The following has been 'stolen' from a fab profile! OP just relax, not every woman can squirt/gush...a bit of bed time reading for you. I hope it helps. Personally, I almost drowned a lady!
Female Ejaculation
The process females go through to reach the point of ejaculation is basically the same as with men - arousal followed by release in the form of an orgasm / ejaculation.
Before attempting to achieve an ejaculation, let's go over some female ejaculation facts:
Female ejaculate is NOT urine. It is a combination of glucose and fructose (natural sugars), and low levels of creatine and urea, two chemicals which are found in urine but which are extremely diluted in female ejaculate.
A first attempt to ejaculate may take an hour or more. (I have it down to a fine art - 7 mins )
This is because a) the female needs to be very aroused and b) it may take time for her to relax the right parts of her body and to let go and allow herself to release the fluid. Remember, you cannot touch a mans penis for several minutes and then just expect him to ejaculate if he's not ready. The same goes for women. Think arousal, arousal, arousal. The goal here is great sex!
Female ejaculate, just like male ejaculate is expelled through the urethra, the tube through which women and men both urinate.
With so much talk of 'the urge to pee' it's important to remember that if you simply try to pee while having sex that is exactly what you are going to do, pee. The urge to urinate at the onset of ejaculation is caused by the fluid in the urethra and that is why you get that sensation. It is not related to having a full bladder or needing to 'pee'.
Some women do not need direct clitoral or g-spot manipulation to ejaculate. I have heard from many women who have ejaculated without this type of hands-on attention, however, if you are just learning to ejaculate or have only done it a few times you may require a more direct approach.
Efforts to ejaculate may be easier or more difficult than what is described here, depending on many factors including how sensitive you are and how easily you learn to relax your body and enjoy the sex.
When you feel the urge to bear down (or if you've never had children, it feels like your muscles are trying to push your insides out through your vagina) go ahead and push. This pushing, while relaxing the urethra and allowing yourself to go ahead and 'pee' are the key to ejaculation, at least in the beginning.
It may just be a tiny amount but the feeling that comes with it will make it all worth while. Unlike clitoral orgasms which leave you needing something, needing more, g-spot orgasms and ejaculation leave you feeling completely satisfied.
Step 1 in Learning to Ejaculate - Communication
Yes, I said communication.
Believe it or not this is the most important thing for any female wishing to learn how to ejaculate. Why? In order to ejaculate women need not just good but great sex and there is nothing that can ruin great sex more than a lover who does all the wrong things.
Both men and women need to be able to talk to our partners about sex. This becomes even more important if our partners are inexperienced or have little knowledge of anatomy. We need to be able to say what feels good and in keeping with the bad lover syndrome, what doesn't. If you're a women who is trying to ejaculate for the first time, this is especially true. Why?
Some women have very sensitive g-spots. Maybe direct or hard/fast manipulation is just too much for us. Perhaps the vibration of a vibrator is what we need. Maybe the feeling starts but then we need them to go faster and harder. Maybe your partner brings you close then wonders off and begins doing something else.
Technique:
Written for your partner but the same techniques can be modified for masturbation.
Start slow. Use typical foreplay. Stimulate the clitoris. Once you are sexually aroused, look for an area about 2 inches inside the vagina, which should be somewhat enlarged. This is the G spot. It lies directly along the urethra, and is located almost directly behind the clitoris. Slowly stroke this area. It should start becoming more enlarged.
Ejaculation is almost always triggered by stimulating the G spot. Clitoral stimulation can often assist in helping her reach an ejaculation, and also can make it more intense. But stimulating the G spot is usually necessary at least initially. Once she starts ejaculating easily, she may find that clitoral stimulation alone is sufficient.
Stroking can be done a number of ways. The two fingers can rub the area as a unit, or they can take opposite strides, similar to walking. A third method involved sliding the two finders out a fraction of an inch, and pushing them back in, similar to the in-out motion of intercourse, but with smaller strokes. Initially pace the stimulation somewhat slow. Alternate with clitoral stimulation either with the thumb, other hand, or mouth/tongue. Also try simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and G spot. Watch her reactions.
Simultaneous may be too intense for some but necessary for ejaculation for others. Take your cues from her. When she starts bearing down, and you feel the vagina contract, begin pumping rapidly. When she is in the middle of an orgasm, stimulate the clitoris at the same time, and pump the G spot gently, but very rapidly. Talk to her. Say, "your getting it, go for it, don't worry, relax and let it come" or other similar words. She may need reassurance that if she drenches you, you will not be upset. Tell her how erotic you find it for her to ejaculate. Make her comfortable with both you, and the idea of ejaculation.
This actually is not the best position. If she does not succeed after a short time, have her roll over on her stomach, and get up on her knees. You will find stimulating the G spot much easier in this position, and she will most likely respond much better.
With the two fingers turned down, slide your two fingers back into her vagina. Find the G spot and continue stimulating the G spot. You may use the other hand to stimulate the clitoris. If after a couple of orgasms, using rapid pumping on the G spot during orgasm, she still has not ejaculated, then turn the hand around, putting the thumb into the vagina.
The thumb will likely not reach the G spot, but don't worry, it should come up to meet the thumb during orgasm. Take the two fingers and lay them down on the clit. Allow the entire curve between the thumb and forefinger to lie along her from the vagina to her clitoris, and begin pumping with the thumb, and rubbing the clit at the same time. When she starts an orgasm, start pumping the entire hand rapidly. At this point she will most likely ejaculate. The trick is to massage the area where the urethra comes out, while stimulating the clitoris and G spot. This will help to override the feeling she is about to pee, and allow her to let it pass.
Be aware that the female is not only capable of multiple orgasms, but also multiple ejaculations. It is not unusual for her to have from 3 to 5 ejaculations before depleting her supply of cum.
Once she has ejaculated one or more times, you can continue with intercourse. Entering from behind will stimulate the G-spot more easily than missionary style, and often additional ejaculations will occur during intercourse. Even if they don't, she will be highly excited, and very sensitive. The final result will most likely be the most intense and pleasurable sex she has ever had. |
