FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > a question to the men
a question to the men
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
can you tell me how you think a lady likes to be finger fucked?
i find more and more who seem to at at it like a bull at a gate.thrusting them in at the speed of lightening!
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Really??
My hubby tends to focus mainly on my clitoris, starting gently and slowly, working up speed and pressure ever so slightly in relation to my response, he only slips a finger or two inside briefly at various times before returning to the main focus of my pleasure... works for me lol  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Yeah it hurts when they do that. I blame porn."
I blame porn too and it just makes you piss yourself. Which they now call "gushing" . I like nice,gentle strikes that make me have an orgasm, not wet myself |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Yeah it hurts when they do that. I blame porn.
I blame porn too and it just makes you piss yourself. Which they now call "gushing" . I like nice,gentle strikes that make me have an orgasm, not wet myself "
strokes..my phone changed it to strikes!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
A porn site I visited suggested putting 2 fingers in, and then going up and down (as opposed to in and out) at 100 miles per hour. Women apparently love that. Really? That's not my experience. I prefer to gently insert one finger while licking and sucking the clit area. Stay there for a long as it takes! Lovely!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"can you tell me how you think a lady likes to be finger fucked?
i find more and more who seem to at at it like a bull at a gate.thrusting them in at the speed of lightening!
"
I like it like that   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Everyone is different so its working out what that person likes and enjoys
Ive found that alternating speed, rhthym and depth of insertion normally works but I'm willing to take advice.
Also spreading two fingers inside gives the lady the feeling of fullness which some have liked |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Really??
My hubby tends to focus mainly on my clitoris, starting gently and slowly, working up speed and pressure ever so slightly in relation to my response, he only slips a finger or two inside briefly at various times before returning to the main focus of my pleasure... works for me lol "
I couldn't have written it better myself. Gently in with the fingers when hand only. Slowly at first but More robust when get going with mouth/tongue which I believe another bloke has said too. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
As I'm a talkative fellow I will normaly teasingly try out a varied approach while suggestively asking for her impressions of my technique .
I know I've hit on the right technique when I'm told will you bloody shut up and just get on with it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"can you tell me how you think a lady likes to be finger fucked?
i find more and more who seem to at at it like a bull at a gate.thrusting them in at the speed of lightening!
"
It depends on the lady.
Most of the time. Its slowly and my finger is doing circles while inside.
I tend to try different things depending on how the person reacts. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Really??
My hubby tends to focus mainly on my clitoris, starting gently and slowly, working up speed and pressure ever so slightly in relation to my response, he only slips a finger or two inside briefly at various times before returning to the main focus of my pleasure... works for me lol "
like this. Gently, gently |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"can you tell me how you think a lady likes to be finger fucked?
i find more and more who seem to at at it like a bull at a gate.thrusting them in at the speed of lightening!
"
so why am i the only one they do it too????? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"can you tell me how you think a lady likes to be finger fucked?
i find more and more who seem to at at it like a bull at a gate.thrusting them in at the speed of lightening!
"
I'd have to meet you to tell you I'm afraid  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Slide in a finger or two, feel that soft warm part a few inches up, and roll your fingertips around it firmly (not forcefully) whilst you kiss her, speeding up or slowing down based on her response.
Also works for prostate massage! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"can you tell me how you think a lady likes to be finger fucked?
i find more and more who seem to at at it like a bull at a gate.thrusting them in at the speed of lightening!
so why am i the only one they do it too????? "
You are meeting the wrong guys!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Nope! Gently, gently, gently is the only way for me.
I find that women treat men too gently, cus women like to be treated gently. And men treat women too firmly, cus men like to be treated firmly.
Remember that the OPPOSITE sex likes to be treated the OPPOSITE way from what you like..... and tweak your approach from there. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago
Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;) |
I shall not divulge my secrets.. But it's certainly not about going hell for leather with the fingers..
Movement from the shoulder than the wrist is where it's at I've found. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
You wanna thrust for England... well whatever did my cervix do to you?
Two fingers in, hook towards the pubic bone NOT the anus and stroke. It's a "come here" motion and you hit the G spot. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago
Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;) |
"You wanna thrust for England... well whatever did my cervix do to you?
Two fingers in, hook towards the pubic bone NOT the anus and stroke. It's a "come here" motion and you hit the G spot."
. You've just given the world the secret there.. If peeps can't watch n learn to what causes response they shouldn't be gifted with knowledge |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"You wanna thrust for England... well whatever did my cervix do to you?
Two fingers in, hook towards the pubic bone NOT the anus and stroke. It's a "come here" motion and you hit the G spot.
. You've just given the world the secret there.. If peeps can't watch n learn to what causes response they shouldn't be gifted with knowledge "
Twaddle... I wanna educate those who get near my ermmmm foof  (I'm laughing because I had never ever heard a vagina being termed as such before I entered the forums ). |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"You wanna thrust for England... well whatever did my cervix do to you?
Two fingers in, hook towards the pubic bone NOT the anus and stroke. It's a "come here" motion and you hit the G spot."
This is the "standard". But from experience, not all women respond to that particular spot. Some exploration might be required.
YMMV |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago
Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;) |
"You wanna thrust for England... well whatever did my cervix do to you?
Two fingers in, hook towards the pubic bone NOT the anus and stroke. It's a "come here" motion and you hit the G spot.
. You've just given the world the secret there.. If peeps can't watch n learn to what causes response they shouldn't be gifted with knowledge
Twaddle... I wanna educate those who get near my ermmmm foof (I'm laughing because I had never ever heard a vagina being termed as such before I entered the forums )."
.. But playing devils advocate here, if we've gotten to our age and not learnt then there's somet wrong? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"You wanna thrust for England... well whatever did my cervix do to you?
Two fingers in, hook towards the pubic bone NOT the anus and stroke. It's a "come here" motion and you hit the G spot.
This is the "standard". But from experience, not all women respond to that particular spot. Some exploration might be required.
YMMV"
YMMV?
Young man meets vagina? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"can you tell me how you think a lady likes to be finger fucked?
i find more and more who seem to at at it like a bull at a gate.thrusting them in at the speed of lightening!
"
I tend to gently stroke The lips of your fanny then slid in me finger into your clit and stroking it abit and then working it til you start twitching with pleasure then gently rub both lips together while tickling your clit |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I have a sensitive cervix so long fingers hit spot but if it's prolonged it becomes over sensitive and it's more like torture. Imagine hitting your funny bone |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I like things nice and gentle. I also agree that the squirting obsession has led to more men being rough with women.
The same goes for penetrative sex, lots of men are really rough and just pound away. I prefer my sex a little more sensual and skilful |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"You wanna thrust for England... well whatever did my cervix do to you?
Two fingers in, hook towards the pubic bone NOT the anus and stroke. It's a "come here" motion and you hit the G spot.
This is the "standard". But from experience, not all women respond to that particular spot. Some exploration might be required.
YMMV
YMMV?
Young man meets vagina? "
Hahaha, good one. I have to use that sometimes. No "Your Mileage May Vary" |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I've posted it elsewhere tonight, but surely a revolutionary idea such as talking would help.
You can assume someone is a sex expert and will instantly know what exactly does it for you or you could assist and let them know.
I'm not saying the whole sexual experience should be a tutoring session, but different women, like different things, I would never assume I could pleasure them all the same way that I can pleasure my wife.
Hell my wife likes it different each time. Sometimes completely clitoral, sometimes fisting. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"one finger, isn't that like throwing a sausage up the Mersey tunnel ?
What a charmer!
Maybe with the women hes met."
luckily have never met a woman, and never will x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Well I'm somewhat of an expert in that department .. And it's really a matter of preference . Some girls like the heavier thrusting others like to be licked and stroked gently .. Personally whatever your into just ask  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
When answering the question of 'what's the best way to finger or fucking a woman have to be straightforward and say that there is no single perfect technique. Every woman is special and different that is simply because all bodies are shaped differently and nerves and sensitive spots are never located in the same place. I always make sure she's wet as she can be by teasing her pussy and on yeah plenty of sensual kissing. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I like to play with the clit and slide my fingers down over the pussy gently teasing it but not quite going in . Then when the woman is nice and wet I'd slide two fingers in and curl them
Up to find the g spot while rubbing her clit with my thumb and perhaps just ringing the clit as well .
I've had no complaints yet but if I'm doing something wrong I'd expect a woman to tell me how she likes it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Every woman is different. Start slow and gentle and build up speed and force until you hear whats her point of pleasure. If you cant tell by listening, ask or get her to show you how she likes it and copy what she does
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
This is starting to sound like some people (it's not just men) find something that works with one partner and stick to it.
Doesn't that get boring? Surely half the fun of swinging is the finding out what turns the partner you are with on. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"can you tell me how you think a lady likes to be finger fucked?
i find more and more who seem to at at it like a bull at a gate.thrusting them in at the speed of lightening!
"
Each woman will like something different.
Why communication on a meet is so important.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"one finger, isn't that like throwing a sausage up the Mersey tunnel ?
What a charmer!
Maybe with the women hes met.
luckily have never met a woman, and never will x"
That explains it then. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
Retirement Village |
"can you tell me how you think a lady likes to be finger fucked?
i find more and more who seem to at at it like a bull at a gate.thrusting them in at the speed of lightening!
"
I'd say it depends on the lady who you are pleasuring and how she enjoys it. I guess it comes down to the male taking his time and paying attention to his partners reaction as to how they enjoy it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"one finger, isn't that like throwing a sausage up the Mersey tunnel ?
What a charmer!
Maybe with the women hes met.
luckily have never met a woman, and never will x
That explains it then."
sounds like hes met my ex |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"can you tell me how you think a lady likes to be finger fucked?
i find more and more who seem to at at it like a bull at a gate.thrusting them in at the speed of lightening!
"
I find that starting with my mouth and kissing the pussy lips gently gently just like starting to kiss a girls lips before moving on to french kiss the pussy. Then slide 1 finger inside while kissing the clit and starting to gently stroke the G spot. As the pussy gets wetter then insert another and 3rd finger and play the front walls of the pussy in the same way you finger-pick an acoustic guitar.
Seems most girls love it! And so do I! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I would say, in my opinion, everyone is right. I find that woman like the variety and the surprise as much as i like changing things up and around also. Also just feeling what the mood calls for and the speed that's required - i don't think you can pre decide. And then there is the old fashion, just talking to one another! If it feels good carry on, if not, try something else. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"You wanna thrust for England... well whatever did my cervix do to you?
Two fingers in, hook towards the pubic bone NOT the anus and stroke. It's a "come here" motion and you hit the G spot."
mrs hedo likes that way too , also put gentle pressure on the pubic mound with the other hand from outside |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It all depends on the lady! Each to there own but I start gently and build up! Major focus in sensitising the area without touching the 'go too' clit and g spot. Caressing the inner thigh and the areas around the pussy gets it all hyper sensitive and then I like to spread the juices over the lips before blowing gently on the area to heighten sensations. If I want to make them cum, I pull the clitoral hood back and play with there clit either tongue or finger whilst applying pressure to the perineum. 5 minutes of that and even the most difficult ladies are climbing the walls!
J |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It all depends on the lady! Each to there own but I start gently and build up! Major focus in sensitising the area without touching the 'go too' clit and g spot. Caressing the inner thigh and the areas around the pussy gets it all hyper sensitive and then I like to spread the juices over the lips before blowing gently on the area to heighten sensations. If I want to make them cum, I pull the clitoral hood back and play with there clit either tongue or finger whilst applying pressure to the perineum. 5 minutes of that and even the most difficult ladies are climbing the walls!
J "
Would you mind re_iewing your parameters please? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I would say, in my opinion, everyone is right. I find that woman like the variety and the surprise as much as i like changing things up and around also. Also just feeling what the mood calls for and the speed that's required - i don't think you can pre decide. And then there is the old fashion, just talking to one another! If it feels good carry on, if not, try something else."
I agree too communication by talking , touching , caressing and kissing |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"A porn site I visited suggested putting 2 fingers in, and then going up and down (as opposed to in and out) at 100 miles per hour. Women apparently love that. Really? That's not my experience. I prefer to gently insert one finger while licking and sucking the clit area. Stay there for a long as it takes! Lovely! "
Same, pay attention to the g-spot and tongue the clit hard when I do (after having started slowly), seems to do the trick |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Dave has wonderful fingers and not one of our girls has had anything other that intense pleasure from finger fucking... But I guess some guys have good, useful experience and care about the pleasure of the girl. Some, most, guys dont. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
If the guy explores a little he might find the spot for the partner he is with. And it it a myth that it takes a couple of fingers being rammed in with force & speed to make a lady gush. My FB can do it with 1 finger as he knows the spot and just tickling the spot can get me gushing with very little force or effort. xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If the guy explores a little he might find the spot for the partner he is with. And it it a myth that it takes a couple of fingers being rammed in with force & speed to make a lady gush. My FB can do it with 1 finger as he knows the spot and just tickling the spot can get me gushing with very little force or effort. xx"
We need to meet, lol. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Surely a lady would say if you're not doing it how she likes?!
I think if you're bothering to take her pleasure into consideration you'll be able to tell if she's liking what you're doing...? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
When I were a lad, I read in some mag or another than you were supposed to rub the clit with yer fingerpad like you were trying to get a small stain out of velvet.
Despite my mind boggling at the notion of young lads owning velvet clothing, it seemed to serve me well in my teenage years. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I so love it when men say they know what we ladies like... all of us? Wow now that is impressive!
personally I love a skilful finger in me bits, and I can come hard, but some men do not know what they are doing and its either painful or just plain annoying  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I love to gently rub my fingers between the lips gathering the juices and smearing them over every part of her pussy , sliding my fingers up and down slowly each side of their lips to their clit... Then from the clit very slow and gently starting with your finger, and glide downwards letting your palm and eventually the inside of your wrist stroke over the clit.... Carry on doing that for a while stroking the inside of her thighs and anus.... Adding a tiny little pressure to the clit from your soft skin on your wrist will eventually make the lady have an orgasm .
That's how i do it always... So for me its as gentle as you can be and not hard and rough. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Not only is every woman different, each of them want different things at different times, most in my experience don't want to give full instructions before sex starts... So vary the technique a bit and follow the verbal / non verbal clues about how this pussy wants to play this time |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"blame the 'squirting' obsession
 "
In my experience the squirting only happens when i am going down on a girl and teasing the front inner wall of her softly and slowly |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
This is how you work out the men from the boys lol if you know what your doing you need nothing more then two fingers in the "come here" position and if your really good your thumb on the clit and you in control you can finish her in 10 seconds or get her almost to the point and stop love that the power it gives |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
it reminds me of the programme "All creatures great and small" when they stick their arm half way up a cows flange!! ffs youre meant to be pleasuring us not delivering a calf! lol  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Some of the responses sound very mechanical, like some sort of science project where the achievement is the lady gushing or cumming or both.
Pity, there is so much more to be experienced. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"can you tell me how you think a lady likes to be finger fucked?
i find more and more who seem to at at it like a bull at a gate.thrusting them in at the speed of lightening!
"
anyone does that gets short shrift.
no fun to be had when the downstairs is too sore to be touched. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"This is how you work out the men from the boys lol if you know what your doing you need nothing more then two fingers in the "come here" position and if your really good your thumb on the clit and you in control you can finish her in 10 seconds or get her almost to the point and stop love that the power it gives"
2 fingers??
amateur lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
this thread has made me chuckle.
can imagine now, guys writing all this shit down and taking a pad with them, then when lesson one doesnt work, flip the page and start with lesson 2.
look, guys, there is only 1 way to pleasure a woman.
use you brain and your ears.
she will tell you what she likes.
start off however you want, but keep lines of communication open with her.
if your shit, she will tell you
she will also tell you very quickly what she likes
none of the above really matters, unless you are meeting the exact same women the posters have met. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
