cool they phoned when I said it was not a good time? |
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I would never phone when asked not to. Family and real life comes before sex and swinging in my book. If they ignored your request out of bed and were selfishly insistent then they might have been that way sexually too.
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Consider it good luck. At least this way you know just what sort of pushy selfish and inconsiderate people they are, and would never ever consider meeting them now. Would you have prefered to find out that they were pushy selfish and inconsiderate in a bedroom that they had the door key for? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, you were clear in your message that it wasn't a good time to call, therefore they're in the wrong for ignoring you. People need to learn a little respect before throwing the timewaster label around when things don't go their way.
As I always say, patience is a virtue and on here that certainly rings true.
Ignore the morons and stay beautiful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like a lucky escape! As others have said they were probably selfish in the bedroom too and let's face it, single ladies are like gold dust so it really is their loss in this case! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" Consider it good luck. At least this way you know just what sort of pushy selfish and inconsiderate people they are, and would never ever consider meeting them now. Would you have prefered to find out that they were pushy selfish and inconsiderate in a bedroom that they had the door key for?"
A great point. You know people think its so easy for single bi fems but its not, pushy people, I was literally cuddling up my kids when they phoned, phone going crazy with messages etc, I am always polite and tried to explain I didnt want to chat when I was having movie time with the little ones, now i am a time waster
I dont like giving my mobile out for this reason but if you guys were chatting and the girl was reluctant to give out her private number would you assume she was a time waster, Just want to meet a lovely, non complicated couple |
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Not in the wrong at all, I swapped numbers with a guy last year and what with him working and me dealing with my lad it was a few days before we managed to have a phone convo.
Sounds like you got off lightly, some people (in my experience) forget there is life outside fab, kids, work, etc. |
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"I would never phone when asked not to. Family and real life comes before sex and swinging in my book. If they ignored your request out of bed and were selfishly insistent then they might have been that way sexually too.
I'd rather have a hot cup of tea than sex, but it doesn't half scald ya cock. "
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Sounds like you've dodged a bullet there!, if they can't respect the fact you have a family and cannot be at there for them at the drop of a hat.., they are not worth meeting! Far too pushy, no respect and self centered! You are well shot of them x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I suspect they are thinking ur profile is fake OP, and wanted to know asap, but the timewaster element shows they are pushy twats
can I phone...NOW!?!
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Lol, you can phone later
I did email pics etc and sent messages on here, I guess even after a year of swinging its still a learning curve. Thank you everyone for your comments, I think i will refrain from giving out my private number again and if it spoils my chances then I will have to accept that x |
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" Consider it good luck. At least this way you know just what sort of pushy selfish and inconsiderate people they are, and would never ever consider meeting them now. Would you have prefered to find out that they were pushy selfish and inconsiderate in a bedroom that they had the door key for?
A great point. You know people think its so easy for single bi fems but its not, pushy people, I was literally cuddling up my kids when they phoned, phone going crazy with messages etc, I am always polite and tried to explain I didnt want to chat when I was having movie time with the little ones, now i am a time waster
I dont like giving my mobile out for this reason but if you guys were chatting and the girl was reluctant to give out her private number would you assume she was a time waster, Just want to meet a lovely, non complicated couple "
Just been thru my phone. 14 people off fab have my number and only 4 of those are people I've not met but have chatted to extensively before numbers exchanged. I don't like giving my number out for that reason but at least iphone now has a block number facility!!! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They sound rude and not worth ur time hun , they obviously dont have kids of there own x any how kids or not if ur busy ur busy ! If u had no intenstion of speaking then u wouldnt of given them ur Number. I would move on hun, there are some considerate peeps on here  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Its a risk as if you give your number, the person might just text when necessary but texting hundreds of times, phoning at inconvenient times and in the middle of the night is so not cool, I guess it is my fault for trusting the people and giving my number out |
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I don't give my number out before a meet cos I've had problems with not only a stalker but also people who think it gives them carte blanche to sext and call at all times even when I've asked them not to. One guy got really stroppy when I didn't reply to his messages despite the fact that I told him I would be in meetings all day and wouldn't have my phone with me - he even pestered me to go to the loo site I could message him! 
A few people have said they won't meet without a call so I simply say no problem and move on. I'm verified so people have a way to confirm that I am a single female.
Set your own rules and boundaries and if people aren't prepared to abide by them move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was you I would get a cheap pay as you go phone for fab, I have and I only turn it on when I'm able to take calls, and that way my private number stays private x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I was you I would get a cheap pay as you go phone for fab, I have and I only turn it on when I'm able to take calls, and that way my private number stays private x "
Fab idea xx |
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Hi all felt this was the best place
we have been playing with a couple for a few weeks the girls been the main fun and reason. 1 night the girls had started playing and need a rest drinks we all chatted saying as it stands both sides would not play with others all happy, that was 3am Saturday 8 pm Sunday he took her to play with other couple.
Now we get slated by them to any one we chat to
so what's the best next move |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its a risk as if you give your number, the person might just text when necessary but texting hundreds of times, phoning at inconvenient times and in the middle of the night is so not cool, I guess it is my fault for trusting the people and giving my number out "
Get a cheap PAYG phone and give that number out. I have one and only turn it on when I'm expecting a call or text.
If they had called me I wouldn't have answered. Definitely a very lucky escape. x |
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Beyondcurious: You get slated by them to people you talk to? How do they know who you're talking to and what would they slate you about if your meets have all been good?
I wouldn't worry about why they agreed not to meet other people and then did so the next day. When they are with you, they are with you and when they are not; they're not. Don't sweat it and don't let it get to you. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"Hi guys.
Did i do something wrong here?
Chatting to a couple, swapped mobile numbers, they asked if they could call, I said I was busy with my kids, cuddling up watching a movie and i will speak later on. They ignored me and phoned anyway and when I said as politely as i could that i have said it was not a good time, I was accused of being a time waster. I tried to explain I was busy with my kids but was told I am not meeting them half way
Im pissed off about it as I would never waste people's time but surely it was not cool they phoned when I said it was not a good time?"
They are pushy, self-absorbed and inconsiderate. Would you really want to meet people like that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We are time wasters! We don't meet at a drop of a hat, only play after a social meet and we both like you, dont meet single men who pose as couples... Need I go on...? The only people who shout ' time waster' are spoilt children who can't get there own way....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi guys.
Did i do something wrong here?
Chatting to a couple, swapped mobile numbers, they asked if they could call, I said I was busy with my kids, cuddling up watching a movie and i will speak later on. They ignored me and phoned anyway and when I said as politely as i could that i have said it was not a good time, I was accused of being a time waster. I tried to explain I was busy with my kids but was told I am not meeting them half way
Im pissed off about it as I would never waste people's time but surely it was not cool they phoned when I said it was not a good time?
They are pushy, self-absorbed and inconsiderate. Would you really want to meet people like that?"
Agrees entirely with this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We very, very rarely give our number out for just this sort of reason.
If we are so suspicious that someone is fake that we would need to speak to them then we'd just go with our instincts. |
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I'm very selective about giving my number as I've had the experience of having to change it in the past, due to stalker types
I'd rather arrange a coffee meet early on, learnt you can discover much more about compatibility that way |
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Obviously not the sort of people you want to meet if they are that pushy. Family always has to come first in this and we cant believe people when they take umbridge at that.
Best way as already stated is to have a separate pay as you go phone for Fab and we also believe there should be a reporting mechanism for some of the timewasters on here at the moment.
lately we have had a number of no shows from single guys.
Just ahev to say lovely pics and am sure you will soon find a really nice couple.  |
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By *hameless-2Couple
over a year ago
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"Hi guys.
Did i do something wrong here?
Chatting to a couple, swapped mobile numbers, they asked if they could call, I said I was busy with my kids, cuddling up watching a movie and i will speak later on. They ignored me and phoned anyway and when I said as politely as i could that i have said it was not a good time, I was accused of being a time waster. I tried to explain I was busy with my kids but was told I am not meeting them half way
Im pissed off about it as I would never waste people's time but surely it was not cool they phoned when I said it was not a good time?"
We'll it sounds as tho you had a lucky escape if they wouldn't listen.
But could it have been a single bloke acting as a cpl. They/he sounded a bit too eager for my liking. Either way you've had a lucky escape and I wouldn't let it bother you |
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"Its a risk as if you give your number, the person might just text when necessary but texting hundreds of times, phoning at inconvenient times and in the middle of the night is so not cool, I guess it is my fault for trusting the people and giving my number out "
Get yourself a cheap litle phone just for 'play use'. You can switch it off at the end of the night and block unwanted number, so therein have a nights sleep with out fear of someone ringing you at all hours. Just a thought. Just remember a lot think there isnt a life outside FAB.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"great, the last two posts now have to turn it around as a single guy issue????? lol
couples can behave like arseholes...even the female half!"
More and more often on here single guys get the blame for everything. I'm equally incredulous at the assumption that if a couple act like dicks then it must be a single bloke. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"great, the last two posts now have to turn it around as a single guy issue????? lol
couples can behave like arseholes...even the female half!
More and more often on here single guys get the blame for everything. I'm equally incredulous at the assumption that if a couple act like dicks then it must be a single bloke."
In my experience single ladies and (MF) couples can be quite rude and impolite. That's is to say not all are but this week I have two experiences which makes me think what am I doing on here. There is no doubt single men are (on FAB) a commodity that has no real currency save for the few genuine people who see this environment as fun and a nice distraction to the grind (no pun intended) of "normal" life. All that said thank you to the wonderful couple I met yesterday and as the fab saying goes..........you know who you are !!! O er missus!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Full balls, empty head.
I work on the phone and ask people not to ring during my working hours, as It can stop clients getting through, I am fined each time this happens.
But people still ring when I am working, I just tell them to hang up and call back later. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"great, the last two posts now have to turn it around as a single guy issue????? lol
couples can behave like arseholes...even the female half!"
Tries very hard not to be an arsehole, honest  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They are out of order for sure , on the other hand we find your profile a little confusing as your interests are listed as being into most things yet your profile says 'Just looking to make friends, chat, have a laugh and not take fab too seriously.'
I guess they just wanted to know what it is your after. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"They are out of order for sure , on the other hand we find your profile a little confusing as your interests are listed as being into most things yet your profile says 'Just looking to make friends, chat, have a laugh and not take fab too seriously.'
I guess they just wanted to know what it is your after."
Thats a great point, I recently deleted my real write up as things were getting too much but I realise now I must update it and make it clear what I want, Thank you, That has been a help xx |
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"Hi guys.
Did i do something wrong here?
Chatting to a couple, swapped mobile numbers, they asked if they could call, I said I was busy with my kids, cuddling up watching a movie and i will speak later on. They ignored me and phoned anyway and when I said as politely as i could that i have said it was not a good time, I was accused of being a time waster. I tried to explain I was busy with my kids but was told I am not meeting them half way
Im pissed off about it as I would never waste people's time but surely it was not cool they phoned when I said it was not a good time?"
Rude idiots come as couples, single men and women. I'm fairly free with my number, but if wanting to call someone I'll message if they're online or text and say 'Free to talk? Text or call when you are free to talk?' I'm single most of the time with no kids at home however there are times when I'm not free to talk, it's a simple fact of life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi guys.
Did i do something wrong here?
Chatting to a couple, swapped mobile numbers, they asked if they could call, I said I was busy with my kids, cuddling up watching a movie and i will speak later on. They ignored me and phoned anyway and when I said as politely as i could that i have said it was not a good time, I was accused of being a time waster. I tried to explain I was busy with my kids but was told I am not meeting them half way
Im pissed off about it as I would never waste people's time but surely it was not cool they phoned when I said it was not a good time?"
I won't talk to any couples from here now after having a similar experience |
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