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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Don't meet newbies, don't make eye contact, don't be nice or encouraging, don't be helpful with tips, and certainly don't make arrangements to meet two in a row. Do not break your rule number one... Never meet a newbie!!
Aaaaarrrgh!! I've lost the will to live!  |
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Aww not all newbies are like that. We started somewhere and now look at us!
Patience and care and you never know what might happen.
Remember if you start on on during their first meet they will be thinking the same about you.
Profile changed to " looking for ---- please only new people as been burnt already"
Think about L plates - you weren't born a swinger. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I had befriended two newbies, and did the girl guide thing of helping them around the site. Chatted and flirted and thought 'what the heck' i will meet with them. Bloke one arranged with me and we teased and flirted right up to half an hour before meet..... Then a message arrived: sorry can't do this too nervous i am deleting my profile.
Bloke two has become very pushy and demanding, my safety is paramount and so i have ended the arrangement.
Its hard work!!!
Profile was hidden while i was chatting with newbies, as i was being harassed for meets with others at the time, it was stressing me out! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP was this tongue in cheek or are you serious? Your profile is hidden so I can't see if you are a newbie.
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More of a vent and a wake up slap to myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't meet newbies, don't make eye contact, don't be nice or encouraging, don't be helpful with tips, and certainly don't make arrangements to meet two in a row. Do not break your rule number one... Never meet a newbie!!
Aaaaarrrgh!! I've lost the will to live! "
who met you for the first time |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't meet newbies, don't make eye contact, don't be nice or encouraging, don't be helpful with tips, and certainly don't make arrangements to meet two in a row. Do not break your rule number one... Never meet a newbie!!
Aaaaarrrgh!! I've lost the will to live! who met you for the first time"
A confident friend
This was tongue in cheek and a rant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't meet newbies, don't make eye contact, don't be nice or encouraging, don't be helpful with tips, and certainly don't make arrangements to meet two in a row. Do not break your rule number one... Never meet a newbie!!
Aaaaarrrgh!! I've lost the will to live! who met you for the first time
A confident friend
This was tongue in cheek and a rant. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This just makes it more difficult for us genuine guys. Block and move on its their loss. And reading your profile its a big loss on their part.  "
Blocking is unnecessary . One left as he was too nervous ( which was a disappointment for me) the other i have ended arrangements with.  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
This is why I don't meet anyone unverified anymore as unfair as that seems. Had too many let downs. Either that or they just haven't had the experience I wanted if they did turn up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is why I don't meet anyone unverified anymore as unfair as that seems. Had too many let downs. Either that or they just haven't had the experience I wanted if they did turn up. "
I broke that rule...
This is the result!
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"This is why I don't meet anyone unverified anymore as unfair as that seems. Had too many let downs. Either that or they just haven't had the experience I wanted if they did turn up.
I broke that rule...
This is the result!
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You can block newbies and unverified people which avoids a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is why I don't meet anyone unverified anymore as unfair as that seems. Had too many let downs. Either that or they just haven't had the experience I wanted if they did turn up.
I broke that rule...
This is the result!
You can block newbies and unverified people which avoids a lot. "
I know, i contacted one and the other was admin verified.
Just a vent last night... Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Gee thanks! there are gen newbies out there you know, some might even say fresh meat lol, not all are time wasters. So glad someone took a chance on us x Jess x "
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Venting helps clear the cobwebs!
Meet them on cam first is my suggestion so if they are nervous they'll be reassured and you'll be able to judge quickly the kind of person they are, but it would be a shame to stop meeting newbies, there are some real gems out there.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Venting helps clear the cobwebs!
Meet them on cam first is my suggestion so if they are nervous they'll be reassured and you'll be able to judge quickly the kind of person they are, but it would be a shame to stop meeting newbies, there are some real gems out there.
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Arrrrrr, but the pickin's be slim this neck of the woods! |
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I've been on this site six years. In that time I've met newbies and unverified men: operative word met!
I've never had my time wasted, or a no show. The nearest I got to having my time wasted was with someone I'd arranged to meet after work for a drink. (I always meet socially first during my lunch hour or after work).
Whilst waiting I came on here and noticed he was online. Looking at the time I thought he would struggle to get to me on time, I don't do waiting, if you can't be arsed to turn up on time for a drink...
Anyhow, the meeting time was approaching and he was still online. I meet to coincide with my train times. I went to the station and went home. He was online when I got off the train. He phoned to say he was sorry, he'd been caught up in a meeting and was on his way.
I said don't bother, but he said please, I'm on my way I'll make it up to you. Got home, prepared dinner, phone call asking where I was. Told him, on my sofa, eating a jacket potato whilst watching Judge Judy!
Oh...he was verified! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Venting helps clear the cobwebs!
Meet them on cam first is my suggestion so if they are nervous they'll be reassured and you'll be able to judge quickly the kind of person they are, but it would be a shame to stop meeting newbies, there are some real gems out there.
Arrrrrr, but the pickin's be slim this neck of the woods! "
come out of the woods youll see better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site six years. In that time I've met newbies and unverified men: operative word met!
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In 16 months we have also MET newbies and unverified single males.
As said you all have to start somewhere and as long as you trust your instincts and intuition you won't go wrong.
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"I've been on this site six years. In that time I've met newbies and unverified men: operative word met!
I've never had my time wasted, or a no show. The nearest I got to having my time wasted was with someone I'd arranged to meet after work for a drink. (I always meet socially first during my lunch hour or after work).
Whilst waiting I came on here and noticed he was online. Looking at the time I thought he would struggle to get to me on time, I don't do waiting, if you can't be arsed to turn up on time for a drink...
Anyhow, the meeting time was approaching and he was still online. I meet to coincide with my train times. I went to the station and went home. He was online when I got off the train. He phoned to say he was sorry, he'd been caught up in a meeting and was on his way.
I said don't bother, but he said please, I'm on my way I'll make it up to you. Got home, prepared dinner, phone call asking where I was. Told him, on my sofa, eating a jacket potato whilst watching Judge Judy!
Oh...he was verified!"
In this case you were right to leave and go home of course, but being online does not always mean behind a PC in an office or at home. A lot of people stay logged in day in day out!
I am sure you enjoyed your jacket potato! |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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People do get cold feet and change their minds. I know I have in the past.
Not just newbies and non verified. But they do seem to be the main group. Join the site not sure what to expect. When reality kicks in, it can be too much for some.
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Still doesn't change the fact that we were all newbies once. Or is this the new group that we tar with the same brush and everyone turns the other way?
Imagine what things would be like for all you experienced members if no one took a chance when you were new? The whole "don't meet newbies" attitude might come from informed experience, but isn't representative of all new arrivals.
I pick and choose my newbies carefully. It has worked well so far. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We probably are still classed as newbies after only being here for a couple of months. But as you can see from our verifications we haven't stopped since.
Not all newbies are time wasters. Some of us are genuine. lol. Xx |
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"I've been on this site six years. In that time I've met newbies and unverified men: operative word met!
I've never had my time wasted, or a no show. The nearest I got to having my time wasted was with someone I'd arranged to meet after work for a drink. (I always meet socially first during my lunch hour or after work).
Whilst waiting I came on here and noticed he was online. Looking at the time I thought he would struggle to get to me on time, I don't do waiting, if you can't be arsed to turn up on time for a drink...
Anyhow, the meeting time was approaching and he was still online. I meet to coincide with my train times. I went to the station and went home. He was online when I got off the train. He phoned to say he was sorry, he'd been caught up in a meeting and was on his way.
I said don't bother, but he said please, I'm on my way I'll make it up to you. Got home, prepared dinner, phone call asking where I was. Told him, on my sofa, eating a jacket potato whilst watching Judge Judy!
Oh...he was verified!
In this case you were right to leave and go home of course, but being online does not always mean behind a PC in an office or at home. A lot of people stay logged in day in day out!
I am sure you enjoyed your jacket potato! "
I did! You can tell when someone is in chat. No way could he be driving and in chat. I also make it clear I don't do waiting. |
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"I've been on this site six years. In that time I've met newbies and unverified men: operative word met!
I've never had my time wasted, or a no show. The nearest I got to having my time wasted was with someone I'd arranged to meet after work for a drink. (I always meet socially first during my lunch hour or after work).
Whilst waiting I came on here and noticed he was online. Looking at the time I thought he would struggle to get to me on time, I don't do waiting, if you can't be arsed to turn up on time for a drink...
Anyhow, the meeting time was approaching and he was still online. I meet to coincide with my train times. I went to the station and went home. He was online when I got off the train. He phoned to say he was sorry, he'd been caught up in a meeting and was on his way.
I said don't bother, but he said please, I'm on my way I'll make it up to you. Got home, prepared dinner, phone call asking where I was. Told him, on my sofa, eating a jacket potato whilst watching Judge Judy!
Oh...he was verified!
In this case you were right to leave and go home of course, but being online does not always mean behind a PC in an office or at home. A lot of people stay logged in day in day out!
I am sure you enjoyed your jacket potato!
I did! You can tell when someone is in chat. No way could he be driving and in chat. I also make it clear I don't do waiting. "
I did not realise that by 'online' you meant 'in chat'. |
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"So when is a newbie not a newbie?????"
That's an excellent question for your very first thread...I suggest you put it to the Forumites in Swingers chat! Go on...dive into the deep end and go for it. I promise you it is a good subject! And even if you don't get many people posting it will be fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So when is a newbie not a newbie?????
That's an excellent question for your very first thread...I suggest you put it to the Forumites in Swingers chat! Go on...dive into the deep end and go for it. I promise you it is a good subject! And even if you don't get many people posting it will be fun "
Good idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So when is a newbie not a newbie?????
That's an excellent question for your very first thread...I suggest you put it to the Forumites in Swingers chat! Go on...dive into the deep end and go for it. I promise you it is a good subject! And even if you don't get many people posting it will be fun "
Haha I have posted threads before, you must have missed them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we would love to be a newbie couples first meet.
to hold their hands as they enter the first suarees of group fun.
hopefully make it fun enough for them to want to explore further, then throw them to the dogs lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP was this tongue in cheek or are you serious? Your profile is hidden so I can't see if you are a newbie.
More of a vent and a wake up slap to myself."
that could end up like the scene from airplane with the hysterical woman.
form an orderly queue please |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we would love to be a newbie couples first meet.
to hold their hands as they enter the first suarees of group fun.
hopefully make it fun enough for them to want to explore further, then throw them to the dogs lol"
suarees? meant foray lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So when is a newbie not a newbie?????
That's an excellent question for your very first thread...I suggest you put it to the Forumites in Swingers chat! Go on...dive into the deep end and go for it. I promise you it is a good subject! And even if you don't get many people posting it will be fun
Good idea "
haha why do i feel like I am being bated like a lamb tied to a post and there is a pack of wolves off in the distance lol |
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"So when is a newbie not a newbie?????
That's an excellent question for your very first thread...I suggest you put it to the Forumites in Swingers chat! Go on...dive into the deep end and go for it. I promise you it is a good subject! And even if you don't get many people posting it will be fun
Haha I have posted threads before, you must have missed them "
Maybe under another name or with another account!! You see that little green arrow between your Name and Man? When you click on it it shows all threads you have posted on...I cannot see one with your current username..unless they are very very old one or I'm missing something.
As to Lamb to the Woolves..it is of no benefit to me or anyone else to try and trip you up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So when is a newbie not a newbie?????
That's an excellent question for your very first thread...I suggest you put it to the Forumites in Swingers chat! Go on...dive into the deep end and go for it. I promise you it is a good subject! And even if you don't get many people posting it will be fun
Good idea
haha why do i feel like I am being bated like a lamb tied to a post and there is a pack of wolves off in the distance lol"
I'm brave enough to take the banter in the lounge |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So when is a newbie not a newbie?????
That's an excellent question for your very first thread...I suggest you put it to the Forumites in Swingers chat! Go on...dive into the deep end and go for it. I promise you it is a good subject! And even if you don't get many people posting it will be fun
Haha I have posted threads before, you must have missed them
Maybe under another name or with another account!! You see that little green arrow between your Name and Man? When you click on it it shows all threads you have posted on...I cannot see one with your current username..unless they are very very old one or I'm missing something.
As to Lamb to the Woolves..it is of no benefit to me or anyone else to try and trip you up! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So when is a newbie not a newbie?????
That's an excellent question for your very first thread...I suggest you put it to the Forumites in Swingers chat! Go on...dive into the deep end and go for it. I promise you it is a good subject! And even if you don't get many people posting it will be fun
Haha I have posted threads before, you must have missed them
Maybe under another name or with another account!! You see that little green arrow between your Name and Man? When you click on it it shows all threads you have posted on...I cannot see one with your current username..unless they are very very old one or I'm missing something.
As to Lamb to the Woolves..it is of no benefit to me or anyone else to try and trip you up!
apologies "
Do it never know what might happen?? |
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"So when is a newbie not a newbie?????
That's an excellent question for your very first thread...I suggest you put it to the Forumites in Swingers chat! Go on...dive into the deep end and go for it. I promise you it is a good subject! And even if you don't get many people posting it will be fun
Haha I have posted threads before, you must have missed them
Maybe under another name or with another account!! You see that little green arrow between your Name and Man? When you click on it it shows all threads you have posted on...I cannot see one with your current username..unless they are very very old one or I'm missing something.
As to Lamb to the Woolves..it is of no benefit to me or anyone else to try and trip you up!
apologies "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Still doesn't change the fact that we were all newbies once. Or is this the new group that we tar with the same brush and everyone turns the other way?
Imagine what things would be like for all you experienced members if no one took a chance when you were new? The whole "don't meet newbies" attitude might come from informed experience, but isn't representative of all new arrivals.
I pick and choose my newbies carefully. It has worked well so far."
You missed my point!
I arranged to meet both newbies!
It was a tongue in cheek rant. |
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"Still doesn't change the fact that we were all newbies once. Or is this the new group that we tar with the same brush and everyone turns the other way?
Imagine what things would be like for all you experienced members if no one took a chance when you were new? The whole "don't meet newbies" attitude might come from informed experience, but isn't representative of all new arrivals.
I pick and choose my newbies carefully. It has worked well so far.
You missed my point!
I arranged to meet both newbies!
It was a tongue in cheek rant. "
"More of a vent and a wake up slap to myself."
Guess i missed it completely. No harm, no foul. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't meet newbies, don't make eye contact, don't be nice or encouraging, don't be helpful with tips, and certainly don't make arrangements to meet two in a row. Do not break your rule number one... Never meet a newbie!!
Aaaaarrrgh!! I've lost the will to live! "
If we don't help them or encourage them then won't we scare the newbies off?
We were all new once |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm going to hazard a guess that guy number 1 was married??
Divorced and not ready for this, very nervous.
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yes but do you know that for an absolute certainty?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't meet newbies, don't make eye contact, don't be nice or encouraging, don't be helpful with tips, and certainly don't make arrangements to meet two in a row. Do not break your rule number one... Never meet a newbie!!
Aaaaarrrgh!! I've lost the will to live!
If we don't help them or encourage them then won't we scare the newbies off?
We were all new once "
Perhaps you didn't read my post further down, i did just that! Helped, encouraged etc, held his hand, which he thanked me for, he deleted his profile half an hour before our meet.
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"I'm going to hazard a guess that guy number 1 was married??
Divorced and not ready for this, very nervous.
yes but do you know that for an absolute certainty??"
Obviously i can only go by what he told me and he could accommodate etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't meet newbies, don't make eye contact, don't be nice or encouraging, don't be helpful with tips, and certainly don't make arrangements to meet two in a row. Do not break your rule number one... Never meet a newbie!!
Aaaaarrrgh!! I've lost the will to live!
If we don't help them or encourage them then won't we scare the newbies off?
We were all new once
Perhaps you didn't read my post further down, i did just that! Helped, encouraged etc, held his hand, which he thanked me for, he deleted his profile half an hour before our meet.
Yawn "
What's the yawn for?
So he got cold feet!! Decided it wasn't for him! It happens everyday!
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"Don't meet newbies, don't make eye contact, don't be nice or encouraging, don't be helpful with tips, and certainly don't make arrangements to meet two in a row. Do not break your rule number one... Never meet a newbie!!
Aaaaarrrgh!! I've lost the will to live!
If we don't help them or encourage them then won't we scare the newbies off?
We were all new once
Perhaps you didn't read my post further down, i did just that! Helped, encouraged etc, held his hand, which he thanked me for, he deleted his profile half an hour before our meet.
Yawn
What's the yawn for?
So he got cold feet!! Decided it wasn't for him! It happens everyday!
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Lol thank you for your deep insight.
Think i've exhausted the purpose of my thread which was a light hearted vent.
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