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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

When we enter the chatroom we normally introduce ourselves ...

"Cpl WMids, can accommodate, incl o/nite, regulars at Chameleons, She aged 26 size 8 pretty blonde, He slim, fit fun old git, seeking meets"

We thinks it's nice to let those already in the room know who we are, if it is repeated it is usually once every half hour or even once an hour.

So after more than a year of doing this, I was surprised tonight to find out I was breaking the rules and warned accordingly.

The problem .... I was asking about meets and telling people about us, I of course appologised to the moderator and won't do it again.

But it makes me worried about what we can say in the chatroom, how much info can we give people ? can we just say "read our profile" when someone asks us a question or is it ok to tell them if they ask you, is it ok to say you are looking for a meet or is that not allowed except in profiles (like telephone numbers and e-mail addresses.

Would be interested in a definitive answer on this one as the chat rules don't appear to be explicit on exactly what you can and can't say and would also be interested in other peoples opinion or experiences.

It's not a problem, we follow the rules when we know them but we do need to know them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't use the chat rooms as they seem to policed as opposed to managed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

ive never been in the chat rooms what are they like? x

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By *ichNjudyCouple over a year ago

stoke on trent

whats a chat room? we only ever chat on the forums, we've heard that the screen doens't stay still if you chat anywhere else........

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By *etillanteWoman over a year ago

Hard work and very cliquish

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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3 reasons why I don't use chat

1...I can't keep up

2...I would get banned in about 1 second

3...Ive heard about these things called whispers and they scare me lol xx

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Repeatedly putting in a copy and pasted message could be construed as spamming the room, which isn't really allowed.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple over a year ago

Bristol

We have it easy, apart from the odd hi, nobody talks to us anyway :P

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

I like chat, it can be fun, although you have to butt in to peoples chat, no good being a wallflower in there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never used and probably never will.

with all i have read in the forums it scares the life out of me.

All the do,s and donts, the banning of people, etc .

I thought it was supposed to be a fun thing ?

It doesnt sound fun to me.

And i would probably last 2 mins and be banned myself. lmao

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

lol there are not many rules, but the rules make it a better place to be in anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I agree spamming (repeating the same message over and over again in a short space of time) is annoying but we dont spam, as we have been on holiday for the last 4-5 days this was our first entry into the chatroom in that time, I said it once, I would probably have said something similar half an hour later but I don't copy and paste it I write it everytime and because of that there is usually some variation in it, ie "available this weekend", "please read our profile", "new pictures added today" and so on.

But I did check with the moderator what I had done wrong and they explained it was "advertising for meets" that's what is confusing me as I did believe that this was ok to do providing it was done in an adult and sensible fashion ie not spamming the same message into the room every 5 minutes.

I don't care if we aren't allowed to do what we do, I will abide by any rules the site sets, I just want to be clear what they are please.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thats the main problem Jed, some can handle power and others are simply overwhelmed by it and wield it like a blunt instrument, hence no chat rooms for us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

jed like u i am a reg in the chat room and u dont just post that once when u enter the room, i have sat there and seen u post it quite a few times in the chat room, i cant comment on the time u talking about as i was not looking at the screen the whole time but you yourself know u spam the room with that saying more then once NOT only when u first enter the room

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and not once an hour i was ment to add. on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have peeked into chat a couple of times and thought sod this im offski!!!

OP, I thought you had been banned from chat for like a zillion years! they let you back in now?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trouble is as you say whats the harm... None, not untill everyone else starts doing the very same and its no longer a 'chat' room eh.. and people useing to chat can't see the wood for the tree's

Same here in the forums at times.. People come along and stick up a fancy a shag tonight ad sort of thing.. Its not the right place thats all..

Personally don't care for the chat much.. but would hate it even more if all it were used for is sending out what should be in your ad lol...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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*couple looking for couples with bi fem*

must have own hair teeth and limbs

anyone?????????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

dont use chat unless iam planing 2 meet some 1

N see them on cam 1 v 1 2 to make sure they are genuine enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

some fair comments but as I said I am happy to stop posting the introduction that I post no more than once an hour and which often varies slightly.

What I was asking was for someone to clarify exactly what is acceptable topics of chat since the moderator said the problem was not the introduction but pasting "seeking meets" in there - thier words not mine ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok folks its me that Jed is referring to here because I asked you not to spam the room with requests for meets.

Now lets get 2 things straight Jed before we go any further

I don't like you and you don't like me -fair enough ? Are we all agreed on that one ?

However this was not personal, you were not being selected for specialist treatment believe me, had that been the case I'd have just banned you - end of story. Anyone who puts up cut and paste messages in the room looking for meets is told the same thing, in fact I usually say, "XXX Please don not spam the room with shit"

Further more I will continue to do so until advised otherwise - so far I have received no such advice.

Ok ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats the main problem Jed, some can handle power and others are simply overwhelmed by it and wield it like a blunt instrument, hence no chat rooms for us

Mr 2 .... - if I'd wielded it like a blunt instrument - I'd just have banned him - no warning or advice given !!

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By *leasureDomeMan over a year ago

all over the place

"ive never been in the chat rooms what are they like? x"

dont worry babe ...they are all a bit fast and i go dizzy tying to read em after 5 mins ...they seem to consist of people shouting hi and jockeying for position and people masturbating on a cheap camera at 15 frames per second ....

but to each there own eh ....but i have to say i wouldnt have a clue whats allowed and not allowed .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hard work and very cliquish"

Phew so nothing like the forums then!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

chat rooms are ok tho to be honest i think most people who use them are single guys just after something to w**k over, i find it very hard to get meets from the chat room as they either just want you to get your bits out on cam or want you to just drop everything and meet NOW lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

. . . . . . Anyone who puts up cut and paste messages in the room looking for meets is told the same thing, . . . . . . . .

So - to be clear . . . Are people allowed or not allowed to post asking for meets ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to confess. I'm an absolute fucker (dammie) for not reading "rules" as such. I'm 48. I've been round the world twice. And I'm often perceived as arrogant. But . . . . . I prefer to usually rely on my own sense of right and wrong, manners/respect, and courtesy.

So . . . I thought I maybe ought to go read the "Rules of the Chatroom"

"Rules

Here's the rules for the chatroom. These rules are enforced by the chatroom moderators (who have a * after their names). Everything that is said in the chatroom is recorded (including private messages) so to ensure that these rules are being followed.

By using your webcam you are allowing anyone in the room to view what is displayed on it. No one who is (or appears to be) under the age of 18 can be displayed on camera (even if they appear in the background) or heard on audio.

You may not display anything illegal on your webcam.

You are not allowed to play video over your camera.

Don't IM people without asking permission first.

You may not direct people on cam to do something in particular, apart from in the Directing Room which is for people who want comments and to be told what to do.

Don't use ALL CAPITALS BECAUSE IT LOOKS LIKE SHOUTING.

Don't post phone numbers in the chatroom.

Other members of the chatroom must be treated with respect at all times.

To protect our users from spam, do not post any web addresses or email / IM address in chat (if you need to share your email or IM address you should do so by private message) "

Or is it a case of "Because we say so" ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or are there more sets of rules, that I've not seen ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

. . . . . . Anyone who puts up cut and paste messages in the room looking for meets is told the same thing, . . . . . . . .

So - to be clear . . . Are people allowed or not allowed to post asking for meets ?"

People are not allowed to spam the rooms .....

Some folks put up a similar message every 10 minutes, some every 20, some in between - If you were a moderator where would YOU draw the line ? I peferer to nip it in the bud, but if anyone else has any better suggestions then I'm all ears.

I've seen the OP post more than once an hour in the past ... So do we allow everyone to put up a cut and paste message whenever they wish just in an effort to get a meet ? Where would that leave the chatrooms ? It would leave them as an extension of "Meet Today" - nobody saying anything except canvassing for meets - advertising their wares for want of a better description

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So it's more a matter of repetition than content/subject ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yup ! You hit the nail on the head. If you allow one, you gotta allow then all and that's when things get even messier and the room becomes clogged ...

There is nothing whatsoever preventing anyone from arranging a meet in the chatrooms however

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By *leasureDomeMan over a year ago

all over the place

. . . . . . Anyone who puts up cut and paste messages in the room looking for meets is told the same thing, . . . . . . . .

So - to be clear . . . Are people allowed or not allowed to post asking for meets ?

People are not allowed to spam the rooms .....

Thats a fair point ....common sense really ...it would piss me off and be like TV ads rolling around all the while ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yup ! You hit the nail on the head. If you allow one, you gotta allow then all and that's when things get even messier and the room becomes clogged ...

There is nothing whatsoever preventing anyone from arranging a meet in the chatrooms however"

Thank you.

dammie

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By *lirty14uMan over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Having spent 2 hours in there with company last night, it's the comments

"Face, Please, Face"

and

"Can I come round and help out?"

that seem to be on perpetual loop!

lol!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having spent 2 hours in there with company last night, it's the comments

"Face, Please, Face"

and

"Can I come round and help out?"

that seem to be on perpetual loop!

lol!"

loll, yeah there are a few of those as well

Goes with the territory, But even though there is no definitive rule stating so, if any one particular member is making a nuisance of themselves by constantly nagging at someone, then there is a case for that member to be advised re his/her conduct.

As an example, the other week a member had sent some private mail to another member and he constantly kept typing "you have mail" "You have mail", "Have you read it yet" "XXX - have you read your mail" "Are you not going to read it" - it was like a bloody machine gun firing.. In the end I asked him to stop making a nuisance of himself, then he asked what business it was of mine ! Then I banned him ..

So yes there are rules but unfortunately they cannot cater for every eventuality lol

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By *lirty14uMan over a year ago

Milton Keynes

They were fine for us, we ignored what we choose to, (which is generally the ones with no cams themselves).

It is quite odd being directed with audio by a guy sat in his garage in Victoria, Autralia though....It was like Neighbours had come alive!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi there, we find the chatrooms very much a clique with the same old faces and same old patter, very much "a private club"

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By *lirty14uMan over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Nice to see a new face on the Forums then! Welcome!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

Some people say the same about the forums but I think a bit of perseverence helps,as Rugby couple said you have to butt in to peoples chat and join in...not easy if you're a little shy though

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By *j_markCouple over a year ago
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Totteridge/Whetstone

I think redhot has hit the nail on the head here.

If people are just copying + pasting text into the room on a (very) regular basis then we'd class that as spamming and they'd get a 1hr block from the rooms.

I think most room users would agree this is a good thing.

Admin

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By *j_markCouple over a year ago
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Totteridge/Whetstone

We're closing the thread on that note

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