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over a year ago
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Tell her, she probably will think you were comming on.to him, but if he is doing it with you, and your her best friend, he will be doing.it elsewhere, get it out there, and put a end to it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was out last night an my friend bf was comin on 2 me do I tell her of just leave it????"
Flirting coming on or physical contact coming on? Was alcohol involved did you challenge him over it? |
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"Tell her, she probably will think you were comming on.to him, but if he is doing it with you, and your her best friend, he will be doing.it elsewhere, get it out there, and put a end to it x"
not my best friend iv not known her that long
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"I was out last night an my friend bf was comin on 2 me do I tell her of just leave it????
Flirting coming on or physical contact coming on? Was alcohol involved did you challenge him over it?"
both sayin things ang grabbing me an yes I went mad at him still dint stop him doin it tho |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was out last night an my friend bf was comin on 2 me do I tell her of just leave it????
Flirting coming on or physical contact coming on? Was alcohol involved did you challenge him over it?both sayin things ang grabbing me an yes I went mad at him still dint stop him doin it tho"
If he went that far and well past flirting tell her you may get fallout but if he was grabbing you its unacceptable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hes an idiot an not 2 mention quite intimidating "
Well let her find that out for herself.
Friend or not, if you 'grass him up' and he rubbishes your story you could end up being the villain of the piece and lose your friend forever.  
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my opinion, some thgs are best left unsaid. she wont thanks you ofr it..he will most probably lis and try and turn it on you.. and theres a possibility you will lose a friend.  |
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many moons ago I found out my ex husband was cheating on me with just about anything that moved and my bf knew all about it and never said anything, I was more hurt by her being afraid to tell me rather than being cheated on, we fell out for a while and I kicked the ex to the curb but everything went back to normal soon after. If it was someone you knew then maybe keep quiet but if its your best friend, put yourself in her shoes, would she tell you? if you mentioned it your conscience would be clear. better still go for the honeytrap idea as mentioned above, that way she finds out and it hasn't come from you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No don't tell her and don't do anything.
Things like this never end well. If she stills wants her relationship to continue with this guy, she will make excuses fir him and you will end up the one who was trying to split them up.
If you were out at night, drink was probably involved, senses dimmed somewhat. At the time it was happening all you had to do was tell him to piss off and be suite firm about it. You can stop people touching and grabbing you, you just have to assertive and mean it.
I dont agree with the 'honeytrap' suggestions. Meddling further into other peoples relationships will almost certainly lose you a friend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont say a word!
This is a situation where she has to find out for herself.
If you tell her, it probably wont change their relationship but ruin yours with her.
She will find out sooner or later and deal with it herself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd get him on his own and have a talk tell him you know it was the drink but it mustn't happen again warn him that next time you will from her. Then I'd try to keep out of his way . Good luck |
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By *ohn_1983Man
over a year ago
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"think you'll find your damned if you do and damned if you don't 
was there no one else to corroborate this?"
Sounds similar to a situation at my old work between two work friends.
One decided to tell the other but importantly focused on how the guy had been drinking and how fortunate it was her he had hit on not someone else who might have said yes.
This tactic worked for them but might not for others. |
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"Did he know u swing, were u braggin bout it, r u completely innocent in all this? "
yeah I think u find I was innocent in this thank u I have no interest in a bully that thinks he can have who he wants when he wants
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"think you'll find your damned if you do and damned if you don't
was there no one else to corroborate this?
Sounds similar to a situation at my old work between two work friends.
One decided to tell the other but importantly focused on how the guy had been drinking and how fortunate it was her he had hit on not someone else who might have said yes.
This tactic worked for them but might not for others."
he was drinkin but defo wasn't d*unk he knew what he was doin an I don't think I'm the first he would have tryed this with unforunatley |
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"think you'll find your damned if you do and damned if you don't
was there no one else to corroborate this?
Sounds similar to a situation at my old work between two work friends.
One decided to tell the other but importantly focused on how the guy had been drinking and how fortunate it was her he had hit on not someone else who might have said yes.
This tactic worked for them but might not for others.he was drinkin but defo wasn't d*unk he knew what he was doin an I don't think I'm the first he would have tryed this with unforunatley "
Where was your friend when this was happening? Or were you out without her? |
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"think you'll find your damned if you do and damned if you don't
was there no one else to corroborate this?
Sounds similar to a situation at my old work between two work friends.
One decided to tell the other but importantly focused on how the guy had been drinking and how fortunate it was her he had hit on not someone else who might have said yes.
This tactic worked for them but might not for others.he was drinkin but defo wasn't d*unk he knew what he was doin an I don't think I'm the first he would have tryed this with unforunatley
Where was your friend when this was happening? Or were you out without her?"
not with me or him |
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One decided to tell the other but importantly focused on how the guy had been drinking and how fortunate it was her he had hit on not someone else who might have said yes.
This tactic worked for them but might not for others."
This sounds like a good idea to me. I think it's only fair that she knows he acted inappropriatly, just be very careful how you word it. Don't make your sustain for this guy obvious to her or she might think you're just trying to cause trouble cos you don't like him.
He sounds like an utter prick, & I think she should know she's lucky to have a friend like you who didn't reciprocate when he tried it on, as long as you don't make it sound like you think you're irresistible to men (which I'm sure you don't!) xxx |
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"I would go with having a talk to him when you are both sober - he will get the message then so you wont need to say anything if you're ever together in a pub again.
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no he's the same pissed or sober he's just a nasty piece of work 2 b honest with ya |
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One decided to tell the other but importantly focused on how the guy had been drinking and how fortunate it was her he had hit on not someone else who might have said yes.
This tactic worked for them but might not for others.
This sounds like a good idea to me. I think it's only fair that she knows he acted inappropriatly, just be very careful how you word it. Don't make your sustain for this guy obvious to her or she might think you're just trying to cause trouble cos you don't like him.
He sounds like an utter prick, & I think she should know she's lucky to have a friend like you who didn't reciprocate when he tried it on, as long as you don't make it sound like you think you're irresistible to men (which I'm sure you don't!) xxx"
no I don't haha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was out last night an my friend bf was comin on 2 me do I tell her of just leave it????"
stay out of it, the chances are if you tell her, she'll challenge him, he'll make every excuse to make out is wasn't his fault, she'll believe him and you'll be the bastard out of it all |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
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If you're happy to lose a friend tell her.
Personally I have to say unless I was in the only pub/club in town I'd have moved on if there was a knob jockey like this annoying me
Tough choice, good luck
Julie x |
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"I was out last night an my friend bf was comin on 2 me do I tell her of just leave it????"
Problem is people tend to shoot the messenger in these types of situations. Even if she doesn't, she's going to feel uncomfortable around you.
I'd make it clear to him his attentions are unwanted and stay clear of the creep! |
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over a year ago
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As others have said
Don't tell her, it would probably kill your friendship even if she does believe you.
Next time you see him make it clear you think he's a douche bag and would never go near him, embarrass him.
I really hate guys who do this, so disrespectful to both his gf and you |
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"As others have said
Don't tell her, it would probably kill your friendship even if she does believe you.
Next time you see him make it clear you think he's a douche bag and would never go near him, embarrass him.
I really hate guys who do this, so disrespectful to both his gf and you"
he's a cocky arragant prick an that's puttin it nice |
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