Why do I feel so low and pissed off by yet another no show....I am not stupid enough to know that I can't out all the fakers, nor am I gullible enough to fall for all the excuses, but why do I feel so pissed off when at the end of the day it is not a life or death situation,grrrrrrrrrrrr |
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over a year ago
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"Why do I feel so low and pissed off by yet another no show....I am not stupid enough to know that I can't out all the fakers, nor am I gullible enough to fall for all the excuses, but why do I feel so pissed off when at the end of the day it is not a life or death situation,grrrrrrrrrrrr"
Did they have the courtesy to let you know or didn't they even contact you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It would be strange if you wouldn't be pissed off. NSA doesn't mean that you are totally bereft of feelings; indeed the anticipation and whole build-up from first contact, messages etc to you preparing yourself and then finally it dawning on you that it's not going to happen - it's crap to say the least. Hope you'll feel better tomorrow.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know. Been there. Felt hopelessly stupid in my outfit. Even if the excuse was plausible, it came hours too late.
If there was a hug-emoticon I'd add it here. |
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By *bbwlizWoman
over a year ago
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I know exactly how you feel and I don't blame you for being pissed off.
Once I had 3 single guys not show on the same day. My mood went from feeling horny to extremely pissed off.
I would report him to admin. |
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"I know exactly how you feel and I don't blame you for being pissed off.
Once I had 3 single guys not show on the same day. My mood went from feeling horny to extremely pissed off.
I would report him to admin. "
Just out of curiosity what can admin do if there's a report for a no show ? |
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By *bbwlizWoman
over a year ago
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"I know exactly how you feel and I don't blame you for being pissed off.
Once I had 3 single guys not show on the same day. My mood went from feeling horny to extremely pissed off.
I would report him to admin.
Just out of curiosity what can admin do if there's a report for a no show ?"
I doubt they will do much from just the one report, but if they continue with no shows, and others report them too, I hope they would kick them off the site. |
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"I know exactly how you feel and I don't blame you for being pissed off.
Once I had 3 single guys not show on the same day. My mood went from feeling horny to extremely pissed off.
I would report him to admin.
Just out of curiosity what can admin do if there's a report for a no show ?
I doubt they will do much from just the one report, but if they continue with no shows, and others report them too, I hope they would kick them off the site. "
Probably too subjective as they would have to weigh up all the excuses etc - another site I'm on you can give negative feedback that shows up on the profile - but again I've seen some vindictive people abuse that too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a blow when that happens and i feel for you.
Dont let it get to you though, just look at it like this, wow did they miss out on a great fun filled night, their loss not yours.
Block and move on |
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"I know exactly how you feel and I don't blame you for being pissed off.
Once I had 3 single guys not show on the same day. My mood went from feeling horny to extremely pissed off.
I would report him to admin. "
So hold on a minute: a man changes his mind, let's the op know and he's to be reported?!! If it'd been a single man posting he'd have been told women are allowed to change their mind!
Op: your profile states "send us your ideas". Just a thought, perhaps not invite wankers (literally)! Apologies if I'm wrong but it appears you're engaging in "what will you do to me" scenarios: if so, you're providing wank material, job done, no need to meet.
Whilst I emphasis with you're disappointment you have a partner so don't truly understand your frustration. |
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By *bbwlizWoman
over a year ago
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I didn't notice the op had said the guy had text her.
In situations where the person hasn't contacted me to cancel, then I do report them. It is one of the reasons in the check list that you can report a person for. |
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I was just venting my disappointment that was all, won't report as suggested, like you said changed his mind, we all entitled to that, was just pissed off and felt like sharing isn't that what the forum is for?.Yes I am blessed with a partner but doesn't mean I'm not frustrated in myself for believing this guy.. Today is another.. day so over it now.....NEXT!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We dont accommodate when swinging so we go out. If we had a cancellation then we would just continue to a club.
But I can understand the disappointment. It's getting ready, dressing up to the nines, putting your face on etc, the anticipation of meeting a new person, doing something crazy like having sex with strangers. Whilst you love your partner and cosying up on the sofa together is lovely, the adreneline of an evening that was very different, is still running through your veins.
As I said swinging to me is going out of my day to day life, meeting crazy people, doing crazy things, it's all a bit quirky and surreal isn't it, and I get my kicks from going to clubs mainly, and they are always open so I'm never disappointed.
It's another day, you're ok, you'll have another great meet which will make you laugh, make you feel sexy, have great fun etc. It's perfectly natural to feel disappointed over an event that didn't happen that you had planned and had looked forward to all day.  |
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"good job I had a decent bottle of wine in then, just feel so foolish for falling for all the bullshit ,investing time, effort and money, never learn "
I think the last 2 words sum it up best.
If you keep getting messed around then look at what you are doing wrong. It's a cliché but you are the constant factor. |
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"I didn't notice the op had said the guy had text her.
In situations where the person hasn't contacted me to cancel, then I do report them. It is one of the reasons in the check list that you can report a person for. "
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"good job I had a decent bottle of wine in then, just feel so foolish for falling for all the bullshit ,investing time, effort and money, never learn
I think the last 2 words sum it up best.
If you keep getting messed around then look at what you are doing wrong. It's a cliché but you are the constant factor."
thanks for the advice, if you read all the threads you would see this was post to vent my disappointment yesterday, I have not said this keeps happening ,in fact we have been lucky that no shows are rare,doesn't mean it isn't disappointing when it does happen. But thanks for sharing |
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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago
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"good job I had a decent bottle of wine in then, just feel so foolish for falling for all the bullshit ,investing time, effort and money, never learn "
I agree its the time and effort you've given this man....just shows both sexes can be timewasters 
but as long as you enjoyed the wine |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"good job I had a decent bottle of wine in then, just feel so foolish for falling for all the bullshit ,investing time, effort and money, never learn
I think the last 2 words sum it up best.
If you keep getting messed around then look at what you are doing wrong. It's a cliché but you are the constant factor.
thanks for the advice, if you read all the threads you would see this was post to vent my disappointment yesterday, I have not said this keeps happening ,in fact we have been lucky that no shows are rare,doesn't mean it isn't disappointing when it does happen. But thanks for sharing "
My apologies, might have been the phrase "yet another no show" that led me to think it was a regular occurence. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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If I arrange to visit someone and they cancel, I go to plan B, which is either dogging, or the pub. After spending an hour or so getting ready and looking almost human, I can't face the prospect of just taking all the make up off.  |
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